Dont be a WUSSY

When you say, "Can you tell me how to ask a woman if she has kids before a first date?" it implies that you think that there's something wrong with just coming out and asking it.
It's like you're saying, "Well, I know that I can't just ASK her if she has kids... so can you tell me some cool trick to get her to spill it without me having to ask?".
Well guess what?
THIS IS A PROBLEM.
It's not necessary to use trickery when you want to know something about a woman.
If you want to know if a woman has kids, then you need to ASK.
Say "Hey, do you have any kids?".
If she says, "Yes", then say, "Great. I'mreally looking for a woman who doesn't have any kids, but we can be friends".
Let's use a different example.
Let's say you've placed a personal ad online.
Let's say that a cute woman replies.
Let's say that she sends you a picture... but it only shows her face... and you're onlyinterested in women who are slim.
Now, you probably would write to me and ask meto give you some slick way to get her to share how much she weighs with you without having to ask.
Wrong idea.
Just email her and say, "Hey, how tall are you and how much do you weigh? I really prefer womenwho are slim. Let me know...".
That's it.
Think about it.
If she IS slim, she'll tell you, and probablybe glad that you were up front with her anddirect.
If she ISN'T slim, she'll be glad you told hernow and didn't waste her time.
I think that your problem is probably rooted ininsecurity, and caring too much what other peoplethink of you.
...by the way... it's NOT OK to say, "Hey, Ireally HATE FAT CHICKS... so tell me now, becauseif you're fat I'm going to bail...".
That's not cool.
If you act like an adult and expect others to act like adults, you'll do well with women.
If you pussy-foot around the issue (a perfectterm for you and this) you'll wind up trying to dothings that waste everyone's time.
If you're up front, direct, and not caring whatother people think of you, then you're going tomake women respond more powerfully.
Guaranteed.
Oh, and GREAT JOB getting your act together with women. You're doing very well, keep it up.And feel free to promote my materials anytime youwant in the future.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
Dear David,
I've been reading your email newsletters...not because I'm a male needing advice, but because Iam a FEMALE who likes to get insight into what menare thinking! I'll have to say that what you aretelling these guys is right on target.
I have a girlfriend who is a perfect 10, but she has the worst luck with men. Know why? They areTOO NICE TO HER!!!!!!!! I was sitting out by thepool with her this past weekend, and listening toher talk about the latest guy she's dating. He'scute, attentive, sweet, thoughtful, generous,funny, and a tiger in bed!! BUT, she told me thathe isn't the "one." I asked her why, and this isexactly what she said, "He's too agreeable.Everything I say is OK with him...anything I want to do, go, or think is OK with him. I'm getting bored. He doesn't have enough personality for me.He's always smiling, and my thirteen year old daughter even says he's a wuss for being so nice all the time. I want a man who's a challenge."
Now, this woman sees this other guy from time totime, and she'd drop what she's doing and drive 6hours just to spend one night with him! But thatguy doesn't call regularly and he treats herpoorly, but she'd give her first born child tohave him!
No, it doesn't make sense, David, but that is theway a lot of Number 10 women are. And if a guyreally wants a 10, your techniques would work likea charm. Just warn these guys that 10's are verydifficult women to deal with, and they are used tohaving every guy's attention, so they need to keepthe game up to keep her from straying. I wish guyswould see that the 10's, although they are prettyto look at, aren't always worth the effort. Myfriends who are 5's would treat men better, ifthey could get their attention.
Me? I'm about a 7-8 but I use your techniques onMEN, and they work quite well. A year ago, I wasdating 4-5 men at time. The one guy that I caredthe least about and brushed off time and again, isthe one I'm dating all the time now! He just hungin there no matter how many dates I cancelled oreven if I told him I had another date! I even toldhim I was dating lots of other men! But, he justhung in there, and I got tired of the others, andnow I only date him, and we're happy! Oh, I dostill give him a challenge! I am not alwaysavailable, and I don't call him often, nor emailhim all the time, and when he goes out of town onwork, I don't get all jealous and worry. I don'thave to worry. He can't wait to get back to ME!He cooks for me and treats me like a Queen.
So...tell those guys this little secret aboutwomen. The 10's love it when you are a challenge,and they may end up with a 10, but remember thatthose women can be the most difficult. Give thelower numbers a chance sometimes, and they willfind a devoted mate!
Later..
K in SC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Amen SISTER!
Preach it!
You gotta love honest women.
And you've laid it out for everyone to see.
I wish all men had an older sister like you whocould tell them how it is from an early age...
But, alas, we do not.
I'm going to go read your email again, becauseit's GOLD.
Send a picture next time. I promise that I'llNEVER call you all the time, and I'll NEVERtolerate you canceling anything on me.
Of course, then you'd fall in love with me, andI'd have to break your heart.
What a life.
***QUESTION***
Hi there David
Firstly, I would like to say how useful I havefound your Advanced DVD series and DYD book. Iused to be a classic textbook Wussy but that wayof life is definitely going out of the window now!
I have had two emails from two different womenrecently (after using your stuff) and I quote themhere as I think all Wussies should read them. Thefirst one is from a woman who I've known for anumber of years and see her with her friends onthe odd occasion:
'Dating should indeed be fun and relaxed but sadlymost of your gender seem to have forgotten this -were you not taken to one side at school and toldto be arrogant and aloof etc?? I think some ofthem might be due for a refresher course as theyget far too serious, far too quickly. It is not tobe encouraged!! XXXX (the name of the guy) isdoing pretty well at the moment though and onlysees me a couple of times a week and never ringsand hardly ever emails, so he has the right idea!!I think I have been quite vocal about my disdainof other boys recently though, so he knows not topush it.'
This second reply is from a woman I sent a messageto on an Internet dating site. I based the messagearound your advice from your Advanced Datingseries:
'YIPEEEEEEEEE!!!!AN OUT OF THE ORDINARY MAN ONHERE!!!!!!!!!
Im on 189 mens 'fav' list an i can tell u now, sofar not one of em has made me want to know more!
Can u restore my faith....Hummmmm tall order, ulike a challenge?'
It's definitely worth getting your DVD and book asI would never have had these responses otherwise.
My question is how do I take things further whenmeeting women on line? I have watched your friendon the Advanced DVD series but don't seem to beable to get the required results. I have startedto get lots of responses from hot women aftersending them a Cocky & Funny message. We thenmessage each other a few times but suddenly theystop replying! What am I doing wrong? I try anduse Cocky & Funny but also write 'normal' stufflike what do they like doing etc which I know canbe classed as Wussy talk. Your views would begratefully received. Also can you tell your friendto write that book about Meeting Women On Line ?and put me top of the list to buy it! Keep up thegreat work!
J
London, England
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, yes, yes...
You're getting it... you're getting it.
But what are you doing writing NORMAL stuff andasking NORMAL questions?
I can't believe after spending hours and hoursand hours listening to me talk about why it'sstupid to say lame NORMAL stuff that you'd stilldo it.
STOP THAT IMMEDIATELY... don't make me comedown there and bitch-slap the Wuss out of you.
I'll do it. I will.
And you're surprised that women stop respondingto you...
Here, do this.
From now on:
1) Watch the personals every day. Only sendmessages to the NEW ads.
2) When you get a reply, email and ask her for hernumber. Tell her that you're swamped with amillion messages from supermodels who keepbragging about how much money they have, and sheneeds to act fast or you'll be gone.
3) Get her number as soon as possible, and get herON THE PHONE.
4) DO NOT, under ANY circumstances talk about lameNORMAL stuff.
5) Watch my Advanced DVD Series again. And don'tturn it off until you're reminded of why youshouldn't say "normal" things.
6) Write another email to me in a week or so whenyou're getting better results.
Now get back in there, stop acting normal, andmake something happen!
***SUCCESS STORY***
David,
First of all, thanks again for the valuablenewsletters and the information from your Ebook. Ipurchased it a couple months ago and still referto it quite often. On to my success story. I wasrecently at a buddies bachelor party and the onlysingle guy out of five. One of our stops was adowntown bar where my friends wanted to see me goto work. I found a table with 6 blondes talkingto two guys. One of the dudes looked like a crossbetween Ricky Martin and Eminem and the other Ibelieve was sporting a Member's Only jacket. Iimmediately took advantage of the situation andswooped in to save the day with C&F on overdrive.I'm not the kind of guy that women approach soI've learned that if I want to make somethinghappen, I've got to grab a hold and go for it. Thenext thing I know the two guys got up and left andthen the rest of my buddies came in for support.Married guys make the best "Wingmen". The bestpart of the night was getting the number of thehottest one of their group, something I would havenever done in the past. We spoke on the phone andhave made plans to see each other again. There's asaying. "If you keep doing what you've alwaysdone, you're going to get what you've always got."I just wanted to say thanks for allowing me theopportunity to stop settling and most importantlystop being a wuss. You da man!! P in Colorado
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah babyyyyyyy!
The reason I love your story so much is becauseI'm not the kind of guy that women approacheither. I never have been.
But, after learning this stuff, I've realizedthat it's just not necessary to be that kind ofguy.
In fact, most of the guys I know who are theMOST successful with women aren't particularlygood-looking.
Everything changes when you have a superiorunderstanding of what's going on... and a set oftools to get the job done.
Nice, and keep sending in the stories.
By the way, if you want more great ideas forapproaching women... and even approaching bigGROUPS of women, then you MUST check out my"Approaching Women" DVD/CD program. Inside youwill meet and learn from some of the best"approachers" in the world... and they'll teachyou some of the most AMAZING techniques forapproaching women... alone, in groups, in everytype of situation...
You can watch some video clips, plus get allthe details here:
Approaching Women
***QUESTION***
Dear David,
I must say KUDOS to you for creating a new manout of me. Let me explain myself. I ordered yourebook a while ago and have been getting yournewsletter for the better part of a year. However,only recently, I decided enough is enough. Istarted putting what I read into action to seewhat happens. Of course, it really helps that I'ma well-built muscular tall, dark and handsome man(LOL). Ain't that what the ladies are looking for?To clarify in terms of specs, I'm 5'11", of SouthIndian origin, and I've been a recreationalbodybuilder for going on 14 years now.
The nightclub I like to frequent to dance in hasa lot of gorgeous women, several easily 9's and10's. Well, the other night, I approached a girlwho was without a doubt AT LEAST a 10. She wasacting very coy and detached to anybody but thecrowd of guys and girls she was with. Since shewas wearing a cabbie-style hat, I came up to herand said, "Hey, I like your hat." She smiled andsaid, "Thanks" but still was kind of stuck up. So,then, I said, "Let me guess, you're a taxi-driver." She looked at me with a "there's NO wayyou just said that to me" shocked expression onher face BUT THEN, she instantly warmed up to meand replied with a BIG smile on her face, "No,I'll bet you are though." Well, Dave, I'm adoctor and I'm sure it helped for her to hear thatbut the rest of the night, she was rubbing upagainst me and holding me tight, even grindingwith me on the dance floor. What's even moresurprising is that her boyfriend was part of thecrowd and since I introduced myself to the rest ofthe group, he was cool with me hanging with them.I'm willing to bet that if he had not been there,she would have tried to kiss me and probably evenmake out with me. You are definitely THE MAN, THEMYTH, THE LEGEND, David DeAngelo. Thank you. NowI apologize for such a long account but I did wantto demonstrate the scenario carefully if anyonecan benefit from it. My question to you isquite simply this: Why is it that some women seemtotally enamored in person and act like they wantto go out but then never return your phone callsor initiate calls themselves? I mean, I can tellthat they are not faking their interest in me andso, what happens once they leave from my presence?T.M. Michigan
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What?
You mean to tell me that even tall, dark, andhandsome body-builder guys need help too?
lol...
It's funny, because most guys don't realizethat even good-looking guys have all the samechallenges with women...
I mean, it certainly doesn't HURT to be ahandsome guy, but women do all the same things, nomatter what a guy looks like.
Back to your question.
Here's the deal, man...
Unfortunately, many attractive women have VERYlow self-esteem.
Many (if not most) of the REALLY attractivewomen that you see out on the town are really outto get ATTENTION.
In other words, they're not looking to meet agood guy... they're not looking to find someonewho will treat them well... they're not lookingfor "love".
They're looking to fill an empty part of theirself-image.
Attention makes many women feel good. Somewomen actually enjoy getting attention from guys,then acting like they DON'T LIKE IT.
Hey, I never said women made sense.
Have you ever known a woman who wears low-cutblouses, then complains because guys only look ather breasts while talking to her?
DUH.
If a woman complains about something like thisto me, I'll say something like, "You know, nowthat you mention it... are those REAL?".
lol...
It's crazy.
Look, here are a few things to remember:
1) A woman will behave differently according toher MOOD. If she's happy when she's with you, thenshe might act like she's enjoying herself. If youcall the next day and she's depressed because shestill has no self-esteem, then she's probably notgoing to call you.
2) ATTRACTION is the key. You must realize that ifyou dial up the attraction by creating SexualTension, etc. then you'll have a much strongerchance of seeing her again.
3) Don't chase. When you talk to her again, makesure you don't communicate that you NEEDanything... especially attention or approval.
4) Lose the need to have every woman like you. Onebig weakness that most men have is a woman whowon't call back. But remember, women are the sameway. Read the email at the beginning of thisnewsletter from the attractive woman for details.
5) You always have options. When you know how tomeet women anytime you want, then it doesn'tmatter what happens in a particular situation. Andif it doesn't matter, women can SENSE it. This isa VERY attractive quality.
You're on the right track...
***QUESTION***
David, I've been a huge fan for the past 2 yearsand just received your Advanced Series CD set aweek or so ago. HOLY COW!!! It's the best moneyI've EVER spent. I've gotten more phone numbers,been on more dates and HAD MORE SEX in the past7-8 days than I have in the past 6 months. We'retalking 180-degree shifts in my interactions withwomen...I'm at 100% success right now. To all theguys out there, attitude is EVERYTHING. KNOW thatyou can have any girl you want, let that reflectonto girls and they WILL smell your confidence.And, to women, that's very sexy!!! Now, onto myquestion... How do Cocky-Funny, self-validating,confident men deal with attention-getting commentsfrom women? For example, the other day I'm on thetelephone with one of the girls I met recently andshe was complaining about her hair style. Shesays, "A., I look SOOOOO ugly with this hair" (sheSTILL was an absolute knock out actually!!). Now,I thought to myself, What Would David Do in thissituation? Would he tell her, "Oh no sweetie, youlook gorgeous". I thought that seemed prettywussy, so I says to her, "Listen here, I didn'tcall you so I could listen to you complain...".Are cocky-funny remarks the right way to deal withthis type of female complaining? Is it just a testto see if we'll give in to their little games?KEEP IT UP DAVID!!! Ciao!
A, Indiana
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You are on the RIGHT TRACK here.
Next time a woman complains about herself ortries to get attention, just make it FAR worsethan she ever thought it could be.
If she says, "My hair makes me look soooougly", just reply, "You know, I wasn't going tosay anything, but... ...".
Remember, COCKY & FUNNY. It's the combination.
If you really want to be bold, just say, "Sowhat am I going to get paid for babysittingtonight?".
Or even better say, "Did this stuff work onyour dad? Why didn't he spank you more?".
I'm cracking myself up over here.
Nothing better than hitting the nail right onthe head, if you catch my meaning.
Again, you're on the right track.
Don't be a Wussy. But make sure you're funnywhile you're not being a Wussy.
"Listen here, I didn't call you so I could hearyou complain..." might do the trick, but it'sprobably a little over the "jerk" line...
...unless, of course, it's done with the righttone of voice that communicates sarcasm.
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave, Let me be the one to tell you thatyou deserve to sit on a solid gold throne for therest of your life with gorgeous female servantsfeeding you grapes and fanning you with giantfeathers. Your advanced series is definitely thebest investment I made in my life. After watchingit for the FIRST TIME, my whole perspective onwomen changed. I have so much to say, but I'lltry to keep it short: I've been having so muchfun coming up with cocky + funny comments, I hadto share some of my ideas with your readers. Hereare some of my favorite lines I use: If Ihappen to get a phone call while Im around a girlIve been talking to, Ill bring her up in theconversation w/ whoever called me, making someteasing comment about her loud enough for her tohear. She'll usually give me a face, or flip meoff...so then I say to my friend on the phone,"yea, she likes me." So simple, yet they eat itup! I'll tell girls who are walking behind meto stop following me because Im getting thatstalker vibe from them...and if they want to lookat my ass that bad, they can take a snapshot of itfor $4.99...as long as it's for their personalenjoyment and not to show off to their friends. Ialso like to put a price on my time or presence.For instance, I'll be talking to a girl for alittle bit, then I'll look down at my watch andsay, "Okay, I talked to you for two minutes, AND Ilet you shake my hand...that'll be twenty dollars,tip not included". Then I'll say that I reallyhave to get going, and demand their phone numberso I can "collect my money on a more convenientdate." I love this way of communication...itmakes girls attracted to you, and it's so muchmore fun than the normal boring stuff. Now, aquick question. First off, I loved your lastDating Tip...about Sexual Tension. One of yourbest emails. But I have a question about eyecontact...do you ever have to watch for when it'sappropriate? An example would be last week when Iwas in a club. I was standing, and I turned aroundto face a cute girl who I immediately locked eyeswith. She wasn't going anywhere, she was juststanding. But we were only abut a foot away fromeach other looking directly into each others eyes.I wasn't even going to try to talk to her, becauseit was too noisy. But I didn't want to just standthere, a foot away from her face, just staring,'cause I figured I would seem like a weirdo...so Ijust walked past her. What would you say to do insituations like this? Are there times when yourrule about eye contact (not looking away until shedoes) isn't appropriate? Is proximity to the girlyour eye-locked with an issue? Thanx againDave... you're the man. TG, Tacoma
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, another great question...
And more shameless advertising for my AdvancedSeries. What a great combination.
I digress...
Let's talk about eye contact, and what to doafter you've made it.
Here's the deal, there are a few things thatare DEAD GIVEAWAYS to a woman that you're a big-time Wussy, and not worth her time.
A few of them are:
1) Can't maintain eye contact
2) Has slumped, submissive posture
3) Fidgets nervously
4) Gives away his power
5) Looks for attention and approval from others
Of course, there are quite a few more examplesof LITTLE THINGS that women look for... to makeQUICK DECISIONS about what kind of man you are...and INSTANTLY know whether or not you are worthyof a second thought.
Now, as you've heard me say a million times,these "decisions" all happen on an SUBCONSCIOUSLEVEL. Women don't look at a man, then say to afriend, "Well, he maintained eye contact when Ifirst looked at him, then he held his head up highin a dominant posture... so I'm going to give hima chance".
DUH, no way.
It's an INSTANT FEELING that women get. Theyuse these little body language cues to instantlysize you up, then respond instantly.
Now, you're asking about a particular facet ofeye contact... specifically, when you're standingone foot away from her and it happens.
Your question leads me to believe that youthink things must be different if you're close toa woman... as if the rules should change if she'scloser than 4.35234 feet. If anything, it takesMORE composure and inner strength to look a womanin the eyes if she's standing a foot away.
In this case it's even MORE important to notlook away.
And what to say?
Try saying, "I just couldn't help noticingyou... [pause]... STARING at me..."
That's funny.
Or say, "Do you always maintain such strong eyecontact? Or only with guys like me that you can'thelp it with?"
Try anything. You're in the right place... Imean, you don't even have to expend the energy towalk over and start a conversation!
Even "Hi" is better than walking away.
Once you get over your remaining fear of theunknown, and you realize that you're in control ofyour life and your results, you'll begin torealize that situations like these are GREATopportunities.
...which reminds me of something.
I honestly believe that FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN isone of the biggest obstacles that guys face withwomen.
It may sound silly, but most guys who areafraid to approach women really don't know exactlyWHAT they're afraid of.
All they know is that they have an INSTANT fearcome up whenever they think of walking up to awoman they don't know and talking to her.
Of course, a "fear of the unknown" sounds likean easy thing to fix.
I mean, just realize that you don't even knowwhat you're afraid of, and it should go away,right?
Sounds good, but it's WRONG.
The fact is that this is a COMPLEX problem.
I've met guys who have gone to therapy forYEARS to get over fears... and it didn't work.
Now, I'm not a therapist or psychologist... butI do know one thing... I used to have this verysame fear. I know EXACTLY what it feels like.
But, the really weird part is that the thingthat helped me get over it wasn't anything that Iexpected.
What helped me get past it, and helped me tostart approaching women and getting emails andnumbers from women I didn't know, was simplyUNDERSTANDING what was going on... and thenKNOWING exactly what to do in each situation.
The PROBLEM that I had in the past was that Ijust didn't "GET IT" with women. I didn'tunderstand what made them feel ATTRACTION for oneguy while feeling NOTHING or even like RUNNINGAWAY from another guy.
Now that I do "get it", I have to say that it'spretty damn interesting. But it's not at all whatI would have expected. In fact, it took me acouple of YEARS of trying to figure it out toactually BEGIN to really understand how and whywomen feel that instant and magical ATTRACTIONresponse for some guys... while most guys go theirwhole lives without women even noticing them.
But, once I DID get it, everything changed.
In this Mailbag, quite a few guys wrote in whohave had the same experience this week with myAdvanced Series.
They all watched or listened to it, then had alight bulb come on in their heads.
You can hear it clearly.
Before they spent the 12+ hours going throughthe program they didn't "get it".
AFTER they went through the program they DIDget it.
A lot of guys write in to say that "It justclicked all of a sudden" or "I had a huge Ah-Ha!when I went through the program".
You'll also notice that most of the guys whomake these comments have read this newsletter forquite awhile as well.
What I'm trying to say is that my AdvancedSeries will totally change the way you see things,and it will totally change your results withwomen.
It's taken me literally YEARS to figure all ofthis stuff out, and I can honestly say that it'snothing like the other books and programs that areavailable.
As always, my "Try it free" offer stillstands...
It's simple...
Go order it. I'll send it to you to try at ZEROCOST. Really.
If you like it, keep it and you can pay inthree easy payments. If you don't, just send itback and you won't even be charged.
All the details are here, along with some greatfree audio and video samples:
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And if you'd like to get an introduction to mybest ideas and techniques, go and download myonline eBook right now. You can download it nowand be reading it within just a few minutes. Getit here:
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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