What is "SUCCESS" to you when it comes to women?

Let me ask you a question.
What is "SUCCESS" to you when it comes to women?
If I asked you to give me a detailedexplanation of EXACTLY how your life would be ifyou had ULTIMATE SUCCESS with women, could you doit?
Sure, most guys would say something like,"Success to me would be being able to walk up toany woman and get a date with her"... or "Successto me would be dating as many women as Iwanted"... or "Success to me would be having areally sexy girlfriend", etc.
These are the kinds of answers I hear when Iask guys this question.
But there's a PROBLEM with these answers.
NONE OF THEM REALLY MEAN ANYTHING.
If you learn how to approach any woman and geta date, you'll soon find that you don't know whatto DO once you're actually out ON the dates... howto take things to a physical level, how to kissher, etc...
If you start dating several women at a time,you'll quickly realize that it's a MAJOR challengeto juggle all of those relationships and maintaina happy life...
If you find a really sexy girlfriend, there's agood chance that she'll have a whole bunch ofpersonal issues and problems that you neveranticipated...
You have to be careful what you wish for inlife, because you'll often get it.
I've found that guys usually make TWO majormistakes when it comes to SUCCESS with women:
1) Most guys haven't really thought through whatsuccess means to them in detail.
2) Most guys base their personal idea of successon what OTHERS want, and not what THEY want forthemselves.
In fact, I was one of the guys that made BOTHof these mistakes.
I can remember when I first decided to ONCE ANDFOR ALL learn how to be "successful" with women.
I had this idea in my mind that if I could justlearn how to get women's phone numbers quickly andeasily that I would be successful beyond mywildest dreams.
So I went to work on figuring it out.
I probably spent a good six or twelve monthstrying all kinds of different tricks to getwomen's phone numbers quickly.
And I figured out some great techniques.
I can literally get a woman's number within afew minutes of meeting her.
But once I learned this skill, I was hit with aMAJOR realization: Most of the women I was meetingnever turned into DATES.
They either didn't return my calls, refused myrequests, or just plain flaked out on me.
It was VERY frustrating.
The other problem I had was looking around atwhat OTHER guys were doing and saying, "I want tobe able to do what HE does..." or "I want to datethe kinds of women HE dates".
And I secretly had this idea that if I knew howto date HOT women that all my friends would likeme more and think I was a really cool guy.
Well guess what?
First of all, just because another guy is doingsomething, doesn't mean that it would make MEhappy. In fact, I realized that in many cases itwasn't even making HIM happy.
I couldn't help comparing my success and thewomen I was dating with other guys, and the womenthey were dating.
But it was a trap.
The more a person looks at what OTHERS aredoing and focusing on that, the less satisfiedthey are with what THEY are doing themselves.
And as far as other guys thinking I was "cool"because I was dating beautiful women... WRONGAGAIN.
Guys (even friends) usually envy you and resentthe fact that you have success and they don't.Especially when it comes to really beautifulwomen.
So much for those losing strategies.
SO WHAT'S THE ANSWER?
Well, it's taken me a few years to really putall the puzzle pieces together and figure out howto resolve these issues.
Here's what I've come up with:
1) REALLY THINK ABOUT WHAT SUCCESS MEANS TO YOU INDETAIL, AND WRITE IT DOWN.
Take the time (even if it takes days orweeks... or longer) and think through what youwant for yourself.
Do a little "self examination" (no, not downthere), and be honest with yourself.
See if you can figure out where your idea of"what success is" came from.
Did it come from watching movies?
Did it come from guys you know?
Where did you get your model of what "successwith women" is?
Once you've figured out where some of yourideas came from, then think about what you want.
Think about your life and your lifestyle.
Instead of looking at Playboy and thinking toyourself "I'd sure like to have seven blondegirlfriends in my bed", try thinking about whatwould make you HAPPY on an ongoing basis.
Take some time to write down the things youlike in a woman. Write down what you DON'T like.
Get a clear picture in your mind of how you'dlike your life to be, and what kind of successwith women would make your life more enjoyable.
After researching this topic for a few yearsnow, I've come to the opinion that most guys(80%-90%) actually want to have a great long-termrelationship with a fantastic woman.
Sure, some guys want to date around and sleepwith a lot of women, but the majority of guyswould really like to meet an exceptional woman andshare a great connection... long term.
But guess what?
You're not going to walk outside after you'refinished reading this and find that particularwoman waiting on the corner for you.
In fact, you're probably not going to meet heranytime soon.
If you want to find a REALLY exceptional womanthat is beautiful, intelligent, funny, emotionallystable, financially independent, loving, etc.,then you're probably going to have to date QUITE A FEWwomen in order to FIND her.
And when you DO find her, you can bet your assthat she's IN DEMAND. She probably has MANY guyswho are interested in her on an ongoing basis, andshe KNOWS that she has options.
TRANSLATION: You'd better have your sh**together when you do meet her, and you'd betternot be acting like an idiot.
So think through what success means to you,what you want, what you don't want, and how you'dlike your life to look ideally when it comes towomen and dating.
If you're having trouble deciding what youREALLY want in life, and what you REALLY want whenit comes to meeting women, then go read THIS:
Mastery With Women & Dating
2) LEARN THE RARE SKILL OF MAKING WOMEN FEEL THEMAGICAL EMOTION CALLED ATTRACTION.
I have spent a long time now searching for thesecrets of how ATTRACTION works.
You'd probably guess that something asIMPORTANT and as POWERFUL as ATTRACTION would bewell-researched and widely written about.
Well guess what?
I can't find even ONE good book, audio tapeseries, seminar or web site that describes it.
NOT EVEN ONE.
I've read all kinds of "opinions" onattraction, but when I really compare what I readand hear to my own personal knowledge andexperience, I always shake my head and say tomyself "No, that's not right".
And by the way, if you've found a book, tape,seminar, or web site, etc., that lays it all out,let me know. I think I've reviewed just abouteverything out there and met a lot of the expertson the topic... but maybe I've missed something.
The point is that I think that success in thisarea of life basically ALL comes down tounderstanding ATTRACTION.
I'm not talking about being "physicallyattractive", I'm talking about the EMOTION ofATTRACTION.
If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, thennothing else matters.
His looks don't matter, his income doesn'tmatter, his age doesn't matter... nothing matters.
On the other hand, if a woman DOESN'T feelATTRACTION for a man, then nothing else matters!
His looks, income, age, etc. just don't matter.
Nothing he can do can make her feel thatemotion.
Sure, a woman can "fall for" a guy over time.But in these rare cases it's not because ofATTRACTION. It's because she starts to feel anAFFECTION for him, and settles for a long-termrelationship. Incidentally, this usually involvesa man who pursues a woman, buys her gifts anddinners, behaves in a way that puts her valueabove his, etc. And, incidentally, it usuallyinvolves a woman who feels like she's SETTLING.
BUT, if you know how to make a woman feel thatamazing and unique emotion called ATTRACTION, thenyou will be in control of your dating success...and YOU can decide on and control what happens toyou.
A man who has his life together and actuallyunderstands how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION isFAR more rare than a beautiful woman.
Think about that.
An exceptional man who understands ATTRACTIONis FAR more rare, valuable, and desirable thaneven the most BEAUTIFUL woman.
If you don't believe me, then ASK somebeautiful women how many men like this they'veknown in their lifetimes.
They'll count them all on one hand.
You'll see.
And the best part, in my personal opinion, isthat it doesn't take any unusual talents, physicalattributes, or large sums of money to learn theseskills.
All it takes is an understanding of howATTRACTION works, a desire to learn it, and thediscipline to learn, practice, and improve overtime.
What's a good way to get started?
Well, you're doing it.
I think that reading these newsletters is oneof the best ways to get a handle on how to makewomen feel ATTRACTION.
What's an even BETTER way?
As far as I'm concerned, the very BEST way youcan learn how to make women feel the emotion ofATTRACTION (and more importantly, feel it for YOU)is to listen to and/or watch my Advanced DatingTechniques program on DVD.
This program is the culmination of severalYEARS of my personal research, trial and error,and refining.
I've taken knowledge from various fields...from brain research and psychology, to animalbehavior and mating patterns... and combined itwith my real-world personal experience of figuringout what works.
There's no fluff, and no B.S.
One of the most common things I hear about thisprogram is "This material has completely changedthe way I think about women".
I certainly wish that I would have had thisprogram about five years ago... when I startedout.
It would have saved me about THREE years, andprobably thousands of hours of wasted time.
Anyway, it's the best of the best, and it comeswith my 100% satisfaction guarantee. If you're notthrilled with it, just ask for a refund. Nohassles, and zero risk.
All the details, plus some sample video andaudio clips are here:
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...and of course if you haven't downloaded yourcopy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating" yet,then you need to do that NOW. It's jam packed withconcepts, techniques, and specific step-by-stepstrategies for meeting and dating women. It's thefoundation for all the other things I teach, andit's fast and easy to download and read. Just goto:
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Love your body

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More sex for better health

You have been closely following your diet chart, you exercise everyday without erring and your quota of drinks is well within the permissible limit. Is there anything more that you can do to improve your health? The answer might please you: Have more sex...

Expressing intimacy in a sexual way is something that’s usually guaranteed to make us feel good mentally and emotionally. But now there’s growing c to suggest that sex actually has benefits for our physical,as well as our psychological, well being. Sex-ercise Although not in the same class as your one hour aerobic schedule, sex does give you a workout, depending upon how vigorous it is.

The reason is quite simple to find:sex, and particularly the orgasm, involves the contraction of muscles in the arms, legs and abdomen. Also, your heart and breathing rates rise when you are sexually aroused just as they do when you exert yourself on the playing field or at the gym

Another bonus is that you’re likely to drift off into a deep, luxurious sleep after you tire yourself out.

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Song of Solomon)

Lesson 7: The Book of Song of Songs (Song of Solomon)
God is love...and a lot of poetry is too. Come investigate this exploration of a sensual, sexual relationship between husband and wife--love and sex the way God created it--NOT Hollywood! Be prepared to be swept away...
Sex in the BIBLE? An introduction
Proverbs 5 18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.
These lines come from Proverbs, a book of the Bible that we've already examined. Why include them here? They point at a few key points that are covered about sex in Song of Solomon (Song of Songs).
1. Sex is NOT what we see on tv--sleep with anyone anywhere and forget about the possible consequences. Bed someone on the first date and then search for your next "conquest". It's shocking to see what Hollywood has done to pervert our image of sex. Sex seems to be in almost EVERYTHING that comes from the silver screen nowadays. Sex sells. Sex that shouldn't happen sells even more. Feelings have been taken out of it completely, so sex does not equal love anymore. Sex has been reduced to what dogs in heat do. It's a sad state of affairs that shows no sign of turning back anytime soon.
2. "...may you rejoice in THE wife"--THE means singular. One. This speaks to a monogamous relationship--one man and one woman who are MARRIED (therefore the use of the word "wife"). God intends that sex be a wonderful gift for a married couple. It is a union of their bodies, just as they have been linked mentally, emotionally, and spiritually through marriage (which is what marriage means after all--a "bringing together"). If sex happens before marriage, then our whole concept of marriage and of "waiting for the right person" becomes tainted, warped, and weakened--just like our values today, unfortunately. Isn't it unfortunate that it is now a rarity to find young people who wait to have sex until they are married? It has become the exception instead of the rule.
3. "loving doe, a graceful deer". Several of the images of sex and a sexual partner refer to grace, love, and beauty--Contrast that to the "pick someone up in a bar and go at it in a washroom" view of many movies out there today. Again, the Bible contains views of how beautiful sex can be--between committed partners who love each other!
4. "may her breasts satisfy you always" WHOA! God doesn't mean for sex to be some mechanical act of reproduction. He says to take pleasure in sex. Look at the word "always" also. This is talking about sex with one person for forever--again, pointing to a single committed relationship.
5. "may you ever be captivated by her love" We can clearly see how sex and love are intertwined here. Again, the word "ever" points us to a lasting, loving relationship--marriage.
My point in showing this passage is to reveal that even Solomon was aware of what sex SHOULD be. Yet, the more he enjoyed success, the more he enjoyed the fruits of that success, and by the end of his reign, he had 700 wives and 300 concubines--hardly the loving, sexual relationship between man and wife that he describes in Song of Solomon.
Why did he write this book, then? Possibly to lament his poor decisions. It's estimated that this was written fairly early on in Solomon's reign, when he had approximately 60 wives and 40 concubines. Perhaps he was beginning to see what he was missing. Maybe the love of his life slipped away because of his many partners. And that can be a slippery slope--just as he didn't follow the wise words he gave in Proverbs and experienced a "meaningless life" in Ecclesiastes, Solomon here may be trying to teach us a lesson--avoid the mistakes he has made.
In any case, sex in this book of the Bible clearly points the way to sex in a committed, one-to-one relationship bonded through marriage between man and wife. Let's keep that in mind as we experience the beauty and passion of Song of Solomon!

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Solomon says

1 The song of songs, which is Solomon’s.
2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.
3 Because of the savour of thy good ointments thy name is as ointment poured forth, therefore do the virgins love thee.
4 Draw me, we will run after thee: the king hath brought me into his chambers: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, we will remember thy love more than wine: the upright love thee.
5 I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon.
6 Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me: my mother’s children were angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept.
7 Tell me, O thou whom my soul loveth, where thou feedest, where thou makest thy flock to rest at noon: for why should I be as one that turneth aside by the flocks of thy companions?
8 If thou know not, O thou fairest among women, go thy way forth by the footsteps of the flock, and feed thy kids beside the shepherds’ tents.
9 I have compared thee, O my love, to a company of horses in Pharaoh’s chariots.
10 Thy cheeks are comely with rows of jewels, thy neck with chains of gold.
11 We will make thee borders of gold with studs of silver.
12 While the king sitteth at his table, my spikenard sendeth forth the smell thereof.
13 A bundle of myrrh is my wellbeloved unto me; he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts.
14 My beloved is unto me as a cluster of camphire in the vineyards of Engedi.
15 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes.
16 Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green.
17 The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir.

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tying the knot

The beliefs and thoughts about love which motivate these two people are perhaps best expressed in the words of poet Kahlil Gibran:

"You were born to be together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in your silent memory.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heaven dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bondage of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other's cup, but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread, but eat not of the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone, though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping,
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together,
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in shadow."


Groom:
There was darkness for a long time and then there was light,
and that light was you.

Your love has given me wings, and our journey begins today.
I pledge before this assembled company to be your husband from this day forward.

Let us make of our two lives one life.
I want you for today, tomorrow, and forever.

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