why nice guys dont get it

"What'sWrong With Nice Guys?"... here's a little quotefrom the article:"...Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones? This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nuggetof sense. Since women truly are conditioned to be"good girls," sometimes we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning "I must have him!" feeling. That's why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist BelleruthNaparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series of guided imagery tapes.

"In order for the deliciousness of pure lust to be 'okay,' it has to be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to dowith the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your animal impulses, worry-free," she says...." Interesting, isn't it? Now, I personally disagree with the idea that women "seek out" Bad Boys because they need somewhere to "project their guilty lust"... and I disagree with the idea that there's something"wrong" with the fact that women are attracted to Bad Boys... But the point is that the "mainstream"psychology and behavior world is starting to accept the idea that women are ATTRACTED to "BadBoys".


It will probably be another ten years beforeanyone with a degree puts two and two together andsays, "Hey, maybe women feel ATTRACTION towardsBad Boys for natural, evolutionary reasons, andthat's why Bad Boys are considered "sexy"..." Hell, maybe I should say it... Oh wait, Ialready did... Whatever. Point is, there's something to the idea thatwoman don't feel that powerful GUT LEVELATTRACTION for "nice" guys who chase after themand kiss up to them. Women do, on the other hand, feel that magicalemotion called ATTRACTION for BAD BOYS. Of course, I don't believe that you MUST be ajerk, or abuse women in order to make them feelattracted to you. There's a much better way... OK...now for THE HOMEWORK... Here's what I want you to do... If you own my eBook "Double Your Dating", go tochapter 4, and read it again. If you own my Advanced Series, I'd like you togo to Day 2, Section 1, and review again. (If you don't own these yet, then you need toget them immediately! You're cheating yourself ifyou don't invest in YOURSELF in this area...really.) Now, I want you to do something CONSCIOUSLYthis week. I want you to do the following with the next 5women that you talk to over the next few days...(these should be women that you would beinterested in dating):1) Smile all the time.2) Be very nice, cordial, and friendly. Use nosarcasm, and don't tease.3) Act as if you really "like" the woman you'retalking to... and as if you're "interested" inher.4) Give her lots of compliments.5) Optional: Politely say, "You probably have aboyfriend, right? Can I take you out sometime?" Pay careful attention, and notice how thewomen respond to you. Now, I want you to try something different withthe NEXT 5 women you talk to...1) Don't smile very often.2) Pretend that you've known her for 20 years, andthat you're TOO comfortable around her. Tease herfor something that no one teases her about... likethe way she dresses, etc.3) Pretend that she's interested in YOU, and hasbeen pursuing YOU, and that you're resisting her.Make jokes about it and say things like, "I justdon't think things are going to work out betweenus".4) Give her NO compliments of any kind. If shegives you any say, "That's a cheesy pick up line.Can't you think of something more original?"5) Optional: Say, "Hey, do you have email? Good.Write it down here..." ...and pay attention to the difference. If you really "play it up", you'll notice aHUGE difference between the first five women youtalk to and the next five. During the first set of five, when you're beinga "Nice Wuss", you'll see the looks on the women'sfaces that say, "Oh no. Another guy who "likes"me. How can I get rid of him politely?..." During the SECOND set of five, you'll see thewomen opening their mouths with the "half smile,half oh-no-you-didn't-just-say-that" look. You'llfeel a TENSION in the air. You'll notice that someof the women will actually look at you as if theycan't believe what they're hearing. If you're particularly sharp and funny, youmight just have one or two of them say, "I likeyou... we have to hang out sometime" within thefirst few minutes of the conversation. By the way,you will NEVER hear that when you're playing the"Nice Wuss". (SIDE NOTE: I once went out with some friendsand while taking pictures of them, I overheardthis girl talking to her friend. I took what sheand her friend were talking about and I teased herabout it... And within no more than 60 seconds thegirl was saying, "Ohmygod, I like you! We need tohang out sometime..." - Really.) Do your homework! And have FUN while you're atit. Alright now. If you haven't downloaded yourcopy of my eBook, and ordered your ZERO RISK copyof my Advanced Series, then get to it... You'll learn more in a few hours of studying mymaterials than most guys will learn in their wholeLIVES about how to attract women. Both come with an "offer you can't refuse" andI'm serious... You can try them at ZERO cost... nothing. If you're not thrilled and you don't meet morewomen, you don't have to pay a dime. You can download the eBook here right now:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10006/eBook/c-ebe505 You can listen to and watch samples of myAdvanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10006/AdvancedSeries/c-ase505