Here's the deal about always making decisions
and staying in control...

Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES. So how could you characterize a Wuss?
A Wussy is a guy who is weak, indecisive, andinsecure.

A Wussy isn't in control, and he doesn't make decisions. Women feel ATTRACTION for men who demonstratethe qualities of a LEADER. How could you characterize a LEADER?

A LEADER is a man who is in control of the situation, and who makes decisions and follows through on them WITHOUT needing approval from others. You've asked a great question, but it's acomplex one. In my CD Audio Program "Advanced DatingTechniques" I talk at length about the qualities and beliefs of men who are NATURALLY attractive to women, and how to communicate all of this with body language, voice tone, and words. If this topic is fascinating to you, then Irecommend that you check out my CD program. Itwill blow your mind. You can find it right here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/AdvancedSeries/

***QUESTION***Jedi Master,Your material has unbelievable results. Afterreading your book and newsletters, I am findingmyself in a dilemma of needing to let some of thewomen down in order to make room for others.The problem is they keep wanting to fill myschedule and I haven't learned or need to learnhow to let these women know that like yesterdaysnewspaper, I have read and prefer to read currentevents as opposed to rereading the same newspaperover and over. I guess I am being a wussy in thisregard cause I just do not know how to say See Ya?How does the master say this without being mean. Iwant to let them go without hurting their selfesteem, they have done nothing wrong, they arebeautiful, I just want to move on and enjoy, theriches you have endowed upon me, without hurtingthem, and without being a wussy in the process.G N Portland OR>>>MY COMMENTS: I'd say that the problem you're experiencing isprobably being caused BEFORE it actually happens. How do women know if a man is interested inthem for a "long term" relationship... or if he'sjust interested in dating casually? The trigger for this is HOW OFTEN YOU SEE THEM,and how often you CALL them. Of course, there's more... like whether or notyou buy gifts, talk about how you feel, ask her tobe your girlfriend, etc. But if you want to just see a woman casuallyand not have her become "hooked" on you, thendon't call her more than a couple of times a week,and don't see her more than once a week... maybetwice sometimes. This should solve your problem.***QUESTION***I'm a 25 years old guy that never understoodwomen. Now I realize the WUSS I have been for sucha long time. Anyway, I was lucky because I got agirlfriend casually, and I experienced with her,but some years ago we broke up and I have been soLOST with the women task and suddenly YOU, senseiDavid, appeared in the middle of my nightmare, andthings started getting sense (I bought your ebook,of course)THE JEALOUS STUFFThe thing is that I have a bisexual friend (girl)that I like, but I've never told her anythingabout my feelings. Some days ago she and some ofher friends came to visit me and we went out. Wewere in a nightclub, and next to us there was agroup of girls, I made eye contact with one ofthem. And then I thought about something that Iwouldn't have figured out in my WUSS- PAST-WOLD:Let's get that girl, and see the reaction of mybisexual friend. After some C&F stuff, I wasfrench kissing the girl of the eye contact infront of the face of my friend. And guess what wasthe reaction ???? Now I can't get rid of her. It'slike I've been a kind of ghost, until that nightThanks, David. Keep on giving us some perspective.AS FROM SPAIN>>>MY COMMENTS: Hey, I never said that women made any damnsense! Jealousy is a powerful emotion. Some think that it's the MOST powerful emotion. It might be interesting for you to know thatmany of the guys I know who like to date a lot ofdifferent women don't hide the fact that they datea lot of girls. Many female animal species choose males byfinding the ones with the most other females whoare attracted to him. Women are often the same. Women can be very competitive, and if a womanknows that you don't have any trouble meetingother women, it will often inspire her to feeleven more attraction for you. But be careful. I don't think that it's a goodidea to try to deliberately make a woman jealous.It doesn't feel good, and if you meet the wrongwomen you just might wind up with a rabbit boilingon your stove when you come home one night.***QUESTION***Dave,I won't even begin to tell you how awsome yourbook is and how it breaks everything down for ex-wusses like myself because that would take up toomuch time, but I've got a situation for you. A fewweeks ago, I met this girl in my class. She wasdefinitely a 8-9. Anyways, I got her number andasked her if we could study sometime. Weeventually set up a date to get a paper done. Shedidn't show up! I was like.... okay, I'm not evengonna get mad. So a few days later, I saw herwalking with this dude.. I was like... "ok, shehas a bf, thats why", but here's the funny part;I've been working on my body language and eyecontact lately and it's been doing wonders. When Isee her, I just speak and keep walking. I haven'theld a conversation with her in like 2 weeks andyesterday she left a message on my phone thatsaid..."Hey, this is ---- from your english class,I was just calling to tell you that I think thatyou are a VERY attractive man, and I think you arereally fine. But I have a boyfriend. I know youtried to study with me in the past, but you knowhow things can be when you have a boyfriend... soi guess ill talk to you later" Whats up with this?I didn't talk to the girl in two weeks and sheleaves this message? Was it a movement I made?Could you anyalize this for me please?B in FLAP.S.- I never knew body language could be sopowerful!>>>MY COMMENTS: This kind of thing always makes me laugh. I can remember when I used to call women toooften, and if they didn't show up, I'd get upsetand try to set up another date with them, etc. Of course, they'd usually play hard to get, andwind up thinking that I was a Wussy because I justaccepted their flaky behavior. Well, after I stopped calling women back whoflaked, and basically stopped CHASING women, I hadthe strangest thing happen... I had women call me... but sometimes it wasliterally WEEKS later. Just like your situation. You probably just have a girl who was in afight with her boyfriend the day she set the studydate with you... but fixed things up with himbefore she was supposed to see you again... andthen maybe got into another fight with him so shedecided to call you and see if you wereavailable. Don't worry about it. Just move on. She'llprobably start flirting with you again when she'ssingle. ***QUESTION***Dave --Hey, your advice works wonders! It is amazinghow much it works. I tried it on this girl Ihardly knew, and we hit it off real well. In fact,we hooked up, and that was pretty cool.I need advice, though. The girl and I startedto really hit it off, and we became closereveryday. Then, we started talking, and it seemedas though we were over, and I was devastated.She's really cool and REALLY hot. We kept talking,and she ends up telling me that she needs to knowherself before she knows me, so she asks for time,and that I be her friend in that time. Myquestion: how do I keep her falling head overheels for me while I give her the time, and thatshe doesn't become another friend.Again, thanks for the great advice.>>>MY COMMENTS: OK, let me do a little translation for you... If a woman says, "I need time to get to knowmyself" or "I need to find myself" or anyvariation of this common theme, it usually means: "YOU WERE ACTING LIKE A WUSS, BEING CLINGY, ANDGENERALLY NOT A CHALLENGE ANYMORE. I WANT YOU TOLEAVE, BUT I DON'T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS, SOI'M GOING TO TELL YOU THAT I NEED TIME TO "FINDMYSELF" TO GET YOU TO LEAVE ME ALONE WITHOUT AHASSLE." I'm harsh, aren't I? Well, here's the deal. In general, if youbecome too predictable, too involved, too needy,too wuss-ish, and too "head over heels" too earlyin the relationship, it will drive a woman away. Think about it this way: The REALLY attractivewomen have guys chasing them FAR more than theaverage/below average women. You need to dosomething DIFFERENT, while at the same time beingATTRACTIVE. Probably the best thing you can do when youfinally meet a really great girl is call her HALFas much as you normally would, and give her twicethe space. Think about it. ***COMMENT***I just got back from eating with a woman I starteddating 3 weeks ago. Somehow we got on the topic ofwhat she likes in a man and what is the quickesttime she has ever jumped in the sack with one. Shestated that she met a guy one night and slept withhim the next. She said that she did it only oncein her life and then gave me the reason why shedid that time. She stated that all the guys shedated before him would always say something on thewild side, that she was really interested indoing, but would back down and say, "oh, I wasjust kidding" when she looks at them to see ifthey were serious. She said that this guy sheslept with the next night and I are the only twomen that have ever said something cocky and funnyand not flinched when she looked on in disbelief.In fact, I would look at her and repeat things Isaid whenever she looked at me with that "I can'tbelieve you just said that to me," stare. Shetells me it is such a turn-on.I had only begun to do this after subscribing toyour websight newsletter about a month or twoago... I would just like to thank you for theadvice and tell the other guys to stick by whatthey say, no matter how off the wall it may sound.B.>>>MY COMMENTS: This is JEDI LEVEL wisdom, read it again. ***QUESTION***Dear David,Great stuff. I was that nice guy... after readingyour book and your e mails I have been able tochange into the cocky and funny guy. The other dayone of the 3 women I am dating called giving me alittle grief. I said you know maybe we should notsee each other any more and she was like but Ihave been thinking about you all weekend PLEASEcome over now and F#% me, after a little delay Iagreed it was great. I do have a ? The one Ireally like who is totally hot never makes thefirst move and while she is very receptive when Ido it, would be great to get her to seduce me, anysuggestions?...c.>>>MY COMMENTS: For some reason, I LOVE your question... howfun is it to have a woman pursuing YOU? OK, here'sa tip from my personal experience... Next time you're with her, and you've startedgetting physical... just when you know that she'sreally enjoying what's going on (and it can be atany stage, kissing, etc.) just stop. Then whisperin her ear, "You want more, don't you?... you'regoing to have to say PLEASE." Then just keep working up to the same level andsaying the same thing until she finally does. Onceyou've done this, it's easy to transfer the sameidea to other things, like getting her to make thefirst move. Note: This is all done with a very playful,teasing tone. It's not a psychological controlstrategy... Keep things on the nice nice, don't bea controlling loser. Done right this can be a bigturn on for all involved. ***QUESTION***Dave,I did exactly what you had said for thepersonals... I actually cut and paste your letter,made one or two changes and I actually got aresponse...Now, you talk about getting that phone number?How?What should I say in the e-mail not to come offlike a looser, but to come off confident, cocky,and funny?Thanks!>>>MY COMMENTS: Can I just tell you how much I love it whenguys actually go out and USE the materials? Thisis great stuff... OK, step two is to get her live on the phone,and to do it soon. You don't want this to take toolong or she's likely to get 100 more emails andforget about you. Try a cocky funny response like this: "Wow, you're a real person. Great. I guess wehave a couple of options here. We could start anemail relationship, fall madly in love, and maybeeven get a priest to marry us in a live chatceremony... Then again, maybe we could get together for acup of tea and some stimulating conversation andmake friends. And then after I can validate thatyou're actually the cute gal in this picture I sawof you, we can talk about the online marriagething. Give me a call tonight. My number is (insertnumber here). I'm a pretty busy person, and Ican't guarantee that I'll be home, but give it atry. And please call before 11 PM because that'swhen my mom makes me go to sleep. By the way, where can I reach you if I want tocall you ten times a day? Talk soon." I'm a funny guy. But all kidding aside, this is a KILLER modelfor a follow up letter to a personal ad response.It says so many things in the right way thatyou're very likely to get another response,probably a call, and probably her number. ***COMMENT***David,A few weeks back you used what I think is one ofthe most important words in dating (next to cockyand funny of course) that word is "NEXT."We always want the one that we can't get. Forgetthat! I say NEXT. If you have this idea of"Next" in your brain, you will come across as aman who is not needy and you will be moreattractive to women. Why waste time with womanwho are not interested? Its a lot more fun tofind a nice looking lady who wants to be with youthen it is to chase someone who isn't interested.The book was great. Keep up the great work! >>>MY COMMENTS: This is another psychological step that is veryimportant. I get so many emails from guys who havemet a great girl, but they screwed it up becausethey made her "too important" mentally. In otherwords, when things started to get difficult,instead of taking the attitude of "NEXT" (whichcreates all kinds of attraction), they CLING andact NEEDY and generally do EXACTLY THE THINGS THATCAUSE THE WOMAN TO HIT THE ROAD FOR GOOD. Much better to have the mental attitude of "I'mgoing to enjoy this woman's company for as long asit stays a good thing. The moment that she becomesa strain or a pain I'm out of here. I don't needproblems or drama in my life, and my happiness ismore important than this woman." The first response to this is usually, "Butthis woman is SPECIAL. She's not like other women.She's the one." Blah blah blah... If she's the ONE, then all the more reason totake this attitude. "THE ONE" ISN'T LOOKING FOR A WUSS. The "NEXT" attitude will do a lot of goodthings for your success with women. Use it. ***NOTE: If you're reading this right now, andyou are thinking to yourself, "I sure wish I couldget up the courage to say "Next!" to a woman... oryou'd like to learn more about how to build apowerful "Inner Game" confidence that isUNSHAKABLE, then I highly recommend that you checkout my "Deep Inner Game" program. It isspecifically designed to help you overcome yourinsecurities and build massive confidence. It'shere:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/DeepInnerGame/ ***QUESTION***David,I got your mailbag, and bought your book rightaway a few months ago and it has truely changed mylife. Thank you. I realized that in all of myrelationships I have been a total wuss and that iswhy I was not having sucess. I am actually apretty funny guy (amatuer stand up comedian) but Iam not cocky at all. As soon as I added a bit ofcocky to my usual sacarstic humor, the successfollowed.My problem is this. I met a woman who is anextremely skilled player. We went out as "freinds"and then it escalated nicely (kiss test workedlike a charm) and then it got really screwed upwhen I had to leave the country for a month onbusiness and things got a bit muddled. When Ireturned we went out right away and I missd her somuch I fell back in to my wussie ways and I thinkI ruined it, in only one 6 hour date!Since then I have been trying to turn the tables.I mean I try to end the conversations first allthe time but she just seems to beat me to it eachtime, like she is psychic or something. I try totell her I am busy and I'll have to call her backbut unless I do it at an awkwardly early point inthe conversation she always seems beat me to it.In my opinion if I continue to play "hard to get"and don't call her (which seems to be workinglately) she will get the wrong message. I want tosend the "I like you but you haven't got mewrapped around your finger" message, not the "I'mnot thinking about you at all while everythingaround me in society screams 'couple' and'romance' " message.What would you do in this unusal time?Thanks again for all your help and advice.To anyone who has not dowloaded the book, youdeserve the miserable lonely nights I know you aregoing through, put a crowbar in your wallet andget the full information!>>>MY COMMENTS: I like the crowbar idea. As for your situation. You've learned animportant lesson the hard way. When I think about women and attraction, Iimagine it like an on/off switch. If it ever getsturned off, it's VERY hard to turn it back on.ESPECIALLY if you're dealing with a woman like theone you're talking about who is very experiencedand knows the game well. The best thing you can do is start dating otherwomen, not call her for a month or so, then dropher a line and say, "Hey, let's get together for acup of tea. You were a nice friend..." Then tellher about what's going on in your life (the otherwomen, I mean). YOU'VE LOST CONTROL, AND YOU NEED TO TAKE ITBACK. 'Nuff said. ***QUESTION***Hey Dave,I am a 23 year old single father i having a toughtime getting a date because i have a kid. Most ofthe girls i ask out, I tell them I have a kid andthey dont want to be any more than just friends.Any suggestions? >>>MY COMMENTS: Yes, I have one for you... STOP THINKING OF YOUR KID AS A LIMITATION. I'mgoing to suggest that you don't have a tough timegetting a date BECAUSE you have a kid... it'sbecause you THINK IT'S A PROBLEM. Just don't bring it up early on. Don't answerany questions about your status as a father. Makea decision to share that info only with women whoare EXCEPTIONAL. If a woman is REALLY attracted to you, she'lloverlook almost ANYTHING. I mean, hey... look atSteven Tyler and Mick Jagger... ***QUESTION***Hi David!!I just wanted to tell you that what you say inyour emails is true and it works. I'm from a smallcentral american country and your advice works onwomen here too!!! Now to my question, I met thisgorgeous girl, she is incredible and hot as hell.But I have competition, some guy who doesn't knowa thing about women (he should subscribe to yournewsletter, dont you think), but she seems alittle interested in him and interested in me too.What would you suggest to "neutralize" him?Thanks,A.P.S.: I used the cocky and funny technique and itworked!!!! thanks for sharing you wisdom>>>MY COMMENTS: If you focus on the competition it will onlydistract you and cause you problems. Forget other guys and what they're doing. Justfocus on what you're doing and your own success. It's very natural to let competition upsetyou... and jealousy is a very real emotion. Butremember, it isn't going to help you in mostcases. Just do your best, keep using thetechniques, and stick to your methods. Chances arethat any other guys involved will screw it up atsome point, and you will be the one left with theprize. Note: In situations like this one, we guysoften start to put too much value on getting thegirl BECAUSE there are other guys involved. Wethink to ourselves, "Well, this other guy likesher, so she must be something REALLY special. Evenmore than I thought." This leads to making allkinds of mistakes, being a wuss, acting clingy,etc. Don't fall into this trap. ***QUESTION***I need some help and i think that you have thebest advice so here is the problem, I like thisgirl at my college and she works at the collegebookstore. A while back i was buying books and shewas asking me questions and being super friendly,then the following semester she said hi to me oncampus but like a dip sh** I didnt respond. Now ireally want to hook it up but have this feelingthat she is not interested anymore. Everytime Isee her we make eye contact but I can't tell ifshe wants me to go in for the kill. Please help meso i can go right up to her and talk to her, I'mhaving trouble starting out the conversation.Thanks.>>>MY COMMENTS: No killing please. Why don't you just go in forthe email instead? Much less messy. Just get heremail and then take it one step at a time. This isthe best way to find out if it can go somewhere... ***GREAT STORY***David-I was enjoying a bagel this morning in the outdoorchairs at a little donut shop I go to onSaturdays. I doubt if the guy I'm going to tellyou about has ever read your book...but he's awalking advertisement for it.The only other person out there with me was anelderly woman, who was about 8 years older thanGod. A guy pulls up in this old caddie with a USMClicense plate on the front bumper. He's about afew minutes younger than her.This old guy goes in, orders a bag of donuts, andcomes back out. He walks right up to her table andsays:"Hi ya, toots. You're a classy lookin' dame. Areyou friendly?"She says, "How dare you call me some dame. Mygiven name is Julia"This guy never misses a beat. He says, "Got yourfeathers ruffled, did I? Well, you know the firstairplane I ever rode in during the war startedwitha J, too. She was a hardbody, with a shapelytailpiece. I still remeber what it felt like torun my hand over her headlights."The old girl, says, "That's atrocious. You betterhave a seat sailor. It sounds like you been awayfrom shore for too long."It was all I could do to keep from busting uplaughing. I didn't know whether to throw a blanketover them or go give this codger a high five. Hehad it down, buddy, just like you've been tellingus. This guy could be me 35 years from now if Ifollow what you teach.Keep getting the word out, Dave. We'll still beusing it when we're on Viagra.C.>>>MY COMMENTS: I love this story. Use the things I'm teachingyou and hopefully you'll find success beforeyou're 100 years old and cruising the old folkshome for babes... But, as you can see, the Cocky & Funnytechnique works even if you ARE cruising the oldfolks home... ***QUESTION***Well, what can I say, David, you're a dating God!Your book is nothing less than a masterpiece. Nowthat i've got a good handle on some of yourtechniques, I've had no problem meeting women.I've recently started dating a woman whom is apleasant distraction. My fear is she is fallingway to hard for me. My problem is, my friend oftwo years who I've been smitten with since thebeginning is now single. There is another guyfriend of hers who has recently made his feelingsknown for her. I'm pretty sure there has alwaysbeen chemical tension underneath our friendship.She has told me things like you have the sexiestvoice ever, I listen to your cd every night causeI love falling asleep to the sound of your voice,when you're lost in thought you have the sexiesteyes. We went for coffee last night and shetouched me 3-5 times on the hand.The problem comes in that before your book I wasthe nice sensitive guy always bearing my feelings,catering to a woman's needs, and very humble. Nowi've got a great routine down for getting datesbut she doesn't know me as that type of person. Soi don't know how to approach trying to instigate arelationship with her. Any suggestions??A.>>>MY COMMENTS: Yes, I have any suggestions... KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS!!! DON'T TURN BACK INTO AWUSS NOW THAT YOU HAVE THE CHANCE TO GET THE GIRLYOU REALLY LIKE!!! Wow, I don't use that many exclamation marksvery often. And for the girl who is smitten with you... lether down easy. This is a great opportunity toborrow a technique from our book on female datingtactics. It's called: "You're really nice, but I think that we shouldbe friends." All's fair in love and war... just don't be abastard. ***QUESTION***First off...you are the smartest man alive. I havereally enjoyed reading your litterature and it hashelped me build a confidence I've never hadbefore. Here's the question.... I recently visitedan "exotic dance club" and met an "exotic dancer".I used the cocky funny attitude and had a nicechat before my lap dance. Within minutesafterward... I got her e-mail addy. The problemis...The setting in which we met and thecircumstances involved. How can I start arelationship with her without her seeing me as acustomer... or a pervert that liked what he sawand just wants more? I know it can be done I justneed a little insight from the master. Help me outMr. Miagi.Sincerely,Daniel-son>>>MY COMMENTS: Start a RELATIONSHIP? With an EXOTIC DANCER? After talking to her for a few minutes? OK, let's do a quick reality check before youdo something that you'll regret for a long time... About 80-90% of the time, exotic dancers arethe LAST type of woman up for a "relationship". If you're interested in taking things to thenext level, you need to be cocky & funny, bust herballs a lot, make sure you keep being a challenge,etc. Of all the people in the world, these womenare probably pursued by the most men. If, after going out with her for AT LEASTseveral months you can prove beyond the shadow ofa doubt that:1) She's not addicted to drugs or alcohol2) She doesn't smoke like a fire and have dirty-carpet breath3) She wasn't sexually molested more than a dozentimes4) She isn't manic-depressive, bi-polar, orborderline5) You can deal with the idea that she's notquitting for you Then maybe you might consider a "relationship."I mean, hey... most exotic dancers are bi-sexual.And I've heard that some of them even know othercute girls (but I'm not certain on this one). Inany case, don't forget the protection. Big time. Oh, and if you change your mind, try finding awoman who comes from a good family... who hasfantastic relationships with her mother andfather... and who is emotionally mature. It might surprise you, but I think you'd enjoya long-term relationship more with this kind ofwomen. Just my two cents... ***QUESTION***Your like a god to me! I've been going out aboutfive times as much as I used to (which wasn'tmuch) and women see me in a new way. Now for theimportant part. I stepped up my cocky/funnynessto the max and this one girl is crazy about me.She delayed one date, never stopped appologizing.I teased her for it all night. She keeps actingso needy and I can't get enough of it (I don'ttell her) but that brings up a question. If sheis acting needy to me and I can't get enough ofit, why did women dump me when I used to actneedy? Please put something about this in yournewsletter.Bye.>>>MY COMMENTS: What's with all the God comments this week?Let's stick with David from now on... I'm notready for all of the responsibility. As for your situation... The reason why it's fun for you having her actneedy is YOU'VE HAD IT THE OTHER WAY AROUND ALLYOUR LIFE! It's a nice change. But trust me, after a short while it gets old.If she keeps it up, you'll see. Eventually amechanism will kick in and you'll lose your likingfor it... just like women do at a very young age.But enjoy it while it's fresh and fun. ***SUCCESS STORY***For 18 months I tried to score with this woman Iwanted but because she saw me as needy she keptthe "goodies" away from me. Now one night Istopped trying. I focused on having a good time. Iwas determined to be polite to her but ignore herand make no moves. I danced with other women, Idrank, I had fun. The more independant, confidentand fun-loving I became the more attractive Ibecame. Things changed. She wasn't used to beingignored. She felt left out. She then put out andseduced me by the end of the night. I wasn't eventrying and I wasn't even nervous!!!A few months later I bought your book Dave andrealised that for 18 months I'd been doing itwrong. Little did I know but that fateful nightwas the way to do it right. I've been doing itright since then. Thanks Dave.Regards.>>>MY COMMENTS: Congratulations, good job, and keep it up. ***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***On behalf of all women, I think your e-mail suckedtoday. :)I am so tired of dating cheap men. There isnothing wrong with a man who is able to providedoing so. Let's face it, men make more money thanwomen.I'm not a gold digger. Not at all. I'm 34 yearsold. I own my own townhouse which I am strugglingto get by with the mortgage and expenses havingbeen laid off by IBM after almost 7 years.I do like the e-mail first idea, in fact that isalways what I initiate when I'm out. I'd muchrather do that to get to know someone before thedinner out but the LAST thing I want to do is havesomeone show up late and let me know right upfront that he's not willing to buy me a cup oftea.I just spent almost five months with someone whowas making three times my income and we went Dutchon everything. Am I wrong to *want* someone toflip the bill for me? I don't think so.Warm regards... >>>MY COMMENTS: No, there's nothing "wrong" with you "wanting"someone to take care of the bill. But there's alsonothing wrong with a man not paying... or evenbetter, avoiding typical expensive datingsituations all together. I personally think that starting off arelationship by paying for things creates animbalance that isn't very healthy. As an interesting aside: You spent FIVE MONTHSpaying your own way. He obviously had somethingelse going for him if you spent that long withhim... hmmmmm. I wish I could give him a high five! Oh, and the little smiley in your email clearlycommunicates that you like and want me. Be alittle more subtle next time, OK? Don't let theworld know everything that's going on between us!It's not classy...***SUCCESS STORY***I found your site a couple of months ago andsubscribed to your newsletters and I downloadedthe book . I'm 18 years old and I'm in my firstyear of college, so you can imagine the hot, youngwomen that are there .Anyways, I've always been the "wuss , loser ,nothing more than a friend" type of guy (man ithurts to admit it) but since i started readingyour e-mails i've gotten so much better. Some ofmy girlfriends don't see me as a friend anymore (Ican't imagine what your book will do ). So notlong ago I'm sitting where everyone goes to eatand they're playing "The Fast And The Furious " onthe tv's when I look down and this reallybeautiful woman keeps looking at me . So by thesecond time our eyes meet, I smile , at that samemoment I'm thinking, "Wait !!! , remember the e-mails, you always do this and you always end up asa friend". The problem was that she had 2 more ofher friends on the table with her, but shewouldn't expect me to get up and go to her, so Igot up from my chair and went up to her, she hadthat "what is he doing" look, then I sat down onthe table and said, "Hi , I know I'm pretty andthat your attracted to me, but could you maybehide your impulses". Of course this was said in afunny way, with a cocky look. Her friends startedlaughing and said, "she was that obvious , huh?"She was shocked at the beginning but she relaxedand started laughing. Almost immediately afterthat her friends said they were hungry and left,so I asked for her name and thought to myself,"Forget the e-mail , just ask her number ". Shegave me her celular number , but I haven't calledher yet. Anyway thanks for your great advices andI'll keep you posted on the outcome.P.S. For all you wusses out there , you can changeyou don't always have to be this way . Buy thedamn book !!!!!!"L.>>>MY COMMENTS: I couldn't agree more. ***QUESTION***Hey man, I have to admit, I have been getting yournewsletter for about 2 weeks now and I havedramatically improved the number of women i havebeen meeting and getting numbers from! Thanks somuch for the help and tips. Usually when it comesdown to the first date everything goes fine and Ilay down the c&f attitude which gets me goodplaces with her. But i have a problem. This lastweekend i had a date with this woman i just metand we were in the hot tub and me friend and hisdate were with us. Well the problem was that mymind was totally blank for some odd reason and icouldn't come up with anything interesting to talkabout if my life was on the line. So obviously Ireally didnt get anywhere with her but she saidthat she would like to see me again. So myquestion to you is what are some topics ofinterest that i could talk with her about thatwouldnt put me in the wussy boy category and wouldalso get me in good with her, when i cant think ofanything? Please help!Thanks a lot! B.F TX>>>MY COMMENTS: Well, if you think about it, there are a fewmain topics that women PAY TONS OF MONEY to enjoy. Think daytime dramas, Cosmo magazine, andromance novels. For whatever reason, women just loverelationships, drama, and humor. So talk about famous people, theirrelationships, and their drama. If you're at a loss, and you want to start afunny conversation, just say, "What's with..." andfinish up with any current gossip topic taken fromany famous person's life. "What's with Brittny and Kevin breaking up?" "What's with Lindsay Lohan in re-hab?" Of course, these kinds of topics lendthemselves to all KINDS of opportunities to beCocky & Funny. So do it. Great job getting more dates... keep up thegood work.***QUESTION***Hey Dave,You always have success stories with guys that say"Im a good looking guy". What about us guys thatare average or slightly below average, balding, orthick?? Does this stuff work for us as well? Oris this just help guys that already get dates getMORE dates?? Are us average or below average guysout of luck?? I get an occasional hot girl butthey are few and far between.M>>>MY COMMENTS: I'd say that 1 in 100 of the emails that I getare from guys who say, "I'm a good looking guy". And most of the guys who I know that are reallysuccessful with women aren't unusually "goodlooking". Some of my friends who are unbelievably good atattracting BEAUTIFUL women are not at all "goodlooking". And if you think about your own life, I'll betthat you'll realize that the guys you knowyourself who are best at getting dates withattractive women aren't the guys you know who arethe richest, tallest, or most handsome. In other words, YES... this stuff works for"regular" guys! ...and, in fact, if you're reading thisnewsletter right now and you'd like to really takeyour success with women to the next level, then Ihave a few words for you. It wasn't that long ago that I personallydidn't have the ability to even TALK to a woman Ididn't know... never mind getting a date. I spent a few YEARS trying just abouteverything I could find to help me. I read books, listened to tapes, went toseminars... I tried it all. But nothing reallyworked consistently for me. The real breakthroughs came when I startedspending time with a lot of guys who wereNATURALLY successful with women. When I say"naturally" I don't mean that women walked overand threw themselves at these guys... I mean thatthey had each figured out how to attract a lot ofbeautiful women ON THEIR OWN. What I found was incredible... Even though most of these different guys hadNEVER EVEN MET one another, they had a LOT incommon. They did a lot of the same things... theysaid a lot of the same things... and they behavedin a lot of the same ways. So I took what I learned, I tested it all out,and I refined it and created a whole system forhow a regular guy can increase his success withwomen and dating. That's it in a nutshell. I personally went from not knowing how to eventalk to a woman I didn't know to being able to getdates with even the most beautiful women... and Ipractice what I preach. The things that I teach in my eBook andAdvanced Series are things that I use PERSONALLYin situations with women. It's not a bunch of made-up garbage and oldrecycled books from 25 years ago. If you have any doubts or hesitations at allabout investing in my materials, remember that youcan order both of these from me and actually TRYTHEM OUT with zero risk. You can get them, use them, see if they workfor you (they will), and THEN decide if you wantto keep them and pay for them. I would never offerthis kind of personal guarantee unless I knew thatyou would get results. Go check out some great samples for my AdvancedSeries here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/AdvancedSeries/ And go download my online eBook here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/eBook/ I've spent a lot of time working on thetheories, concepts, and techniques included inthese products...and I can tell you that there'snothing else available that will get you the kindsof results that you'll get by using them. Go check them out! I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.P.S. Don't forget to go and check out my onlinecatalog of all my programs... where you can watchvideo clips of all of them:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/Catalog/P.P.S. If you'd like to send me a Success Story,Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphsmax.2) Tell me what's working for you before you askyour question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuffis great" and "I don't need to tell you how wellyour stuff works" comments, but the fact is that IDO need to hear all of the specifics... becausethis helps other guys to see what's working indifferent situations.3) If you have a Success Story, write "SuccessStory" in the subject line of the email. I readthese first.4) At the end of the email, give me your initialsand tell me where you're from.5) Send it to me at:SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com ...don't just hit "reply" to this email. Thanks!