have u failed the romantic test thrown at u

If you find yourself "failing" the tests that women throw at you, then the problem is probably worse than you think. If you've foundyourself getting upset when a woman flakes out on you... or not knowing what to do when a woman challenges you... then you should take a few minutes and look at THIS right now:
On Being A Man
"WHY WOMEN TEST MEN, AND WHAT TO DO WHEN ITHAPPENS TO YOU..."
Women test men.
That's the reality of the situation.
Women test men RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING, andthey keep on testing FOREVER.
If you don't know how to deal with the teststhat women throw at you, you have VERY LITTLEchance of improving your success in the datingworld.
HOW DO WOMEN TEST MEN?
For most guys, the concept of a woman "testing"them seems a little strange.
Why would a woman WANT to test a man?
What could she possibly gain from it?
The answer: A LOT.
By testing a man, a woman can learn THE MOSTIMPORTANT thing about him...
And I'll share what that is a little bit lateron in this newsletter.
TEST: A DEFINITION
So I was thinking about this particular topictoday, and I realized that I've never looked upthe definition of the word "test".
When I did, here's what I found:
1. A procedure for critical evaluation; a means ofdetermining the presence, quality, or truth ofsomething; a trial: a test of one's eyesight;subjecting a hypothesis to a test; a test of anathlete's endurance.
2. A series of questions, problems, or physicalresponses designed to determine knowledge,intelligence, or ability.
3. A basis for evaluation or judgment: "A test ofdemocratic government is how Congress and thepresident work together" (Haynes Johnson).
OK, so take a moment and read those again.
The purpose of a test is to figure somethingout. It's a way of getting "true" informationabout something.
So back to my earlier question... Why do womentest men in the first place?
BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO.
If you walk up to a man and say "Hey, how muchmoney do you make?" he can LIE.
If you ask him if he is good in bed, he canLIE.
If you ask him if he's strong enough to dealwith the challenges of life, support a family, andreach his goals, he can LIE.
Are you with me here?
In other words, if you get to the end of one ofyour college courses, the teacher COULD just askyou if you have a comprehensive understanding ofthe material you learned during the course.
But you could LIE.
So the teacher gives you a TEST to see if youREALLY know what's going on.
Well, in the same way that teachers teststudents, women test MEN.
And that means YOU, Sparky.
But there's one LITTLE TEENSY WEENSY differencebetween the kinds of tests that women give you andthe kinds of tests that teachers give you...
Women don't tell you first... that they'regoing to test you!
And they don't teach you what you need to knowBEFORE they test you.
They just do it.
Right when they meet you.
Within the first few seconds, actually.
Why?
Because women don't have the TIME to deal withall the guys who are interested in them.
And they're not interested in getting togetherwith a man who doesn't "get it" in the firstplace.
Beautiful women aren't looking for a guy toTRAIN.
And the tests don't stop... by the way.
If you meet an attractive, interesting,emotionally healthy woman, you can expect to betested until either:
1) The relationship ends.
2) You or she DIES.
WHAT WOMEN ARE TESTING FOR
Now, women will test men for ALL KINDS ofthings.
Some women will test to see if you have money.
Some will test to see if you'll SPEND yourmoney on them.
Some will test to see if you're intelligent.
And some will test to see if you're loyal.
But BY FAR, in my experience, more women willtest you initially to see if you're a WUSSY!
That's right...
The VERY FIRST thing a woman wants to "know"about you is whether or not you're a submissive,ass-kissing boy who has no balls.
And if you ARE, then you might as well throw inthe towel.
If you are a Wussy, and you fail the "WussyTests" that she throws at you, then you stand verylittle chance succeeding with the woman who istesting you.
Of course, MOST men fail with MOST women...MOST of the time.
As a side note:
There is one exception to this rule.
If you act like a Wussy, but you're willing topursue a woman for a few YEARS, and deal with theidea that you have about a 1 in 100 chance, thenyou MIGHT be able to convince her to marry you.
But like I said, the chances are VERY slim, andthe effort required just isn't worth it.
There is a FAR better way...
THESE TESTS ARE VERY SUBTLE
Probably the most interesting thing about testsfrom women is that they're not OBVIOUS.
At least not to most men.
In fact, I'd say that 99% of all the tests thatwomen use on men FLY BELOW RADAR.
They're right out in the open, obvious to otherwomen (and a few men), but for the most part, theygo COMPLETELY UNDETECTED.
For instance, let's say that you're standing ata bar talking to some friends, and you make eyecontact with the cute girl standing six feet awayfrom you.
What do most guys do?
They look away.
And they do it FAST.
Of course, most guys will LOOK AGAIN within afew seconds.
But it's already too late.
TEST FAILED.
Here's another...
Let's say you're at a bar talking to a girl,and she says "Hey, buy me a drink".
You say "Great, what do you want?".
Guess what?
She just told you what to do, and you went forit without a second thought.
Or maybe you've started a conversation with agroup of girls at a coffee shop.
One of them says that she doesn't like yourshoes.
You say "Oh, well I wasn't planning on seeinganyone important today... I just put on whatever Icould find".
In other words, you MAKE AN EXCUSE foryourself.
As you can probably guess, that's a BAD IDEA.
In that moment, you have just failed the testwith flying colors.
THIS HAS HAPPENED TO YOU
If you think back in your life about all of thesituations with women that went BAD, you'llprobably find that you were TESTED, and youFAILED.
In one way or another, you probably missed someVITAL clue that you were being tested, and youwound up failing.
RESULT: She hit the road.
It's happened to all of us.
If I had a dollar for every time...
lol...
I've been through this one so many times in mylife that it HURTS.
I should probably get the jackass award formost tests failed with women.
And before I give you some tips on handlingtests from women, I want to say AGAIN: If you findyourself failing tests from women on a CONSISTENTbasis, then you should get yourself some "in-depth" reprogramming on a DEEP level. The best wayto do that is HERE:
On Being A Man
HOW TO DEAL WITH TESTS
If you're going to successfully deal with testsfrom women, you first need to "get it".
To say it differently, you need to learn how toRECOGNIZE tests quickly... and know when they'rehappening.
What's the best way to know when you're beingtested?
Well, one way that I KNOW I'm being tested ismy GUT.
Your gut doesn't lie.
In fact, if us guys would just learn to usethis amazing "test detector" called our GUTS, thenwe'd live happier lives.
Here's how it works...
Next time you're interacting with a woman andshe does or says something that makes your guttense up, you're probably being tested.
Now, I can't go into all the aspects of how todeal with tests from women... because that wouldtake me several hours.
But I will say that the most IMPORTANT thing todo is EXPECT tests... and then pay close attentionto how you're responding to them.
Most of the things we do with women are NOTCONSCIOUS. When a woman looks at you, and you lookaway, it wasn't a "conscious decision".
It just HAPPENS.
All of a sudden, you're feeling butterflies andglancing away. It happens in an instant.
So you first need to recognize when it'shappening to you.
When a woman tells you what to do, she'stesting you.
When a woman tries to change plans or cancel atthe last minute, she's testing you.
When a woman asks you to buy her something,she's testing you.
When a woman nags, whines, or complains, she'stesting you.
Learn to SPOT IT when it's happening.
Next, notice how you respond.
You've failed a million tests with womenalready, so don't worry about ten more.
Just notice how you respond.
Most men respond by trying to win the woman'sapproval.
If she tries to cancel plans at the lastminute, you'll say "Oh, no problem".
If she complains about something, you'll say"I'm sorry, let me fix it".
You know what I'm saying.
Again, just notice what's going on when yourespond.
Finally, learn how to PAUSE before you respond,and then UNDERSTAND how you need to respond toeach test.
Most tests will be tests to see if you'll allowher to CONTROL YOU.
If you DO allow a woman to CONTROL you, youwill lose.
And you can take that one to the bank.
You will lose in one way or another, almostguaranteed.
Women don't want men that they can control.
So make sure you pass those tests first.
The more you pay close attention, the moreyou'll see the subtle tests that women are usingwith you.
And the more of these tests you pass, the moresuccess you'll have.
YOU MUST GO BEYOND THE TEST
Now I'm going to share with you a secret that'seven MORE IMPORTANT than the idea of tests fromwomen...
If you REALLY want to have success with women,you need to learn how to deal with tests evenBEFORE THEY HAPPEN.
Think of it this way...
In some colleges you can demonstrate a level ofmastery in an area that allows you to SKIP ALEVEL.
In other words, you get credit for takingclasses, even though you've never taken them.
Well, the same goes with women.
There are certain things you can do that willINSTANTLY communicate to a woman that you "getit"... and don't require the INITIAL TESTS.
Don't get me wrong, women will always testyou... no matter what you do.
But you can SKIP TEN LEVELS of the initialtesting, and accelerate the process of "gettingtogether" with a woman DRAMATICALLY if you knowthe right things to do.
And by FAR, the most important of these thingsis to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.
Sure, you can show her that you're a greatleader, or self-confident, or that you won't kissup to her before she tests you for it.
But this doesn't actually ACCOMPLISH anything.
It just gets you fewer tests.
If you REALLY want to skip ahead ten levels,then you need to TRIGGER ATTRACTION inside of her.
As you probably know by now, Attraction Isn't AChoice.
Women don't go through a logical process todecide if they're going to feel ATTRACTION.
It just HAPPENS.
But it doesn't happen very OFTEN.
If you're one of those rare men who knows howto use your body language, voice tone, and othercommunication to make women feel ATTRACTION, thenyou will have the kind of success that most menonly dream of.
And you'll deal with far fewer tests fromwomen.
In the last several years that I've beenstudying this area of life called "Success WithWomen", I've focused on the idea of making womenfeel ATTRACTION.
It's something that no one talks about.
It's something that no one understands.
As a matter of fact, I'd say that not one in ahundred men understands how to make a womanactually FEEL ATTRACTION.
But I'll tell you something else...
Learning this particular skill has made ALL THEDIFFERENCE in my life.
Now that I understand how to make women feelthat powerful physical and emotional responseknown as ATTRACTION, I have the kind of successand choice that most men only dream about.
The good news: Any guy can learn this stuff.
I've spent a long time figuring out what makeswomen feel attracted to some special men... andthen testing out what works in the real world.
I've spent hundreds and hundreds of hourswatching guys who are REALLY good with women...and distilling the specific techniques that theyuse.
I've also spent a tremendous amount of timeputting together systems that any guy can use toimprove his success with women.
I certainly wish this stuff would have beenavailable when I started out. It would have savedme YEARS of frustration.
If you're just getting started, then I highlyrecommend that you go download my online ebook"Double Your Dating". It's a great introduction tomy main concepts, and it contains dozens anddozens of great ideas for meeting women. You candownload it now, and be reading it in just a fewminutes. Download it here:
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