A lot of guys seem to think that ATTRACTION iswhen one person wants what another person has. Some think of ATTRACTION as the result of beinggood-looking or otherwise "attractive". In fact, Ithink a LOT of people confuse ATTRACTION with"attractive". When I think of the concept of ATTRACTION, Ithink of it primarily as an EMOTION. It seems tome that it's more a COMBINATION of powerfulemotions that come together to form a very, veryspecial new SUPER-emotion. However you think about it, there is a processthat happens that keeps men and women gettingtogether to have sex... You are reading this right now, which is amiracle. Think of the thousands upon thousands ofgenerations of ancestors that you have had... andthink about the fact that NOT ONE OF THEM DIED AVIRGIN. And not one of them died in childhood. And then think about the fact that you beat outabout five hundred MILLION other sperm-racers toget to the egg first. You are the result of, and represent, probablythe most amazing process I have ever heard of. One of the parts of this process thatfascinates me is how each pair of your ancestorsdecided to get together with THAT PARTICULARPERSON at THAT PARTICULAR TIME. I know that some people will be upset that I'mtalking about this whole concept in such ananalytical, detached way... women in particularseem to love the fantasy of two people being "soulmates" and "knowing that your special someone isout there" and "it just happening". If you're one of those people, stop readingnow! lol... After working on this area of my own personallife for a few years, and trying all kinds oftechniques, it finally dawned on me thatATTRACTION WAS BASICALLY EVERYTHING. If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, thennothing else really matters. Looks, age, nationality, wealth, religion,personal loss, peer pressure from friends andfamily... none of it matters! On the other hand, if a women DOESN'T feelATTRACTION for a man, then nothing else matters inthat case either! You can't "talk" a woman into feelingATTRACTION, any more than you can "talk" a personwho hasn't eaten for three days out of feelinghungry. I mean, if you really wanted to be fancy, youcould learn to be a hypnotist and talk them intoit that way... But I'll tell you a little secret: Even THATisn't the best way to do things! (I actually knowseveral people who use this method of hypnotizingwomen... and I haven't met one yet who could usethis technique alone to get women... there'sALWAYS something else going on.) What I'm trying to say is that one day it hitme like a ton of bricks that ATTRACTION IS THE KEYTO EVERYTHING WITH WOMEN! If you don't know what it is or how to createit, you'll wander around trying differenttechniques... and probably never land on somethingthat works consistently. And once I realized this, all kinds of thingsthat didn't make sense before INSTANTLY made senseto me. All of a sudden I realized why women datedabusive jerks... ATTRACTION. I realized why women dated men who were clearlyusing them and cheating on them... ATTRACTION. And I also saw the FLIP SIDE! I realized why women pass up guys who arehonest, stable, attractive, and wonderful forlosers... ATTRACTION. Think of ATTRACTION like a drug (which itreally is). If a woman is under the influence ofit, then she's gone. She'll do anything to getmore. One of the things that most fascinates me isthe "language" that triggers attraction inside ofwomen. I call it "Sexual Communication" and youcan learn all about it here: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/SexualCommunication/ If she's NOT under the influence, then YOU'REgone. Nothing you do will matter if she doesn'tfeel it. If you doubt what I'm saying, ask the next 10SUPER HOT women you see what they think of this.Read this newsletter to them, and watch theirreactions. You'll see. OK, now that you've heard a little bit more ofmy personal perspective, I'd like you to look backinto your life and think about all thosesituations with women that made no sense at all... Think about the women that you treatedwonderfully that passed you up for the jerks...and think about all the women "friends" you had...the ones who told you about how mean andinconsiderate their boyfriends were... while youlooked at them thinking "I would kill my ownmother for just one date with you". Is it all making sense now? THEY DIDN'T FEEL ATTRACTION FOR YOU! YOU WERE BEING A "NICE GUY" AND PROBABLY AWUSSY BOY, AND YOU HAD NO IDEA THAT IT WAS HAVINGTHE EXACT OPPOSITE EFFECT OF WHAT YOU WANTED! ANDWORSE YET, THERE WASN'T A DAMN THING YOU COULD DOABOUT IT! It's harsh to think about, but it's true. (Bythe way, if you don't do something to learn how tomake women feel ATTRACTION, then most likely, thisis going to keep happening to you for the rest ofyour life.) I have to point out one more thing. As Imentioned earlier, I think a lot of guys confusethe idea of being "attractive" with the emotioncalled ATTRACTION. You can make a woman feel an INCREDIBLEATTRACTION, even though you're not what mostpeople would think of as "attractive". Of course,you have to know how... The point is that if you're not tall, handsome,and dashing, you can LEARN how to make women feelthis wonderful emotion called ATTRACTION. It's a skill. It's taken me YEARS to be able toeven talk about this stuff in simple terms likethis that makes sense, and it's taken me the sametime to figure out how a regular guy like you or Ican make women who we used to think of as "out ofour league", feel ATTRACTION for us. How, you ask, can we do that? Well, you've read about the technique called"Cocky and Funny"... that's a part of it. But there are several other pieces of thepuzzle, from voice tone and body language, tospecific ways to touch a woman to get herphysically turned on, and everything in between.It's a system, and it all works together. There are two KEY aspects of learning how to besuccessful with women and dating:1) The Inner Game2) The Outer Game The INNER GAME is all about learning how toTHINK and how to manage your thoughts andemotions. It's also about understanding how andwhy attractive women feel that amazing emotioncalled ATTRACTION for some men, and not for MOSTmen. The OUTER GAME is all of the techniques, whatto say and such. Which is more important? Well, they're BOTH important. But what I notice is that most guys want tolearn the OUTER GAME first. In other words, they want pick-up lines, fancytricks, and other things. I can remember when I first started learningthis stuff. I had this idea in my mind that if I couldlearn how to get women to give me their numbersthat I'd be the MAN. Well, I learned that I can get just about anywoman's phone number in a few minutes. But guess what? Once I learned how to get women's phonenumbers, I ran into a much BIGGER issue... thewomen usually flaked out on me, didn't show up,etc. And the ones that DID show up were difficult. Nothing happened. I realized that there had to be more. And, as it turns out, there is... A LOT more,in fact. The REASON that the "Inner Game" is soimportant, is that attractive women don't judgeyou on your "pick-up lines". And just because a woman gives you her phonenumber or email address DOES NOT mean that sheFEELS anything inside (like ATTRACTION). Women don't DECIDE to feel ATTRACTION for aman. ATTRACTION is something that happens on itsown, for its own reasons. Attraction Isn't A Choice! The way to cause women to feel ATTRACTION foryou is to UNDERSTAND how and why it works, andthen communicate in a way that makes it happen. In my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVDprogram, I spend several HOURS teaching "The InnerGame"... all those things that help you get theINSIDE together, so you can then get the OUTSIDEtogether. This stuff is CRITICAL to your success. I wouldn't have taken all the time, effort, andenergy to put this together unless I thought itwas important. If you want to overcome your challenges andreally take your success to the next level, thenyou owe it to yourself to check it out. It's here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/AdvancedSeries/ And if you haven't had a chance to download myeBook "Double Your Dating: What Every Man ShouldKnow About How To Be Successful With Women", thenyou need to do that now. You can download it andbe reading it within a few minutes...http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/eBook/ If you've tried all kinds of techniques, andnothing seems to "work", then you need to work onyour Inner Game. When you get the inner gametogether, everything will start to work a LOTbetter... I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.P.S. If you'd like to see all of the differentprograms I've created to help you learn how tomeet women, take a minute and check this out:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/Catalog/P.P.S. If you'd like to send me a Success Story,Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphsmax.2) Tell me what's working for you before you askyour question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuffis great" and "I don't need to tell you how wellyour stuff works" comments, but the fact is that IDO need to hear all of the specifics... becausethis helps other guys to see what's working indifferent situations.3) If you have a Success Story, write "SuccessStory" in the subject line of the email. I readthese first.4) At the end of the email, give me your initialsand tell me where you're from.5) Send it to me at:SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com ...don't just hit "reply" to this email. Thanks!

>NOTE: If you'd like to learn the easiest,fastest, lowest-rejection way to meet women,then read this:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/MeetingWomenOnline/***SUCCESS STORY***Hey Dave,Great news. I tried C + F with a girl I've knownfor over a year as a friend but would never dream of "approaching"...I asked her advice about fashion and took hershopping with me for clothes. I busted on her the whole time about looking at my ass, etc.

So a fewdays later I get a call. "What do you like to drink? How 'bout I stop by with some beers and hang out?"Between our second and third lovemaking sessions she apologizes for taking up my time, and confesses that she's not really looking for a relationship right now. Hopes I'm not mad. Pure gold, man. This woman is ten years younger and the highest paid stripper at a local bar. I'm broke,short, bald, cocky, and funny. Go figure. Thanks amillion.

Don't print my name, but DO send me youradvanced class ASAP!>>>MY COMMENTS: Yeah, bummer... isn't it? While you might not have found the ultimate"wife" material, it doesn't sound to me like youmind the free fashion advice (oh, and free BEER). Interesting Question: Why is it that the highest paid dancer at alocal bar... one who has literally hundreds andhundreds of men around her that would pay her, buyher anything, and worship her like a queen...would rather buy beer and bring it to an older,short, bald, cocky, funny guy and then say "I'msorry if I'm wasting your time... I'm not lookingfor a relationship"? Interesting Answer: Because she doesn't need a clingy, loser,psycho, WUSSY, sketchy jackass who calls her 47times a day to ask her what she's doing and say "Imiss you, when can I see you again". Powerful.***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***Hi,I would be most grateful for some help/advice ifyou could assist. I am bi sexual fem women,and have recently met a beautiful women, my typevery fem, and I really like this women. She hasbeen hurt by men in the past, and is just goingthrough a phase in her life at the moment whereshe needs to be with women. She has been with 2other women including me before.To cut a long story short, I dont know how tocharm her, make her like me more and become amagnet towards her?. I'm not chasing after herbecause i suspect that most men have done thisbefore, and because I am a women i want to play itcool. She has already indicated that she wantsfun then see what happens, but I understand thatnothing could ever come of it because her familyand friends dont know she is bi, and she comesfrom a relatively posh family.Have you got any suggestions you could give meplease.Thank you for spending time in reading theabove, and I await to hear from you in greatanticipation.S.>>>MY COMMENTS: You know, why is it that when you finally getan email you WISH was longer, it says "To cut along story short"? Whatever. OK, I'm closing my eyes right now... and makingan image in my mind of you and your new-found babein a room together... You're wondering how to make her feel A STRONGATTRACTION to you... but you just can't figure itout... All of a sudden, the door opens up, and I comewalking in to the rescue... I sit down between you and your girlfriend, andI give you that knowing look... You instantly understand that I'm going to helpyou get what you want... and you feel a deep andprofound appreciation for me... ... ... ... You know, this imaginary thing never was verygood for me. Ok, back to reality... Look, you're asking a question just like aWussy guy would ask. You're in a TEXTBOOK situation... And if you don't get control of yourself andyour emotions, you're going to screw this up realgood. Pause. Deep breaths. Sit in the lotus positionor something. Here's the formula for making this girl want tobe with you: Great Experiences + Missing You Got it? When you're with her, make it ENJOYABLE. Don't put any kind of weird emotional pressureon her. Don't ask "Do you think you could be withsomeone like me in a long-term relationship?". Don't cling. Don't call her all the time. When you do spend time with her, make sure youand she are having a GREAT TIME. And then end every interaction with her whileit's on an UP note... and just a little bit toosoon. Like a great movie, end it at a "climax". "Huh... Huh... He thaid "climaxth". Yeah Yeah!" And as you've heard me say before, give her theGIFT of MISSING YOU. You're on the right track by "playing it cool". Now add fun, excitement, and MYSTERY to theequation. Give her experiences she can't forget, and thengive her room to think about you, wonder where youare, and chase you until she's caught.***COMMENT***Just what kind of conversations are you havingwith these lil girls? Don't you find it better tohave someone that can stimulate your mind as wellas your member? I must say that my personalopinion is that you have low self-esteem and baseyour self worth on the trophy you carry by yourside...Grow up ya mental midget.......Sincerely, K.D.C.>>>MY COMMENTS: I've included this to make an example... thisis the type of person to watch out for whileyou're learning how to be successful with womenand dating... they have nothing useful to offer,only negativity. This is someone who doesn't get it, doesn't getANY, and isn't going to help you. This person would be glad to sit all night andtell you why it's a bad idea for you to have fundating all the fun women you're dating becausenone of them are "marriage material". REVELATION: Duh. But while you're FINDING that rare andfantastic woman who can stimulate your mind, body,emotions, and "member", you might as well enjoyyourself... And to answer the question: The kind of conversations I'm having with these"lil girls" is the kind that challenges them,makes them feel ATTRACTION, and makes them realizehow BORING negative people like you are. 'Nuff said.***SUCCESS STORY***David!Where do I even begin to tell you about thechanges that have taken place in my life since Iread your e-book?I used to be the classic wussy. While readingyour book, and reading about the things that yousaid were exactly what NOT to do, it was painfulfor me. But a wake-up call at the same time! Itallowed me to pinpoint what went wrong in everyfailed relationship or unsuccessful interactionwith females I've ever had.I've always been naturally cocky and funny, butI never figured it would be a successful method touse around women as I was too focused on comingacross as, "A nice guy she could take home todad." I used to ALWAYS become a submissive wuss infrilly pink panties everytime I was aroundattractive girls. Maaannn, was I ever wrong, andthank you for showing me the light!

more tips

Let's talk about how to make a great FIRSTIMPRESSION with a woman...

I've found that there are 3 keys to approachinga woman and sparking her attraction for you withinthe first few minutes of meeting her. They are:

1. Being CONFIDENT A woman can "sense" confidence much like theway a dog can sense fear. Ask any woman and she will tell you that thereis something about a man who is confident andcomfortable in his own skin that is IRRESISTABLYattractive... and something FAR MORE intriguingabout these types of men then there is about guywho is simply physically attractive.

2. Being DIFFERENT I don't need to tell you that attractive womenget approached by DOZENS of men... often in asingle day. Fortunately 99% of these men do the EXACT samethings... and get rejected almost immediately. This is great news for YOU... because when youdo something DIFFERENT you will instantly grab herattention and peak her curiosity... simply becauseyou stand out from the pack of unoriginal losersshe is used to meeting.

3. Knowing What To Do Next After you approach a woman and grab herattention, it is CRITICAL that you know what to doNEXT to keep things going in the right direction. SHE certainly isn't going to help you... so ifyou don't know how to keep the conversation going and take things to the next level, you are boundto end up in an awkward moment that makes her feel uncomfortable with you... and ruins all of thegood things you have done up to that point.

Nod your head if this has ever happened toyou...
It's easy to see how critical the above 3things are to approaching a woman successfully and sparking her interest and ATTRACTION for you. But actually DOING THEM can be easier said than done... especially when you are trying to figure it all out on your own. Fortunately that doesn't have to be the casefor YOU... I just finished up a KILLER interview with aguy who is one of the best I've ever met atapproaching a woman and making a fantastic first impression with her.

But unlike some of the other guys I'veinterviewed in the past, this man is no "natural".He's a regular guy... just like me and you. Growing up, he could never figure out why women weren't interested in him.

And get this: As a teen he got the crazy idea that if women thought he was really intelligent they would beimpressed and attracted to him... He decided to spend an entire summer reading a DICTIONARY... and learning big words he thought women would find impressive.

Needless to say, it didn't work. It wasn't until just recently that things finally began to click for him... and now he is UNSTOPPABLE.

He's approached HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS ofwomen... and has figured out how to spark awoman's interest in him in MINUTES... nearly everytime. These days he is part of a company that takesguys out "in the field" and shows them how toapproach women LIVE and in-person. It's one of the only companies that I personally recommend for in-the-field coaching,and one of the very best.

As expected, the secrets he shared in our interview are going to BLOW YOUR MIND. Here are just a few:-

A simple "in the field" trick to boost your confidence and completely ELIMINATE any nervousness you feel when you see a woman you want to meet (Using this trick, even my friend's most nervous students are able to walk up to anattractive woman and start a conversation withher... the very FIRST time they try!)

-3 secret spots to meet women that are much, MUCH better than nightclubs... ESPECIALLY if you wantto meet someone who is "girlfriend material" with nearly ZERO risk of rejection-A simple line to use to meet a woman at a grocery store that works in almost any situation... andwill often even lead to a date with her THAT NIGHT (Women LOVE this one because it is totally ORIGINAL)-A BRAND NEW way to start a conversation with awoman that works nearly every time in nearly EVERY situation (Chances are this will become your "fallback" line from now on)

-What to say to a woman when you RUN OUT of thingsto say (Here's an easy way to "save" yourself ifyou ever find yourself at a loss for words that gets things back on track IMMEDIATELY and makesher feel MORE ATTRACTED to you at the same time)

-A simple psychological trick to make a woman wantto begin FLIRTING with you instead of havingboring "casual" conversation (Use this one to takethings to a "sexual" level within MINUTES ofmeeting her)-How to turn any nervous energy you have aroundmeeting a woman into ADRENALINE that pumps you upwith a contagious excitement that women FEEL whenyou approach them-How to tell a story in a way that gets a womancaptivated with your personality... so she becomeseager to hear more of what YOU have to say insteadof running off with her friends-How to create an intense feeling of CONNECTIONwith a woman during your very first conversationwith her (This strategy is used by psychologiststo get their patients to open up to themquickly... she'll feel like the two of you haveknown each other forever even if you've just met)

-A type of tee shirt that gets women to approachYOU... and also makes them MUCH less likely toreject you when you are the one making the firstmove-And much, much more... As you can see... this interview was KILLER. If you have ANY hesitation or problems aroundapproaching women and starting conversations...chances are the exact thing you need to learn totake your game to the next level is in here. When you have the ability to approach a womanyou've never met before and not only start aconversation with her... but actually get herinterested and ATTRACTED to you... your life willsuddenly get VERY exciting... Don't be surprised if you find yourself pumpedup to hit one of the secret spots my friend shareswith you IMMEDIATELY after you go through thisinterview... you'll be able to use thesetechniques IMMEDIATELY... and you'll see resultsRIGHT AWAY. I'm going to release this killer interview asthis month's edition of my "Interviews With DatingGurus" monthly CD audio program. If you're already signed up for the program, donothing. You'll have your hands on these secretssoon. If you're not? Well then NOW is THE TIME. This interview is "hitting the presses" thisFriday morning... so you're going to need to be onboard by THIS THURSDAY at MIDNIGHT to make sureyou get it. When you sign up, I'm also going to throw ina "Starter Kit" containing 2 UNBELIEVABLE double-length interviews (2 CDs each) that are among thebest I've ever done... ON ME. The information in this interviews will saveyou THOUSANDS OF HOURS of "trial and error"... Iguarantee you will learn SEVERAL techniques youwill use to improve your interactions with womenfor the rest of your life. If you're like most of the guys that havesigned up for the program, you'll listen to eachof them AT LEAST 4 or 5 times... and learnsomething new each time you go through them. What if you don't? If you don't learn anything useful from theseinterviews, then I've wasted your time... and Iwant you to KEEP ALL OF THEM as my way of sayingthanks for giving the program a shot. Now... would I make a promise like that to youif I was AT ALL worried about that happening?Absolutely not.

In fact, I'll make a "side bet" with you rightnow that once you get these interviews out thereand listen to JUST THE FIRST ONE... that I won'tbe able to buy them back from you for 500 dollars. I'm deadly serious. The information in theseinterviews is CUTTING EDGE. You simply CANNOT findit anywhere else. And it will improve your successwith women IMMEDIATELY. Think I'm kidding? Try me. You're going to get your hands on somePRICELESS secrets that will take your skills withwomen to the next level... or you don't pay.Period. But don't take my word for it. Try me. You can't lose. Just make sure you sign up by THIS THURSDAY atMidnight... and I'll ship your CDs out to youright away. Get your notepad ready. You're going to be LOVEthese interviews... and more than that... you'regoing to LOVE the success with women thisinformation brings. Click on this link, and sign up now:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/InterviewSeries/

Tips to show u love her

1) Make sure you say 'I love you' at least once each day to the one u love. Listening to you saying those words again and again is all the emotional reassurance that your partner needs to keep that spark alive.

2) Give your mate an unexpected hug, a surprisingly romantic kiss, or a teasing tickle often. These are all ways of physically reinforcing those three important words.

3) Be spontaneous and surprising with unexpected notes, winking your lover away for an unexpected weekend alone, star-gazing together, taking a walk in the rain with one another...

4) Share memories by looking at old photographs and talking about memories you share together.

5) Schedule a day to just be leisurely together. Away from everyday tensions and work. Great for bonding.

6) Listen. First to each other. Pay attention when your partner says something. And next, listen together... could be Beethoven or even the news... the important thing is to share your likes and dislikes.

7) Share why you love your lover. Nothing boosts your partner's morale faster than this. No wonder it works every time.

8) Give the gift of your time by performing trivial chores for your lover, such as folding clothes, running an errand, washing the car, etc.

9) Don't forget anniversaries and birthdays. Never. Nothing brings about the crumbling of an affair faster than this.

10) Smile. Often. At each other, for no reason at all, together at something else...

11) Blow your partner a kiss from across the room - this is the most romantic gesture that the French ever discovered.

12) Dance with your lover in your own living room. Plan a surprise, if you can. the minute your partner walks into the room, the music goes on. So do the lights, and you waltz into his or her arms. There is something very romantic about waltzing in your own house.

13) Hold hands. Yet another simple action, but great for sustaining a relationship.

14) Plan and cook a meal together. And eat it over candlelight.

15) Send love notes to each other... keeps you on his or her mind even when out of sight. These days, SMSes have taken over, and people have forgotten how to write those cute little handwritten notes to each other. But the fact is, nothing beats them when it comes to the sheer romanticism, and of course, communication.

Where to leave those love notes...
On an egg in the refrigerator
Inside a book your spouse is reading
On the refrigerator door
On your mate's pillow
In one of your lover's shoes
On the computer or television
On the dashboard of your lover's car
Inside your partner's favourite glass
In one of your partner's drawers
Tucked inside a CD or DVD plastic sleeve
On the bathroom mirror
Via email or cell phone message
Inside one of the coat pockets
Inside your spouse's lunch box
Inside your mate's favourite bag of chips or a package of cookies

on flirting

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Exactly how do we signal our amorous interest and intent in each other? It's been trivialized, even demonized, but the coquettish behavior indulged in by men and women alike is actually a vital silent language exchanging critical-and startling-information about our general health and reproductive fitness.
"She was," he proclaimed, "so extraordinarily beautiful that I nearly laughed out loud. She... [was] famine, fire, destruction and plague... the only true begetter. Her breasts were apocalyptic, they would topple empires before they withered... her body was a miracle of construction... She was unquestionably gorgeous. She was lavish. She was a dark, unyielding largesse. She was, in short, too bloody much... Those huge violet blue eyes... had an odd glint... Aeons passed, civilizations came and went while these cosmic headlights examined my flawed personality. Every pockmark on my face became a crater of the moon."
So Richard Burton described his first sight of a 19-year-old Elizabeth Taylor. He didn't record what happened next, but a growing cadre of scientists would bet their lab coats and research budgets that sometime after that breath-catching, gut-gripping moment of instant mutual awareness, Liz tossed her hair, swayed her hips, arched her feet, giggled, gazed wide-eyed, flicked her tongue over her lips and extended that apocalyptic chest, and that Dick, for his part, arched his back, stretched his pecs, imperceptibly swayed his pelvis in a tame Elvis performance, swaggered, laughed loudly, tugged his tie and clasped the back of his neck, which had the thoroughly engaging effect of stiffening his stance and puffing his chest.
What eventually got these two strangers from across the fabled crowded room to each other's side was what does it for all of us-in a word, flirtation, the capacity to automatically turn our actions into sexual semaphores signaling interest in the opposite sex as predictably and instinctively as peacocks tan their tails, codfish thrust their pelvic fins or mice twitch their noses and tilt their backs to draw in the object of their attention.
Long trivialized and even demonized, flirtation is gaining new respectability thanks to a spate of provocative studies of animal and human behavior in many parts of the world. The capacity of men and women to flirt and to be receptive to flirting turns out to be a remarkable set of behaviors embedded deep in our psyches. Every come-hither look sent and every sidelong glance received are mutually understood signals of such transcendent history and beguiling sophistication that only now are they beginning to yield clues to the psychological and biological wisdom they encode.
This much is clear so far: flirting is nature's solution to the problem every creature faces in a world full of potential mates-how to choose the right one. We all need a partner who is not merely fertile but genetically different as well as healthy enough to promise viable offspring, provide some kind of help in the hard job of parenting and offer some social compatibility.
Our animal and human ancestors needed a means of quickly and safely judging the value of potential mates without "going all the way" and risking pregnancy with every possible candidate they encountered. Flirting achieved that end, offering a relatively risk-free set of signals with which to sample the field, try out sexual wares and exchange vital information about candidates' general health and reproductive fitness.
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Impotence

ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION
http://www.dhyansanjivani.org/diseases/impontance.asp

VAGINAL INFECTION
http://www.dhyansanjivani.org/diseases/vejinal_infect.asp

DEPRESSION
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I was working and met some female (9.0 on my scale) exactly the type of face i like. She had a hard-to-get personality. I teased her and had some good conversation for a few minutes. She had to go butreturned a while later asking 'what time it was'or some stupid question like that that you can ask anyone and still look casual. (typical of girls ihave busted on to come back and ask some stupidquestion) I continued to bust on her and maintain my uninterested/laid back mood. I told her to write her number down, she did and she told me 'she liked me' or some pick up like that, i said "yeah i like me too" She wanted to do something later, I said 'like what' (just seeing where she was coming from). She smiled and didnt really answer, to which i followed up with "whatever, you couldnt handlethis" I had a friend come by who i work with and she started talking to him 'acting' interested (iassume to see how i would handle it). So ignoredthem and went on with my stuff, instead of cock blocking i bragged a little about him. she said she had to leave and was standing rightin front of me for a couple seconds so i justmoved in for a kiss and she did also (btw that wasafter less than a total of 15 minutes of talking).She left and I went back to my work, but notbefore a little 3-second Conan O'Brien dancebehind my desk. earlier she told me to call herthat night so i called her the next night. That night she wanted to get busy and I wouldkeep backing up when she went in to kiss me anddidnt act too thrilled about the whole occasion.She took her shirt off right after she got in myhouse and i told her to put it back on and thatshe could take it off later. that night she said"Your the only guy who I can't figure out" and"I'm so lucky to be here with you" and even "Howcome you picked me, you deserve so much better"This beautiful, hard-to-get girl's personalitychanged right in front of me. And i used thebeautiful "just say please" line once again.I love you Dave (but not like that you sicko!)-D from CA>>>MY COMMENTS: Great story. You've mentioned a couple of my favorite typesof "comebacks" to things women say. In one situation, she said, "I like you" andyou replied, "I like me too". In another, she mentioned that she wanted to dosomething later with you, and you replied "Likewhat?"... and then said "Whatever, you couldn'thandle this". You TOTALLY get the equation: COCKY + FUNNY In your first comeback, you've taken something"nice" that she was saying about you, and turnedit into a perfect opportunity to dial up thetension in a funny way. "I like you"... "Yeah, I like me too". Classic. In your second comment, you really add one ofthe "magic ingredients" of ATTRACTION called beinga CHALLENGE. Most women have never had a guy say somethinglike, "You couldn't handle this" to them. It's so surprising to a woman when she hearsthis kind of thing... and it's INCREDIBLE whenit's done in a FUNNY way. Unless you understand the dynamics of how womenbecome attracted to men, this stuff doesn't makeany sense at all. Remember when you were a kid and you had thoselittle cars that you could wind up by pulling thembackwards on the floor... then when you let gothey would spin out and fly forward? You could feel the tension building as youpulled the car backwards... winding it up. Andwhen you let go, it would scream out of your hand.I always thought those were pretty cool. Well, there was another great lesson in thosecool little cars: You need to dial up the tensionbefore you can release the energy inside. Your story and comments do a GREAT job of this.***SUCCESS STORY***David, I, like you, am a slow learner withwomen and I own nearly every product that you sell(which i am incredibly grateful for). And proofof my learning about women came just the othernight. I had been achieving mild success withwomen but nothing to sneeze at. Anyhow, I was in a strip club with somefriends (fyi...i HATE strip clubs, seriously) justchatting it with some people i hadn't seen for along time sittin in sniffler's row with my backcocked to the side, halfway ignoring the"dancers". So, I held up $3 for a beer just as thedancer was coming my way and right before she gotin my face i notified the bartender for a BudLight, then turned away. This, obviously, pissedher off. I continued to sit relaxed, justchillin, ya know. Ten minutes later she comes outin somewhat normal attire and sits right next tome and starts in with how I am an a**hole and shehated me. I just smile demurely and say, "Welli'm glad you could determine that in the first 5minutes rather than waste your time" and did NOTlook away until she did. Then, not 5 minutes ofconversation later, she confessed to me that shehated me yet was "so attracted to me" she couldn'texplain it. At this time i am like "wow, thissh** is like magic". Next i am making out with herin front of the ENTIRE bar after she had bought me2 beers and 2 shots. Meanwhile, this tool of aman that had tipped her in excess of $200 thatnight was groping her while we were playingvolley-lime with our tongues. Holy sh** were allthe dudes in the club impressed and needless tosay she left with me to finish the deal. I wentfrom nobody in a club of perverts spending bigmoney to the stud that left with free alcohol andthe hottest stripper there. I always was a believer in you, David, and theother night just reaffirmed my beliefs. Talk toyou again soon...... D the Cunnilingualist SoDak>>>MY COMMENTS: What can I say? I've already thought of a few things...1) Use protection. Lots of it.2) Don't marry her, no matter how good the sexhappens to be.3) Wipe that DAMN Sh**-Eating-Grin off of yourface already. It's bad enough that every guy hatesyou... lol. So, when you're finished playing with fire, doyourself a favor and test out your skills in abookstore, art show, or other place where youmight meet more "quality" women. Oh, and shut up.***SUCCESS STORY***Dave, Your material is great! I went to this libraryin town where this very beautiful woman works.There are about 6 women that work there (no men).This woman has had very wealthy men date her andpolicemen and a body builder etc. I'm 49 and baldand don't make a lot of money but she has fallenfor me! Every time I'd go in there I'd get cocky andfunny with all of them and this woman wants todate ME! So we've been dating for a couple weeksnow and she's really falling in love with me. Her birthday was about 5 days after we firstmet and I didn't buy her anything. She obviouslyfinds this very attractive that I feel confidentenough in myself that I would do that. Last night she said she loved me for the firsttime. I held my ground and refused to beintimidated into saying I love her too. She wasflabberghasted when she asked: "Don't you loveme?" I said I need to know her more. This morning she went to town and got me a popand pop corn and wouldn't allow me to pay her backand she brought it to me. I've never been able to do this before. I wasalways the very nice and shy guy.Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!T.>>>MY COMMENTS: Well, it's OK to be a nice guy. Just do it in away that doesn't make women use the WORD "nice" todescribe you. The fact is that when you're being Cocky &Funny, you're actually being VERY nice... andwomen know it. They love the fact that you're paying attentionto them in a way that's INTERESTING, entertaining,funny, and unpredictable. Good for you. Sounds like you've met a greatgal.***SUCCESS STORY***Dave, I have emailed you before with a success storybut this email is more of a reply to the guy whofelt his age of 37 was an issue with girls intheir 20's. My thought on this is age is only a barrier ifyou choose to make it one. Sure there are girlsout there where they have a problem with an agedifference. To me these girls are looking forsomeone to settle down with, bring to her parentsfor Sunday dinner and have the approval of herfriends and not someone to date for sake ofdating. I met this Latin girl at my gym who on a scaleof 1 - 10 is about a 9. After an aerobic boxingclass we went out for a cup of tea. We talked andI did a little C&F and she said to me before Ileave remind me to give you my phone #. I didn'teven get to ask for it but that's OK. The other day we were at a Wendy's for lunchwhen she told me I was incredible. She went on tosay I don't crowd her I give her, her space.Keeping the C&F going I told her I agree I amincredible. I told her if it wasn't for the fact Ilike girls so much I would give myself a hug andkiss. Well, Dave, we have been dating a few monthsnow and about the age thing she is 27 and I am 56.It was on our second date when she asked how old Iwas and without any hesitation I just said 56.Just being honest and straight with her. Now,granted I do not look nor act my age for shethought I was 36 or so, I am into Hip Hop & Technomusic and started taking Salsa dance lessons,there are a number of Latin clubs here in Miami. So age is only a number to me and a lot of thegirls I have gone out with. When a girl I datetells her girl friend how old I am the girl friendthinks her friend is dating this old man until Imeet her and she doesn't see an age difference anymore.N. Miami Beach>>>MY COMMENTS: Great points. I know many men who date women that are 10 oreven 20 years or more younger. I read an interesting statistic that men whoget divorced wind up marrying women that are anaverage of 10 years younger the second time, andthat one in five men marries a women 20 yearsyounger the second time. Thanks for the email.***COMMENT***Dear Dave, Your stuff is right on target...It took me aweek to buy your ebook which is well worth it!! Idon't even think a genie could have given mebetter luck with women than the things you teachin ~THAT~ book. Anyway onto my SUCCESS STORY... I'm 5'9" weigh 140 pounds normal teenage acneproblems nothing too big. The thing that got medown is I have kind of a big nose which brought myself-esteem sky rocketing downwards and kept itthere for the 18 years I have been alive. Yournewsletters alone gave me the confidence I neededto approach a woman. Well make a long juicy storyshort. HOT woman bumps into me at gym. I ask didyou grab my ass and really crank up the ballbusting and C&f routine ...a week later I [hadsex] for the first time before I even got my firstkiss. LOL. And to all you idiots who ask dumbquestions before you read the book...well...you'reidiots...Thanks Man!>>>MY COMMENTS: Hey, good job. And I appreciate your plug for my book. I also wish that more guys would invest inthemselves and get my book before askingquestions. The questions would be so much better, and theanswers would as well.***SUCCESS STORY***Dear Dave, So, the reason I haven't written you since mylast message is because I've been too busy havingthe best sex ever. Seriously. I've got your last20 newsletters sitting in my inbox because Ihaven't had time to read them. That's how powerfulyour interview series has been. It is INVALUABLE.Just hearing you talk was a great educationaltool. I mean, the level of confidence that youboth exude about everything, not just dating,makes me feel respect for you even before I'veactually tried what you suggest. Then I tryincorporating your tips and guidance into my ownrelations with women, and WOW what a difference.Listening to Marie's insights (and GOD does shesound sexy!!!) helped me realize that womenactually WANTED me to be the type of person I wasnaturally, but I was afraid to be a MAN. And it'sthe fear that drives them away. What a turnaround. So, back to this incredible sex :D!!. I ran intothis sexy girl I knew 2 years ago when I was incollege. I always had a thing for her, but I wasso shy and awkward, there was no chance it wasgonna go anywhere. But now I've been reading thenewsletters, I read the eBook and pamphlets, andI've listened to the Interview series thus far (3times) and I just GET IT. So I run into her afternot having seen her in 2 years, turn on the charmDD style and her first response is, "God, you seemso...mature." I knew it was on then. Dave, everytime I get a test, I just think "WWDDD: What wouldDave DeAngelo do?" For instance, the other day,after giving her a considerable hard time, shesaid, "You know, being too cocky is just NOT sexy"So I turn to her, flash a confident smile and say,But you don't think I'm too cocky," She startslaughing and throws her arms around my neck andsays, "I hate that you're always right." She saysthings to me I never thought I'd hear a girl say,like "How did you get to be so cute?" and "Why isit you always know exactly the right thing tosay?"And, on top of that, she's always begging mefor sex. BEGGING. And what's more, she's okaythat I'm dating other women, as long as I stillsee her once a week. Do you realize what I'mtelling you? This incredible sexy women, who Icould hardly look in the eyes 2 years ago, isbegging me for sex (and doing crazy things inbed), bragging to her friends about me, andallowing me to do anything I want with anyone Iwant. It's the type of story I wouldn't believeif I weren't living it.Thank you, Dave.And keep those interview CD's coming!!!CK Los Angeles.>>>MY COMMENTS: Yeah, it's amazing when you finally start"getting" how it all fits together, and seeingthese types of responses from women. By the way, thanks for the plug for myInterview Series. I'm getting KILLER feedback onit. As a reminder, details are here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/InterviewSeries/***SUCCESS STORY***Hi Dave. Im not gonna say that you're a god or anything,but you are a good guy who seems to know hisstuff. I'd be a 21 year old virgin right now if itwasn't for you. I began reading your emails about9 months ago, while trying to figure out why mylast girl left me before we even got into bedtogether. Your book made the answer painfullyobvious. I was just too nice to her. I dideverything to please her, and in the process endedup tuckin my balls between my thighs. Afterdownloading your book, my success has come aboutgradually. I've just been gradually being moreopen with women, less worried about offendingthem, and saying even rude or controversial thingsto them just for laughs. Like I said it takes timeto get use to doing this, but I really put it touse well with a girl I met this summer, and wow. Iwas amazed at how easy it was to get a reasonablyattractive woman to sleep with you. Well that onedidn't work out, but I don't care cause I've hadmore success with others since. Rock on Dave.B from Michigan>>>MY COMMENTS: This is some good stuff. It's important to test these ideas out untilyou become comfortable with them... and for someguys it's VERY unusual or uncomfortable to say"rude or controversial things just for laughs"when it comes to women they're attracted to. Most guys fear that if they say the wrongthing, a woman won't "like" them. The problem with this kind of reasoning is thatwomen don't like men who PUSSYFOOT around lookingfor approval. So by winning, you lose. And yes, women like sex too. They tend to enjoy it more with men who actlike MEN, and not men who act like WOMEN. Thanks for your email, and Rock On yourself,dude.***SUCCESS STORY***Dave, I have been receiving your emails and boughtyour book, and I think I'm starting to get it. Iam practicing to learn a new skill now, so that Ican remain "in character" as cocky and funny,while I work to assimilate the approach into mypersonality. A recent newsletter helped meovercome my fear of being direct with women. Ialways was afraid to make a move because I figuredthe attractive ones were already married, hookedup, or lesbians. I thought I would be embarrassedand feel stupid if I made a move on someone whoisn't available. You said simply ask "Are yousingle?" I agree that it does say all the rightthings. So last week I tried it, and the woman wasmarried. But I could see she was complimented, andI felt good about the exchange. The next time,a woman said she was dating. Again, it was apositive experience. Then yesterday, a hot woman came into my office,and she seemed to be getting into me. So I askedher if she was single, and she bent over backwardsto assure me that she was. Then I shockedmyself when I took it a step further, blurting out"Well, but are you straight?" This knocked her fora loop -- and as she insisted just how straightshe really is, I noticed an immediate increase inher feminine behaviors. So I busted her again,"Well, I just couldn't be sure." Thanks, Dave. Ido think I'm starting to get it... T.>>>MY COMMENTS: NIYYYYYYYYYCE! Yes, you are demonstrating that you're startingto get it. By the way, once you get a woman onthe defensive (in a fun way, like you did) it'salways fun to keep going... and accuse her of allkinds of crazy things. After she said that she was straight, you couldhave said, "OK, that's good. But can you cook?". Once you're on a roll, stay with it. Thesefirst moments present an amazing opportunity toturn up the heat and really amplify theATTRACTION.***QUESTION***Hi Dave,Love your stuff and these e-mails. Reallyinformative.I've a couple of points about the last set. 1)NLP can work in some cases but usually as a back-up to your stuff. Women love it AT THE RIGHT TIMEbut use it too much and you sound wussy. DON'Tgive up the cocky-funny approach EVER in arelationship. Keep the woman guessing, unsure andbust other women while she's around you. You don'thave to be trying to pick up women while she'sthere, just teasing shop assistants, waitresses,her friends, etc. shows her you're in control andattractive to other women; they won't want rid ofyou then....... ever. They love it and it keepsthem on their toes. It makes you unpredictable,confident, assertive (in a positive way) and notneedy and wussy.2) One 37 year old guy in a previous e-mailsaid he felt he couldn't approach younger women.He didn't want to be thought of as a creepy oldguy. Well, I'm 48, split 3 years ago (I've 3kids!), thought my world had ended and I'd nofuture. I could've retreated to a lonely cocoon-like existence but decided, "What the hell it's myturn now!" This really pissed off my ex-wife whowanted to split! I began to study everything Icould find on women, how they thought (or didn'tthink), what made them tick (or didn't), why - tous guys - they were so irrational, the "let's justbe friends" thing, etc. The only thing I've foundthat REALLY works is your stuff (I've had the bookfor ages). I have had loads of success withyounger women (20s and 30s). My current girl is34, attractive and I feel like a million dollarswhen I walk into a club or bar with my piece ofarm candy (other women never stop looking and youknow they're attracted to a guy who can pullyounger women, they're curious, it's amazing). Shesays this is the best relationship she's ever had.So, my advice to older men is ignore everyone, gohave some fun, approach who the hell you like,just use the cocky and funny routine and you WILLsucceed more than you'll fail. Life's too short soget out there and enjoy. I wouldn't have believedit could be like this.Thanks for everything and helping me get a lifeback.J. Edinburgh, Scotland>>>MY COMMENTS: You've made some great points here... Let me comment on one or two of them. One thing you mentioned is demonstrating howyou can control situations with women... so thatthe woman you're with KNOWS IT. It's always interesting to me how COMPETITIVEwomen are. And there's nothing quite like a woman knowingthat her man can meet other women whenever hewants. In fact, I'll bet that a large percentage ofwomen who stay in bad situations with men are onlythere because they know that their man can go meetother women anytime he wants, and they just can'tdeal with the jealousy that it triggers... so theystay. I know this doesn't make much logical sense,but hey, it's reality. Now, as you know, I really don't like the ideaof "manipulating" women by lying and playing withtheir emotions for your enjoyment. But if you naturally like to have fun withother people, and your girl just happens to bethere when you're joking around with the girlbehind the counter at the coffee shop, then you'llprobably get some big benefits from it. You also mentioned that when you decided tostart learning about how to be more successfulwith women it pissed off your ex. That's pretty typical. I mean, let's face it... just between usguys... you probably allowed yourself to become apretty boring, predictable husband... lol. So nowthat you're getting your game together she'sthinking to herself "That JACKASS! Why didn't heact like this before?! Now other women get toenjoy the part of my man that I always wanted moreof!". A lot of guys write me to ask how they can gettheir ex-girlfriend back. The reality is that thereason she probably left you is because you had NOGAME. You were about as sexually interesting toher as Homer Simpson. If you want to get her back,go learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION, andthen date other women. And if it's possible to fixyour relationship, that combination usually doesthe trick pretty nicely. Finally, I agree with you about approaching thewomen you find attractive. Look, no one is going to live your life foryou. No one is going to go meet attractive women foryou. You need to take control of your own life, andmeet the kinds of women you want to meet. Thanks for the reminder. ...and if you're reading this right now andyou're thinking "Yea, that's what I need... totake control of my life and my success withwomen", then guess what? YOU'RE RIGHT. You do. And if you'd prefer to save yourself a fewYEARS of trial and error (or more), and a lot ofMONEY and TIME, then I suggest you check out myAdvanced Dating Techniques program. It will definitely help you take your successwith women to a whole new level, whether you'rejust starting out or you already have some successwith women. All the details, plus some great audio andvideo samples are here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/AdvancedSeries/ If you haven't downloaded your copy of myonline eBook "Double Your Dating", then I'd liketo remind you of the offer I mentioned to the guyearlier in this newsletter. Here's how it works: You download it right now and pay nothing. Ifyou like it, keep it and you'll automatically bebilled. If you don't like it, just cancel yourorder, and you won't be charged. What's better than a 100% money-back guarantee? THIS IS. All the details are here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/eBook/ I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.P.S. Don't forget to take a minute to look at all of the different programs I've created to helpyou learn how to meet women. You can see the mall right here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/Catalog/

on dating and fears of rejection

THE MAGIC FORMULA

So, let's take a few minutes and talk about theissues and what CAUSES them. Here are some of the "root causes", and how Isee them...1) Having no other options. If you're sitting at the phone with ONE phonenumber in your hand, and you haven't been out on adate in a long time, and you are feelingDESPERATE, you're probably going to get VERYnervous. When you have no other options, the single onein front of you becomes VERY valuable. Translation: You want it TOO badly. This AUTOMATICALLY triggers your emotionalsystem, because at some level you realize that ifyou screw this up, it's all over. And you knowthat it's all going to happen in just a fewSECONDS. The pressure is too much!2) Putting too much importance on a single girl. Now, if you have a girl that you've been datingfor six months, and you've decided that she's onein a million, it makes sense to put a lot ofimportance on your relationship with her. But, if you don't know a girl very well, or youhaven't even dated her at all, then you are onlysetting yourself up for major disappointment byputting too much importance on ANY girl.3) Thinking you need to IMPRESS her. This is a HUGE issue. Most men "subconsciously" behave andcommunicate like they're trying to IMPRESS thewoman of their desires. When you think about this, it only makessense... of course you'd want to impress the womanyou like... so she'll think you're a cool guy andwant to be with you. But have you ever thought for a moment how aninteresting, attractive woman sees it when a guyis TRYING to IMPRESS her? Well, here's the INSTANT and SUBCONSCIOUSresponse that women have:"He's trying too hard. There's something wrong.This guy must have something he's trying tohide... and he must be pretty insecure." In other words, the INSTANT you do something orsay something that is an obvious attempt atimpressing a woman, her radar system screams: "WUSSY!" By the way, this is really a much DEEPER issue.If you need to "evict your inner wussy", thentake a second and read THIS:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/OnBeingAMan/4) Having expectations and being attached to them. You might think of this one as a variation of"wanting it too much"... only slightly different. When you start getting your hopes andexpectations up, you begin to get ATTACHED tothem. Then you run the risk of HOLDING ON TOO TIGHTto your little fantasy. Bad idea. Women don't date guys who assume too much, acttoo comfortable, or fall for them too quickly. Remember, beautiful women have guys falling forthem left and right. In fact, they almost EXPECT to go out onone or two dates with a guy and then say, "Youknow, I really like you..." or some other equallypredictable sentiment. Just like being desperate can destroy yourchances with a woman, liking a woman too much, toofast and creating expectations leads to crazy,stupid mistakes as well. Now, think over what I just said... I'm basically saying that if you want to curethe problem of freaking out when you call women toask them out and the problem of screwing it upwhen you have that first conversation and ask themout the first time, then you have to go INSIDEfirst... and do some preventative maintenance onyourself. And the GOOD NEWS is that this stuff is notonly good for you, it also helps you get even MOREdates with interesting women. So, here's what to do about this particularproblem:1) Get more options. If you go out one evening with a couple offriends, and you meet a REALLY hot girl... and youwind up having a fun conversation and getting hernumber, what should you do? RIGHT! Go get at least ONE MORE girl's number.More, if you can. This way, when you're picking up the phone tocall (or sending out emails, or whatever), you'vegot another woman to call right after her... In other words, if it doesn't go well, no bigdeal. No sweat at all. Instead of putting all your "hopes" in this onesituation, go get more options... this willprevent many problems as well as giving you morewomen to date! And think about it... when are you MOST likelyto get a woman's phone number? When are you mostlikely to be in a great mood that actuallyATTRACTS women? Exactly... in the moments after you've alreadygotten another woman's number. So take advantage of this time!2) Dial the phone expecting it to NOT work outwith this girl. I have news for you: Most women have somethingabout their personality, behavior, future plans,etc. that is going to disqualify them from beinggood "potential mates" for you. Now, I'm not saying that "all women are screwedup", etc. What I AM saying is that you need to realizethat the only reason you're freaking out so muchis because your EMOTIONS are running the show. You need to think about how rare it is that youactually meet a girl that is COMPATIBLE withyou... that you'd enjoy spending time with even ifshe wasn't good-looking. If you have this in mind as you're dialing thephone, you won't have that "I'm desperate" vibegoing on. You won't be talking like a guy who has a gunto his head either... which is a good thing...because women get weirded out by this kind ofthing.3) Instead of asking a woman out, tell her whatyou're doing, and then tell her she can come alongif she wants. Why is "asking a woman out" early on a badidea? Because if you don't have a world-classunderstanding of male/female dynamics, you'regoing to come across as a guy who is trying to usefood as date-bait. In other words, if the first thing out of yourmouth is "I'd like to take you out to dinner" it'sgoing to be interpreted as "I don't think you'reprobably going to accept an invitation to spendtime with me unless I throw in somethingextra...". Weak. And that's how SHE sees it. The alternative? Tell her that you're going to be doingsomething and that she should join you. "Hey, I'm going to go down to Starbucks and geta cup of tea. You should join me. I'm way more funthan whatever else you were going to do... andthat's a fact!" Extra bonus points: Hint that she's missing out if she doesn'taccept immediately. If she hems and haws, or hesitates... justinterrupt and say, "Hey, you're the one who'smissing out". I also like "You know, never mind. I guess youdon't like to have fun...". Great stuff! This is solid Cocky & Funny material, and it'sthe right time to use it. You know, I personally used to get VERY freakedout when calling women for the first time on thephone... and "asking them out". Now that I understand this particular "momentin time" better, and now that I understand more ofthe "dynamics" of what's going on, I get MUCHbetter results personally... In fact, I never get "nervous" anymore whencalling women, and I rarely if EVER have a woman"flake out" on me. Now, in this newsletter I've shared a fewpoints to help you get better results in thisparticular area. Use them. They'll definitely helpyou. You should read this newsletter right beforeyou call every one of the next 10 women youmeet... in fact. But as you can probably tell, this is just oneof MANY important facets of success with women. In fact, this is just scratching the surface ofthe skills you'll need if you want to haveCONSISTENT success with the most DESIRABLE women. The reality of this situation is that if youwant to take control of this area of your lifeand not walk helpless with women anymore, you'regoing to need to take more steps to get yourselfeducated on this topic. And what's the best way to do that quickly,easily and without spending years of time andlots of money learning the HARD WAY? My Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.This program will take you step-by-step throughall the key theories, concepts, and techniquesyou'll need to start meeting and dating more womenstarting IMMEDIATELY. And here's another interesting benefit thatcomes from going through my Advanced DatingTechniques program... It actually CHANGES HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD. The first time you listen to it or watch it,you'll be hitting your head saying "Ah ha! Ah ha!"the whole time. All of those things that have happened to youwith women will start to make sense. All of the times you screwed up will stopbothering you, because you'll "get" whathappened... and all of the times that thingsworked will also make sense. 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