Saturday, February 17, 2007

A lot of guys seem to think that ATTRACTION iswhen one person wants what another person has. Some think of ATTRACTION as the result of beinggood-looking or otherwise "attractive". In fact, Ithink a LOT of people confuse ATTRACTION with"attractive". When I think of the concept of ATTRACTION, Ithink of it primarily as an EMOTION. It seems tome that it's more a COMBINATION of powerfulemotions that come together to form a very, veryspecial new SUPER-emotion. However you think about it, there is a processthat happens that keeps men and women gettingtogether to have sex... You are reading this right now, which is amiracle. Think of the thousands upon thousands ofgenerations of ancestors that you have had... andthink about the fact that NOT ONE OF THEM DIED AVIRGIN. And not one of them died in childhood. And then think about the fact that you beat outabout five hundred MILLION other sperm-racers toget to the egg first. You are the result of, and represent, probablythe most amazing process I have ever heard of. One of the parts of this process thatfascinates me is how each pair of your ancestorsdecided to get together with THAT PARTICULARPERSON at THAT PARTICULAR TIME. I know that some people will be upset that I'mtalking about this whole concept in such ananalytical, detached way... women in particularseem to love the fantasy of two people being "soulmates" and "knowing that your special someone isout there" and "it just happening". If you're one of those people, stop readingnow! lol... After working on this area of my own personallife for a few years, and trying all kinds oftechniques, it finally dawned on me thatATTRACTION WAS BASICALLY EVERYTHING. If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, thennothing else really matters. Looks, age, nationality, wealth, religion,personal loss, peer pressure from friends andfamily... none of it matters! On the other hand, if a women DOESN'T feelATTRACTION for a man, then nothing else matters inthat case either! You can't "talk" a woman into feelingATTRACTION, any more than you can "talk" a personwho hasn't eaten for three days out of feelinghungry. I mean, if you really wanted to be fancy, youcould learn to be a hypnotist and talk them intoit that way... But I'll tell you a little secret: Even THATisn't the best way to do things! (I actually knowseveral people who use this method of hypnotizingwomen... and I haven't met one yet who could usethis technique alone to get women... there'sALWAYS something else going on.) What I'm trying to say is that one day it hitme like a ton of bricks that ATTRACTION IS THE KEYTO EVERYTHING WITH WOMEN! If you don't know what it is or how to createit, you'll wander around trying differenttechniques... and probably never land on somethingthat works consistently. And once I realized this, all kinds of thingsthat didn't make sense before INSTANTLY made senseto me. All of a sudden I realized why women datedabusive jerks... ATTRACTION. I realized why women dated men who were clearlyusing them and cheating on them... ATTRACTION. And I also saw the FLIP SIDE! I realized why women pass up guys who arehonest, stable, attractive, and wonderful forlosers... ATTRACTION. Think of ATTRACTION like a drug (which itreally is). If a woman is under the influence ofit, then she's gone. She'll do anything to getmore. One of the things that most fascinates me isthe "language" that triggers attraction inside ofwomen. I call it "Sexual Communication" and youcan learn all about it here: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/SexualCommunication/ If she's NOT under the influence, then YOU'REgone. Nothing you do will matter if she doesn'tfeel it. If you doubt what I'm saying, ask the next 10SUPER HOT women you see what they think of this.Read this newsletter to them, and watch theirreactions. You'll see. OK, now that you've heard a little bit more ofmy personal perspective, I'd like you to look backinto your life and think about all thosesituations with women that made no sense at all... Think about the women that you treatedwonderfully that passed you up for the jerks...and think about all the women "friends" you had...the ones who told you about how mean andinconsiderate their boyfriends were... while youlooked at them thinking "I would kill my ownmother for just one date with you". Is it all making sense now? THEY DIDN'T FEEL ATTRACTION FOR YOU! YOU WERE BEING A "NICE GUY" AND PROBABLY AWUSSY BOY, AND YOU HAD NO IDEA THAT IT WAS HAVINGTHE EXACT OPPOSITE EFFECT OF WHAT YOU WANTED! ANDWORSE YET, THERE WASN'T A DAMN THING YOU COULD DOABOUT IT! It's harsh to think about, but it's true. (Bythe way, if you don't do something to learn how tomake women feel ATTRACTION, then most likely, thisis going to keep happening to you for the rest ofyour life.) I have to point out one more thing. As Imentioned earlier, I think a lot of guys confusethe idea of being "attractive" with the emotioncalled ATTRACTION. You can make a woman feel an INCREDIBLEATTRACTION, even though you're not what mostpeople would think of as "attractive". Of course,you have to know how... The point is that if you're not tall, handsome,and dashing, you can LEARN how to make women feelthis wonderful emotion called ATTRACTION. It's a skill. It's taken me YEARS to be able toeven talk about this stuff in simple terms likethis that makes sense, and it's taken me the sametime to figure out how a regular guy like you or Ican make women who we used to think of as "out ofour league", feel ATTRACTION for us. How, you ask, can we do that? Well, you've read about the technique called"Cocky and Funny"... that's a part of it. But there are several other pieces of thepuzzle, from voice tone and body language, tospecific ways to touch a woman to get herphysically turned on, and everything in between.It's a system, and it all works together. There are two KEY aspects of learning how to besuccessful with women and dating:1) The Inner Game2) The Outer Game The INNER GAME is all about learning how toTHINK and how to manage your thoughts andemotions. It's also about understanding how andwhy attractive women feel that amazing emotioncalled ATTRACTION for some men, and not for MOSTmen. The OUTER GAME is all of the techniques, whatto say and such. Which is more important? Well, they're BOTH important. But what I notice is that most guys want tolearn the OUTER GAME first. In other words, they want pick-up lines, fancytricks, and other things. I can remember when I first started learningthis stuff. I had this idea in my mind that if I couldlearn how to get women to give me their numbersthat I'd be the MAN. Well, I learned that I can get just about anywoman's phone number in a few minutes. But guess what? Once I learned how to get women's phonenumbers, I ran into a much BIGGER issue... thewomen usually flaked out on me, didn't show up,etc. And the ones that DID show up were difficult. Nothing happened. I realized that there had to be more. And, as it turns out, there is... A LOT more,in fact. The REASON that the "Inner Game" is soimportant, is that attractive women don't judgeyou on your "pick-up lines". And just because a woman gives you her phonenumber or email address DOES NOT mean that sheFEELS anything inside (like ATTRACTION). Women don't DECIDE to feel ATTRACTION for aman. ATTRACTION is something that happens on itsown, for its own reasons. Attraction Isn't A Choice! The way to cause women to feel ATTRACTION foryou is to UNDERSTAND how and why it works, andthen communicate in a way that makes it happen. In my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVDprogram, I spend several HOURS teaching "The InnerGame"... all those things that help you get theINSIDE together, so you can then get the OUTSIDEtogether. This stuff is CRITICAL to your success. I wouldn't have taken all the time, effort, andenergy to put this together unless I thought itwas important. If you want to overcome your challenges andreally take your success to the next level, thenyou owe it to yourself to check it out. It's here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/AdvancedSeries/ And if you haven't had a chance to download myeBook "Double Your Dating: What Every Man ShouldKnow About How To Be Successful With Women", thenyou need to do that now. You can download it andbe reading it within a few minutes...http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/eBook/ If you've tried all kinds of techniques, andnothing seems to "work", then you need to work onyour Inner Game. When you get the inner gametogether, everything will start to work a LOTbetter... I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.P.S. If you'd like to see all of the differentprograms I've created to help you learn how tomeet women, take a minute and check this out:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/Catalog/P.P.S. If you'd like to send me a Success Story,Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphsmax.2) Tell me what's working for you before you askyour question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuffis great" and "I don't need to tell you how wellyour stuff works" comments, but the fact is that IDO need to hear all of the specifics... becausethis helps other guys to see what's working indifferent situations.3) If you have a Success Story, write "SuccessStory" in the subject line of the email. I readthese first.4) At the end of the email, give me your initialsand tell me where you're from.5) Send it to me at:SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com ...don't just hit "reply" to this email. Thanks!