***SUCCESS STORY***
i love your news letter and i have been reading itfor almost a year. i have been with the same girlfor nine months because of you dave! i used to thesame way about chics, buying them dinners, etc.but once i started applying your techniques i metthe love of my life. i drive a piece of crap and iam a broke college student. i played like i didntcare when my girl and i first met before i know itshe's giving me lots of great sex, money, dvdplayer, clothes,vetc. i was cocky and funny butalso threw in a little sweetness to catch her offgaurd. Ladies get bored with the same olddates,etc. I did outrAGEOUS THINGS IN AND OUT OFTHE BEDROOM AND NOW WE ARE PROBABLY GOING TO GETMARRIED LATER ON WHEN I GET OUT OF COLLEGE!
THANKS DAVE! -C FROM TX
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What's this you say?
You have a great girl buying YOU things...including clothes, and even DVD players?
Very powerful stuff.
You know, in your letter you mentioned throwingin a "little sweetness" to "catch her off guard."
I would like to share a little profoundrevelation:
It's OK to be sweet.
Yes, I know, sounds a little weird coming fromme.
But, it is OK to be sweet to women.
The problem is that most guys do it TOO MUCH,and TOO SOON. And they come across as needy WussBoys who are trying to use "niceness" tomanipulate.
When you meet a girl you really like and decidethat you want to take things to a "relationship"level, it's actually great to be sweet.
Just don't do it before date #10! lol...
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
Hi Dave,
I recently had a very serious conversation with myboyfriend of two years about threesomes. I knowthis isn't really a dating question, but I want toget some input about this situation inrelationships in general and I thought you andyour newsletter would be a good place to start. Iam aware that as far as every guy in the world isconcerned a threesome is the best thing that couldhappen in a relationship because he gets to havetwice as much fun as normal. But could most guysactually go through with it? Could they reallyhave sex (or whatever else) with a girl whilebeing in a serious relationship with another? Doesthis stuff even go through the mind of the averagemale?
I am also aware that guys like two girl and oneguy threesomes and not the other way around. woulda guy think about the situation more if it weretheir girlfriend having sex with another guy?Also, how often do threesome ideas make it out ofthe minds of men and into the bedroom?
hope you can answer some of my questions
es canada
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're right about this not being a datingquestion, but who cares... it's a question aboutall men's favorite fantasy, so I'll allow it.
Now, what the heck are you doing asking, "Woulda guy think about the situation more if it weretheir girlfriend having sex with another guy?"
Who cares! No guys do. They only want to knowwhat you'd look like kissing your best friend.
LOL!
And yes, your boyfriend could "have sex (orwhatever else)" with a girl while being in aserious relationship with another.
Hey, you're the one who opened up the barn doorby having the "very serious conversation" withhim.
Let me know if it happens. We're all on theedge of our seats here.
***QUESTION***
You know what David, you were right, and I feelsick to my stomach right now. I met this woman,went out a few times, nailed her the first nightand all that. I bought her some flowers forValentine's Day, mostly because she complainedlike 3 times since I've known her (only a coupleweeks) that she never gets flowers on Valentine'sDay, so I wanted to surprise her.
So I took great care to sneak around her while shewasn't looking, and plant them where she'd findthem. Well she did, and here's what she said, "Oh,that's a really nice gesture, but next time justleave them in my car okay? I don't want the otherstudents giving me a hard time or making faces atme (this was at karate class)", In one quickmoment, my heart sank right to the floor, and Ifelt WORSE about myself than before I bought herthe flowers! NEVER AGAIN am I wasting money onthis bullsh** holiday unless I've been withsomeone for a year or more.
I can't believe I actually feel LESS close, andlike I have LESS power with this woman than I didbefore I did something nice for her. You betterbelieve I won't make this mistake again. If you'rewilling, lease share this story with your readersso that at least the other guys can benefit frommy ignorance, and learn a lesson from it too. J
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Hey, you can't say I didn't warn you.
I'd offer a hug, but what YOU need is a to beslapped up side the head for being a JACKASS!
You bought something for a woman because sheCOMPLAINED?
Here, do this:
Go in the bathroom.
Find the mirror.
Take a big black sharpie pen, and write thefollowing on your forehead (backwards, so you canread it):
"STOP BEING A DUMBASS!"
Try that.
If you're still with this girl in a YEAR, thenbuy her some flowers.
But, will you leave them in her car this time?
Thanks for contributing... you've probablysaved many guys from a similar fate.
***QUESTION From A WOMAN***
David,
First of all, I would like to say that I reallyenjoy reading your newsletters. A male friend ofmine started receiving them, and he now has mereading them too. Now, thanks to you, we have bothadopted a "NO WUSS" policy..he's going to stopbeing one, and I'm going to stop dating them. :)
I have a question that I would like your insighton.. perhaps I should set the stage with a sampleonline conversation... (After the usual initialblah blah and silly comments on my part, he askedand I sent him a pic)
him: yep, cute him: how tall are u
me: 5'10"
(insert cricket sound effects and silence)
me: helloooooooooo
him: later.. need to go work on a paper the end.
Me to the cricket: well, at least he didn't ask ifI play basketball.
My question is this.. are most men reallyintimidated by taller women? If so, why? I haveactually dated a couple of people who wereobviously uncomfortable with my being taller thanthey are. One even asked if I would mind notwearing heels when we're out together, because itmade him feel weird. Needless to say, he got theboot. (ha) If this is a silly concern, feel freeto hit "delete" or tell me to consult the pages ofCosmo. I can take it! :) I'd just like to know ifthere's anything I can do to make these guys feelmore at ease.
Thanks a lot!
BL
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, a lot of guys are intimidated by tallwomen.
No, I'm not.
Yes, send me your number and picture.
By the way, I fit your "No Wussy" policy. I'myour man.
***FOLLOW UP COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
Hi Dave,
You are a Brat. I wanted to clarify something frommy letter which seemed to set you off. That partabout school/marraige/fairness: To be fair, if heinvested in my education, as my husband, he wouldmore likely get a return on that investment thanif he were just a boyfriend I was living with. Itis my opinion that people who live together haveall these committed ties, but one foot out thedoor. Kinda like playing house. Personally, Idon't like doing things that half-a**ed, and wouldprefer to eventually make a home--with the rightguy.
You are right on about him needing your material,but if I sent him your e-book, it would beinsulting, don'tcha think? I do get bored if a guydoesn't keep me on my toes, I know that aboutmyself. And, after awhile, it's a bore being theonly one pointing up to the sky.
What's the deal with you, anyway? Are you justshopping? What happens to a guy who has all thelines? Maybe this forum your path to personalenlightenment. So, how's that going? SC from Sac
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ohhhh, well thanks for clarifying.
I understand now.
If he supports you and pays for you to go toschool when you're MARRIED, then "he would morelikely get a return on that investment than if hewere a boyfriend I was living with"...
Powerful.
More likely.
Return on investment.
I feel ya.
That changes everything and makes it completelyfair.
Oh, and I didn't recommend that you buy him myeBook. I recommended that you buy him my ADVANCEDMATERIAL. He needs serious help, dear.
And what's the deal with ME?
Am I "just shopping"?
"What happens to a guy who has all the lines?"
What do you mean "What happens?"
You make it sound like I should be goingthrough some empty feeling of superficialaccomplishment followed by a depressingrealization of unfulfillment... now that I knowthe secrets of how to make women feel attracted tome.
Sorry, can't help you there.
Knowing what makes women "tick" kicks ass!
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
this is a letter from one of your italian fans....after having received your newsletter for severalmonths now, im really thinking to purchase your e-book... i was specially impressed by the"cocky&funny" attitude which attracts women in agreat way! and damn! this stuff works!!!
the interesting thing i want you to know is that ihave been a horrible wussy for several years! idid almost everything on your wussy list! likebeing nice to everyone....and so on...(;fortunately (at the age of 20, now im 22) i hadthe luck to meet a guy of 27 years who was verysuccessfull and experienced in approaching and"getting fisical" with girls...he taught me a lotabout psicology of women and other very intrestingstuff you already should know...(; almost eachweekend we went out he got to know new girls,specially american students here in rome and otherreally good looking italian beautys...i analyzedwhat he did, his behaviour and so on...
and now we ask ourselves...why was he sosuccessfull? and the answer is that he was almostall the time cocky and funny! always making fun ofthe girls! and he wasnt even goodlooking, justmedium...i began to imitate his behaviour andsince then i had an incredible success with girlswhich surprised myself and all my friends becausei was dating one really hot girl after another....so if you want to get interesting or "attractive"you gotta be special, unique, full of selfesteem,funny, unpredictable and all the other stuff youteach us! thats the way how it works...sure thereare thousands of other things to do...i dont needto tell you...
now i got a very important question for you, ithink that this should be a big help for almosteveryone receiving your newsletters or alreadyowning your e-book. my biggest problem is thefirst contact...how to behave afterwards and howto get fisical later is much easier in myopinion...lets take this example, im in a pub witha friend of mine, close to us are, lets say 3goodlooking girls on a table and two of them seemto be interested because they keep on looking tous...they smile at us, look in our eyes for a fewseconds and play with their hair, showing youtheir "delicious" neck , talk with a loud voice totake your attention and so on ( some of the signswomen usually make)...my problem is now how to goon! they seem to be interested but nobody isoutgoing enough to walk over to the other table tostart a conversation in order to establish a firstcontact.. you always teach us that the content ofthe conversation is not so important as the wayyou say it right? but what can i tell them? (fear of rejection i know) . how would you react orbehave? walking by, what would you tell them? ( ithink just asking them if they want to sit downwith us on our table is very wussy)... try to giveus concrete examples of the first "cocky&funny"contact in a pub or other tipical places... thatwould be great...
thanks for helping the wussyfied planet...(;
M.M. Rome, Italy
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, I'm glad to hear that you met a guywho was successful with women, and learned fromhim.
OF COURSE he was Cocky & Funny.
I learned most of my best ideas about how tomeet women from guys who were successful withwomen, and I found that they all did basically theSAME things... even though they didn't "realize"that they were doing anything at all, for the mostpart.
Meeting and hanging out with "naturals" is oneof the very best things you can do to learn how tobe more successful with women (the other is tostudy the materials that I've put together at thesame time, so you can have the advantage of havingit all explained to you).
Now, to answer your question about approachingwomen in "a pub."
I think the issue that you're PROBABLY dealingwith is REJECTION.
You're probably afraid to go start aconversation because you don't want to be rejectedby women.
Once you can face this reality and start todeal with it, then you'll start making moreprogress.
My experience starting conversations withgroups of more than one woman in bars is that yourENERGY makes a huge impact.
In other words, if you walk over and actnervous and stilted, the women will get nervousand act cold.
If you act like you're having a good time, youthink they look like some fun people to talk to,and you start on that note, they'll be FAR morelikely to be friendly and open.
Now, I know a lot of guys who are GREAT atmeeting women in bars. Some of them use ratherinteresting and complex techniques that range from"pick up lines" all the way to magic and psychicreadings.
Try this:
Pick up your drink, walk over to the table,think of the funniest moment of your life so youhave a smile on your face and say, "What, are yougirls shy or something?"
When they say, "NO, why?"
Answer, "Because I've been sitting at the nexttable for at least a half hour and you haven'tcome over to say hi to me!"
I have about 3 different friends who all usevariations of this opening... and it works great(if you're having fun when you say it).
You need to get over your FEAR. Once you stopcaring what women think of you, then you'll make aLOT more progress.
By the way, if you'd like to get anunbelievalbe education on how to approach and meetwomen in Bars & Club, then go and check THISout...
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/BarsAndClubs
***COMMENT***
Hey, I got your eBook a month or so ago. Greatstuff. I write a comment to you because of one ofyour letters, the one from "M. Missouri",specifically. He described starting his marriagewith the C&F and losing his touch. My advise: hitthe book, bud. My marriage was the typical storyof the wife with all the power. This last month,the whole deal has turned on its head. We'recelebrating our 10th anniversary next year, and myuse of your eBook has moved the power from her toat least shared (it'll be all mine soon enough).The posture advise, and slowed deliberate,confident movements, and, of course, the "like Igive a F" attitude all have brought this about.Thanks David, and to the guy who's losing hisedge, take it from someone that had no edge and isgetting all of the control: you've let the booksit unstudied for too long. If I can change over 8years of bad history, you can reel your situationback in.
P in Portland
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Great job, man.
Too many guys have this ideal or fantasy intheir minds of "being equals" with a woman, etc.
Ain't gonna happen.
Attractive woman aren't interested in an EQUAL.
They're NEVER attracted to guys who are EQUALS.
Attractive women want a guy who is a LEADER.One who takes charge, keeps them on their toes, isunpredictable, Cocky & Funny, etc.
Thanks for the letter.
***BREAKTHROUGH***
David, this might seem usual but I owe you $40.See I purchased your ebook about a year ago butasked for a refund because "it didn't work forme". I realize now that it wasn't your materialrather my own issues that I had to deal with.During that time frame I still read yournewsletters and gained more understanding of themindset of one who "Gets it". I'm still working onthat but as you said, some are quicker learnersthan others. Another factor in this was the otherday when this hottie that I was chatting up wassaying how she would hold out longer if the guywas "relationship material" than if she wanted abooty call. (A great time for a quick C&Fcomeback) A light clicked on and I rememberedwhere I'd read that before. The clincher was whena buddy of mine let me listen to some of youradvanced material. All I can say is that I'mgetting my own copy as soon as I can. So where doI send you your money?
Thanks, E.S. in San Diego.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I admire you for coming back a year later andadmitting that you were the issue, not thematerial.
SO YOU'RE THE GUY WHO ASKED FOR A REFUND, HUH!?
lol... hey, it's OK.
Yes, women do "hold out" longer if a guy is"relationship material"... that is, if they are inCONTROL of the situation they do.
And yes, at that point you should have shotback:
"So that's how you think of me... as just aBOOTY CALL? How romantic."
You know, sometimes I even find it hard tobelieve that all this strange stuff is true aboutwomen and dating.
But, it is...
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
Dave
What are you doing? Wait I'll answer that, YOUare taking away ALL of the fun we get to have! OkI'll admit you're right about most, ok all, of it,but there is still at least ONE thing that I knowyou have never answered. If we put a guy intoyour so called "Friends" category even YOU don'tknow how to get him out of it!
JB -Canada
P.S. I recommend you stop selling your books and"advanced tactics" before you do somethingserious.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, I'm really in danger now, huh?
And you're right... once a guy is in the"friends" category it's not easy to get out.
In fact, I tell guys to just walk away andforget about it, because it's such a pain to tryto change.
But, there's GREAT NEWS!
There are SO MANY women running around on thisplanet that it DOESN'T MATTER.
Next!
The ironic part is that when you do take the"Next!" attitude and stop treating a woman, whoonly likes you as a friend, like she's special,she'll often change her mind and start liking you.
Go figure.
***COMMENT***
First off, I am an avid reader of your materialand I employ it often. It works - well. I boughtyour ebook about a year ago and it was worth everypenny. Anyway, enough ass-kissing. I have ageneral comment about the whole gift-buying,dinner-buying kissing a woman's ass concept. Yousay that doing such things to win over a woman'sattention are foolish. I agree wholeheartedly.However, I am in a relationship now with a womanthat I really like, and sometimes I want to buyher things or take her out, etc. This isn'tbecause I feel I have to, but it is because I wantto treat her well. I don't feel that if I don'tdo this, she will leave me. Therein lies thedifference between being foolish and needy aboutit, and doing it by your own decision. It is theINTENT behind what you do that is important. Ifyou do something for a woman because you feel youhave to or you will possibly lose her, she canmore than likely sense that, and will havelimitless amounts of power over you. If you dosomething because you want to, then she will sensethe apparent confidence in you, and will notnecessarily have power over you because of it.Besides, like you say, a woman should want you forYOU - your personality - not what you can buy heror where you can take her. NOTE: I agree thatgift-giving, etc. is a somewhat bad idea in thebeginning of a relationship for the same reasonsyou don't like it. It makes you appear needy andinsecure, and no (emotionally stable) woman wantsthat in a man.
P.S. It was your material that helped give me thementality to get with the girl I am datingcurrently. Good work fella!
J from Philly
>>>MY COMMENTS:
YES!
You get it!
It's the intent behind what you're doing.
I have a little secret that I'm going to sharewith you. But lean in close, so I can whisper. Idon't want anyone else to hear...
I actually have guy friends who are REALLY goodwith women who take women to dinner, buy themdrinks, etc. when they first meet.
What, you say?
How can this be?
Well, the big difference is that these guys areNOT doing this stuff to GET THE WOMAN'S APPROVAL.
And since EVERYTHING ELSE they're doing clearlycommunicates the RIGHT things, they can actuallydo whatever they want, and still not screw thingsup.
In other words, if you don't understand howATTRACTION works, and you don't know how tocommunicate with women in a way that makes themfeel it for YOU, then buying drinks and dinner,and giving compliments, and all the other thingsmost guys do will only BACKFIRE.
On the other hand, once you totally understandhow and why women feel ATTRACTION, you can dowhatever you want.
And later on, when you find a girl that youreally like and you're enjoying a relationship, ofcourse it's nice to do nice things for her.
Just remember, be very careful.
It's easy to be lured back to the dark side...and to try to get women to like you by paying forthings and taking them places... which it willnever do.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
I just finished reading your latest newsletter andI had a thought that I wanted to share. You talkeda lot about guys chasing women and showering themwith gifts to buy their love. Well, I have acommon sense point to make to any of your readersthat may be on the fence about buying yourmaterials.
Before I purchased your book, I had doubts becauseI wasn't sure it would be worth the money. To putit into perspective, I thought about all the girlsI dated in the past. Then I roughly added up allthe money I had spent on each for dinner, gifts,etc. (Yes, I know, that was wussy behavior).Well, after totaling up the money, I realized Icould have bought all your materials (book, CD andDVD series) for myself and five of my closefriends and still had money left over (Yes, Ispent that much money on women in the past. Iknow, that was bad). Point is, to any guy (orgirl) out there, take the money you're wastingchasing some girl and buy Dave's book or CD/DVDseries. It's worth it.
Now to my question. I know this is getting longbut I gave you a plug so you owe me. Have youtaken any courses or read any books onconversation skills? Can you recommend any bookson the subject and also on the subject of bodylanguage? Thanks,
AG in PA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're right-on about one thing...
If most guys added up all the money they'veWASTED on women, they'd realize what a BADinvestment they've made (and what a greatinvestment my stuff is! I like your idea... I'mgoing to tell every guy to get my materials forthem and all their friends from now on. Nice!)
The best books I've ever read on conversationskills are COMEDY books. I like the book "ComedyWriting Secrets" by Helitzer.
And as far as body language books go, I haven'tfound any that I can recommend. The book "BodyLanguage" by Fast, has some interesting stuff init... but most of it is hard to really grasp.
One of the biggest problems I ran into when Iwas first learning how to meet women was thatthings didn't make sense... and things that"should" work DIDN'T work.
When it comes to women and ATTRACTION thenormal rules don't apply anymore. This area oflife is VERY DIFFERENT from other areas, and whenyou try to apply ideas and techniques from otherareas (like conversation skills), you'll find thatthey often don't work AT ALL.
You can walk into a room full of 100 people,and start walking around meeting them.
For 99 of them, walking over and saying, "Hi,how do you know everyone here?" and "So, what doyou do?" will work just fine.
But when you find that ONE attractive woman inthe room that you'd like to meet, and you want tostart an interaction that leads to ATTRACTION, youmust do something TOTALLY different.
It's more than the words you say... it's atotal understanding of what that woman is lookingfor on a deep, primal, subconscious level... andthen to BE that man.
***COMMENT***
Dave,
Sometimes I have to just stop in the middle ofyour newsletters and take a break because thestuff you deliver is so good that I feel a littleoverwhelmed... killer stuff! I love the ebook andCD collection. I will send some details later.
You really do more good in the lives you touchthen you know. I hope you can truly appreciatethat statement and all that it means. We shouldall be so fortunate to have such a positive impacton a single life... let alone the many that youinfluence.
Best regards, E. Chicago, IL
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, someone give me a trophy... or a medal orsomething.
I really am a wonderful guy, huh?
Trust me, if you had this much fun doing whatI'm doing, you'd do it, too...
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave
I've been receiving your free newsletter for a fewmonths now and just wanted to say that I've foundmuch of what you've written to be helpful,insightful, and most of all funny! Like a lot ofother guys I've spent a LOT of time trying tolearn how to impress and have success with women,and I like to think that I've come quite a longway from the needy, desperate wussy-man I used tobe (and still am on occasion, admittedly).
My question involves one of the 'testing'behaviors you described in a previous newsletter.You said that one way women often test men is bycanceling plans at the last minute, or by flakingout altogether with little or no notice. I've hadthis happen to me numerous times and I alwaysassumed these girls were just being careless orinconsiderate... or worse yet, ignoring me in thehopes that I would "get the message" and walkaway, without them having to go thru theawkwardness of outright rejecting me! It neveroccurred to me that they might be doing itintentionally, and then taking note of my responsein order to see if I passed some kind of test. Isthat really what's going on? And if so, how do Ipass the test? What is a woman looking for inthis type of situation?
Thanks, T
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, it is true that women use things likethis to test men... but it's ALSO true that womendo things like this because they want to AVOIDCONFRONTATION.
In other words, a woman will sometimes makeplans with a guy just to avoid saying "no" in themoment.
But later, she'll flake or cancel because"something came up"... when she never intended toshow up in the first place.
If women are flaking out on you a lot, it'sprobably something that YOU'RE doing up front.
In any case, try this:
Next time you're talking to a woman on thephone and making plans to get together for teasay, "Let me ask you a quick question. Do you everflake out on things?"
She'll say, "Not usually" (or some other non-committal thing, most likely).
Say, "Good, because it's one of those thingsthat I really can't deal with... people that can'tkeep their word...and there are a lot of flakypeople in this world."
That might help.
And if she DOES flake at the last minute, don'taccept it.
If she calls and says, "Oh, something cameup..." just answer back, "You know, I was juststarting to think you were DIFFERENT from all theflaky women I've met"...
Make it clear to women that it is NOT OK towaste your time and they'll waste it less.
But, if you act nice and sweet andaccommodating... and you transmit the message thatit's OK to flake because you're a nice guy andwon't care, then it will happen to you all thetime.
***QUESTION***
hey dave,
i need an answer to a question that has confusedthe hell out of me. well, i received a bunch ofred roses for valentines day from my girlfriend ofabout 2 months now. i gave her 2 roses, a smallteddy bear thing and a short card with a bit ofc+f talk. i figured that i had made a bit of amistake by buying her this much, but when i gaveit all to her she looked so happy and told me thatSHE owed ME bigtime for what i had done. the restof the day i had no problems with kissing her oranything else. my question is, why havent i beenseen as a wuss to her? i know that in most otherscenarios, buying this much stuff would have gotme nowhere.
by the way, your research and advice is all spoton. its helped me to attract loads of girls,including my current girlfriend. thanks and keepup the great work mate.
S, AUSTRALIA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah!
The reason she said that she "owes you bigtime" is because of the WAY you did it.
When you incorporate the attitude into all ofyour communication with women, it has a HUGEimpact.
The fact that you:
1) Did something thoughtful (the card, twoflowers, etc.)
2) AND you said Cocky & Funny things in the card
...clearly communicated that you were NOT doingthis because you wanted to kiss up to her and gether approval.
One of the greatest things you can do is EVERYtime you do something nice for a girl and sheTHANKS you for it say, "Yeah, you owe me" in asarcastic tone.
Then, later, get her to pay up.
Personally, I like massages.
There's something magical about always puttinga high value on yourself, your time, and yourattention. If you put a high value on it, womenwill too.
...and a couple of final thoughts...
There are two KEY aspects of learning how to besuccessful with women and dating:
1) The Inner Game
2) The Outer Game
The INNER GAME is all about learning how toTHINK and how to manage your thoughts andemotions. It's also about understanding how andwhy attractive women feel that amazing emotioncalled ATTRACTION for some men and not for MOSTmen.
The OUTER GAME is all of the techniques, whatto say and such.
Which is more important?
Well, they're BOTH important.
But what I notice is that most guys want tolearn the OUTER GAME first.
In other words, they want the pick up lines,the fancy tricks, and other things.
I can remember when I first started learningthis stuff.
I had this idea in my mind that if I couldlearn how to get women to give me their numbersthat I'd be the MAN.
Well, I learned that. I can get just about anywoman's phone number in just a few minutes.
But guess what?
Once I learned how to get women's phonenumbers, I ran into a much BIGGER issue... thewomen usually flaked out on me, didn't show up,etc.
And the ones that DID show up were difficult.
Nothing happened.
I realized that there had to be more.
And, as it turns out, there is. A LOT more, infact.
The REASON that the "Inner Game" is soimportant is that attractive women don't judge youon your "pick up lines".
And just because a woman gives you her phonenumber or email address DOES NOT mean that sheFEELS anything inside (like ATTRACTION).
Women don't DECIDE to feel ATTRACTION for aman.
ATTRACTION is something that happens on itsown, for its own reasons.
Attraction Isn't A Choice!
The way to cause women to feel ATTRACTION foryou is to UNDERSTAND how and why it works, andthen communicate in a way that makes it happen.
In my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVDprogram, I spend several HOURS teaching "The InnerGame"... all those things that help you get theINSIDE together, so you can then get the OUTSIDEtogether.
This stuff is CRITICAL to your success.
I wouldn't have taken all the time, effort, andenergy to put this together unless I thought itwas important.
If you want to overcome your challenges andreally take your success to the next level, thenyou owe it to yourself to check it out.
It's here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
And, if you haven't had a chance to download myeBook "Double Your Dating: What Every Man ShouldKnow About How To Be Successful With Women," thenyou need to do that now. You can download it andbe reading it within a few minutes...
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
If you've tried all kinds of techniques, andnothing seems to "work", then you need to work onyour Inner Game. When you get the inner gametogether, everything will start to work a LOTbetter...
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. If you'd like to look at all of the differentprograms I've created to help you learn how tomeet women in all kinds of situations, plus watchvideo clips of all of them, just click here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog --------------------------------------------------
Thursday, April 24, 2008
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Turning A Female "Friend" Into A Lover
>>>QUICK NOTE: If you'd like to read the story ofhow I went from not even being able to start aconversation with a woman to being able to meetwomen in every type of situation... plus watchgreat video clips of every one of my differentdating programs, then check this out:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog
***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***
Hi Dave,
Kind of an 'almost but not quite' success storybut compared to how I used to be it feels like amiracle. Yes, in the past I was ultimate wussy boybut then I got the ebook and began to change. (I'm20 and glad I found this out now!) Always hadplenty of female friends but I was the therapist,nothing more. And as I'm sure many guys who arereading this know, it makes you feel like crap.Anyway, by coincidence, I moved to another cityfor work, just as I got the ebook. This meant thatI really had a fresh start. By another piece offortune I got very lucky: I met that rare womanwho has her act together FIRST TIME. Yeah, Iknow. The first woman I meet EVER whilst tryingto be C+F, get my body language right, keep eyecontact and not be a wuss and she's the one who'sgot her act together big style. I've alwayspicked things up really quickly (got to have somegood points when you only weigh 130lbs haha!) andso just tried to stay cool for as long as I could,mainly for the learning experience. And Dave,thanks to reading your book day in and day out,combined with the emails, I have done better thanI EVER thought I would. I still remember theawesome feeling when she first started calling meto do stuff (rather than the millions of otherguys who were always hanging around her, kissingher ass.) Or how I would bust on her amongst ourgroup of friends and she would come right back atme with an ever cockier and funnier comment andall the guys would stare at me as if I was crazyto say this stuff to her. They then proceeded tosay how unfair life must be because she is singleand to not take my comments to heart because sheis beautiful ...yuck, wussies!
So to the crunch. One night when this girl and Iwere out pubbing and clubbing and battling eachother with our wits and building lots of tension(so much fun) she opened up a bit and told methat she had never met anyone like me and that Iwas cool. All the cues that you said would happenif you do the right things. Inside I was like"WOW!" but I didn't show it and just told her thather compliments and looking at me like a piece ofmeat wasn't going to get her anywhere - she's agreat friend! By the end of the night she wasasking me the odds of us having sex within thenext few weeks. Now here's where I've got to holdmy hands up and risk your written wrath. In thatmoment, this was the ONLY time I have ever been awuss with her. I'm a virgin and even though Ifancy her like mad, I know at present I couldn'tsatisfy a woman like that (limiting belief I know,but true!) I haven't got the skill yet and then Irealised that I had failed to plan ahead. Damn.And I could hardly turn around and say "Hey, I'm avirgin wuss who has never had sex! Teach me?"Instead, as my answer I just smirked a little in apoor attempt to look composed but I wasted a bigopportunity to amplify what was there; instead Ijust dissipated all the tension by being a prick.She appeared to let me off though and the next fewweeks were a C+F fun-fest again. I still playedit cool, no chasing, no clinging, no insecurity.Then our mutual friends started telling me to askher for more. Even her best female friend saidthat we should be together because we get on sowell. I remembered an email you sent saying thatif you meet someone you REALLY like then sometimeyou're going to have to take the chance and tellthem. So when we were alone at another party acouple of weeks later, I told her that we shouldget together. Here's the messed up part: she saidthat I was the best guy she'd ever met and thatshe didn't want to enter a relationship with mebecause every guy she has ever gone out with she'sended up hurting. She said that she never wantedto hurt me and wanted to know me forever. Andthat if we stayed best friends forever, withoutcomplications, we would have something great forlife and not a quick fling followed by nevertalking again. She also said that she loved theway that I stand up to her and don't kiss her asslike most other guys. So, a lot of tears later(from her), hugs, kisses and plenty of apologiesand I was left to wonder if my one error of sexualwussiness had cost me in the worst possible way. Ibelieve this to be true because I know that if awoman feels attraction for a man, then nothingelse matters. Her friendship logic wouldn't matterif she "felt it" for me would it? I'm so pissedoff at myself for messing up (always been aperfectionist, have to get everything right firsttime!) However, she has surprised me in that shehasn't run for the hills - she must've meant whatshe said. Reason being because not only are westill hanging out, but she sent me a Valentinescard (I sent her nothing) and just last weekinvited me over to her place alone where shecooked for me. I'm still playing it by yourteachings Dave but I'm at a complete loss. I likeher a hell of a lot and am really fighting thewuss urge. I still bust on her, we still flirt, Idon't call her a s much as she calls me and Ihaven't shared any feelings with her since thatnight. I'm trying to stay cool man! Don't bitchslap or berate me too hard, I've already done itmany times myself (and will continue to do so,until I GET IT! I am not going to give this up!)So after this damned long essay that says I'vegone on for too long (I've kept it to 2 paragraphsthough - albeit by cheating the rules ofgrammar...) I have two questions: 1) Is there anyhope of turning this around? I know I should moveon but how long will it take me to find anotherreally exceptional woman that I get on so wellwith? It seems like I'm so close but just haven'tquite got the skill to haul myself over the finishline and it's very frustrating! 2) Where can Iget a good education on how to make love to awoman? This is my final concern with women, Ibelieve. And when the time comes, should I admitmy lack of inexperience? (No amount of theory canmake up for lack of practice!)
Cheers Dave, without your teachings I would never,ever have gotten this far.
M, United Kingdom.
P.S. She did your pocket a favor by turning medown - it prompted me to buy the CD series. Inthe long run, I guess she did me a favor too:it's awesome so far. ***End of blatant plug***
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, first of all I want to CONGRATULATE youon a great job with this girl.
You did all the right things, and you'veobviously paid attention to what you've learned. Ihave a lot of respect for you for both DOINGSOMETHING to improve yourself, and for getting outthere and using the materials.
You should be congratulating yourself, notbeating yourself up.
I'M the one who gives the verbal beatings here,not you, remember?
I think the real problem you're running intohere is that you've put too much importance onthis one situation, and by doing that you'vecreated "tunnel vision" for yourself. I'm sureyou've heard me talk about this a lot.
From now on, don't get so hung up on aparticular woman that you're not even"technically" involved with. It's asking foremotional trouble... and it's a pain.
So, let's talk about this particularsituation...
I'd like to share with you a thought to setthis up. It's a thought that might not go over sowell with a lot of people (especially women). But,I believe it to be true, so I'm going to put itout there.
Remember, this is a generalization, and not acold, hard fact... it's true MOST of the time. Youhave to use your own judgment in each situation.
Now that the disclaimer is over, here's thedeal:
If you meet a woman (especially a sharp,attractive woman who's intelligent), and you startdoing all of those wonderful things that spark andamplify the ATTRACTION present in the situation,you must KEEP MOVING FORWARD, or you'll loseeverything you've built.
What I'm trying to say is that if you don'ttake things to a physical level quickly aftercreating all of this sexual tension, it willeventually go away, and you'll be left with just"friend" material.
I know that you've never been with a womansexually, so I can understand why you hesitated.But you must still remember what I said.
The rule of thumb is: If you're going to sparkand amplify attraction with a woman, you need tocontinue on to the next level SOON... or you'regoing to probably lose it.
When you just tease a woman, bust on her, gether all wired up and excited about you... thenDON'T MOVE FORWARD PHYSICALLY, it's a let down.
Basically, the woman you're with has a firstimpression of you that says "This guy is sexy andattractive," but when you don't continue forwardon a physical level, she starts to think "Uh Oh,he's either not interested in me 'in that way',he's gay, or he's seeing someone else," etc.
If you want to be "friends" with a woman, it'seasy. Don't do anything.
If you don't make any "moves", don't try tokiss her, and don't confidently lead in a physicalway, a woman will only think of you as a "friend".
Even if there is attraction based onpersonality, it's going to disappear if you don'tcross over into the physical realm.
99% of the time, she's NOT going to be the oneto make the first moves... it's just not going tohappen. YOU have to do it.
***NOTE***
Before I give you tips on how to solve thisproblem, you might want to check out my "DeepInner Game" program. It will absolutely help youovercome some of the more "psychological"challenges you're facing. You can go see videosamples and check it out here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/DeepInnerGame
Onward...
The real keys here are:
1) Knowing WHAT to do to proceed in each situation
2) Knowing WHEN to proceed in each situation
3) Knowing HOW to proceed in each situation... ina way that is smooth and natural... and thatdoesn't get you "rejected"
You've got the benefit of having my eBook andmy Advanced Dating Techniques Program. I recommendthat you check out the bonus booklet that camewith "Double Your Dating" called "Sex Secrets,"and use that material IMMEDIATELY.
Also, you'll learn a lot of great ideas in thelast few discs of my Advanced Series.
Let me cover a few basics here.
First of all, it's OK that you're a virgin.
It's no big deal. You're making it intosomething bigger than it is by freaking out aboutit.
I'll break the news to you:
SHE ONLY CARES HOW SHE FEELS, NOT WHAT YOURPAST SEXUAL EXPERIENCE IS.
If you can make her FEEL good, game over.
You're obviously a guy who can pay attentionand learn things. Spend a day at the bookstore,and go to the "sexuality" section. Read forawhile. You'll learn everything you need to knowto get past your "first time" just fine.
And, by the way, if you run into a problem...like "performance anxiety" or nervousness or justbeing uncomfortable naked around a woman... that'sOK, too. If you reach a point that starts to freakyou out too much, just lean back and stop for alittle while. One of the GREAT things about theprocess of getting a woman turned on is that it'smuch more powerful for her if you DO stop andstart... move two steps forward, and one stepback.
You don't need to say, "Hey, I realize thatwe're both naked in bed here and we should bemaking love, but I'm a virgin... and on top ofthat, I can't get it up." No no nooooo....
Just kick back. If you have to, just call it anight.
The KEY is that you have to at least PROGRESSphysically with her. Explained differently, youdon't necessarily have to go "all the way," butyou do have to get pretty far down the field...and keep going a little farther each time... ifyou want to keep the attraction building.
I have another secret to share with you...
Most guys suck in bed. And I don't mean that ina good way. And no, I'm not talking fromexperience.
I have known, interviewed, and received emailsfrom a lot of women. I know the deal. Most womenare not very happy about what happens in thebedroom.
If you do just the things I've laid out for youin the ebook and Advanced Series, and then youtotally blow it and are the worst lover the worldhas ever known, she'll still have a GREATexperience with you... because MOST of it willhave been fantastic for her.
Using the physical techniques... ways oftouching, ways of getting her physically turned onand amplifying her arousal, that you've learned inthe materials, will get a woman so turned on thatjust about ANY kind of sexual interaction will befine with her.
lol... and by the way, the next time a womanlooks at you and asks, "What do you think the oddsof us having sex within the next few weeksare?"... you need to look her right in the eye andsay:
"Sex? Hell, I don't even know if you know how tokiss."
...then lean over and kiss her.
When you're finished, pull away (you stop thekiss before she does), look back at her, and say:
"Hmm, I'll have to get back to you about the sexpart."
...and if you're reading this right now, andyou want to know how in the hell a 130 pound ex-wussy therapist boy can change his ways and have awoman asking him if he thinks they're going tohave sex soon, then I'd recommend doing what HEdid...
Get yourself a copy of my eBook "Double YourDating," and get yourself a copy of my AdvancedDating Techniques CD or DVD program. It's taken meyears to figure this stuff out, and you can tryall of it at NO RISK. You've got nothing tolose... except your inability to meet women...
The eBook is here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
The Advanced Dating Techniques Program is here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog
***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***
Hi Dave,
Kind of an 'almost but not quite' success storybut compared to how I used to be it feels like amiracle. Yes, in the past I was ultimate wussy boybut then I got the ebook and began to change. (I'm20 and glad I found this out now!) Always hadplenty of female friends but I was the therapist,nothing more. And as I'm sure many guys who arereading this know, it makes you feel like crap.Anyway, by coincidence, I moved to another cityfor work, just as I got the ebook. This meant thatI really had a fresh start. By another piece offortune I got very lucky: I met that rare womanwho has her act together FIRST TIME. Yeah, Iknow. The first woman I meet EVER whilst tryingto be C+F, get my body language right, keep eyecontact and not be a wuss and she's the one who'sgot her act together big style. I've alwayspicked things up really quickly (got to have somegood points when you only weigh 130lbs haha!) andso just tried to stay cool for as long as I could,mainly for the learning experience. And Dave,thanks to reading your book day in and day out,combined with the emails, I have done better thanI EVER thought I would. I still remember theawesome feeling when she first started calling meto do stuff (rather than the millions of otherguys who were always hanging around her, kissingher ass.) Or how I would bust on her amongst ourgroup of friends and she would come right back atme with an ever cockier and funnier comment andall the guys would stare at me as if I was crazyto say this stuff to her. They then proceeded tosay how unfair life must be because she is singleand to not take my comments to heart because sheis beautiful ...yuck, wussies!
So to the crunch. One night when this girl and Iwere out pubbing and clubbing and battling eachother with our wits and building lots of tension(so much fun) she opened up a bit and told methat she had never met anyone like me and that Iwas cool. All the cues that you said would happenif you do the right things. Inside I was like"WOW!" but I didn't show it and just told her thather compliments and looking at me like a piece ofmeat wasn't going to get her anywhere - she's agreat friend! By the end of the night she wasasking me the odds of us having sex within thenext few weeks. Now here's where I've got to holdmy hands up and risk your written wrath. In thatmoment, this was the ONLY time I have ever been awuss with her. I'm a virgin and even though Ifancy her like mad, I know at present I couldn'tsatisfy a woman like that (limiting belief I know,but true!) I haven't got the skill yet and then Irealised that I had failed to plan ahead. Damn.And I could hardly turn around and say "Hey, I'm avirgin wuss who has never had sex! Teach me?"Instead, as my answer I just smirked a little in apoor attempt to look composed but I wasted a bigopportunity to amplify what was there; instead Ijust dissipated all the tension by being a prick.She appeared to let me off though and the next fewweeks were a C+F fun-fest again. I still playedit cool, no chasing, no clinging, no insecurity.Then our mutual friends started telling me to askher for more. Even her best female friend saidthat we should be together because we get on sowell. I remembered an email you sent saying thatif you meet someone you REALLY like then sometimeyou're going to have to take the chance and tellthem. So when we were alone at another party acouple of weeks later, I told her that we shouldget together. Here's the messed up part: she saidthat I was the best guy she'd ever met and thatshe didn't want to enter a relationship with mebecause every guy she has ever gone out with she'sended up hurting. She said that she never wantedto hurt me and wanted to know me forever. Andthat if we stayed best friends forever, withoutcomplications, we would have something great forlife and not a quick fling followed by nevertalking again. She also said that she loved theway that I stand up to her and don't kiss her asslike most other guys. So, a lot of tears later(from her), hugs, kisses and plenty of apologiesand I was left to wonder if my one error of sexualwussiness had cost me in the worst possible way. Ibelieve this to be true because I know that if awoman feels attraction for a man, then nothingelse matters. Her friendship logic wouldn't matterif she "felt it" for me would it? I'm so pissedoff at myself for messing up (always been aperfectionist, have to get everything right firsttime!) However, she has surprised me in that shehasn't run for the hills - she must've meant whatshe said. Reason being because not only are westill hanging out, but she sent me a Valentinescard (I sent her nothing) and just last weekinvited me over to her place alone where shecooked for me. I'm still playing it by yourteachings Dave but I'm at a complete loss. I likeher a hell of a lot and am really fighting thewuss urge. I still bust on her, we still flirt, Idon't call her a s much as she calls me and Ihaven't shared any feelings with her since thatnight. I'm trying to stay cool man! Don't bitchslap or berate me too hard, I've already done itmany times myself (and will continue to do so,until I GET IT! I am not going to give this up!)So after this damned long essay that says I'vegone on for too long (I've kept it to 2 paragraphsthough - albeit by cheating the rules ofgrammar...) I have two questions: 1) Is there anyhope of turning this around? I know I should moveon but how long will it take me to find anotherreally exceptional woman that I get on so wellwith? It seems like I'm so close but just haven'tquite got the skill to haul myself over the finishline and it's very frustrating! 2) Where can Iget a good education on how to make love to awoman? This is my final concern with women, Ibelieve. And when the time comes, should I admitmy lack of inexperience? (No amount of theory canmake up for lack of practice!)
Cheers Dave, without your teachings I would never,ever have gotten this far.
M, United Kingdom.
P.S. She did your pocket a favor by turning medown - it prompted me to buy the CD series. Inthe long run, I guess she did me a favor too:it's awesome so far. ***End of blatant plug***
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, first of all I want to CONGRATULATE youon a great job with this girl.
You did all the right things, and you'veobviously paid attention to what you've learned. Ihave a lot of respect for you for both DOINGSOMETHING to improve yourself, and for getting outthere and using the materials.
You should be congratulating yourself, notbeating yourself up.
I'M the one who gives the verbal beatings here,not you, remember?
I think the real problem you're running intohere is that you've put too much importance onthis one situation, and by doing that you'vecreated "tunnel vision" for yourself. I'm sureyou've heard me talk about this a lot.
From now on, don't get so hung up on aparticular woman that you're not even"technically" involved with. It's asking foremotional trouble... and it's a pain.
So, let's talk about this particularsituation...
I'd like to share with you a thought to setthis up. It's a thought that might not go over sowell with a lot of people (especially women). But,I believe it to be true, so I'm going to put itout there.
Remember, this is a generalization, and not acold, hard fact... it's true MOST of the time. Youhave to use your own judgment in each situation.
Now that the disclaimer is over, here's thedeal:
If you meet a woman (especially a sharp,attractive woman who's intelligent), and you startdoing all of those wonderful things that spark andamplify the ATTRACTION present in the situation,you must KEEP MOVING FORWARD, or you'll loseeverything you've built.
What I'm trying to say is that if you don'ttake things to a physical level quickly aftercreating all of this sexual tension, it willeventually go away, and you'll be left with just"friend" material.
I know that you've never been with a womansexually, so I can understand why you hesitated.But you must still remember what I said.
The rule of thumb is: If you're going to sparkand amplify attraction with a woman, you need tocontinue on to the next level SOON... or you'regoing to probably lose it.
When you just tease a woman, bust on her, gether all wired up and excited about you... thenDON'T MOVE FORWARD PHYSICALLY, it's a let down.
Basically, the woman you're with has a firstimpression of you that says "This guy is sexy andattractive," but when you don't continue forwardon a physical level, she starts to think "Uh Oh,he's either not interested in me 'in that way',he's gay, or he's seeing someone else," etc.
If you want to be "friends" with a woman, it'seasy. Don't do anything.
If you don't make any "moves", don't try tokiss her, and don't confidently lead in a physicalway, a woman will only think of you as a "friend".
Even if there is attraction based onpersonality, it's going to disappear if you don'tcross over into the physical realm.
99% of the time, she's NOT going to be the oneto make the first moves... it's just not going tohappen. YOU have to do it.
***NOTE***
Before I give you tips on how to solve thisproblem, you might want to check out my "DeepInner Game" program. It will absolutely help youovercome some of the more "psychological"challenges you're facing. You can go see videosamples and check it out here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/DeepInnerGame
Onward...
The real keys here are:
1) Knowing WHAT to do to proceed in each situation
2) Knowing WHEN to proceed in each situation
3) Knowing HOW to proceed in each situation... ina way that is smooth and natural... and thatdoesn't get you "rejected"
You've got the benefit of having my eBook andmy Advanced Dating Techniques Program. I recommendthat you check out the bonus booklet that camewith "Double Your Dating" called "Sex Secrets,"and use that material IMMEDIATELY.
Also, you'll learn a lot of great ideas in thelast few discs of my Advanced Series.
Let me cover a few basics here.
First of all, it's OK that you're a virgin.
It's no big deal. You're making it intosomething bigger than it is by freaking out aboutit.
I'll break the news to you:
SHE ONLY CARES HOW SHE FEELS, NOT WHAT YOURPAST SEXUAL EXPERIENCE IS.
If you can make her FEEL good, game over.
You're obviously a guy who can pay attentionand learn things. Spend a day at the bookstore,and go to the "sexuality" section. Read forawhile. You'll learn everything you need to knowto get past your "first time" just fine.
And, by the way, if you run into a problem...like "performance anxiety" or nervousness or justbeing uncomfortable naked around a woman... that'sOK, too. If you reach a point that starts to freakyou out too much, just lean back and stop for alittle while. One of the GREAT things about theprocess of getting a woman turned on is that it'smuch more powerful for her if you DO stop andstart... move two steps forward, and one stepback.
You don't need to say, "Hey, I realize thatwe're both naked in bed here and we should bemaking love, but I'm a virgin... and on top ofthat, I can't get it up." No no nooooo....
Just kick back. If you have to, just call it anight.
The KEY is that you have to at least PROGRESSphysically with her. Explained differently, youdon't necessarily have to go "all the way," butyou do have to get pretty far down the field...and keep going a little farther each time... ifyou want to keep the attraction building.
I have another secret to share with you...
Most guys suck in bed. And I don't mean that ina good way. And no, I'm not talking fromexperience.
I have known, interviewed, and received emailsfrom a lot of women. I know the deal. Most womenare not very happy about what happens in thebedroom.
If you do just the things I've laid out for youin the ebook and Advanced Series, and then youtotally blow it and are the worst lover the worldhas ever known, she'll still have a GREATexperience with you... because MOST of it willhave been fantastic for her.
Using the physical techniques... ways oftouching, ways of getting her physically turned onand amplifying her arousal, that you've learned inthe materials, will get a woman so turned on thatjust about ANY kind of sexual interaction will befine with her.
lol... and by the way, the next time a womanlooks at you and asks, "What do you think the oddsof us having sex within the next few weeksare?"... you need to look her right in the eye andsay:
"Sex? Hell, I don't even know if you know how tokiss."
...then lean over and kiss her.
When you're finished, pull away (you stop thekiss before she does), look back at her, and say:
"Hmm, I'll have to get back to you about the sexpart."
...and if you're reading this right now, andyou want to know how in the hell a 130 pound ex-wussy therapist boy can change his ways and have awoman asking him if he thinks they're going tohave sex soon, then I'd recommend doing what HEdid...
Get yourself a copy of my eBook "Double YourDating," and get yourself a copy of my AdvancedDating Techniques CD or DVD program. It's taken meyears to figure this stuff out, and you can tryall of it at NO RISK. You've got nothing tolose... except your inability to meet women...
The eBook is here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
The Advanced Dating Techniques Program is here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
how to kiss a woman
First of all, lets get things straight. I don'tlike you. In fact, I hate you. Your success withwomen disgusts me, and the way you have it down toa science so well that you even make ME laughsometimes with your smartassed comments to thelamers who write you vexes me. But it intrigues meas well. Your stuff works. So I use it. Doesn'tmean I like you. Just means I like your "tools."
Anyway, the problem I'm having lately is I meetand flirt with a lot of women using c&f, but whenit comes time for things to get a little physical,they tell me they're waiting for marriage to doall that! WtF?! Is there a way around this kind ofa "defense" that women use on me oh so often?(Besides dumping their celibate asses.)
Name: D Location: Bufffalo, New York.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, this is just a guess, but maybe yourchallenges with women stem from the dark cloudaround your SOUL!
...ah-hem.
Dude, I can tell that you're attempting to befunny here, but it also sounds to me like you'vegot some anger issues that might need professionalattention.
OK, the way to "get around" the "I'm waitingfor marriage" defense is to stop acting like abitter WUSSY.
If women consistently tell you, "I'm waitingfor marriage before I get physical," it can onlymean one of two things:
1) You're shopping for women at the convent.
2) You're CAUSING the resistance you're getting.
Most guys don't realize this, but THEY are theones who cause women to resist and make excuses.
Really.
And by the way, don't EVER again say that youdon't like me, but you like my TOOL. That's notcool.
***QUESTION***
Dave- you da man! I just had a great experiencethat I feel merits an email to you. There's a veryupscale restaurant/bar at which you can even buycigars from their humidor. There's a piano playerthat plays jazzy tunes, and the place is prettyexpensive, quiet, with the aura of big moneypatrons. (I love cigars and jazz, which is why Iwanted to go there so badly.)
So, as I've always wanted to go there, and Ifinally mustered the courage to put on my bestsuit and tie (complete with cufflinks), so I'dlook the part, despite the fact that I'm not richlike the other patrons. The women there areusually in groups, and they wreak of old money.
I sat alone and nursed a martini for about 30minutes, while I scoped out the babes. I zeroedin on a tall, stunningly gorgeous blond. (I have aweakness for tall blonds.) I used the "Can Iborrow her for a minute?" trick, and it workedlike a charm! Then I teased her for havingfriends who would just let her go off with a totalstranger. Then I mixed a lot of listening with abit of c/f once she joined me at my table.
She told me she was hungry, so I told her I wasgetting hungry, too, and that I was about tobecome nasty if I didn't get something to eatsoon. Then I said, "You're not very attractive,but since I do happen to like that dress on you,I'll be a sport and let you buy me dinner justthis once." I couldn't believe I said that!!!! Iwas a little scared that she'd get pissed off andleave.
She ended up buying me an expensive dinner!!! PlusI got her phone number and email. I told her I doa lot of traveling (which I don't), but that I'dtry to remember to call her next time I was intown. She then asked me for my number and email!
I am still in shock. This girl looks like asupermodel, plus she's rich! I really want tocall her or email her, but I'm deliberatelywaiting, in order to give her the gift of missingme. And though it's only been a day since ithappened, I still think she'll contact me first.Should I wait for her to contact me or should Icontact her?
J
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... you're cracking me up over here.
While I don't recommend lying to women, I stillfind your story pretty funny.
Thanks for the email, and for affirming thatthese concepts we're talking about appealuniversally to women... rich and poor alike.
***SUCCESS STORY***
David,
Your book and newsletters are great and I TRULYappreciate them, so I won't waste time telling youabout that. I had a success story tonight that Ijust had to tell you about even though it's 4 inthe morning, I'm just that pumped. I just left afraternity party of mine, and there was this chickthere that has been hanging around the house andwith some of the other guys for a while (tall,thin, blonde hair, bout an 8.5). She was at theapartment we were partying at, and she sits downnext to me no the couch. I introduce her and havea little small talk, and she makes a comment thatone of the guys told her that I am a photographer(I work for a local newspaper full time) and thatshe wanted me to take some pictures of her so thatshe can get into modeling. I say, "So, you wantto be a parts model? You have some sexy toes?(you're good Dave). She says, "What, you don'tthink I'm hot?" I just kind of shrug that oneoff. She acts shocked and I just go on.Basically, all night I busted on her, looks andeverything, and she would act shocked at mycomments but I could tell she liked it (she's5'11, so when I leave to go to the bathroom orwhatever I tell her, "You're like 6'5, so ifanybody takes my seat you put them in a chokehold." Needless to say my seat never got takenwhen I told her). I couldn't believe it Dave, Iwould never have done this stuff before. She evenmade a comment that I was such an a**hole and noneof the guys had ever treated her like this. Iwould just smile and say "I know." She was eatingit up. I even told her at one point to go get MEanother beer. I was shocked when she said yes.Later I gave her a ride back to her dorm, and onthe way home she was talking about how she needsto quit hitting on guys, and told me about a gameshe plays at parties with her friends where theybet if they can get a guy to make out with them ina certain amount of time. I tell her I wouldn't,I'm not that easy. She's like, "Not even me?" AndI go on with the not easy part and she would atleast have to buy me dinner. Long story short Iget her number and she tells me to call her like 3times. Right before she gets out of the car Isay, "Can I kiss you?" She says yes, and I say,"Ok, I'll make sure to do that,"... She says ohright and leans in to kiss ME. I couldn't believeit Dave. I am on a high that no drug could evergive, and I have you to thank for it. This isprobably too long, but I had to tell you.
Thanks a million. K. in Texas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, what else is there to say?
There's really nothing like experiencing thisstuff in real life.
The first few times that you apply the materialand get women feeling ATTRACTION for you, areamazing.
You wonder why the hell you didn't figure itall out before.
Great job. You're the man. Thanks for thestory!
***COMMENT***
Hi Dave,
First off, not to sound like everyone else, butyour stuff rocks!!! With that being said I'd liketo offer a comment on J.M. from New Hampshire'spredicament.
J.M. said "What's the best way to deal with a girlcoming out and saying "oh, you're socute/funny/etc..."? Should I ignore it and keepthe c/f going? Should I address it in a cockyway?"
A couple of my favorite lines to use:
She: Your so cute. Me: If you want cute buy apuppy.
She: Your so funny. Me: Yeah, but looks aren'teverything.
It works great to down play her comments. Makefun of yourself, but don't draw too muchattention. Act disinterested in her comments andmove on with the conversation. Let's her know youreally are comfortable in your skin and she shouldreally be closer to that skin!!
Hittin Heavy in Iowa, (with no sheep, LOL) S.W.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Man, I don't even like sheep JOKES anymore.
You know, what I'm wondering is why they sellthose blow-up sheep DOLLS in the adult stores.What's the deal? Are they for guys that don't evenhave enough game to pick up a SHEEP?
OK, whatever.
These are great comebacks.
I personally don't use very much humor thatmakes fun of myself early on... but your stuff isgreat.
Thanks for the comments.
***QUESTION***
What's wrong with this letter. She works at BurgerKing and I handed it to her. She didnt talk to meanymore.
[The Letter]:
C,
I like you!
You have an electrifying gracious attitude atBurger King. You are leaving soon so lets chat onthe phone. Don't judge me by my lack ofconversation at the restaurant. I get a mentalblock at times. Let me know if your interested.OK.... Thank you
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What's wrong with this letter?
Well, other than the fact that it's the worstthing I've ever seen, nothing really.
"You have an electrifying and gracious attitudeat Burger King..."?!
Say what?
Dude, why didn't you just say, "I am a stalker,and every night when I go to sleep I can see youflipping Whoppers?"
You need the kind of help that only my ADVANCEDDATING TECHNIQUES program can give. Do not passgo, do not collect your two hundred dollars. GoIMMEDIATELY here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
...before it's too late.
***QUESTION***
Hey David,
I love reading your newsletters every time youmail them out, and I am going to buy your e-bookas soon as I get back from my vacation in NewYork. While I'm out there though, I'd like toknow one thing. I like the newsletters you mailout that deal with getting a girls number for thefirst time. But I can't get myself to get startedeven to that point. Yes, I know I'm really afraidof rejection and that makes me make up excuses asto why I won't come up to a girl.
I completely feel the way you say that I shouldcome up to a girl, talk to her for a minute, thensay something like "I have to get back to worknow," leave and then turn back and say "Hey, doyou have e-mail?" But my question is this: How doI get a girls attention to begin with? In otherwords, what do I say to her so that she will wantto talk to me for that minute you talk about? Idon't feel like saying "Excuse me, Hi... my nameis ..., do you work around here?" would be thebest solution for this. Do you?
Thanks for the newsletters because they are slowlybut surely making me grow some balls enough to getup and go talk to a girl!
CAT, San Francisco, CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, it's funny...
You're asking a question that every guy in theworld wants to know the answer to.
It's a simple answer... and it's a DAMN complexanswer at the same time.
One of the KEYS to approaching women you don'tknow is being able to do it as comfortably andnaturally as you call your mom.
If you get nervous, shaky, and freaked out thewoman will pick up on this... and it will make HERnervous.
You can walk up to a woman and say, "Hi, Idon't have time to talk, but if you're single I'dreally like to talk to you sometime... do you haveemail?"... and if you do it in a calm, comfortableway, you can get a HIGH percentage of women togive you their info right there on the spot withno conversation needed.
On the other hand, if you're freaked out,nervous, and acting like you're all jacked up onspeed while driving a getaway car, it doesn'tmatter WHAT you say.
Experts estimate that approximately 7% of yourcommunication is the words you use, and 93% isyour voice tone and body language.
In other words, the WORDS aren't very importantat all.
So, how do you get the voice tone and bodylanguage under control... and more importantly,your EMOTIONS?
Well, this is a simple and complex problem aswell.
Personally, I have found that understandingexactly how and why women feel sexual attractionfor men has DRAMATICALLY changed the way Iinteract with women.
If you DON'T understand this important process,you're just going to be "faking" it. If you DOunderstand it, you're going to be COMMUNICATINGdifferently, and communicating with a differentPART of the woman.
Keep educating yourself. My eBook and Video/audio programs will give you an amazing educationin this area, and can help transform your fear andhesitation into ACTION.
***QUESTION***
David,
I've got to say that your emails have been agreat help and your CD series is unstoppable! Inboth your emails and CD's you mention moviecharacters to study and model yourself after.Could write up a list of movies that you think areworth watching for the Cocky & Funny attitude.
Thanks Dave.
B. D. Chicago
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Some of my favorite scenes:
- Indiana Jones And The Temple Of Doom... theafter-dinner scene when they're in the bedroom.
- Top Gun... when he follows her into thebathroom.
- The newest James Bond flick... basicallyeverything.
- Gone With The Wind... the scene right afterScarlet and Ashley are alone in that library typeroom toward the beginning... when she throws thevase and then Rhett Butler stands up from behindthe couch and starts chatting with her.
- Also, listen to how Howard Stern and DavidLetterman mess with people CONSTANTLY. Greatstuff.
***QUESTION***
Dear David,
Amazing job with your e-book "Double your Dating",I finally understand why most of the girls I'vebeen with left me after less than a month. I hadthe natural humor, but it was mostly meant forgoofing off instead of being cocky.
My question is about kissing. From my dates, inthe second or third date, I would kiss the girlusing your tips (e.g. the hair) but I am notreally sure I am getting a good *job* into kissinga girl. Its not like I can leave a comment boxafter the date... do you have any suggestions on howto make a good and memorable kiss? You did saythat a first kiss with a girl is pretty much likefirst impressions ;)
- From one of your many loyal fans
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great question.
I'm going to share a little secret with you.
It's a secret that I talk about all the time...in my newsletters... my book... my seminars... myAdvanced Program.
The secret is ANTICIPATION.
Anticipation is such an important concept whenit comes to "getting physical" with a woman.
I believe that it's important to incorporate itinto every part of your interactions with awoman... really.
Now, if you really don't know how to kiss awoman, then I have a recommendation:
START SLOW, THEN MIRROR WHAT SHE DOES.
Here's how to mix this strategy withANTICIPATION.
Let's say that you decide it's time to kissher. You use the "Kiss Test", and she's enjoyingit... so you lean over to kiss her.
Just as you start to kiss her... when you firstfeel your lips touching hers... stop right there.Brush your lips back and forth on hers a littlebit... then pull away without actually kissingher.
Then smile at her.
You'll probably be sitting there thinking, "Whythe hell didn't I just kiss her?"
She'll probably be sitting there tingling allover, and feeling like she wants to jump on you.
Next, lean back. Talk a little more.
A few minutes later, touch her hair again.
Then lean over to kiss her again. This time, goVERY slowly... gently press your lips againsthers. Hold them there for a moment, and feel howshe responds.
If she kisses you the same way, then just stop,lean back, and relax again for a few minutes.
The next time you kiss her, open your mouthjust a little bit, and see if she does the same.
Do this a couple of times.
At some point, she will probably start"escalating" the kisses, because the anticipationis just too much for her.
At this point, stop her. Push her away, andsmile.
MORE ANTICIPATION.
Just keep mirroring how she's kissing you asthings get more and more intense. This is a greatway to "learn" how to kiss... and she'll enjoy it,because you'll be doing exactly what she likes!
By the way, if you'd like to learn how to bothSPARK and BUILD that magical thing that women call"chemistry" and "sexual tension," then it'simportant that you learn and MASTER the techniquethat I call "Cocky Comedy."
Before you can get into building PHYSICALanticipation and taking things to a PHYSICALlevel, you must trigger ATTRACTION inside ofher...
And Cocky Comedy is the one single techniquethat accomplishes this for you... and the bestpart is that you can do it with your COMMUNICATIONALONE.
No good looks, no buying dinners, and no givinglavish gifts required (in fact, these things canactually work against you).
And what's the best way to learn Cocky Comedy?
It's simple: Get yourself a copy of my newCocky Comedy CD/DVD program.
Listen as I and my guest teachers take you"behind the scenes"... and teach you the magictechnique that guys who are NATURALLY good withwomen use to create ATTRACTION.
It took me a massive amount of time and effortto even DISCOVER this technique... and then yearsto MASTER it...
And you can learn dozens and dozens of sure-fire lines and comebacks with just a few hours offun listening.
In fact, check out this email that I got from aguy who just got this program:
"Dear Double D,
Do you remember when you said that some guys "getit" in a week and others in a year or more? Well Iwas one of the "Year or More". Well two years,three months, and 24 hours later I finally "getit" and it happened right when I was about to giveup entirely.
Well let me give a little background on me. I wasthat 1 in every 3 guys that are below averagelooking, suffer from morbid obesity, 21,generosity is a good thing, mom's advice forpicking up women is the best, and always have adate every year or so. Now I AM that 1 in everythree guys that are below average looking, 21, andsuffer from morbid obesity. I did exactly what youtold me not to do. I just jumped in head firstinto the Advanced and Mastery programs, negatingall the signs saying I should go back to thebeginning. I thought to myself "Hey I can just usethe pick up lines and some of this other stuff andI'll be instantly successful with women." Thatdidn't work and I found my face getting very redand my shirt getting very wet from women'srejections.
I got your Cocky Comedy program a few days ago. Ilistened it back to back probably eleven times andI still wasn't getting it. Well, last Friday Itried again using the new lines I had learned butI still found my shirt wet. I got very upset. NowI am not talking hissy fit upset, I am talking"it's go time" upset. I decided to go and blow offsome steam. I had heard that a new coffee shop wasopening up. I thought why not can't hurt anythingmore. No more than about two minutes after meentering the shop, a feisty definite 10 redheadwalks in. I got up to try. I got behind her inline and looked at her thinking what could I say.She caught me looking and said "It's not polite tostare, you know." I snapped back with "Then whyare you staring." "I am not." she said. I thenmocked it, gave her the name Kid, then she wasputty in my hand. I asked for email and then said"You know you're probably just going to stare atmy picture the entire time online. Why don't yougive me you number as well?" She wrote it down andslammed the piece of paper in my hand. "There,happy. Now be here at 7:00 next week." I said "Noyou be at Starbucks at 7:30 next week. And I'llthink about joining you." "Think about it..?" shesaid in a kind of cooing voice. I said dominantly"Think about it!"
I never in all my life felt like that. And I couldnever have done this without your help thanksDouble D. I'll let you know how everything worksout.
Thanks in MS, DA"
>>>MY COMMENTS:
...lol, I guess that will teach him to startfrom the beginning and learn the basics first.
Anyway, this program will teach you the oneskill you can learn FAST... that will help youmeet more women and create more attraction NOW.
I'll even send it to you to check out for amonth with ZERO risk. I'm absolutely convincedthat it will help you succeed with more womenINSTANTLY.
If you don't like it, just send it back anddon't pay anything... NO JOKE.
All the details, plus some FANTASTIC sampleclips of the program are here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy
...Oh, and if you're reading this right now andyou haven't taken the time to download my onlineeBook "Double Your Dating," then you need to goand do that FIRST. You can download it and bereading it within just a couple of minutes. It'shere:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. To check out all of my programs in one handyplace, just follow this link...
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog
Anyway, the problem I'm having lately is I meetand flirt with a lot of women using c&f, but whenit comes time for things to get a little physical,they tell me they're waiting for marriage to doall that! WtF?! Is there a way around this kind ofa "defense" that women use on me oh so often?(Besides dumping their celibate asses.)
Name: D Location: Bufffalo, New York.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, this is just a guess, but maybe yourchallenges with women stem from the dark cloudaround your SOUL!
...ah-hem.
Dude, I can tell that you're attempting to befunny here, but it also sounds to me like you'vegot some anger issues that might need professionalattention.
OK, the way to "get around" the "I'm waitingfor marriage" defense is to stop acting like abitter WUSSY.
If women consistently tell you, "I'm waitingfor marriage before I get physical," it can onlymean one of two things:
1) You're shopping for women at the convent.
2) You're CAUSING the resistance you're getting.
Most guys don't realize this, but THEY are theones who cause women to resist and make excuses.
Really.
And by the way, don't EVER again say that youdon't like me, but you like my TOOL. That's notcool.
***QUESTION***
Dave- you da man! I just had a great experiencethat I feel merits an email to you. There's a veryupscale restaurant/bar at which you can even buycigars from their humidor. There's a piano playerthat plays jazzy tunes, and the place is prettyexpensive, quiet, with the aura of big moneypatrons. (I love cigars and jazz, which is why Iwanted to go there so badly.)
So, as I've always wanted to go there, and Ifinally mustered the courage to put on my bestsuit and tie (complete with cufflinks), so I'dlook the part, despite the fact that I'm not richlike the other patrons. The women there areusually in groups, and they wreak of old money.
I sat alone and nursed a martini for about 30minutes, while I scoped out the babes. I zeroedin on a tall, stunningly gorgeous blond. (I have aweakness for tall blonds.) I used the "Can Iborrow her for a minute?" trick, and it workedlike a charm! Then I teased her for havingfriends who would just let her go off with a totalstranger. Then I mixed a lot of listening with abit of c/f once she joined me at my table.
She told me she was hungry, so I told her I wasgetting hungry, too, and that I was about tobecome nasty if I didn't get something to eatsoon. Then I said, "You're not very attractive,but since I do happen to like that dress on you,I'll be a sport and let you buy me dinner justthis once." I couldn't believe I said that!!!! Iwas a little scared that she'd get pissed off andleave.
She ended up buying me an expensive dinner!!! PlusI got her phone number and email. I told her I doa lot of traveling (which I don't), but that I'dtry to remember to call her next time I was intown. She then asked me for my number and email!
I am still in shock. This girl looks like asupermodel, plus she's rich! I really want tocall her or email her, but I'm deliberatelywaiting, in order to give her the gift of missingme. And though it's only been a day since ithappened, I still think she'll contact me first.Should I wait for her to contact me or should Icontact her?
J
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... you're cracking me up over here.
While I don't recommend lying to women, I stillfind your story pretty funny.
Thanks for the email, and for affirming thatthese concepts we're talking about appealuniversally to women... rich and poor alike.
***SUCCESS STORY***
David,
Your book and newsletters are great and I TRULYappreciate them, so I won't waste time telling youabout that. I had a success story tonight that Ijust had to tell you about even though it's 4 inthe morning, I'm just that pumped. I just left afraternity party of mine, and there was this chickthere that has been hanging around the house andwith some of the other guys for a while (tall,thin, blonde hair, bout an 8.5). She was at theapartment we were partying at, and she sits downnext to me no the couch. I introduce her and havea little small talk, and she makes a comment thatone of the guys told her that I am a photographer(I work for a local newspaper full time) and thatshe wanted me to take some pictures of her so thatshe can get into modeling. I say, "So, you wantto be a parts model? You have some sexy toes?(you're good Dave). She says, "What, you don'tthink I'm hot?" I just kind of shrug that oneoff. She acts shocked and I just go on.Basically, all night I busted on her, looks andeverything, and she would act shocked at mycomments but I could tell she liked it (she's5'11, so when I leave to go to the bathroom orwhatever I tell her, "You're like 6'5, so ifanybody takes my seat you put them in a chokehold." Needless to say my seat never got takenwhen I told her). I couldn't believe it Dave, Iwould never have done this stuff before. She evenmade a comment that I was such an a**hole and noneof the guys had ever treated her like this. Iwould just smile and say "I know." She was eatingit up. I even told her at one point to go get MEanother beer. I was shocked when she said yes.Later I gave her a ride back to her dorm, and onthe way home she was talking about how she needsto quit hitting on guys, and told me about a gameshe plays at parties with her friends where theybet if they can get a guy to make out with them ina certain amount of time. I tell her I wouldn't,I'm not that easy. She's like, "Not even me?" AndI go on with the not easy part and she would atleast have to buy me dinner. Long story short Iget her number and she tells me to call her like 3times. Right before she gets out of the car Isay, "Can I kiss you?" She says yes, and I say,"Ok, I'll make sure to do that,"... She says ohright and leans in to kiss ME. I couldn't believeit Dave. I am on a high that no drug could evergive, and I have you to thank for it. This isprobably too long, but I had to tell you.
Thanks a million. K. in Texas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, what else is there to say?
There's really nothing like experiencing thisstuff in real life.
The first few times that you apply the materialand get women feeling ATTRACTION for you, areamazing.
You wonder why the hell you didn't figure itall out before.
Great job. You're the man. Thanks for thestory!
***COMMENT***
Hi Dave,
First off, not to sound like everyone else, butyour stuff rocks!!! With that being said I'd liketo offer a comment on J.M. from New Hampshire'spredicament.
J.M. said "What's the best way to deal with a girlcoming out and saying "oh, you're socute/funny/etc..."? Should I ignore it and keepthe c/f going? Should I address it in a cockyway?"
A couple of my favorite lines to use:
She: Your so cute. Me: If you want cute buy apuppy.
She: Your so funny. Me: Yeah, but looks aren'teverything.
It works great to down play her comments. Makefun of yourself, but don't draw too muchattention. Act disinterested in her comments andmove on with the conversation. Let's her know youreally are comfortable in your skin and she shouldreally be closer to that skin!!
Hittin Heavy in Iowa, (with no sheep, LOL) S.W.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Man, I don't even like sheep JOKES anymore.
You know, what I'm wondering is why they sellthose blow-up sheep DOLLS in the adult stores.What's the deal? Are they for guys that don't evenhave enough game to pick up a SHEEP?
OK, whatever.
These are great comebacks.
I personally don't use very much humor thatmakes fun of myself early on... but your stuff isgreat.
Thanks for the comments.
***QUESTION***
What's wrong with this letter. She works at BurgerKing and I handed it to her. She didnt talk to meanymore.
[The Letter]:
C,
I like you!
You have an electrifying gracious attitude atBurger King. You are leaving soon so lets chat onthe phone. Don't judge me by my lack ofconversation at the restaurant. I get a mentalblock at times. Let me know if your interested.OK.... Thank you
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What's wrong with this letter?
Well, other than the fact that it's the worstthing I've ever seen, nothing really.
"You have an electrifying and gracious attitudeat Burger King..."?!
Say what?
Dude, why didn't you just say, "I am a stalker,and every night when I go to sleep I can see youflipping Whoppers?"
You need the kind of help that only my ADVANCEDDATING TECHNIQUES program can give. Do not passgo, do not collect your two hundred dollars. GoIMMEDIATELY here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
...before it's too late.
***QUESTION***
Hey David,
I love reading your newsletters every time youmail them out, and I am going to buy your e-bookas soon as I get back from my vacation in NewYork. While I'm out there though, I'd like toknow one thing. I like the newsletters you mailout that deal with getting a girls number for thefirst time. But I can't get myself to get startedeven to that point. Yes, I know I'm really afraidof rejection and that makes me make up excuses asto why I won't come up to a girl.
I completely feel the way you say that I shouldcome up to a girl, talk to her for a minute, thensay something like "I have to get back to worknow," leave and then turn back and say "Hey, doyou have e-mail?" But my question is this: How doI get a girls attention to begin with? In otherwords, what do I say to her so that she will wantto talk to me for that minute you talk about? Idon't feel like saying "Excuse me, Hi... my nameis ..., do you work around here?" would be thebest solution for this. Do you?
Thanks for the newsletters because they are slowlybut surely making me grow some balls enough to getup and go talk to a girl!
CAT, San Francisco, CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, it's funny...
You're asking a question that every guy in theworld wants to know the answer to.
It's a simple answer... and it's a DAMN complexanswer at the same time.
One of the KEYS to approaching women you don'tknow is being able to do it as comfortably andnaturally as you call your mom.
If you get nervous, shaky, and freaked out thewoman will pick up on this... and it will make HERnervous.
You can walk up to a woman and say, "Hi, Idon't have time to talk, but if you're single I'dreally like to talk to you sometime... do you haveemail?"... and if you do it in a calm, comfortableway, you can get a HIGH percentage of women togive you their info right there on the spot withno conversation needed.
On the other hand, if you're freaked out,nervous, and acting like you're all jacked up onspeed while driving a getaway car, it doesn'tmatter WHAT you say.
Experts estimate that approximately 7% of yourcommunication is the words you use, and 93% isyour voice tone and body language.
In other words, the WORDS aren't very importantat all.
So, how do you get the voice tone and bodylanguage under control... and more importantly,your EMOTIONS?
Well, this is a simple and complex problem aswell.
Personally, I have found that understandingexactly how and why women feel sexual attractionfor men has DRAMATICALLY changed the way Iinteract with women.
If you DON'T understand this important process,you're just going to be "faking" it. If you DOunderstand it, you're going to be COMMUNICATINGdifferently, and communicating with a differentPART of the woman.
Keep educating yourself. My eBook and Video/audio programs will give you an amazing educationin this area, and can help transform your fear andhesitation into ACTION.
***QUESTION***
David,
I've got to say that your emails have been agreat help and your CD series is unstoppable! Inboth your emails and CD's you mention moviecharacters to study and model yourself after.Could write up a list of movies that you think areworth watching for the Cocky & Funny attitude.
Thanks Dave.
B. D. Chicago
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Some of my favorite scenes:
- Indiana Jones And The Temple Of Doom... theafter-dinner scene when they're in the bedroom.
- Top Gun... when he follows her into thebathroom.
- The newest James Bond flick... basicallyeverything.
- Gone With The Wind... the scene right afterScarlet and Ashley are alone in that library typeroom toward the beginning... when she throws thevase and then Rhett Butler stands up from behindthe couch and starts chatting with her.
- Also, listen to how Howard Stern and DavidLetterman mess with people CONSTANTLY. Greatstuff.
***QUESTION***
Dear David,
Amazing job with your e-book "Double your Dating",I finally understand why most of the girls I'vebeen with left me after less than a month. I hadthe natural humor, but it was mostly meant forgoofing off instead of being cocky.
My question is about kissing. From my dates, inthe second or third date, I would kiss the girlusing your tips (e.g. the hair) but I am notreally sure I am getting a good *job* into kissinga girl. Its not like I can leave a comment boxafter the date... do you have any suggestions on howto make a good and memorable kiss? You did saythat a first kiss with a girl is pretty much likefirst impressions ;)
- From one of your many loyal fans
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great question.
I'm going to share a little secret with you.
It's a secret that I talk about all the time...in my newsletters... my book... my seminars... myAdvanced Program.
The secret is ANTICIPATION.
Anticipation is such an important concept whenit comes to "getting physical" with a woman.
I believe that it's important to incorporate itinto every part of your interactions with awoman... really.
Now, if you really don't know how to kiss awoman, then I have a recommendation:
START SLOW, THEN MIRROR WHAT SHE DOES.
Here's how to mix this strategy withANTICIPATION.
Let's say that you decide it's time to kissher. You use the "Kiss Test", and she's enjoyingit... so you lean over to kiss her.
Just as you start to kiss her... when you firstfeel your lips touching hers... stop right there.Brush your lips back and forth on hers a littlebit... then pull away without actually kissingher.
Then smile at her.
You'll probably be sitting there thinking, "Whythe hell didn't I just kiss her?"
She'll probably be sitting there tingling allover, and feeling like she wants to jump on you.
Next, lean back. Talk a little more.
A few minutes later, touch her hair again.
Then lean over to kiss her again. This time, goVERY slowly... gently press your lips againsthers. Hold them there for a moment, and feel howshe responds.
If she kisses you the same way, then just stop,lean back, and relax again for a few minutes.
The next time you kiss her, open your mouthjust a little bit, and see if she does the same.
Do this a couple of times.
At some point, she will probably start"escalating" the kisses, because the anticipationis just too much for her.
At this point, stop her. Push her away, andsmile.
MORE ANTICIPATION.
Just keep mirroring how she's kissing you asthings get more and more intense. This is a greatway to "learn" how to kiss... and she'll enjoy it,because you'll be doing exactly what she likes!
By the way, if you'd like to learn how to bothSPARK and BUILD that magical thing that women call"chemistry" and "sexual tension," then it'simportant that you learn and MASTER the techniquethat I call "Cocky Comedy."
Before you can get into building PHYSICALanticipation and taking things to a PHYSICALlevel, you must trigger ATTRACTION inside ofher...
And Cocky Comedy is the one single techniquethat accomplishes this for you... and the bestpart is that you can do it with your COMMUNICATIONALONE.
No good looks, no buying dinners, and no givinglavish gifts required (in fact, these things canactually work against you).
And what's the best way to learn Cocky Comedy?
It's simple: Get yourself a copy of my newCocky Comedy CD/DVD program.
Listen as I and my guest teachers take you"behind the scenes"... and teach you the magictechnique that guys who are NATURALLY good withwomen use to create ATTRACTION.
It took me a massive amount of time and effortto even DISCOVER this technique... and then yearsto MASTER it...
And you can learn dozens and dozens of sure-fire lines and comebacks with just a few hours offun listening.
In fact, check out this email that I got from aguy who just got this program:
"Dear Double D,
Do you remember when you said that some guys "getit" in a week and others in a year or more? Well Iwas one of the "Year or More". Well two years,three months, and 24 hours later I finally "getit" and it happened right when I was about to giveup entirely.
Well let me give a little background on me. I wasthat 1 in every 3 guys that are below averagelooking, suffer from morbid obesity, 21,generosity is a good thing, mom's advice forpicking up women is the best, and always have adate every year or so. Now I AM that 1 in everythree guys that are below average looking, 21, andsuffer from morbid obesity. I did exactly what youtold me not to do. I just jumped in head firstinto the Advanced and Mastery programs, negatingall the signs saying I should go back to thebeginning. I thought to myself "Hey I can just usethe pick up lines and some of this other stuff andI'll be instantly successful with women." Thatdidn't work and I found my face getting very redand my shirt getting very wet from women'srejections.
I got your Cocky Comedy program a few days ago. Ilistened it back to back probably eleven times andI still wasn't getting it. Well, last Friday Itried again using the new lines I had learned butI still found my shirt wet. I got very upset. NowI am not talking hissy fit upset, I am talking"it's go time" upset. I decided to go and blow offsome steam. I had heard that a new coffee shop wasopening up. I thought why not can't hurt anythingmore. No more than about two minutes after meentering the shop, a feisty definite 10 redheadwalks in. I got up to try. I got behind her inline and looked at her thinking what could I say.She caught me looking and said "It's not polite tostare, you know." I snapped back with "Then whyare you staring." "I am not." she said. I thenmocked it, gave her the name Kid, then she wasputty in my hand. I asked for email and then said"You know you're probably just going to stare atmy picture the entire time online. Why don't yougive me you number as well?" She wrote it down andslammed the piece of paper in my hand. "There,happy. Now be here at 7:00 next week." I said "Noyou be at Starbucks at 7:30 next week. And I'llthink about joining you." "Think about it..?" shesaid in a kind of cooing voice. I said dominantly"Think about it!"
I never in all my life felt like that. And I couldnever have done this without your help thanksDouble D. I'll let you know how everything worksout.
Thanks in MS, DA"
>>>MY COMMENTS:
...lol, I guess that will teach him to startfrom the beginning and learn the basics first.
Anyway, this program will teach you the oneskill you can learn FAST... that will help youmeet more women and create more attraction NOW.
I'll even send it to you to check out for amonth with ZERO risk. I'm absolutely convincedthat it will help you succeed with more womenINSTANTLY.
If you don't like it, just send it back anddon't pay anything... NO JOKE.
All the details, plus some FANTASTIC sampleclips of the program are here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy
...Oh, and if you're reading this right now andyou haven't taken the time to download my onlineeBook "Double Your Dating," then you need to goand do that FIRST. You can download it and bereading it within just a couple of minutes. It'shere:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. To check out all of my programs in one handyplace, just follow this link...
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog
Saturday, April 12, 2008
Kissing Women And Using Humor
>>>IMPORTANT: Now you can check out all of mydifferent programs in one place. Just go here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog
***QUESTION FROM A READER***
Hey Dave!
I am an avid reader of your newsletters andmailbags ...this stuff literally blew me away. Ialso have your e-book. I had never seen or readany other "dating expert" use the word"attraction"...period! They never mention it inanything they write yet it is the MOST IMPORTANTthing that determines your success with women. Outof literally dozens of articles and e-books fromso-called "dating pros", the word "attraction"just doesn't ever come up! I even read in one e-book that to attract women you need to get agolden tan. I was like: "What the hell? That's notthe key to attracting women you dummy! Besides,what if you cant tan?!!"
When attraction is imminent, women try to be withyou and chase you. If attraction is not there,they make up excuses and try to avoid you. This isso simple... yet so easy to understand but manyguys who haven't read your eBook miss this vitalpoint and thus waste time on women that aren'tinterested! Attraction is EVERYTHING! That is whyanyone reading this that hasn't bought your e-bookor your Advanced CD series should do itIMMEDIATELY! It's definitely worth the investment.In fact it will pay you back over the rest of yourlife because you will be so much better withwomen! Don't pay hundreds of dollars or waste timeon the other material that's out there...buyDave's materials! Ok, Dave, I'm sure your head hasgrown 10 times as big now and since I'm notgetting paid for making you a few extra sales, soI'll quit now! But really, buy the stuff...it'sexcellent! It's things in there you have neverheard of before that is so critical to yourfailure or success with women!
Anyhow, that was my insight on how great yourmaterial is...now I have a question aboutsomething I read in your mailbag previously thatreally stood out to me. It was the one about theguy who said "Can I kiss you" to a woman that wasgetting out of the car as he dropped her off. Ithought saying "Can I kiss you?" was wussifiedbehavior? That didn't sound like something you cansay without looking like a needy dork but the guysaid it worked for him and he got the kiss anyhow.Did I miss something here? Explain that Dave.Also, have you learned of any other "Kiss Tests"like the one on your site?
GT from Nashville
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, thanks for the shameless advertisementfor my ebook and Advanced Series. I'm glad you'rehaving success with the material.
I'd like to comment on your observation thatthere's no one teaching guys about ATTRACTION...
I noticed this exact same thing when I wasfirst learning about how to meet and date women.
It took me probably two years of trying thingsbefore I finally realized that there was somethingelse going on with women that NO ONE was talkingabout. Finally, I realized that this magicsomething was an EMOTION.
Women don't meet men and say to themselves"Well, he's my physical type, he has a good job,he dresses himself pretty well, and he looks likehe's good in bed... I think I'll TURN ON MYATTRACTION for him..."
No way.
There's something that happens to a woman,usually in an INSTANT, that sparks the "Chemistry"or "Sexual Tension" or "Attraction." And then, ifthe man knows how to build that tension andAMPLIFY the EMOTION called ATTRACTION that thewoman is feeling, there's a very good chance thatthey will get together.
If, on the other hand, a man does NOTunderstand this simple fact, and more importantly,how ATTRACTION works, then no magic technique inthe world will work consistently for him.
I've learned that ATTRACTION is EVERYTHING.
SO WHY HASN'T ANYONE FIGURED THIS OUT?
Well, I have a theory about that, too.
In a nutshell, I think that because men aresexually attracted primarily to LOOKS, they justASSUME that women must be the same way. We guysjust simply never take the time and energy tofigure out what women are actually attracted to...so we act like failures with women... and theytreat us like failures.
And many of the guys I DO know who are goodwith women don't realize WHY what they do works sowell. They just do what they do, and women areattracted to them. Most of them haven't taken thetime to figure out that what they're doing istriggering the powerful emotion called ATTRACTIONinside of women.
To finish my thought on this, you're right.
No one talks about ATTRACTION... and that's aproblem, because if you don't "get" attraction,then it's going to be hard to "get" women to beinterested in you.
Now, you asked a question at the end of youremail.
You wanted to know if the guy who asked, "Can Ikiss you?" was being a Wuss.
OK, I'm about to share a VERY, VERY powerfultool to use when you're interacting with women...
*** Before I share this secret, I want to mentionthat if you want to get a SERIOUS education on thetopic of attraction, check out my eBook"Attraction Isn't A Choice." You can download itright here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook
When I tell you what it is, you're probablygoing to say, "That doesn't sound important"...but IT IS.
Trust me on this one.
When you asked your question in the way thatyou asked it, you indicated to me that you MISSEDWHAT WAS GOING ON. You missed the point of thequestion.
One of the things I tell guys to do is TEASEwomen.
Teasing can mean one of a couple of things.
Teasing can mean starting to kiss her, thenstopping, starting, then stopping... over and overagain. In this context it's usually considered agood, pleasurable thing.
For instance, if you kiss a woman gently, thenpull away... then do it again... then again... andyou can tell that she wants more, but you're notgiving it to her, you're teasing her.
Also, teasing can mean "poking fun".
An example would be saying, "Wow, those aresome tall shoes. What, are you like three feettall without them?"
Think of how you used to tease girls on theschool playground when you were a kid.
That's a different kind of teasing.
Now, BOTH kinds of teasing are great to usewith women who you have a romantic interest in...
Let's talk about the "Can I kiss you?" examplefor a minute.
As you might remember, it went something likethis:
He waited for a moment when it was clear to himthat it would be OK to kiss her. She wanted it.Then he said...
Him: "Can I kiss you?" Her: "Yes" Him: "OK, I'llmake sure to do that."
At this point, she said "Right"... and leaned into kiss HIM!
What happened here?
What happened was a little bit of GENIUS.That's what happened.
He was TEASING HER. He was doing somethingthat, at first glance was kind of Wuss/Nice Guything to do. But remember, he had so much momentumbuilt up, that this little "slip" was perceived byher as OK. In fact, he had so much momentum andATTRACTION built up that she WANTED IT.
He says, "Can I kiss you?", she says, "Yes",then he TEASES her by saying, "OK, I'll make sureto do that."
Yeah!
In that moment, she realizes that his Wussbehavior was actually a JOKE, and that he wasactually MESSING with her and teasing her.
And at that point she leaned over and kissedHIM.
Now, let me share something that I made up thatI have used with women on many occasions...
Let's say I'm out and I meet a girl walkingdown the street, and I get her email and phonenumber.
We send a couple of emails back and forth, thenwe get on the phone.
Because I'm always teasing and busting balls, IKNOW that she's enjoying it and interested inme... so in that first phone conversation I'llsay:
Me: "You know, I was telling my mom about youtoday" Her: "Really?" Me: "NO, you dork! Why would I tell my MOM about you?Get over yourself!"
Are you with me?
Remember, I'm being charming, Cocky, Funny, andunpredictable from the start... and I KNOW thatshe's enjoying it. The tension is building, evenas we have our first phone conversation.
So I then say something that just plain doesn'tfit ("I was telling my mom about you today?"). Shesays, "Really?" in a half flattered/half surprisedway, wondering what's going on.
I then pause to build up the suspense.
As the pause is happening, and she's startingto think to herself, "Uh oh, he really likes me",I drop the "No, you dork! Why would I tell my MOMabout you? Get over yourself!" line.
It's funny, confusing, and a HUGE tease.
It usually gets a huge laugh... and itcommunicates that I not only "get" what's goingon, but I'm so confident that I'll tease her aboutit.
Now, this is what you might call an "advanced"move.
If you don't know how to tell if a woman isattracted to you, how to spark attraction, how toamplify the attraction, and how to move from onestep to the next, you're just going to sound likea dumb ass when you say something like this...because you'll say it at the wrong time, or you'llsay it to a woman who isn't very interested inyou... which will make things WORSE instead ofbetter.
I hope you hear what I'm saying.
One of the GREATEST things you can learn is howto use SUBTLE humor with women to IMPLY whatyou're thinking without actually SAYING itdirectly.
As I say in my ebook, "Double Your Dating" andin my Advanced CD/DVD Program, men take thingsliterally and women are always interpreting...they're always trying to figure out whateverything you're saying and doing "REALLY MEANS".
Communicating with women on a "sexual" level isa skill that you must learn and develop... andthankfully ANY man can learn how.
Once you learn this new "language," you'llstart to experience women in a whole new way.You'll be sending and receiving signals in alanguage that you never even knew about.
And it's FUN!
And the best part is that WOMEN WILL REALLYAPPRECIATE and ENJOY the fact that you actuallyknow how to communicate with them.
You need to go back through these materials andpay attention to the SUBTLE things that I'msaying, and start to really pay attention to thedetails of how you communicate with women. Youwon't believe how much fun you can have.
And if you haven't yet invested in my eBook andAdvanced CD/DVD series, then you need to do that.Both come with a "stupid-proof" guarantee... tryBEFORE you buy... and both take your datingsuccess through the roof.
You will not find a better education on womenand dating ANYWHERE... at ANY price.
The eBook is here for download:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
The Advanced Dating Techniques Program is here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
I'll talk to you again soon!
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. Don't forget to check out all of my differentprograms in my online catalog. You can see themall, plus watch video clips of every one of themright here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog
***QUESTION FROM A READER***
Hey Dave!
I am an avid reader of your newsletters andmailbags ...this stuff literally blew me away. Ialso have your e-book. I had never seen or readany other "dating expert" use the word"attraction"...period! They never mention it inanything they write yet it is the MOST IMPORTANTthing that determines your success with women. Outof literally dozens of articles and e-books fromso-called "dating pros", the word "attraction"just doesn't ever come up! I even read in one e-book that to attract women you need to get agolden tan. I was like: "What the hell? That's notthe key to attracting women you dummy! Besides,what if you cant tan?!!"
When attraction is imminent, women try to be withyou and chase you. If attraction is not there,they make up excuses and try to avoid you. This isso simple... yet so easy to understand but manyguys who haven't read your eBook miss this vitalpoint and thus waste time on women that aren'tinterested! Attraction is EVERYTHING! That is whyanyone reading this that hasn't bought your e-bookor your Advanced CD series should do itIMMEDIATELY! It's definitely worth the investment.In fact it will pay you back over the rest of yourlife because you will be so much better withwomen! Don't pay hundreds of dollars or waste timeon the other material that's out there...buyDave's materials! Ok, Dave, I'm sure your head hasgrown 10 times as big now and since I'm notgetting paid for making you a few extra sales, soI'll quit now! But really, buy the stuff...it'sexcellent! It's things in there you have neverheard of before that is so critical to yourfailure or success with women!
Anyhow, that was my insight on how great yourmaterial is...now I have a question aboutsomething I read in your mailbag previously thatreally stood out to me. It was the one about theguy who said "Can I kiss you" to a woman that wasgetting out of the car as he dropped her off. Ithought saying "Can I kiss you?" was wussifiedbehavior? That didn't sound like something you cansay without looking like a needy dork but the guysaid it worked for him and he got the kiss anyhow.Did I miss something here? Explain that Dave.Also, have you learned of any other "Kiss Tests"like the one on your site?
GT from Nashville
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, thanks for the shameless advertisementfor my ebook and Advanced Series. I'm glad you'rehaving success with the material.
I'd like to comment on your observation thatthere's no one teaching guys about ATTRACTION...
I noticed this exact same thing when I wasfirst learning about how to meet and date women.
It took me probably two years of trying thingsbefore I finally realized that there was somethingelse going on with women that NO ONE was talkingabout. Finally, I realized that this magicsomething was an EMOTION.
Women don't meet men and say to themselves"Well, he's my physical type, he has a good job,he dresses himself pretty well, and he looks likehe's good in bed... I think I'll TURN ON MYATTRACTION for him..."
No way.
There's something that happens to a woman,usually in an INSTANT, that sparks the "Chemistry"or "Sexual Tension" or "Attraction." And then, ifthe man knows how to build that tension andAMPLIFY the EMOTION called ATTRACTION that thewoman is feeling, there's a very good chance thatthey will get together.
If, on the other hand, a man does NOTunderstand this simple fact, and more importantly,how ATTRACTION works, then no magic technique inthe world will work consistently for him.
I've learned that ATTRACTION is EVERYTHING.
SO WHY HASN'T ANYONE FIGURED THIS OUT?
Well, I have a theory about that, too.
In a nutshell, I think that because men aresexually attracted primarily to LOOKS, they justASSUME that women must be the same way. We guysjust simply never take the time and energy tofigure out what women are actually attracted to...so we act like failures with women... and theytreat us like failures.
And many of the guys I DO know who are goodwith women don't realize WHY what they do works sowell. They just do what they do, and women areattracted to them. Most of them haven't taken thetime to figure out that what they're doing istriggering the powerful emotion called ATTRACTIONinside of women.
To finish my thought on this, you're right.
No one talks about ATTRACTION... and that's aproblem, because if you don't "get" attraction,then it's going to be hard to "get" women to beinterested in you.
Now, you asked a question at the end of youremail.
You wanted to know if the guy who asked, "Can Ikiss you?" was being a Wuss.
OK, I'm about to share a VERY, VERY powerfultool to use when you're interacting with women...
*** Before I share this secret, I want to mentionthat if you want to get a SERIOUS education on thetopic of attraction, check out my eBook"Attraction Isn't A Choice." You can download itright here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook
When I tell you what it is, you're probablygoing to say, "That doesn't sound important"...but IT IS.
Trust me on this one.
When you asked your question in the way thatyou asked it, you indicated to me that you MISSEDWHAT WAS GOING ON. You missed the point of thequestion.
One of the things I tell guys to do is TEASEwomen.
Teasing can mean one of a couple of things.
Teasing can mean starting to kiss her, thenstopping, starting, then stopping... over and overagain. In this context it's usually considered agood, pleasurable thing.
For instance, if you kiss a woman gently, thenpull away... then do it again... then again... andyou can tell that she wants more, but you're notgiving it to her, you're teasing her.
Also, teasing can mean "poking fun".
An example would be saying, "Wow, those aresome tall shoes. What, are you like three feettall without them?"
Think of how you used to tease girls on theschool playground when you were a kid.
That's a different kind of teasing.
Now, BOTH kinds of teasing are great to usewith women who you have a romantic interest in...
Let's talk about the "Can I kiss you?" examplefor a minute.
As you might remember, it went something likethis:
He waited for a moment when it was clear to himthat it would be OK to kiss her. She wanted it.Then he said...
Him: "Can I kiss you?" Her: "Yes" Him: "OK, I'llmake sure to do that."
At this point, she said "Right"... and leaned into kiss HIM!
What happened here?
What happened was a little bit of GENIUS.That's what happened.
He was TEASING HER. He was doing somethingthat, at first glance was kind of Wuss/Nice Guything to do. But remember, he had so much momentumbuilt up, that this little "slip" was perceived byher as OK. In fact, he had so much momentum andATTRACTION built up that she WANTED IT.
He says, "Can I kiss you?", she says, "Yes",then he TEASES her by saying, "OK, I'll make sureto do that."
Yeah!
In that moment, she realizes that his Wussbehavior was actually a JOKE, and that he wasactually MESSING with her and teasing her.
And at that point she leaned over and kissedHIM.
Now, let me share something that I made up thatI have used with women on many occasions...
Let's say I'm out and I meet a girl walkingdown the street, and I get her email and phonenumber.
We send a couple of emails back and forth, thenwe get on the phone.
Because I'm always teasing and busting balls, IKNOW that she's enjoying it and interested inme... so in that first phone conversation I'llsay:
Me: "You know, I was telling my mom about youtoday" Her: "Really?" Me: "NO, you dork! Why would I tell my MOM about you?Get over yourself!"
Are you with me?
Remember, I'm being charming, Cocky, Funny, andunpredictable from the start... and I KNOW thatshe's enjoying it. The tension is building, evenas we have our first phone conversation.
So I then say something that just plain doesn'tfit ("I was telling my mom about you today?"). Shesays, "Really?" in a half flattered/half surprisedway, wondering what's going on.
I then pause to build up the suspense.
As the pause is happening, and she's startingto think to herself, "Uh oh, he really likes me",I drop the "No, you dork! Why would I tell my MOMabout you? Get over yourself!" line.
It's funny, confusing, and a HUGE tease.
It usually gets a huge laugh... and itcommunicates that I not only "get" what's goingon, but I'm so confident that I'll tease her aboutit.
Now, this is what you might call an "advanced"move.
If you don't know how to tell if a woman isattracted to you, how to spark attraction, how toamplify the attraction, and how to move from onestep to the next, you're just going to sound likea dumb ass when you say something like this...because you'll say it at the wrong time, or you'llsay it to a woman who isn't very interested inyou... which will make things WORSE instead ofbetter.
I hope you hear what I'm saying.
One of the GREATEST things you can learn is howto use SUBTLE humor with women to IMPLY whatyou're thinking without actually SAYING itdirectly.
As I say in my ebook, "Double Your Dating" andin my Advanced CD/DVD Program, men take thingsliterally and women are always interpreting...they're always trying to figure out whateverything you're saying and doing "REALLY MEANS".
Communicating with women on a "sexual" level isa skill that you must learn and develop... andthankfully ANY man can learn how.
Once you learn this new "language," you'llstart to experience women in a whole new way.You'll be sending and receiving signals in alanguage that you never even knew about.
And it's FUN!
And the best part is that WOMEN WILL REALLYAPPRECIATE and ENJOY the fact that you actuallyknow how to communicate with them.
You need to go back through these materials andpay attention to the SUBTLE things that I'msaying, and start to really pay attention to thedetails of how you communicate with women. Youwon't believe how much fun you can have.
And if you haven't yet invested in my eBook andAdvanced CD/DVD series, then you need to do that.Both come with a "stupid-proof" guarantee... tryBEFORE you buy... and both take your datingsuccess through the roof.
You will not find a better education on womenand dating ANYWHERE... at ANY price.
The eBook is here for download:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
The Advanced Dating Techniques Program is here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
I'll talk to you again soon!
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. Don't forget to check out all of my differentprograms in my online catalog. You can see themall, plus watch video clips of every one of themright here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Catalog
Thursday, April 10, 2008
77 ways to attract women
Have you heard of that popular women's book called, "The Rules?"
Just in case you haven't, it's a book written in the 90's by 2 women that contains 10 controversial "rules" women should follow if they want to capture the heart of the man they want.
While I don't agree with all of the rules theauthors suggest women follow, it makes for an interesting read, that's for sure.
Let me get to the point:
Since the release of that book, many have tried to ride the wave of fame by creating similar books of rules for MEN to follow.
Several of these books were released around thetime I was first trying to learn how to besuccessful with women and dating... and as you canguess, I read them ALL.
As you can also guess... most of the "rules" just plain SUCKED.
These books contained rules like...
- "Never bring a woman roses until the 3rd date"
- "Open all doors for a woman, and order for herwhen you're on a date"
- "Be sure to talk about your mother in a positive way"
Now... I'm not saying you should talk bad aboutyour mama... and I am a big believer in being chivalrous and treating a woman like a lady... buthere's my problem with these so-called "rules":
None of them have ANYTHING to do with actuallyCREATING ATTRACTION.
If you don't spark ATTRACTION in a woman *very*soon upon meeting her, she'll be falling asleep when you are saying those nice things about yourmom, you'll only get to open doors for her ONCE...and you sure as hell won't make it to the "rose date"...
Get it?
So... is there a set of "rules" you can followthat guarantee you will create ATTRACTION in thewomen that you meet?
Fortunately now, the answer is YES.
Several months ago I released what might be myfinal program on how to meet and attract women, and it's called, "77 Laws Of Success With WomenAnd Dating":
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/77Laws
This program is a compilation of the biggestand most important lessons I've learned over thelast 10 years of learning how to attract women formyself, and over the last 5+ years of teachingother men to do the same.
If you're new to my materials, this programwill give you an eye-opening JUMPSTART into the world of what REALLY works with women in a VERYshort amount of time.
It's the best of my 10 years of research inthis area, put together in a condensed, rapid firemanner that is designed to teach you ONLY what youneed to succeed with the women you want.
No B.S. and no filler.
If you're familiar with my materials, use thisprogram as a refresher to pound to the mostimportant lessons in your head... and keep yourgame on track.
I'm very proud of this program, and I am confident you'll get INSTANT RESULTS by goingthrough it, no matter what stage of the game youare in with the ladies.
Get it here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/77Laws
Like all of my programs, it comes with my "trybefore you buy" 100% money back guarantee.
Click that link and grab it now. You'll be gladyou did.
Talk soon,
David D.
P.S. I've uploaded a 7-minute video preview of theprogram for you here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/77Laws
Check it out... --------------------------------------------------
Just in case you haven't, it's a book written in the 90's by 2 women that contains 10 controversial "rules" women should follow if they want to capture the heart of the man they want.
While I don't agree with all of the rules theauthors suggest women follow, it makes for an interesting read, that's for sure.
Let me get to the point:
Since the release of that book, many have tried to ride the wave of fame by creating similar books of rules for MEN to follow.
Several of these books were released around thetime I was first trying to learn how to besuccessful with women and dating... and as you canguess, I read them ALL.
As you can also guess... most of the "rules" just plain SUCKED.
These books contained rules like...
- "Never bring a woman roses until the 3rd date"
- "Open all doors for a woman, and order for herwhen you're on a date"
- "Be sure to talk about your mother in a positive way"
Now... I'm not saying you should talk bad aboutyour mama... and I am a big believer in being chivalrous and treating a woman like a lady... buthere's my problem with these so-called "rules":
None of them have ANYTHING to do with actuallyCREATING ATTRACTION.
If you don't spark ATTRACTION in a woman *very*soon upon meeting her, she'll be falling asleep when you are saying those nice things about yourmom, you'll only get to open doors for her ONCE...and you sure as hell won't make it to the "rose date"...
Get it?
So... is there a set of "rules" you can followthat guarantee you will create ATTRACTION in thewomen that you meet?
Fortunately now, the answer is YES.
Several months ago I released what might be myfinal program on how to meet and attract women, and it's called, "77 Laws Of Success With WomenAnd Dating":
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/77Laws
This program is a compilation of the biggestand most important lessons I've learned over thelast 10 years of learning how to attract women formyself, and over the last 5+ years of teachingother men to do the same.
If you're new to my materials, this programwill give you an eye-opening JUMPSTART into the world of what REALLY works with women in a VERYshort amount of time.
It's the best of my 10 years of research inthis area, put together in a condensed, rapid firemanner that is designed to teach you ONLY what youneed to succeed with the women you want.
No B.S. and no filler.
If you're familiar with my materials, use thisprogram as a refresher to pound to the mostimportant lessons in your head... and keep yourgame on track.
I'm very proud of this program, and I am confident you'll get INSTANT RESULTS by goingthrough it, no matter what stage of the game youare in with the ladies.
Get it here:
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Like all of my programs, it comes with my "trybefore you buy" 100% money back guarantee.
Click that link and grab it now. You'll be gladyou did.
Talk soon,
David D.
P.S. I've uploaded a 7-minute video preview of theprogram for you here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/77Laws
Check it out... --------------------------------------------------
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