why smart guys dont get dates

It can actually be like having a hammer whenyou need to tighten a bolt. If you use the tool you have for the job, you'll most likely make thesituation WORSE. Of course, it's hard for a smart guy to even IMAGINE a situation where his smart mind could HURT his chances for success... But trust me, this is one of those situations. So relax, open your smart mind, and let me share with you the ten reasons why smart guys fail with women... and what to do about it.

REASON #1: THEY'RE WRONG, BUT THEY CAN'T OR WON'TSEE IT OR ADMIT IT. I mentioned that smart guys are used to being RIGHT in most situations. And what do most smart guys do when they come across a situation where they're WRONG? They find a new situation... one that fits their strength. They know they'll be right next time, so they just walk away... knowing that it won't be long before they're right again. (OR they let the "problem situation" destroy them... more on that later.) Well, the BITCH about being wrong when it comes to women and dating is THERE'S NOWHERE TO RUN AND HIDE. There's no quick "I'm right" around the next corner to make you feel better. It only takes "failing" with a few women in a row for a smart guy to see the pattern... and realize that something isn't working. Solution? Think harder. A smart guy just assumes that his logic must be good... so he just keeps thinking harder. But when no success comes, it really starts to become mentally difficult. Accepting that you're wrong is a VERY hard thing for a "smart guy" to do. Accepting that you're not only wrong, but you have NO CLUE WHERE TO EVEN START is even moredifficult. Ultimately, many smart guys come up with the following logical conclusion:I AM A SMART GUY, THEREFORE IF I CAN'T FIGURE OUT HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN AND DATING, THEN THE PROBLEM MUST NOT BE SOLVABLE OR WORTH SOLVING. Try that on for a self-defeating idea.

REASON #2: THEY'RE BLIND AND ARROGANT. In short, many smart guys refuse to accept thata good, solid, workable answer could come fromsomeone "dumber" than them, so they discount anyidea that comes from an "obviously lessintelligent person" before trying it. Let me ask you a question: If you were going to be walking across Africa on foot, would you rather have your guide be the guy on this planet with the highest I.Q., or a caveman who lived a million years ago that had anI.Q. of about 50... but who grew up being chased by lions and all kinds of animals that wanted to eat him all his life? It's an interesting question. Now, hopefully you'd like to have the guide whoisn't the smartest guy around... but who hasescaped from many, many dangerous situations withdeadly animals... But now let me ask you: If you'd like to learn how to be moresuccessful with women and dating, would you takeadvice from a guy who isn't very intelligent, butwho knows how to attract women? There's something about being smart that makessome guys unwilling to accept input, ideas, orinstruction from anyone who isn't either as smartor smarter than them. Well, any SMART GUY can see the folly in thisparticular approach... once it's examined closely. If you've been making this mistake, then youneed to STOP IT. Stop being an arrogant bastard,and open your eyes. Look around. Learn from some "dumb" guys... and let themteach you how to get what you REALLY want.

REASON #3: POOR SOCIAL SKILLS. It BLOWS MY MIND how many smart guys I meetthat just don't GET IT when it comes to basicsocial skills. It's as if they have logically reasoned thatsocial skills are for lower beings who need toplay games... and not worth the time it would taketo learn them. In fact, I believe that there are a lot ofsmart guys running around this planet who don'teven have "social skills" and "be a cool guy thatpeople like" in their MENTAL MODEL of what itcould possibly take to be successful with womenand dating. Social skills are just that... SKILLS. They're not social INFORMATION. They're not social THEORIES. They're social SKILLS. And you don't get them by THINKING about them.You get them by GETTING them. Excellent social skills are the foundation forgood communication with other humans... and if youdon't have good social skills, you dramaticallylower your chances for success with women.

REASON #4: THEY PSYCH THEMSELVES OUT. Smart guys do something that fascinates thehell out of me... They come up with all the reasons whyeverything WON'T WORK when it comes to women anddating. They actually figure out why what it is thatthey would like to do will probably fail... They use their amazing creative imaginations toimagine all kinds of horrible pictures andscenes... and then they use those imaginaryoutcomes to create negative emotions... whichultimately stop them from having success withwomen and dating. THEY DON'T EVEN TRY. Now, if you've thought something through andcome up with a good reason why it would fail, itmakes sense to not do it, right? I mean, why would you want to do things thatare going to fail? It is sound logic, but HORRIBLE thinking whenit comes to the REAL WORLD... and success withwomen. Because smart guys don't UNDERSTAND women, andthey don't UNDERSTAND what it takes to besuccessful with women, they are working with badfigures. They're wrong before they even startfiguring! Using your mind to come up with all the reasonswhy things won't work in this area of your lifeleads to ULTIMATE FAILURE. You must learn to overcome this habit if youhave it.

REASON #5: THEY SEEK ONLY "INFORMATIONALSOLUTIONS" What does a smart guy do when he runs into aproblem... or he needs to figure something out? He looks for INFORMATION to help him solve theproblem. MORE INFORMATION is always the answer. Information is the friend of a smart guy. Got a strange virus on your computer? Just hopon the Internet and search for how to eliminateit. Don't know how to change the alternator on yourcar? No prob. Just buy the manual and turn to page147. Don't know the definition of a word? Open upyour dictionary. MORE INFORMATION solves the problem. So what do smart guys do when it comes toovercoming a problem with women? They want MORE INFORMATION. They think the answer lies in learning just ONEMORE TECHNIQUE... or one more magic concept. Well what if there were a situation in lifewhere the "get more information" strategy actuallymade things WORSE? How would you even know that it was makingthings worse? Now, I don't want to suggest that learning moreabout how to be successful with women is a badthing. It's not. But if you have a problem that is EMOTIONAL orPHYSICAL in nature, then reading five milliontheories on it probably isn't going to help youvery much. You need to get out in the real world and trysome stuff! You need to look at the REAL problem... theROOT of the problem. When it comes to women and dating, there's avery good chance that you have MORE than enough"information". Smart guys often use "more information" todistract them from TAKING ACTION. I've heard this referred to as "CreativeAvoidance". Nod silently if you've ever figured out acreative way to avoid facing something in yourlife. Good, thank you.

REASON #6: THEY FOCUS ON LOGIC INSTEAD OF EMOTION. NEWS JUST IN: Women don't feel ATTRACTION formen who make them THINK. Women feel ATTRACTION for men who make themFEEL. So what do most smart guys do when they firstmeet a woman? EXACTLY! They get into a LOGICAL CONVERSATION. I'm shaking my head right now... Smart men try to engage women in LOGICALconversations and interactions because that'swhere THEY feel comfortable... not knowing thatthey're SHOOTING THEMSELVES IN THE FOOT by doingit! Get this: A monkey sitting at a typewriter willtype the collected works of Shakespeare before youwill make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you byengaging her in logical conversation. When you start a logical conversation with awoman you've just met, you are basically takingout a NEON SIGN that says, "I don't get it when itcomes to women" and putting it on your head. Typical "logical" conversations include talkingabout work, family, school, and jobs... discussingpolitics, religion, weather... and anything thathas to do with math, science, or INTELLIGENCE. On the other hand, if you start talking to awoman and you say, "OK, so tell me something...Why is it that all women say that they want sweet,nice guys... but they all date sexy, selfish, badboys?" (and then make fun of any answer she gives)Now you're having an EMOTIONAL conversation. If you don't know what I'm talking about, keepreading. You need more help than I thought. IMPORTANT NOTE: If you just read this section,and you can identify with what I'm talking about,then I highly recommend that you go to this page:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10006/SexualCommunication/c-mid513

REASON #7: THEY'RE NOT USED TO THE CHALLENGE OF THE MOMENT Smart people usually have time to THINK aboutthings. If you're taking a test, you can sit there andwork out the answers. If you have a math problem, you can work on ituntil you've figured it out. If you're trying to fix something, you can keepworking on it until it's fixed. Smart guys are used to being able to take atleast a LITTLE bit of time to prepare and show offtheir "good sides" in most situations. Not so with women... If you don't know what to do at every stepalong the way, you'll be shut down very quickly. Women have an AMAZING "He doesn't get it" radarsystem. Women have all kinds of subtle and ingenioustests that they throw at men to separate the "getits" from the "don't get its". And if you don't get it, then you're going tofail one of these tests VERY quickly. But the worst part is that you won't ever KNOWthat you were being tested... OR that you failed. Smart guys aren't used to dealing with complexEMOTIONAL and COMMUNICATION challenges in themoment... and especially the "women and dating"kind. One of they keys to becoming more successfulwith women and dating is learning to handle all ofthe tests that women throw at you effortlessly. But before you can learn how to deal with thetests, you must first learn how to communicate onan emotional level, how to demonstrate that youhave fundamental social skills, and how to keepyour cool in the moment.

REASON #8: THEY THINK THAT DOING "NICE" THINGS IS THE "SMART WAY" OK, let me ask you a trick question: If I told you that you were going to have adate with the supermodel of your choice, which ofthe following would you choose as a "smart" way ofpreparing:1) Find out what her favorite type of flowers are,and show up with a dozen of them so she would be"wowed".2) Learn about her favorite travel destination soyou could discuss it with her.3) Find out what her favorite type of food is soyou could take her to dinner... and she could seethat you cared enough to choose something that sheenjoyed. OK, time's up. Which did you choose? Now, I already mentioned that this was a TRICKquestion. The answer is NONE OF THE ABOVE. But WHY? These three options all seemed logical, right? I mean, why WOULDN'T you want to show up withher favorite flowers? Why WOULDN'T you want to talk about to herabout her favorite places to travel? Why WOULDN'T you want to take her to eat herfavorite foods so she enjoyed herself? Go with me here... Smart guys think that they're being CLEVER whenthey do things like buying a woman her favoriteflowers... and bringing them to the FIRST DATE. Right? In their minds they're thinking, "I'm going tobe the guy who is thinking ahead... and I'm goingto show up with the flowers that I KNOW sheloves... and she's going to see them and like memore because of it". Makes sense... good math, right? Well the one teensy-weensy mistake that these"smart" guys make is not realizing that it doesn'tactually take a smart person to think like this! In fact, ANY jackass can figure out how to kissa woman's ass. And guess what? WOMEN KNOW THIS! And guess what else? EVERY WUSSBAG DOES THIS STUFF. An intelligent guy, in his proud arrogance,will think he's being such the charmer by usingthis "thoughtful" approach... ...and the woman he is chasing will interpretit as just another Wussy who's trying toMANIPULATE her. Ouch. Another blow to intelligence.

MISTAKE #9: THEY ALWAYS NEED TO BE THE EXPERT Have you ever met a smart guy who always neededto be "right"? Have you ever met someone who would actuallyargue with you about something they knew nothingabout... and make a fool of themselves becausethey just couldn't shut their "smart mouths"? Over the last few years helping guys improvetheir success with women, I see this one patternover and over again... Smart guys don't like to be "beginners" atANYTHING. They don't like the idea of screwing up...especially if others are watching. They want to maintain this "smart guy" image ofthemselves... so they try to always be "TheExpert" at whatever they do. Instead of saying, "Hey, you know what? I'm abeginner at this... how do I do it? What should Ido first? What next?"... and instead of beingtotally OK with screwing up, making mistakes, andmaking a fool of themselves in front of others inorder to LEARN... ...they won't risk embarrassment, failure, orothers thinking that they're beginners... so theywind up ultimately FAILING. MORE NEWS JUST IN: It's OK to be a beginner.

MISTAKE #10: THEY CAN'T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHER EMOTIONS A smart guy's STRENGTH is his MIND. His WEAKNESS is often his EMOTIONS. Smart guys are often IMMOBILIZED by FEAR. Totally stopped. FROZEN. And since many smart guys aren't comfortabledealing with things they're not good at, they justrepress or RUN away from fear. Many men would rather DIE in lonely isolationthan admit that they don't know how to deal withtheir emotions... or, GOD FORBID, ask for help!




Hey, I went for YEARS like this. I know what it's like. But the reality is that any guy can learn tohandle and even MASTER his emotions (even fear)...if he just takes the time and effort to learn HOWto do it. If this is you, then do yourself a big favor...take the time. Take the effort. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks ofyou... it doesn't matter. What matters is you doing the things that YOUneed to do FOR YOU. ...I think the reason why I'm so fascinatedwith "The Genius Failure Paradox" is because Ihave had to struggle with all of these issues fora lot of years of my life. Now, I'm not saying that I'm the smartest guyon the planet... But, I don't think mamma raised no fool. And it always bothered the hell out of me thateven though I was so good at figuring things out,I couldn't figure WOMEN out. Something tells me that you know what I'mtalking about. Well, after beating my head against the wallfor a few years... trying all kinds of crazy"logical" stuff... I finally got the "bright" ideato start studying guys who were "naturally" goodwith women. Of course, I found out that you could be bothNOT SMART and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN at thesame time. I also learned that you can be SMART and VERYSUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN too. By carefully studying what the "naturals" didwith women... and learning how they "thought"about the topic, I began to realize that successwith women wasn't entirely LOGICAL. Much of what I learned was very tough for me toaccept... because my logical brain just didn'twant to buy into it. One thing I saw was guys pushing women awayfrom them... and having the women then chase themin response. Made no sense at all. I saw guys tease beautiful women and make jokesabout them to their faces... and then watchedthose women become "little girls" in response...unable to maintain their composure and thereforeunable to maintain their manipulative power... It took me quite a long time, but I continuedto learn, test, and refine what I was learninguntil I personally figured out how to approachwomen in any situation... get any woman's number Iwanted anytime I wanted... date any type of womanI wanted... ...and most importantly, GET RID of that"empty" feeling that I carried around my wholelife because I didn't know how to attract women. And once I got this area of my own lifetogether, I decided to help other guys get thisarea of THEIR lives together. The first "major" result of all this time,effort, and energy is my Advanced DatingTechniques CD/DVD Program. It's over 12 full hours of me personallyteaching all of my very best concepts, secrets,and step-by-step techniques... recorded at aspecial 3-day live program I did just for thispurpose. You not only get to learn directly from me, butyou also get to see and/or hear from many of theguys that I learned from... because they're guestson the program. 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