Secrets About Women Mom Never Taught You

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***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***
Dave, Why is it that a woman who is onlyinterested in the funny, cocky and challenging(i.e., interesting) men, later in life tries toraise sons that are sweet, thoughtful and "nice"?(i.e., run of the mill)!! WS New York
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a VERY interesting question, and I'mglad you emailed me to ask it.
I'm going to give you my personal take on this.But, more importantly, I'm going to talk about howthese kinds of paradoxes exist right in plainsight all around us... and how to interpret themso you can increase your own personal success withwomen and dating.
So, to answer your question first...
I've spent a lot of time researching thistopic, and doing a lot of personal testing to seeif I could find some answers.
Right now, as I write this, I think that itgoes like this:
"Being Nice" in the way that you're describing,usually means things like: giving compliments,buying gifts, providing food, doing favors,tolerating emotional manipulation, pretending tobe in a good mood even if you're not, etc.
I believe that this is mostly a SOCIALLY andCULTURALLY CONSTRUCTED set of "rules". There maybe some "hard wiring" in us that makes us"naturally" want to do nice things for women sothey'll give us approval, but I think it's mostlyPROGRAMMED into us...
Now, think about it this way: These "nice"things are typically very FEMININE things to do...
So, what's a mom in today's culture going toteach her son?
Of course... how to be "nice" to girls.
And, what if there's no dad around to help outin the "training" of a son? You guessed it... evenMORE "nice" programming from mom.
The bottom line is that most of the peoplewalking around on this planet have NO IDEA howATTRACTION works, and therefore will never be ableto TEACH another person how this fabulous processworks.
This includes mothers. Mom loved you and wantedthe best for you, she just had no idea how toexplain what makes women feel ATTRACTION. Mom mayhave gotten the tingles when she saw ClintEastwood shooting everyone... and Neil Diamondrunning around with his sneer, hairy chest andthat pickle in his jeans... (and that remindsme... EWWWWWW... your mom is gross, dude).
But, this doesn't mean that she can or wouldexplain to her boy how to make this happen withother women!
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OK. Let's talk about what we can actually LEARNfrom this kind of phenomenon.
The thing that really fascinates me aboutpeople is THEIR ABILITY TO HAVE NO IDEA WHAT'SGOING ON... even though it's going on IN PLAINSIGHT ALL AROUND THEM... and the even MORE amazingtendency to ARGUE VIOLENTLY WHEN one of theseOBVIOUS THINGS IS PRESENTED TO THEM.
I've read some fascinating books about theconcept of "self-deception", and I've come torealize that we humans have an amazing capacityfor not seeing what's there... to the point whereit can be very bad for us.
Like I just said, we often ARGUE about thingsthat are OBVIOUS to others... which makes it evenworse.
I need to stop ranting and raving, and land theplane on this one...
This mechanism is, of course, a survivalmechanism that helps us to weed out all of theuseless information that's coming in through oursenses at any given time, but it can go overboardand prevent us from seeing USEFUL information aswell.
Next Point: A lot of our cultural and socialprogramming is "off-base" to some degree, whichcauses us to see things and interpret thingsincorrectly when we do see them.
Finally, we humans don't like to change ourbeliefs about things. We don't like to admit thatwe might be wrong in the first place, and we feelunstable or insecure when we realize that afundamental truth we have held all our life isincorrect.
Lump all of this together, and you have momswho teach their sons the "proper" way to act andmen who have NO IDEA how to be successful withwomen... and then women who REALLY get upset whenyou actually start teaching men what WORKS toattract women (for more evidence of this, justread some of these newsletters I'm sending you!)
Wow, I'm really going on an unusuallyintellectual rant today! Nice. This is making mefeel pretty smart... I think I'll keep it up...
So, what's all this information good for?
Well, to start off, I think that it's importantin life to continually question YOUR OWN beliefsabout how things work and what is possible.
I think it's also good to constantly questionyour LIMITING beliefs.
Unfortunately, most people do the opposite...they question their ability to succeed and theydoubt their own ability to get what they want.
Most people constantly "self-sabotage"themselves.
If instead, you question your LIMITATIONS andyour LIMITING BELIEFS, and you constantly lookwith your own eyes to see if there's somethinggoing on that nobody mentioned to you, then you'llbegin to see things that will blow your mind.
It took me about 4 or 5 years to realize thatATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. But as soon as I sayit, you can immediately get what I'm talkingabout, and maybe even have a profound realizationthat will lead to success.
The phrase "Attraction Isn't A Choice" makesyou have the "ah ha" that you can't make a womanfeel attraction for you by CONVINCING her... soyou STOP.
Now, I didn't figure this out by having someoneTELL it to me. I figured it out by questioning thethings I was hearing, and by following my ownintuition that there was a SOLUTION to this puzzlecalled "women and dating".
So, here's a "home work" assignment for you:
1 - Write down all of the things that SHOULD workwhen it comes to making women feel attracted toyou. This might include buying gifts and food,giving constant compliments, and acting "nice".
2 - Write down your own personal experience ofwhat ACTUALLY HAPPENS when you do these "sociallycorrect things that mom taught you" with women.
3 - Pretend for a moment that everything you'vebeen taught about women is wrong. Furthermore,pretend that women are actually wired in REVERSE.If this were true, what kinds of things wouldresult in a woman feeling ATTRACTION for a man?
Does this open up some new possibilities foryou?
I invite you to question "common sense" and"what your mother taught you" about women.
I also invite you to come and learn some of theVERY ILLOGICAL, YET INCREDIBLY POWERFUL techniquesthat I've learned, developed, refined, anddescribed in my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVDprogram.
The ideas that I've just discussed are part ofwhat I consider to be the "Inner Game" of datingsuccess.
Most guys spend almost NO time working on theirInner Game... instead, they spend time learningthings like "pick up lines" and other almostUSELESS stuff.
If you don't have your "Inner Game" together,you'll never be effective with "techniques andtricks".
In my Advanced Dating Techniques program, Ispend several HOURS teaching you one Inner Gametechnique after another... showing you how toovercome fear, improve your self image and selfesteem... and get past limiting beliefs that stopyou from even TRYING to meet women.
If you're like me, and you've had a lot ofnegative programming earlier in life, then youMUST get that stuff handled. It's not going tohandle itself... YOU have to do it.
And this program will show you EXACTLY how.
Oh... and it will also teach you TONS of great"in the field" techniques for approaching women,starting conversations, getting dates, meetingwomen online, and taking things to a "physical"level smoothly and easily... without rejection.
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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***QUESTION***
ok here is the deal...
I'm 23, 5'7" and a relatively good looking andsuccessful fashion designer. i don't date to much,and because of my usually respectful mannerism idon't get laid too often and usually end up inthat "gay friend" category.
but I've kinda got my eye on a cutie who works ata trendy clothing store in my hood. it initiallywas one of those things where we shared a glaceand did the whole "eye ball sex" thing the firsttime i came into the shop. i frequent this storeregularly to help promote and do some p.r. for aclub night my friends are doing, (not to mentioncheck out the... uh... merchandise?) so i haveactually spoke to her and got her name and evenconvinced her to come out to the club a few times(on my guest list of course).
the thing is I'm not very comfortable about"macking" girls in clubs and try to avoid it atall costs, so my question is how do i go fromcheezy promoter guy dropping off flyers and freepasses, to say... getting her to come watch"videos" at my place or even just a phone # forthat matter?
giving me a way to find out if she is single wouldbe cool too..."
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I've included your letter for a couple ofreasons. First, because I want other guys to seethat just because you're a young, successful guythat works in two fields which should naturallylead you to be a BABE MAGNET, it always takes morethan just a situation... it takes skills andknowledge as well.
And secondly, I want to answer your questionbecause I believe that there are many guys outthere who come into contact with lots of women andwould like to know how to capitalize on their goodfortune.
Here's what to do:
The easiest thing in the world to do in yourcurrent situation is to say, "Hey, do you haveemail?"
Most people do and if she says yes, just pullout a piece of paper and have her write it down.And, WHILE SHE'S WRITING say, "And write yournumber down there too." This is one of my favoriteone-two combinations.
Then, the next day, send her an email and tellher that she should get together with you for acup of tea and some stimulating conversation. Thisis both easy and charming, and it works like,well... a charm.
And for heaven's sake man, start getting theemail and digits from the - probably - MILLIONS OFBABES that you meet in the fashion industry andwhile promoting clubs. Heck, if you don't wantthem, send them to me.
***SUCCESS STORY***
I'm sure you'll find this interesting Dave.There's a girl I liked a while back. Her and Idated for a few weeks, and then she startedbacking out. Less communication, avoiding the"alone time" etc. Well, that confused the hell outof me because I didn't see it coming, nor did Iknow what was going on in her head. I did getfrustrated, but I dealt with it, and moved on. Butbefore I moved on, I told her very friendly, "Iknow you don't want to continue dating, but youknow that we're still friends... " So we had anice talk and stuck to friendship. Still wonderingwhy it broke off between us, I came across yourbook. After I read it, I became "enlightened" asto what happened. Let's just say I read about the"needy" guy, and cringed. I came on too strong toher. It's like putting on a lot of cologne... nomatter how good the smell is, too much stinks.Well, after being "enlightened," I decided to trya few of your concepts on her. I will honestlytell you that she's all over me now. (all over).Anyways, I'm known for never finishing books, butyours I've read about 3 times now. Waiting for anew publication..."
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ah, yes. Isn't it wonderful when you realizehow the psychology works?
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave!
I enjoy reading your writing.
I dated a lot and fooled around quite a few, but Ihave fallen for this girl, and I made a mistake bytelling her, not once but twice, how much I feelfor and want her before she revealed her feelingtoward me. Consequently she told me later on thatshe would like to do casual dating with me. Andrecently I found out that she is seeing two orthree other guys simultaneously. GUYS OUT THERE,REMEMBER THIS. NEVER REPEAT MY MISTAKE!!!!
Having recognized my error and conceded defeat, Iwant to cut my loss by telling her this weekend ina face to face meeting that I don't want to seeher any longer. But I can't forget her and keepwondering if I should make one more effort to winher back. I guess I am a regular human being,suffering from loss of her love.
Should I change my mind, what techniques can I useto win her back?
Or I should simply walk away from her and forgeteverything about her?
Your advice would be greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
B.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'm glad that you've realized yourmistake...
Too often, we men find a particularlyinteresting woman and then come to the logicalconclusion that we should probably share how we'refeeling about her... with her.
Unfortunately, while we think we're saying, "Ireally like you and think you're a special girl",what she's actually hearing is, "I am a wuss, Ifeel like you're too good for me, I'll do whateveryou want, I'm no longer a challenge, and you canpredict how I'm going to act from now until youdecide that you're tired of me..."
I know, sounds harsh. But, this is too oftenthe reality of the situation.
As far as your situation goes, I would get onwith my life, don't call her anymore and if shedecides to call you sometime, turn the tablesaround, start playing hard to get and NEVER ACTLIKE A WUSS AGAIN PLEASE.
It's a hard job I have, poking fun at the painof others... all for their own good.
***INTERESTING EMAIL FROM A WOMAN***
This is a success story. Your success, not mine.And I need your help. I really doubt that anybodyelse can help me. This is the story. I am a woman.I am absolutely agreed with every word you sayabout dating, phone number and email, cocky/funnyattitude, phone calls, and kiss. Everything yousay is right. Beside this talent you have veryunique quality: you can see the persons problemfrom few sentences. Now I need you to tell me whatis my problem. I am immigrant from Russia livingin Canada. I am at my latest 20 and I'm quiteattractive and I want to have a boyfriend. I amnot the person who settles for less. . I have noproblem to get a date. I have a problem to get thesecond one with the guy I like. I know all mindgames including "I'm so Hard To Get and Busy" and"Oh I'm so helpless". To meet a guy is not aproblem, but, very few of my dates are cocky &funny guys. And that is what I like. Now tell me:what do you cocky-funny guys look for? What makesyou call back second, third and twenty-third time.I am not asking for an answer like: wash yourhair, offer to split the bill and be adventurous,I know all this from Cosmo. There is somethingbigger then this, something that North Americangirls learn at their very yang age and it is sosimple so nobody talks about it. Tell me what isit that attracts cocky-funny guys. I really needto know. Thanks.
L.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'm glad you wrote in because you bring up apoint that most men never realize, namely, thatit's not easy for most women to find the kind ofman that they feel ATTRACTED to!
Yes, there are a lot of good looking men inthis world, but women are looking for a lot morethan just looks.
Women are looking for that magical combinationof confidence, humor, an understanding of howwomen work, class, etc.
One of the great benefits of mastering theideas that I teach is that you can fill a needthat is very real in the world: The need for real,attractive men.
As for your particular situation, my only ideais to stop by my place sometime for a personalconsultation. I specialize in beautiful, youngRussian women who are looking for cocky & funnyguys. There is no charge for your initialconsultation...
***QUESTION***
Dave "THE MAN",
I just want to first thank you or rathercompliment you, just like everyone else has done,on your successful book which has helped metremendously. It has led me to become VERY VERYconfident in myself and around other girls. Onceagain, thank you Dave. Anyway, on to my questionthat literally drives me crazy!!! This girl thatI'm interested in has email but NEVER checks itbecause, according to what she says her computerdoesn't work. Go figure. But she did give me hercell phone number and house phone number. Theproblem is that every time I call her we talk forabout 10-15 min. and she says that she'll call meback later but NEVER does. i mean NEVER!! is thisbecause she is playing hard to get or does it meanthat i am just wasting my time and she is notinterested and should i just give up on hercompletely? how can i become the one who's incontrol and have HER chasing ME instead of MEchasing HER??? How could i get her to startcalling me? If you can answer this question thenit will be one less thing for me to worry aboutwhen dealing with women and I will definitelyconsider you "THE MAN". Thanks
-R.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Where in my eBook or newsletters have you EVERheard me say to talk on the phone for 10-15minutes? Exactly, nowhere. Why do you think thisis?
Because the more time you spend TALKING at thevery beginning (when getting her email and number,while on the phone setting up the next meeting,etc.) the more likely you are to screw it up.
Don't waste time!
Getting her email and digits should take 3-5minutes or so. Setting up a place to get togethershould take about the same.
Here, I'll do another of my wonderfultranslations for you:
You call up and say, "Hi, it's Irwin from lastnight calling... how are you? What are you doing?Oh, doing your hair, really? Cool. So, that wassome band last night, huh? Pretty crowded bar,huh? Oh, sure... you need to go? Well, will youcall me back later? OK, great, talk to you then."
What she hears: "Hi, I'm lame and uncreativeand I am interested in you, but I'm nervous anddon't know how to ask you out so, I think I'lljust talk about some lame, boring, mundanethings... and hope that maybe you'll have pity onme and offer to meet me sometime."
Are you with me?
You need to call up and say, "Hey, I don't havelong to talk, but I wanted to touch base and say"Hi". I'm going to be busy today and tomorrownight, but let's get together Saturday for a cupof tea and some stimulating conversation..."
Bang, done.
If you really want to use the advanced tactics,read my book and learn about how to use the"friendship frame" to disarm her at the end of theconversation.
Now, no more calling up these poor cute women,boring them for 15 minutes until they say, "Hey, Ihave to go, but I'll call you back later..."
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I've been reading your emails for quite some timeand recently just bought your e-books. I commendyou on what you are doing for the many hundredsand possibly thousands of men like me who aretrying to increase our game. I just started a newjob at a hotel on campus. There's this one girlwho find very attractive. My question is is it okto date or ask out someone you work with? I'veonly worked with her once, but I felt anattraction to her and although I'm not sure ifshe's attracted, there may be the possibility ofit, which means there is something for me to workwith. What are your thoughts? Thanks S.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Don't date your close neighbors, don't dateanyone related to a close friend, and DON'T DIPYOUR PEN IN THE COMPANY INK. All of these are VERYlikely to wind up being bad, long-terminvestments.
Better idea: Tease and use all of your bestcocky & funny ideas on this girl... great targetpractice. At some point, one of you will probablyno longer work for the same company and at thatpoint she will like you so much that you will havefish in a barrel for the shooting.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
...I found...NLP related seduction stuff about ayear ago and spent some money on seduction coursesrelated to NLP, however I must say I haven't hadastonishing results with it.
When I ordered your book I was still studying someNLP based seduction course so I did not read thebook until recently and how mistaken I was! Afterreading the book I realized I should have read ita long time ago because I noticed drasticimprovements in the way I communicate and attractwomen now, far more drastic than all the time I'vespent studying NLP related seduction material...Which leads to my questions to you.
I read...that you had done a lot of NLP trainingyourself. I'm 32 yrs old now and at the pointwhere I need to focus on one route that leads tomy goal of becoming PUA. I know some people wouldsay take bits of this, and bits of that and findout what works for you, however I want yourpersonal opinion on this one. Do you use any NLPat all when attempting to create attraction in awoman, is NLP necessary in seduction? What aboutthings like eliciting values and anchoring them toyou, is this required in creating attraction awoman? What would you tell a newbie who had tochoice of learning NLP in terms of getting goodwith seducing women, would you tell them to botherwith it?
I'm now thinking of completely focusing my energyon perfecting the 'Cocky and Funny' approach andnot wasting anymore time on things that are notnecessary for me to become good in this game. Ineed your advice on this one... Thanks for thegood work, I'm looking forward to you writingupdate books to this whole game.
G.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
For those of you that don't know, "NLP" standsfor "Neuro Linguistic Programming". And, there's alot of buzz about how this can help you in allareas of life. From psychological issues - toearning money - to meeting more women.
Yes, I have spent a lot of time learning aboutNLP, and I've tried a lot of NLP ideas when itcomes to meeting women.
The simplest answer I can give you is this:
The best use of NLP is to find guys who arevery successful with women and then use it toLEARN WHAT THOSE GUYS DO NATURALLY. The mistake Ithink that a lot of people make is taking theparts of NLP that relate to therapy, influence,and persuasion, and trying to apply those modelsto women and dating.
Believe me, I've tried this stuff EXTENSIVELY,and I've come to the conclusion that there is aMUCH better way.
My success took off when I started watchingwhat the really successful guys did when they werewith women, then refining the ideas and lookingfor the common elements.
For instance, the "cocky & funny" idea comesdirectly from a good friend of mine who is verygood at attracting women. Once I learned it fromhim, I began to notice that almost ALL of the guysI know, who attract a lot of women, use it.
I don't think you have to reinvent the wheel.Just do what works... and if what you're doing isworking, then keep it up.
And, if you want to learn how to use Cocky &Funny like a MASTER, then go here, read about it,and watch the video clips...
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy
***COMMENT***
yo David!
this is the greatest stuff i have ever seen. itssoooooo easy and yet, until it dawns on you, itseems frustrating. all you nice guys know what I'mtalking about...no sex? girls don't call back?LISTEN to DAVID!! its the simplest formula in theworld. here it is again for the millionth time...
COCKY+FUNNY=WOMEN!!!NUMBERS!!!!!ATTRACTION!!!!FUN!!! SEX!!!forget all that gadget crap, mind "tricks" andpalmistry (don't get me wrong, each CAN beeffective...) it makes absolutely NO DIFFERENCEwhat you do, its the cocky, funny way you do it!be confident! go up to some girls and say supgirls, ask their names, then look at the hottestone and say ARE YOU TRYING TO PICK ME UP???!!!!hahaha and just keep teasing, making the framethat she wants you, and BE SURE TO TELL HER YOUKNOW SHE WANTS YOU!!!! trust me on this, when yousee her face light up with a smile, it will betime, young grasshopper, to become a real LADIESMAN!!! peace, may the CF be with you...
N.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, you'd make a great walking billboardfor my... well...
The problem is that you sound like a late nightinfomercial and I don't think anyone would believeyou...
But seriously, you are right.
It would never cross the minds of most guys tolook at a stunning woman and say, "Are you tryingto pick me up?"
If I'm at a bar talking to a woman, and shegives me any kind of compliment, hints that shelikes me, tells me that I'm funny, etc., I'll say,"Look, I know how you women are. First a littlecompliment, then you're asking me for my number,then you want me to come home with you to "checkout your new stereo" or something. I just want youto know that I'm not that kind of guy, and I won'tfall for it."
Oh, I love it.
***QUESTION***
David,
You are a wise man.
I feel the truth in your words.
I want to implement the techniques that you speakof, I do, I REALLY do. But it seems that when Icome in contact with women that I think areattractive, I can't, or more precisely, I don't.I think I'm afraid of rejection.
If I ask a woman for her number within threeminutes, I just can't see her giving it to me.
And if she did, I wouldn't know when to call her(I'm thinking of the 2 day rule from "Swingers")or if I should call her at all and just keepretreating (a la "Tao of Steve")
Do you subscribe to the theories presented inthese films and do you teach a class?
If yes where do I sign up?
D.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I understand where you're coming from...
I would NEVER have believed that a woman wouldgive out her number to a complete stranger in 2 or3 minutes...
Until I watched some guys actually do it.
As soon as I saw it happen, it completelychanged my idea of what is possible. You just needto get out there and take action. Next time you'retalking to a woman, just say:
"Hey, nice talking to you, but I have to getback to my friends (or what I was doing, etc.)."
Then, just as you're turning away, say:
"Hey... Do you have email?"
When she says "Yes", just take out a pen andpaper and give it to her, expecting her to writeit down. When she does, say, "Nice meeting you,I'll chat with you again when I have some moretime..." and walk away.
Once you're comfortable doing that, starthaving them write their number down as well. It'sreally not that difficult.
As far as how long to wait to call, etc? Justdon't email or call the same day! Email the nextday, and use what you've learned to take things tothe next level.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I haven't had success like this with women in mylife. You sure know your stuff. I've read yourbook about 10 times and I'm still reading it. ButI do have one question though. I have a majordownfall when it comes to communication withwomen. I do good at approaching them and I usuallysay "Hey, how's it goin'?", but I CAN'T FINDANYTHING TO TALK ABOUT. That's my downfall. If Ican keep a conversation going that could the best.But I'm lacking skills in that part, and like yousaid, your success all comes down to your skills.Well Dave, I need a new skill. Can you please helpme. Any feedback will be much appreciated.
~J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're going to love this answer.
Don't "talk" about anything at all. Tease, makefun, act cocky & funny, and get the email/digits.
The idea that you have to "talk aboutsomething" will lead you to a curious dry feelingbetween your legs...
***QUESTION***
Dear David...
I'm a 37-year-old guy, not bad looking, dresspretty well, nothing in the way of greatdetractors in my habits that I can tell.
Growing up in a liberal town of liberal-minded,feminist parents, where most conversations werematter-of-fact and direct, very little teasingoccurred, etc. it's been hard trying to lose mymatter- of-fact approach to talking to women andgain this bad-boy-ish attitude you talk about inyour book. It is the complete antithesis to muchof who I see myself as. That said, I still want togive it a try, since being a natural Sensitive Guy(although not a pushover) hasn't given me the hugesuccess I'd like.
My problem comes from my age. Most of the womenfrom 28 up that I meet all want to get marriedpretty soon, and seem to assess me as husbandmaterial rather than sexy- man material. Myfriends say "Well, why don't you just date youngerwomen?"
As if it were that easy!
I want to approach tons of women (despite the fearI feel at each approach if it doesn't already feellike a natural opportunity to me). I have a strongsense, though, that a 37-year-old guy approachinga 23-year-old girl (or anyone under 28, say) wouldbe looked on with suspicion by the girl,especially since I'm nobody famous or rich orwhatever. It's like it's already a giant strokeagainst me, adding to the already huge on I feel Ihave being this naturally considerate, even-handed, egalitarian sort of guy.
I couldn't find it in your book, but have youhonestly seen guys my age do just as well with theyounger girls as guys in their 20s? I'd find thathard to believe; you always hear younger girlstalking about "creepy older guys" (even if thoseguys aren't noticeably creepy -- the mere factthat they're approaching the younger girls seemsto freak them out). What do you think about this?
-B.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, you're not alone. I know thatthere are a lot of other men out there who arethinking, "I'm a nice, stable, intelligent guy...and I should be able to attract women."
You must realize that women don't really careif you're a nice guy. "Nice" doesn't light uptheir emotions and make them feel A GUT LEVELATTRACTION.
What DOES make them feel it? You guessed it...teasing, humor, unpredictable behavior and thatmagical combination of being Cocky & Funny.
I heard a great theory once: Too many of usguys were raised by our MOTHERS, and not ourfathers. Or, we were raised in a household whereour mothers dominated our fathers. In either case,we learned how to please a MOTHER, not how toattract a LOVER.
Do yourself a favor, and think for a momentabout what it would be like to be an attractivewoman in your mid 20s who is approached all thetime by "nice" guys that want to take you out andbore you with conversation about the news andweather. Now ask yourself: "What kind of guy wouldinstantly get my attention and cause me to feel anattraction to him?"
Women like the kind of personality that Iprescribe.
They like it the same way as we guys like firm,young bodies and beautiful faces. Think about it.
...and that about wraps it up.
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It's the result of studying what successfulguys do to attract women, then personally testingout and refining what I learned until I felt likeI could explain it in a way that other guys couldunderstand. I also include three booklets with itthat describe the different steps from gettingemails, all the way to getting physical, thepersonality types of the men that are mostattractive to women, and how to turn a woman on inways she's never experienced.
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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Is "Romance" Attractive To Women?

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You've probably noticed that I don't talk aboutthe idea of "romance" very often.
There's a good reason for this.
I think that most guys use romance incompletely the wrong way, and in the process screwup their chances with the woman that they areinterested in.
I'm going to take some time here to talk aboutmy personal perspective on romance, how it ismisused, and how to use it to really make a womanfeel attracted to you.
Most guys make one of two main mistakes whentrying to be "romantic":
1) They try to use romance to CREATE attraction.
2) They use TOO MUCH romance, thinking that moremust be better.
Let me ask you this... What does romance meanto you?
I'm serious. Think about it for a minute.
Does romance mean gifts and flower?
Does it mean fancy dinners?
Does it mean candles and soft music?
To me, romance is about showing a softer sideof yourself... a more thoughtful side... in a waythat is meant to INCREASE the woman's attractionfor you.
Like I just mentioned, most guys either try touse romance to CREATE attraction, or they do toomany things in an attempt to "be romantic", andthe effect is lost.
Here's a quiz:
In general, would a woman think you were moreromantic if you:
1) Brought her red roses every time you saw her.
2) Brought her one flower the fourth time you sawher, but it was her favorite flower, in herfavorite color.
...???
Here's another one...
In general, would a woman think you were moreromantic if you:
1) Took her to a fancy dinner every time you sawher.
2) Didn't take her to dinner, but one night cookedher a favorite dish that your mom taught you andtold her the story of how it came to be a familyfavorite?
Do you see where I'm going with these examples?
"Romance" is all about the context of thesituation. In other words, little things that arethoughtful, used once in awhile will make FAR moreof an impact than trying to do everything youpossibly can all the time.
Have you ever seen a T. V. show or movie with agirl holding a flower, pulling off each petal oneat a time and saying, "He loves me, he loves menot"?
This is a famous cliche... even Madonna does itin her old "Truth or Dare" movie.
What's going on here? And why is it now such afamous idea that it is almost universally known?
Because it strikes a chord inside of womeneverywhere! Every woman can relate to the idea ofthinking about a man and wondering if he'sthinking about her.
Pulling petals off of a flower and saying, "Heloves me, he loves me not", is just another way ofsaying, "I can't stop thinking about this guy andI'm going to keep thinking about him until I knowhow he feels."
As you know, if you've read past newslettersand/or my ebook, I think that it's important toCREATE this kind of situation as much as humanlypossible.
Now, here's where romance fits into thepuzzle... If you're doing things that you considerto be "romantic" all the time, then she hasnothing to wonder about... nothing to thinkabout... there is no challenge or mystery at all.
On the other hand, if you use romance morecarefully and keep her on the edge of her seat, soto speak, then a small romantic gesture will causeher to feel GREAT feelings of attraction inside...and cause her to work even harder to get and keepyour attention - BECAUSE SHE'LL TRY HARDER TO GETMORE OUT OF THIS ROMANTIC SIDE OF YOU!
So what are some things you can do, that womensee as romantic, without going overboard?
Well, if you want to do the typical things likeflowers, gifts, music, poetry, etc. then do as Isaid earlier: Use them VERY infrequently. Teaseher, bust on her, treat her like a bratty littlesister most of the time, then out of nowhere dosomething thoughtful. But make sure to stay coolwhen the emotional reaction comes!
She's probably going to be very happy and wantto know "where that came from." Just tell her thatyou were thinking about her and move on to thenext topic. Don't get all mushy, dude.
By the way, if you've gone out with a woman 47times, and you don't know if she likes you, andyou're now thinking, "Oh, hey... great idea! I'llbuy her a flower and she'll feel attracted tome..." then get a new idea.
Romance isn't a way to make a woman feelattracted to you.
Romance is a way to AMPLIFY attraction that isalready happening.
Read that last part again... DON'T TRY TO MAKEA WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTED TO YOU WITH ROMANCE!
Attraction is created by factors other thangifts, dinners, flowers, etc.
If she's not feeling attracted to you, thenshowing her that you're attracted to her probablyisn't going to change it... in fact, it may justpush her away.
I know, I know... you once heard about a guywho pursued a woman for 9 years until she finallygave in and married him. Well, that might work,but I don't have 9 years (unless it's CindyCrawford... yeah, I know she's like 50, but she'sSTILL hot).
Earlier I mentioned a couple of great ideas.You can cook her a special meal that hasmeaning... and tell the story behind it. Storiesare romantic, especially if the story contains alove story.
And small gifts can be romantic as well (Idon't like big gifts because they change thedynamic of the relationship and can create allkinds of feelings that it's a trade of affectionfor money, etc.).
If you pay attention, a woman will mentionsomething that she really likes. It could be akind of flower, a kind of music, an author, etc.If you want to be romantic (after you know thatshe's attracted to you) you can get somethingthoughtful then write a card that says, "I wasthinking about you, and I found this... thoughtyou would like it. Kiss Kiss."
Use romance as the spice, and not the maindish. Use it to amplify, not as your mainstrategy.
Romance combined with the techniques that Iteach is a VERY powerful combination.
QUICK NOTE: One of the most "romantic" thingsyou can possibly do is learn how to communicatewith women on a "sexual" level. There's nothing aspowerful as using subtle communication to put awoman into a VERY romantic mood. If you'd like tolearn more about how to do this, then make sureyou go check THIS out:
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HOW TO CREATE A SETTING THAT AUTOMATICALLY CREATESAND AMPLIFIES ATTRACTION...
We just talked about how most guys either haveno clue about romance, or they use it too much...which screws up everything for them.
There is one aspect of romance that I havefound very useful to know more about and use. It'sthe concept of how to create a SETTING that willcreate more of a feeling of attraction inside ofthe woman that you are with.
WARNING: What I'm about to share with you isnot a magic bullet. It's no substitute for acocky, funny personality and great skills. Usingthis alone will not make you successful withwomen.
With that said... I've found that there are afew things you can do in your immediateenvironment to "accelerate the mood", so to speak,when you are with a woman.
Women have very active senses... usually muchmore so than men.
If you have already sparked the attractionbetween you and her, introducing certain sensorystimulus will usually increase the attraction, andcan lead to a more, shall we say "physical"demonstration of that attraction.
OK, let's say that you've had a fun night outwith your girl (and of course, because you readDouble Your Dating you knew where to take her thatwas fun and inexpensive) and you're back at yourplace. (Of course, she came inside because youlearned how to get her to come in from the booktoo... right?)
And then you use the Kiss Test, which youlearned when you visited my web site... and you'vejust kissed for the first time. Now what?
Well, most guys make the HUGE mistake of tryingto grope the poor girl... which, of course leadsto the inevitable "I think that we're moving alittle fast. Let's take things slower."(Translation: "None for you tonight, and if youtry that again, none for you anytime in the next10 dates.")
Instead, try this:
After that first kiss, pull back and look intoher eyes and say, "Yum." Then stand up and say,"Let me see if I can do something about thissetting" in a fun, smooth, kind-of suspensefultone of voice.
Here's the recipe:
1) A few candles
2) Some incense
3) A glass of wine (if you both drink and are oflegal age)
4) Sade's - Greatest Hits on low
I know it sounds simple, but let me explain therecipe now that you know the ingredients.
Remember the formula "Two steps forward, onestep back" that I often talk about? Mix up theseingredients with that concept... and VIOLA! Moreand MORE AND MORE attraction.
You probably don't need to learn how to lightcandles, open wine, and play music. If you do,refer to the instructions that come with theproducts.
I personally like to introduce these as greatways to interrupt the kissing (and whatever elseis going on).
Try this:
1) Kiss Kiss
2) "Let me see if I can do something about thissetting"
3) Light candles and incense, lower lighting
4) Kiss Kiss
5) Open wine and put on 'Sade'
6) Kiss Kiss
7) Watch out... because something good is about tohappen.
Here's what's going on in her mind:
"Oh, we're kissing. I'd better not let this gotoo far."
"What? Why did he stop kissing me? Oh, candles.I love candles..."
"Wow, this is turning into a make-out session,maybe I'd better put on the brakes."
"What? Why did he stop again?"
"Ohhh, I LOVE 'Sade'. Her voice is so sexy. Andthis wine is nice. Hmm, I wonder why he isn'ttrying to jump my bones. Maybe he doesn't thinkI'm a good kisser. Maybe he changed his mind. WellI'm not going to let that happen. I'll showhim..."
Do you get it?
By simultaneously creating tension while makingthe setting more and more 'romantic', you willstir up her ATTRACTION towards you and make her bethe one who ultimately gets so worked up that shecan't help but have you.
Nice.
Of course there are many other things you cando that are romantic. Like sprinkling rose petalson the bed, pulling out some Godiva chocolate, orlighting up the fire and grabbing a blankie (makesure you don't bring out your teddy-bear from whenyou were a kid... that might not go over toowell).
It's really up to you.
The key is to use these things sparingly, anduse them with the concepts that you've alreadylearned to AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION that you'vealready created with your COMMUNICATION.
So remember, use these things with women whoare ALREADY feeling the attraction, not to createit!
So... you like what you're hearing?
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My newest program is called "Power Sexuality".
I waited a long time to create this program. Itwas an intense project.
After several years of teaching guys how to bemore successful with women and dating, I realizedthat there was a kind of "root problem" that wasat the heart of many challenges men face.
Some men will describe this problem as a lackof "Sexual Confidence".
And it's more than just not knowing what to doin the bedroom.
It's about learning to get in touch with thatpart of yourself that's been "pushed down" for somany years... and to enjoy it.
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And if you still haven't downloaded your copyof my eBook, Double Your Dating, then do yourselfa big favor and get it. It's taken me severalyears to learn, find, test, and refine all of thewisdom in that book. It's the best investmentyou'll ever make in your dating life, and I useevery one of the ideas inside it personally. Justgo to:
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Talk to you soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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Proven "Techniques" For Sparking Attraction

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***QUESTION***
Hello David,
I want to say, your books are great, I just gotthem and I feel a lot more confident. I have a fewquestions. I go to a site... and read some oftheir articles every so often, they talk aboutwingmen and how to use your buddies to youradvantage when trying engaging in conversationwith women. What is your opinion about this andhow do you use this if you do?
And the second question is also from the site; Ihave been talking to a woman for a few minutes andthe conversation goes ok. I ask her name and shetells me. She never asks my name ever in theconversation ,is that a sign she is notinterested? Any help in clearing my confused headwould be helpful.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
To answer your first question, there arepositives and negatives about using a buddy for a"wingman".
My opinions:
1) If you go out with a wingman, make sure he's ALOT better than you at meeting women. Payattention, let him lead, and learn from thesituations you get into.
2) If you don't have any friends that are goodwith women, FIND SOME. I don't care what you haveto do, just go do it... make some friends that aregood with women, and watch closely as theycommunicate with women. You'll learn about 100TIMES as much if you first read my book and listento my CD Audio Series, because you'll know what tolook for.
3) It's also a good idea to use a wingman if youneed the "moral support" of a friend to getyourself started meeting women. But make sure thatyour friend can handle himself when talking towomen. If he can't, he's probably going to makethings worse and scare women away from you. Trustme, I've been through this one MANY times.
What I'm trying to say is that using a"wingman" is great if it works for you. Try it.
To answer your question of "if a woman neverasks my name, is it a sign that she's notinterested?"...
I'm going to answer this in two ways.
First, I'll say that if a woman doesn't askyour name, it MIGHT mean that she's notinterested.
But the thing that concerns me about yourquestion is that you're really looking in thewrong direction for clues to decide if a woman"likes you".
IT DOESN'T MATTER IF A WOMAN "LIKES" YOU!
The only thing that matters is whether or notshe feels that powerful, magical, all-importantemotion called ATTRACTION!
I've had women who were annoyed by me, botheredby me, and basically upset at me still feelingATTRACTION for me because I did the right things.
I've had women who started out fighting with mefeeling so attracted to me that they wouldn'tleave me alone for the evening until I gave themmy number.
My point is that you need to get over caringwhat a woman thinks about you... and start doingthe right things.
If this doesn't make sense to you, then staytuned and check out my Advanced Dating TechniquesProgram... really.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Just want to tell you your material is verygood and effective. I find that women love a guythat teases them and busts their balls. I findthat they like it when a man approaches them andhe is completely calm and cool, and even better incontrol of the situation. Now I admit this,sometimes the way I approach a girl or what I seemto talk about doesn't "hit em" how I wanted ittoo, like I seem to get boring, pretty damnquikly...and that is when my mind just starts todraw a blank and I dont know..it sucks. Butsometimes I say the right things and I just knowthis for a fact becuz the girl will either have asmile on her face or I'll see her licking herlips...and from what u said in the DYD book thatsa good thing...For example: today I was sitting ata round table with just me and a girl, we werefacing each other, and I'd say she was about an 8.She dresses real pretty and I said something like"Do you dress nice everyday...Or are you justtrying to impress me?" She smiled and licked herlips so I knew that I was right on track...butthen I drew a blank... I didnt kno how to continuethat convo. What are some normal topics to bringup in a conversation with a girl? What are someinteresting ones that they just seem to be veryinto? What else would help me to keep the convogoing and so I don't draw a blank and feel like adork? I appreciate all the help your book hasdone, reading about confidence and all that didhelp..and now I would just like to touch up andbecome more than just an amatuer. You do not haveto post this on the newsletter but hope to hearfrom you soon.
Later,
D from CT
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great question.
One of the most important things you can do isMENTALLY PREPARE for these kinds of situations.
Now, I don't want to sound like a weirdmotivational self-help guy, but mental preparationWORKS.
Take some time when you're alone, close youreyes, and actually plan out how you'd likeinteractions with women to go. If you've neverdone this before, you'll learn A LOT from it.
You'll think of things that you never wouldhave imagined when you're taking things step bystep in your mind.
One of the OTHER best things you can do is GETA JOURNAL so you can keep notes to yourself.
Try this:
Sit down and write out 20 great things youcould have said in that situation, then go throughand mentally imagine saying each one five times.
Another important thing to do is ALWAYS KNOWHOW TO GET HER INFORMATION AND WALK AWAY.
If you really sense that the conversation isabout to end, you need to know how to ask for heremail/number and go.
You can do this at any stage in theconversation, as soon as you'd like.
Here are a few good topics to try when talkingto women:
1. Why women are crazy, and men are perfect.
2. That she should stop thinking of you only as asex object.
3. What she needs to change to have a chance withyou.
Of course, you need to be able to present thesetopics in a COCKY & FUNNY way so she LAUGHS whileyou're talking about them...
You'll find that topics like these can createsome good fun with women.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
You are absolutely right! Being nice and wussydoesn't work AT ALL!! Now, this technique ofgetting e-mail in three minutes... I must admitthat it works very often. But it fails ratheroften too. Guess my success rate is only about 50%or something. That is, 40% gives a dummy addressand 10% does NEVER respond. Maybe i'm doingsomething wrong here. But somehow i get theimpression that most women are smarter than that.The most common response to that situation issomething like: "What? You talk to me for a fewminutes and you expect me to give my e-mail?"
My question could either be: "What am i doingwrong?" or "Is 50% the outcome that you wouldexpect from this technique?". I let you decidewhich question you want to answer in the interestof your readers. Anyway, you don't hear mecomplain. Because i've learned an awful lot fromyour book. And my success rates have at leastdoubled, if not tripled, after reading your stuff.And 50% is far better than where i come from.
Now, for my success story, this is an approachthat gives me about 80% success. I talk to a womanfor ten minutes (not three ;-)) and then i saysomething like "Hey, you seem to be rathersmart... or is that just an impression?". When shesays "no" i respond with: "Yeah right, that's whatthey all say! I bet you don't dare me to doublecheck that!". Then i don't give her much time torespond. I immediately come back with: "Oh... youdo? Okay... if you're up to the test, give me youre-mail. I'll send you some tricky questions and iexpect SMART answers." I never mention "meeting"because that always seems to trigger some"pushing" alert. Obviously, when she refuses togive her e-mail, i say: "See! That's exactly whati mean! Boy! Am i disappointed!". I very often gether e-mail after that. And those seem to be ALWAYScorrect addresses ;-) Keep up the terrific jobDavid! You are really HELPING! Bye, PhD (Belgium)
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I love letters like this one.
You get good email addresses from HALF thewomen you talk to for three minutes?
I'd say that you're doing pretty well, cowboy.
Probably half of the women in this world areeither married, in a relationship, lesbians(YES!), or in a bad mood.
Your technique for getting it up to 80% isgreat.
Challenging, funny, and interesting. It createscuriosity and comes across as low risk for thewomen. Very nice.
Just keep working on it, and you'll improveover time.
Good job!
***QUESTION***
Dear David,
I have to say, I am bloody disappointed with youradvice at the moment...
I've used your tips, and written you on 2occasions concerning different subjects. Your lastmailbag actually spoke about an issue I'd had witha woman who I KNOW is interested in me, who gaveme her number, told me she was busy and nevercalled back.
I love music, so, I'm always in the CD shop at thelocal mall. There just happens to be a number ofattractive women who work there. To make a longstory short, one the girls starts being reallynice to me after I start ripping on her, alwayswaving saying hi, going out of her way to serve meon occasions. Hell, once I heard a co worker runout the back and say "he's here" and she camerunning out to ask if I need looking after...Never really acted interested though, didn't speakabout much other than "how was your weekend"stuff.
So I start running into her at a club. Again shegoes out of her way to say hi. So finally shewaved from across the room one day and I signalher to come over as I was getting a drink, sheruns over and gives me a hug and a kiss hello!! (Idon't really know this girl from a bar of soap). Iwas really tired, had only slept 4 hrs the nightbefore, was pretty drunk, it was late too and Iwas about to leave.
Basically I could have taken her home right thenand there (trust me!!) but instead I just said forher to give me her number that I'd take her outsometime. Didn't offer her a drink, just said Ihad to go back to my friends, then we left.
I had been supposed to visit her the next day, itwas usually the day I went shopping, but I wasbusy. I call her the day after, she acted fullyuninterested said she was going away for 10 daysand that she'd call after she'd packed that day.Such as yet, no call... I don't care, she'll paywhen I see her again... in a few weeks (sometimesit's a weeks in between visits). I'd say we rplaying a game now.
Also, just recently had a girl who I'd known thrua friend start msging me, asking to come over tospend time with me, she said 'chat', but shedidn't want to chat. I'd busted on her a bitbefore that started happening.
The issue here with your advice is this...
How the hell do I get these girls to stop throwing"IT" at me?? It's no fun when I just get it servedup. It's not like I get a chance to tell em thatI'm not easy, they don't say in that many wordsthat they want to sleep with me. You just know.
I like to play with them a bit and see if they rgonna be worth the trouble... and I want to know abit about a girl before I sleep with them.
Damn dave, what's going on?? I'm just too good formy own good it seems, how can I slow things downand get em to play a bit longer??
Cheers!!!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're asking the wrong guy the wrongquestion... Ha Ha! I've helped you get to thepoint where women are "throwing themselves atyou", and you want to know how to SLOW THEM DOWN?
Maybe go check out some "mars and venus" booksor something.
Or watch some Dr. Phil or Oprah.
I don't know... this just isn't my area ofspecialty.
You're killing me over here.
***QUESTION***
Thanks a lot David, NOT!!! I've been reading yourmails for a while now and I've unconsciously beenintegrating the "Cocky&Funny" into my personality(which is great by the way), and it's so much funthat I've realized that I do it all the time (I'vealso realized that being cocky and funny with agirl is just as if you were messing around withyour male friends' heads). But yeah so I've got acomplaint or success story, I'm not sure which itis: so there's this girl who I've met about a yearago and we've been best friends since then... andthen the other day she admitted to my face thatshe had been in love with me for the past sixmonths!!!!!!!! It makes me feel great aboutmyself...but on the other hand it sucks cuz shewas a really great friend, almost a sister, soI'll never be able to go out with her (and there'snothing wrong with the looks or anything). Soyeah, I think you should put a surgeon general'swarning on your "Cocky&Funny". WARNING: May causeyou to be unexplainably attractive to (almost)anyone! So yeah, a word of advice to all thosereading the newsletters, be careful who you usethe C&F with!
Nick, the Belgian
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, another horrible side effect.
I really should stop teaching this stuff and bea monk or something.
By the way, you can learn some more Cocky &Funny techniques here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy
***SUCCESS STORY FROM A WOMAN***
You answered my email in a recent mailbag, thankyou for answering me so quickly. Your mini- vancomment, while making me want to vomit, made merealize I had to do something - and fast! On ournext date I said something obnoxious to him and hegave me a funny look. Before he could say anythingI said, "you know sometimes I can get kindaobnoxious, and when I do... just tell me toshutup, - and from that point on he didn't let meget away with anything! He is a "real man" afterall!! Yeah! And you said trying to teach a guyhow to stop acting like a WUSSY isn't easy ;)
Later that night when we were saying good-bye, hesaid he was going to come by my work to visit, Iasked him what time he'd be there, and he justsaid "you'll see" with a smirk. I smiled, said"good answer," kissed him, and left.
Ah, the miracle of attraction! Can't wait to seehim again...thank you for saving thisrelationship, and for saving me from dying ofboredom!
Thank you Thank you Thank you Thank you Thank youThank you
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Am I really reading this stuff?
I've now got women who are teaching men thismaterial because they just can't deal with theWUSS FACTOR any longer...
It's really too much.
The lesson:
A WOMAN WOULD RATHER TEACH YOU HOW TO ACT LIKEA REAL MAN THAN DEAL WITH A WUSSY.
Unreal.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I just got your book after receiving thenewsletters for a few months and my eyes werereally opened to how many new skills I need toacquire. In the past 6 months (before reading yourbook) I went from being too nice to becoming aprick. After reading your book, I now see thatthere is much, much more to it and that it's ok tobe nice sometimes, but only on your terms. I amhaving a ton of more fun now and am def. gettingreactions from women, but I realize I need to finda middle ground. Being cocky came a little tooeasy for me and right now I am focusing on addinghumor to my personality to balance it. I gotHelitzer's book but it seems a bit overwhelming.What helped you the most when it came to addinghumor to your personality and where is a goodplace to start? One thing I would recommend to allreaders is to find a good female friend to discussyour material with. They will prove to you thatthis stuff is really attention getting and willhelp you improve overall.
Thanks in advance.
AW in Pa
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You've brought up a great point here.
It's SOOOO important that you find the balancebetween Cocky and Funny...
If you're too cocky and arrogant you'll comeacross as insecure, and if you're too funnywithout adding any of the magic of being Cocky,then you'll come across as stupid and goofy.
You must strike the balance.
You'll know when you're getting it right,because the responses from women will become verypowerful.
Even if the reading is difficult, I stillrecommend that you read the comedy book youpurchased. It's great.
As I recommended to another reader above, takethe time to write out ideas for differentsituations, then rehearse them in your mind.
You'll know when you find the right balance.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I am from a Latin American country so forgive myenglish if i make some mistakes. I met a girl in atrip to the beach and i really liked her verymuch. I met some of her friends and asked what washer phone number. Several weeks after that i callher and talk some time and i had to hang up. sometime after that i called her again and we talkedfor hours and she seemeed very interested in me sowe stop talking. One time i called her to hercelular and she didnt answer and inmediatly shecalled to my house that showed me that she wasinterested in me. But then i called her almostdaily and she sort of got bored and when theconversation got to about a minute she told me shehad to go. I insisted on calling her more but thatonly brought bad results and i ask her if i didntlike her i think i realy blew it with her becausei acted like a wuss.
It has passed about 3 months without talking toher i have run with her a few times but ignore heri dont know why. i was really pissed off but somefriends of her that are also my friends told methat she sort of liked me. i knew she liked mebefore i acted like a wuss but i think enough timehave passed and i would like to talk to her againbecause during those 3 months i thought aboutcalling her everyday and i would want some adviceso i can know what to do. Please answer quickly iam waiting eagerly for your answer. Please excusesome of my expressions english is not my firstlanguage.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, you hit the nail on the head.
When you start calling a woman too often,acting clingy and needy, and generally behavinglike a total WUSS BAG, you're probably going todrive her away.
Don't do it anymore!
You need to move on, and get over it.
It's a hard thing for most guys to accept, butwhen you've convinced a woman beyond the shadow ofany reasonable doubt that you are a world-classWUSSY, you just need to move on.
It's an uphill battle to try to convince herotherwise, so just get on with your life, anddon't make the same mistake again.
Repeat after me:
"I will stop acting like a WUSS"
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
I don't think I'll start my e-mail with a successstory since I'm a woman and have the freedom towalk into any bar, walk up to any man and tellhim, "by the end of tonight you'll be in bed withme" and it will happen.
I've been using your techniques on men for yearsbut never could put into words how or why itworked. I think most of your principles are truefor both sexes. My friends often accuse me ofbeing a man on the inside and this is why. I am avery confident, self sufficient 22 yr old woman,about an 8 on a 1-10 scale. Add on top of thisthe fact that I use your C+F techniques.
Most times I just meet men that I can walk allover and lose interest in the first 30 seconds(this is why I'm compared to men). Every now andthen I meet a man who also knows how theattraction thing works and we hit it off and havea great "mental tennis" match. This is theproblem. The men I do meet that can match me andkeep my interest are great for a little while, butthen once they realize I can keep up with them andplease them in bed like most women won't, they getover excited and turn into wussies. They starttelling me how they've looked their whole life fora woman like me and yadda yadda. That's great andI appreciate the compliments, but they aren'tkeeping up the C+F/self confidence and I loseinterest--FAST. Case in point: I met a guy whowas about a 6 on a 1-10 scale. He had the wholeC+F thing going on. Everything was great for a fewdates until he confessed to me that he felt likehe was "playing out of his sandbox" and that hedidn't understand why someone as beautiful as Iwould continue to see him. In the snap of afinger I lost all interest in him because at thatpoint, I was above him instead of on equal playingground.
So this is my question: Is there a secretunderground society of double your dating fanaticsthat actually know how to keep a woman's interest?and if so where do I find these men? Also, sinceI'm sure there isn't one, can you give me anyideas as to how to keep men at a safe enoughdistance that they don't feel like confiding alltheir insecurities in me?
Thanks, David, you truly are an attraction genius!Keep up the great work!
K.H. in Ogden, UT
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, there is a secret underground society ofDouble Your Dating fanatics who actually know howto keep a woman's interest.
But the bad news is that THEY'RE NOT IN OGDEN,UTAH!
Was that your first guess about where they'd belocated?
Are you sure that you're as sharp as you sayyou are?
I don't know if I personally buy it.
I've used your email to point out somethingVERY IMPORTANT TO MY READERS...
MOST GUYS, EVEN WHEN THEY "GET IT", EVENTUALLYTURN INTO TOTAL WUSS-BAGS AND STOP DOING THETHINGS THAT ORIGINALLY MADE A WOMAN FEELATTRACTION FOR THEM.
This is when the woman usually hits the road,and the man is left thinking "What did I dowrong... I was such a NICE GUY."
This is a bad thing, so don't do it.
***QUESTION***
Dave the Expert, i never in a million yearsthought a book like yours would ever come out andhelp millions of guys out here that constantlystruggle to find the exact way to attract a woman!And your book is IT...!! i have had a lot ofsuccess these past eight months ever since ibought your book and from reading yournewsletters. i've never dated so many women, it'sgrrrrrreat! but the time has come for me to askyou a question that i am practically begging youto respond to. i finally met this terrific girlwho i think is the "one" 4 months ago and we'vebeen dating since but we just recently broke upbecause she moved to college about 4 hours awayfrom me. it hurt me so bad. i used the cocky/funnyapproach to reel her in at the beginning and keptup the cocky/funny attitude the whole way throughuntil...the break up. ouch! you see, we are bothdancers and we both dance in the same dance studiobut she only comes down from college to practicemaybe once every couple of weeks because her and iare in a duet together. we have a competition inabout a month so i couldn't just back out of itbut it is really awkward having to dance with herbecause i still have feelings for her and our duetis avery emotional dance w/ a lot of feelinginvolved. we broke up because she said thatcollege was stressing her out so much and she feltthat our relationship wouldn't work because longdistance relationships are hard and we couldn'tsee each other as much as we wanted to. plus, sheis on scholarship and she can't let herself makebad grades or else she can't maintain herscholarship. she didn't mean this in a bad way buttold me that i was a little cause of her stressbecause we would talk on the phone when she wassupposed to be doing homework. w/ all the homeworkand the dance team practices up there she staysbusy and rarely ever gets to come down except topractice our duet. we've agreed to just be friendsbut dave, it just doesn't feel right. i want to bemore than friends but i just don't see a way forthis relationship to work out and have it be theway it was when we first started dating! i missher so much and would do anythingto get her backand i think i screwed up by telling her that! itold her that i would make time for her and that inever felt this way about a girl before, which istrue. god, i know i was a complete wussy after webroke up but i felt that it was the right thing todo because after 4 months it didn't seem to matterif i spilled my feelings to her, right? dave, ineed to know what to do to get her back because istill have to dance w/ her and i don't want tofeel uncomfortable and insecure when i'm aroundher. any advice would greatly be appreciated!
-R.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'm glad you've had so much success with thematerials, and I appreciate the feedback.
I don't usually respond to "relationship"questions... but I just can't help this one.
You've switched into WUSS BOY mode, and you'reonly shooting yourself in the foot, man.
Get on with your life, stop acting like awussy, and quit telling her that you'd "doanything to get her back".
I know it's what you FEEL like saying, but itwill only make you look weaker and weaker if youkeep it up and don't just put it behind you andmove on.
If you want to have any chance at all of thisrelationship work out, then you're going to haveto quit acting whipped and needy.
Now use what you've learned to go meet some newwomen and stop acting like a Wuss.
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave,
I've been reading your articles for the past 2weeks, i think it is so awesome, and i'm soongoing to buy your book. i wanted to tell you thati have no problems with women when i'm notattracted to them, but if they are a perfect 10 iget scared, and i can't even say hi to them, helpme, how can i overcome this fear of pretty girls?
When the girl is not so hot i don't have anyproblems talking to them, getting their phonenumber and going on a date with them, the problemis how do i attract the beautiful women and howshould i approach and actually start aconversation with them?
thanks G. i appreciate your help.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, first of all, go check out an issue ofthe magazine that goes by the name of Perfect 10.
You'll see that the women in there are all overthe map.
In other words, every guy has a different ideaof what a "10" is.
Yes, some women are obviously more attractiveor "fixed up" than others, but we all havedifferent tastes, and in the morning when shewakes up she's going to look a WHOLE LOT differentthan she does when you first see her.
So remember that this girl who is a "10" to youis only a 6 or 7 to another guy. That should help.
Next, if you can't figure out how to get overyour fear of approaching attractive women, thenyou're going to have to just face your fear and doit anyway.
To start with, just focus on saying ANYTHING tothe women you see. You need to see for yourselfand teach your mind and body not to be afraid ofwomen.
I don't care if you walk up to the next 100women you see and say "You're beautiful... can Ihave your autograph?"
lol... that's pretty funny... I just might trythat one myself, come to think of it.
My point is that you need to JUST DO SOMETHING!
Most of the anxiety involved in approachingattractive women comes from the FEAR OF THEUNKNOWN and the FEAR OF EMBARRASSMENT ORREJECTION.
Once you actually approach a bunch of women andtalk to them, you'll find that nothing bad isgoing to happen to you. This works wonders.
Then, when you've gotten past your fear, youcan lead the conversations to getting numbers,etc.
And SPEAKING of overcoming fear, startingconversations with women, getting numbers, gettingdates, and learning how to take things to aPHYSICAL level with women smoothly and withoutrejection...
...I've spent a loooong time studying thistopic.
In fact, I've put more time, effort, and studyinto this area than just about anyone I have evermet (and I've met some guys who are pretty darngood with women).
A few years ago I decided to do something kindof crazy with all this amazing stuff I learnedabout women and dating... I wrote it all down. Infact, I not only wrote it all down, but Iorganized it into logical sections, then created aBOOK.
That book is called "Double Your Dating".
And then I did something ELSE that's kind ofcrazy.
Instead of printing copies of the book, Idecided to only make it available on theINTERNET... as a downloadable "eBook".
Gotta love technology.
And get this... if you'd like to get a copy ofthis book, you can download it right now andliterally be reading it within a few minutes...from your computer screen.
Go here to download it:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
And if you've already read my eBook and you'reready to REALLY get this entire area of your lifehandled, then I'd like to suggest EXTREMEMEASURES...
My Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.
This program contains over 12 hours ofdigitally recorded and edited video and/or audioof me personally teaching ADVANCED techniques forovercoming fear, approaching women, getting emailaddresses and numbers... and I'm talking aboutHUNDREDS of ideas.
When you go through this program, you'll alsomeet some of my personal friends and guestspeakers who will teach you incredible secrets formeeting women online, giving women fantastic dateexperiences for little or no money... andcommunicating in a way that makes women feel anincredible "animal" attraction for you.
All live and all THE VERY BEST STUFF.
If you'd like to get a copy without risk to you,go here:
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And I'll talk to you soon.
Your Friend,
David D.

11 Brand New Ways To Approach A Woman

Hey Man,
How would you like to learn 11 BRAND NEW "field-tested" techniques and strategies for meeting women and getting dates that you can startusing IMMEDIATELY?
How would you like learn them all in JUST OVER AN HOUR?
If this sounds good to you... read on.
In these newsletters I often talk about the"inner" game... and how to become the kind of attractive man that all women are looking for.
But today, I want to talk to you about the"fun" stuff.
I'm talking about the "pick up lines."
I just finished doing an interview with a new friend of mine... and in it he shared so manygreat lines and techniques that I LOST COUNT after 11...
My friend is a dating coach who specializes inhelping guys become more successful with women.
He has experience in all kinds of different areas... and he knows his stuff.
The insights and strategies he shared in thisinterview were simply WORLD CLASS.
We hit on all kinds of different topics... andit basically turned into a one hour "mini-seminar"on almost every aspect of meeting women and getting dates.
One of my friend's specialities is APPROACHINGWOMEN.
He's figured out some fascinating ways to startconversations with women easily... and make themgreat.
He's ALSO figured out some killer techniques for eliminating "approach anxiety", sparking attraction in a woman QUICKLY, and taking things to the next level smoothly and easy...
And that's just the start. Here are a few moreof the KILLER secrets my friend shared:
-A new "systematic" way to gain MEASURABLEimprovements in your success with women everysingle day (My friend will share the exact systemhe used to go from a Dungeons & Dragons playing "ubergeek" to one of the world's BEST at meetingwomen in in a shockingly *short* amount of time)
-How to start and CONTINUE a conversation with a woman who is out with other men... even if theyare trying to drag her away!
-3 brand new "direct" ways to approach a womanthat let her know ISTANTLY that you are one of those rare, ultra-confident men she is looking for
-A big mistake men make AFTER a *successful* direct approach that tells a woman you were FAKINGyour confidence! (This deadly cover-blowing mistake not only turns her off... but will actually have her going around telling other womenyou are a FRAUD)
-An exercise for CRUSHING "approach anxiety" thatdoes NOT require you to approach single women andrisk rejection... but is even MORE effective ateliminating your fears and self-doubts around thisarea *quickly*
-The Icebreaker Approach - A way to approach a woman or group of people that makes them see youas the "social chairman" of the spot and someonethey had better get to know
-How to approach a woman who is out with mom in away that gets her mom to ENCOURAGE her to date you!
-A trick to get women to check YOU out at a danceclub (Use this one to instantly let every woman inaround know that YOU are the best catch in theplace)
-A ballsy, yet REJECTION-FREE way to get a woman to dance with you that works nearly every time!
-A hilarious way to approach a woman who is sitting down in a public spot - such as a subway, bench, or coffee shop - that gets even the most desirable woman to CRACK UP laughing and start chatting with you
-A brand new way to approach a woman who has her dog with her in a way that isn't cheesy and "obvious"
-A "secret" way to ANGLE YOUR BODY when talking toa woman that not only makes her feel comfortable with you... but actually makes her WORK HARDER toget your attention! (Once you know what it isyou'll notice that every guy who is truly AMAZINGwith women does this unconciously...)
-A casual way to touch a woman you can use in yourfirst conversation with her that lets her know youare a DOMINANT and powerful man
-How to let a woman know that you can rock her world in the bedroom within MINUTES of meeting her... without ever actually *saying* anything that is "sexual"
-The 4-step process you should use to move AWAYfrom being "Cocky & Funny" and into a REALconversation (If you don't do this properly yourisk being seen as a CLOWN who she shouldn't takeseriously)
-A fun way to approach a woman at the gym without"creeping her out"
-Plus: In the bedroom - A way to quickly figure out which parts of a woman's body are the MOST sensitive... and then touch them in a way that makes her want you to touch her more, and more,and more...
As you can see... this interview is JAM-PACKEDwith golden nuggets of information. I don't think you could possibly pack any more into a one hour interview...
And if you want to get your hands on this ARSENAL of techniques that will improve your success with women INSTANTLY... then YOU need tohear it.
I'm going to release this interview as this month's issue in my "Interviews With Dating Gurus"monthly CD audio series.
If you're already subscribed, do nothing.
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And if you're NOT already a member?
If you're not already a member, you need tosign up immediately... because this interview isNOT TO BE MISSED.
It's "going to press" this Saturday morning... so I need to know by this Monday, June 15th at Midnight PST if you want in...
When you sign up, I'm also going to throw in a"Starter Kit" containing 2 UNBELIEVABLE double-length interviews (2 CDs each) that are among the best I've ever done... ON ME.
The information in this interviews will save you THOUSANDS OF HOURS of "trial and error"... I guarantee you will learn SEVERAL techniques you will use to improve your interactions with women for the rest of your life.
If you're like most of the guys that havesigned up for the program, you'll listen to each of them AT LEAST 4 or 5 times... and learn something new each time you go through them.
What if you don't?
If you don't learn anything useful from theseinterviews, then I've wasted your time... and I want you to KEEP ALL OF THEM as my way of sayingthanks for giving the program a shot.
Now... would I make a promise like that to youif I was AT ALL worried about that happening? Absolutely not.
In fact, I'll make a "side bet" with you right now that once you get these interviews out there and listen to JUST THE FIRST ONE... that I won't be able to buy them back from you for TWICE whatyou paid.
I'm deadly serious. The information in these interviews is CUTTING EDGE. You simply CANNOT findit anywhere else. And it will improve your successwith women IMMEDIATELY. Think I'm kidding?
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
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Are You AFRAID Of Women?

Read This...
>NOTE: If you want to read the story of how I wentfrom not even being able to TALK to a woman Ididn't know... to the point where I can approachany woman in any situation, and get as many datesas I want, check this out:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog
What prevents men from being successful withwomen?
Well, the list goes on and on... but one of theelements that TOPS the list is FEAR.
There are many different situations that makemen feel fear, but I'd like to talk about some ofthe most common ones... and what to do about them.
First of all, I'd like you to be honest for amoment about this topic.
Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to womenand dating?
Have you ever seen a woman that you'd reallylike to meet, but you started to feel fear anddidn't do anything about it?
Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted tokiss a woman... but you felt too afraid becauseyou didn't want to make a mistake and screw upyour chances?
Or maybe you even got a woman's phone number,but you were too afraid to call back because youdidn't know how to start off the conversation orask her out?
Cummon, seriously...
Have you ever been sitting there with the phonein your hand, dialing a woman's number, but youhad to hang up because you were just too nervousto even talk to her...?
Or out on a date with a woman, and you wantedto kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thoughtthat you just decided it would be better to forgetthe whole idea and hope for the best...?
Me too. Many times, in fact.
By the way, it's not exactly FUN to admit thatyou're afraid of things.
I'm sure you know that most guys would ratheradmit in public that they were unsure about theirsexual orientation than that they were afraid ofwomen.
Of course, this unwillingness to admit that youhave a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makesmatters worse...
If you don't admit that you have the problem,then it's hard to get help and answers to it.
Well, the good news is that you're not alone.
Almost every guy I've known (including myself)has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.
So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over yourneed to deny that you're afraid. Just admit thatyou're afraid, and come to grips with the factthat you're human...
STEP 2 is to admit that you'd like to get thisparticular area of your life handled.
STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Once you realize that it's not that big of adeal, then the improvement can start. On the otherhand, if you just stay in denial about it, you'llprobably just look for new tricks and techniquesto use on women... which, of course, won't lead toany REAL improvement.
By the way, if you've got more than the"average" amount of fear around meeting women, youmight want to take a minute and look at THISbefore you read on:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/DeepInnerGame
I personally think that one of the biggestcauses of fear when it comes to situations withwomen is:
PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMANTHINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULARSITUATION.
To put it in different words, most guys don'ttake action because they're afraid that they'llscrew up, or that the woman or others around willjudge them.
The REAL problem though is that this wholeprocess has become AUTOMATIC, and it happensINSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman thatthey'd like to meet. Before they even have achance to think about the situation rationally,they've become nervous, insecure, and upset.
I'm sure you know EXACTLY what I'm talkingabout.
As humans, we have these incredible minds andbodies, but sometimes they get wired up in waysthat aren't exactly useful for the situations thatwe find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes ourcultures, families, or peer groups teach us waysof thinking that just aren't useful at all forwhat we'd like to accomplish.
Here's something that I realized a few yearsago when I was learning for myself how to besuccessful with women...
I thought about this idea that I was havingthis instant, automatic fear in differentsituations with women, and that what I was reallythinking was "I don't want to screw this up" and"I don't want her to think that I'm a dork"...
And all of a sudden something dawned on me:
IT DOESN'T MATTER.
It doesn't matter what happens, and it doesn'tmatter what she thinks of me.
I realized that the fears I was experiencingwere more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.
So, I started to remind myself as often aspossible that the fear wasn't happening becausethere was any kind of danger... and that myobjective in a particular situation wasn't to haveit turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.
Think about the difference between doingsomething because it's important vs. doingsomething in order to LEARN.
So, for instance, if I saw a woman that Iwanted to meet... instead of thinking, "OK, I haveto say something charming and original so she'lllike me... and if I screw up I'm going to beembarrassed" - I began to think things like, "I'mgoing to learn how to get a woman's phone numberwithin a few minutes of meeting her... and part oflearning this is going to be trying a lot ofdifferent things that probably aren't going towork... but in the end, it's all going to even outbecause I'm going to have the SKILL that I want."
See the difference?
Well, let me tell you, that change in attitudemade a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing todo and try things that I never would have tried inthe past for fear of screwing up...
All because I had the attitude of "I'm going tolearn something from this and improve my skills...and it doesn't matter what happens in THISPARTICULAR situation", I was able to improve veryrapidly.
And the more I began to apply this idea, themore success I had in ALL areas with women... fromthe first meeting, to getting them to go out withme, to taking things to a physical level.
So do this:
Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation witha woman.
I don't care if she's attractive or not.
But instead of having the objective of gettinga date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.
In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, gospend a day starting conversations with women, butmake the commitment to NOT get any phone numbersor dates all day.
In other words, no matter WHAT happens, youcan't date any of the women that you meet thatday.
See if you can just learn how to do a fewsimple things like say, "Hi" to every woman thatwalks by... how to maintain eye contact with womenuntil THEY look away... and how to end aconversation "too soon" so she feels a naturalvacuum and tries to keep it going herself...
That's one good idea for dealing with yourfears.
If you'd like to read more of my personalsecrets for overcoming fear, including specificmental exercises and physical drills, then I'drecommend that you download a copy of my onlineeBook "Double Your Dating". It's full of all myvery best thinking on this and many other subjectsabout success with women.
Just go to:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
...and if you're ready to REALLY get your"issues" handled with women, then I recommend thatyou get your hands on a copy of my Advanced DatingTechniques CD/DVD program.
You'll get to hear me and several of myfriends, who are AMAZING with women, talk abouthow we learned to overcome our issues, deal withour fears, and meet more women as a result.
There's nothing like hearing it live, and thisprogram will blow your mind. Go here for all thedetails:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. Don't forget to take a minute and look at theentire list of programs I've created to help youbecome more successful with women. You can look atall of them together right here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog

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