The next step: Finding Out About Your Body By Touch
Looking at your body and getting some sense of how it compares to other women's is a major step on the way to appreciating it for its orgasmic potential, but you need to do more than just look at it! The next step is to appreciate how it feels, not just in the way you did before, on your non-sexual areas, but now with an appreciation of your clitoris, vulva, vagina, and the other parts which contribute to making you a sexual woman capable of having an orgasm when you wish it, during sex or masturbation.
If you become tense when you start this exercise, it will be extremely helpful to have practiced the relaxation techniques described here, since they will allow you to maintain much more emotional calmness and control as you proceed along your path to orgasmic fulfillment and sexual satisfaction. We recommend that you practice this relaxation on a daily basis to help you keep calm. Fifteen minutes' practice in the morning, and fifteen minutes' practice in the evening, can bring about a transformation in your level of emotional arousal within a few weeks. This will assist you in carrying through all the exercises to completion without undue stress or anxiety. Being relaxed will also help you reach orgasm during sex (emotional or physical tension tends to dispel sexual arousal and reduces the chance of you having an orgasm).
Touch is an essential element of sensual and sexual feelings, and certainly a major part of sex and it's expected outcome - having an orgasm. Touch is a vital part of feeling sensuous and feminine - perhaps much more important than it is for a man. A man's arousal centers on his genitals - for a woman, it centers on her whole being, but especial on her skin. As an example of the power of touch, would you believe that some women can reach orgasm just by touching their nipples?
So take your time, and enjoy the exercises. Your body is there to give you pleasure, and with a degree of acceptance and appreciation from you, it certainly will do just that! (In the form of wonderful feelings, including the joy or orgasms.)You can start by taking a slot of time where you won't be disturbed for at least thirty minutes, though you might wish to have longer available. Take a bath so you're nicely relaxed, then find a place where you can lie down comfortably. Again, start to explore your body all over, using oil if you like the feel of it, but this time focus especially on your thighs, breasts, belly and buttocks. Really take in how it feels to touch yourself. Absorb the sensations, focus on the detailed sensations produced by running your fingertips across your skin so that you come to know your body in much more detail. Try not to let yourself be distracted by other sounds or events around you....this time is for you alone to focus on what it feels like to be in your skin!
Compare how different parts of your body feel. Some will be smooth, some rough. Under some skin there will be smoother tissue, under other areas there will be harder areas of muscle. This may be firm or not, it may be how you like it or not, but it's all yours, so relish it! (And if you can't relish it, at least accept it!)Now move your hands down onto your inner thighs and let them play gradually towards your clitoris and labia. As you know, these are the parts you need to love and accept most if you are to enjoy orgasms. If you're not familiar with these parts of your body, touching them may be challenging, but you can relax by breathing deeply and allowing tension to dissipate as you breathe out. If you have to stop, then do so. It's not a competition, or a contest at which you can succeed or fail. This is all about you discovering your orgasmic potential! Yes - it's worth remembering at this point what this is all about. It's about developing your sense of being in your body so that you can fully enjoy what it can do for you - and that means reaching orgasm during sex, having an orgasm during masturbation, and relaxing into orgasms during oral sex - though none of these are compulsory!
So begin by touching your clitoris gently, with a loving touch. You can use a little oil if you wish as a lubricant (aka lube) to make your exploration easier. Enjoy touching the hood of your clitoris, see what that feels like, relax into the sensations and enjoy them. You may find this easier if you close your eyes so that you can focus exclusively on what you are feeling. Pull back the hood of your clitoris to touch the clitoral glans, feeling the shaft of your clitoris, through the tissues around your clitoris. Do you feel any sense of increasing arousal? Do you feel sensual? Do you feel nothing? If the latter, it's likely that your body has to be resensitized to loving touch, so that it can begin to work towards its orgasmic potential. If you should happen to feel sexual stirrings, by all means explore them, and even take yourself to orgasm if you wish....but don't feel disappointed if you don't have an orgasm. It's early days!
Trace the edges of your labia. Take each one between your fingers and sense its texture and shape. Gently pull them this way and that, sensing how that feels too, and how the movement impacts on your clitoris and the vagina. Don't give up if you feel embarrassed or silly: that's a sure sign that you have been conditioned to think of touching these areas of your body as somehow dirty or wrong, and it's through the process of gradually developing a loving touch that you can get back into sexual connection with these parts of your own body. After all - that's what they are for - to provide you with the pleasure of orgasm. Massage your labia gently between your fingers. How does that feel?
Next, gently move onto the area around your vaginal opening. How does that feel? Trace around the opening, and then gently slide your finger inside. Feel around, and recognize how the different tissues feel slightly different. If you wish to, try clenching your muscles around your finger and see how that alters the sensations you are feeling. Try sliding your finger in deeper and identifying those areas which are most pleasant to touch. There's nothing shameful or wrong about any of this - it is your body, and you can do whatever you want with it. Do you feel any muscles inside your vagina? Try contracting the ring of vaginal muscles, as if you were stopping your urine flow in mid-stream. Can you feel your vagina contracting around your finger? Explore the inside of your vagina. How do the different areas feel?
There's an area called the G spot which lies on the upper surface of the vagina (as you lie on your back) about an inch or two inside. Some researchers have identified this area as being associated with vaginal orgasms or G spot orgasms. We'll talk much more about this later, but for the moment, see if you can feel it. If you're not sexually aroused, it may just feel like a small, ridged area of tissue. If you can't identify it or you don't feel any sensations from touching it, that is quite natural. It may well need resensitizing to stimulation.
Finally, explore your perineum. That's the area between your anus and your vaginal opening. It is sensitive to touch (or can be if your body is awakened to it) - how does that feel. If you wish, move on to your anus. This is an erotically sensitive area, full of sexually sensitive nerve endings, and it can feel very good to have it gently stimulated. You don't have to do this if you don't wish, but it might be a real step forward to you in accepting the sensuous nature of your own body if you can do so. Some women claim they can have an orgasm through anal massage.
Well, that's it. Now it's up to you to consider how all this made you feel. Were you ashamed, embarrassed, guilty, or did some of the touching arouse little waves of pleasure and possibly even erotic sensations? If you haven't been used to enjoying the sensation of touching your own body, it is natural to feel awkward about these exercises. But the more you do it, the more comfortable you'll feel with touch, and the better you'll come to enjoy and accept that this is a natural part of being a sexual woman with a body that is made to let you have fantastic sexual and erotic pleasure - and enjoy orgasms!
If you have a real problem touching your vulva and vagina, clitoris and labia, try thinking back to what happened to you in childhood that may have made you feel this way. Were there, for example, religious or social restrictions enforced in your family about touching yourself? Think about how a child is naturally curious and wishes to touch herself all over to explore her own body. How unnatural do you think it is to be stopped and told that such things are "dirty" or "shameful"!
Now, there are two more pieces of information associated with this exercise. The first is a relaxation program, which will help you get much more in touch with your body and enable you to shed some of your stresses and tensions when you get into a sexual situation. The second is information about the G spot, which we introduce now so that you have this background information ready at a later stage of learning how to be orgasmic.
Relaxation as a step in the road to being orgasmic and having an orgasm during sex.
Information on the G spot including G spot orgasms.
The next step on the road to orgasm - exercising your sexual muscles
[ How to have an orgasm - home page ] [ Becoming orgasmic ] [ Your body and orgasms ] [ Why you don't reach orgasm during sex ] [ Understanding your body ] [ Female sexual anatomy ] [ Orgasms and bodily touch ] [ Sexual anatomy and your orgasm ] [ How to have an orgasm - self-touch (1) ] [ How to have an orgasm - Kegel exercises ] [ How to have an orgasm - self-touch (2) ] [ Becoming orgasmic - exploring your body ]
Monday, July 28, 2008
How To Have An Orgasm During Sex or Masturbation
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TOP LOVE SONGS...HOUSE PARTY/TECHNO
Lover's Lounge (Intentcity)- Sexy and soulful with a hint of techno...Enjoy "sexy chilled grooves, trance inducing world beats and tantalizing melodies". Where the erotic meets the exotic...you'll love it!
Rhythm & Pleasure (Rip Rowan)- Written with passion in mind, this CD is a fusion of jazz-funk-electronica-mood music. Quite cool...hard to define...imaginative and sensuous.
Mushroom Jazz 4 (Mark Farina)- Smooth, bumpin' trip/hop jazz...hardcore houseparty... urban dance and rainy-day-jazz all rolled into one. Experience it!
Nude Tempo I (Miguel Miggs)-Your DJ puts together one thoroughly sexy, techno-jazz-fusion assortment! "Party in a box"...
TOP LOVE SONGS...ROMANTIC JAZZ
Caliente (Gato Barbieri)- Fiery, passionate, sexy sax. Maybe dated, but a masterpiece, nonetheless. Spin this disc in your bedroom one hot and sultry night.
Push Push (Herbie Mann with Duane Allman)- Allman contributes a solid guitar base to Mann's sweet, erotic flute. This traditionally romantic album is a smooth jazz classic.
Getz/GilbertoFeaturing saxist Stan Getz and Brazilian singer Astrud Gilberto, this CD is a wonderful balance of jazz and soft Latin rhythms. Experience classic Bossa Nova at it's best. Perfect for an urbane, sophisticated evening sippin' martinis on the rooftop. Remember "The Girl from Ipanema"?
After Midnight- (Nat "King" Cole)Must-have CD showcasing the King as a serious jazz pianist. A great album for a romantic evening or a cosmopolitan gathering. Swinging, Baby...
The Best of the Verve Songbooks: Lovesongs (Ella Fitzgerald)No listing of great romantic jazz would be complete without Ella. This beautifully arranged album will melt the heart of any listener.
Kind of Blue (Miles Davis)Okay, so Miles can be a little "out there". But this is often referred to as "the jazz album for people who hate jazz". Great for chillin' on the couch in a darkened living room after the guests go home.
TOP LOVE SONGS RHYTHM & BLUES
Reptile (Eric Clapton)- It's sexy. It's light. It's dark. Listen to it by candlelight... on the massage table... One of our all-time favorites.
Astral Weeks (Van Morrison)No self respecting collection would be complete without this work of art! The album is a soulful mixture of folk, blues, jazz and classical. It's passionate and tender... and solidly romantic.
Barry White- All-time Greatest HitsThe finest collection ever assembled by the velvet-tongued balladeer. Practically a punchline when it comes to seductive soul. Orchestral but funky.
Al Green- Greatest HitsRomantic, gritty and sexy, this excellent CD defines 70s soul. Al Green IS love. A great mood-setter for the R&B fan.
Let's Get It On- (Marvin Gaye)The title track is a "masterpiece of seduction". Unmatched for it's sensuality and sexual energy. Maybe a little too direct for a first date, but perfect to stoke some already-smoldering fires.
TOP LOVE SONGS CLASSICAL/SOFT SOULFUL
Bolero (Ravel-- London Symphony Orchestra)-Exquisite, elegant, yet bold and inspiring...the perfect foreplay interlude. You'll remember it as the theme from the movie "10".
Tchaikovsky Piano Concerto #1- by Van CliburnOne of the greatest piano concertos of all time. More romantic than erotic, but a must-have.
Romantic Adagios--Various composersAwesome for candlelight dinners or snuggling by the fire... also great for elegant de-stressing.A great mix of classics from the Romantic period.
Johnny's Greatest Hits (Johnny Mathis)His best album of favorites, this CD flows seamlessly for 30 minutes of soulful, classic romancin'. Stayed on the charts for a decade, and for good reason...
Frank Sinatra- Greatest Love SongsThe "Chairman of the Board" at his best... silky smooth ballads that will take you back to a kinder, gentler time.
TOP LOVE SONGS POP/SOFT ROCK/ COUNTRY COLLECTIONS
Power of Love- (Madacy #2)- Eclectic mix of artists...Nice collection for a trip down memory lane... soft and pretty tunes to put you in the mood for love.
One & Only Love Album- VariousPure vanilla...pure memories...crisp copies of nostalgic classics. If you ever fell in love in the 70s or 80s, this one's for you. If you're a girl.
I Love You Because: Famous Country Love SongsA boxed set of 42 classics for the country-lover in you. Included are the traditional heartbreaky ballads, but the whole collection is amazingly passionate and seductive. "Put your sweet lips a little closer to the phone..."
Everlasting Love Songs- MCA (Classic Country)- Set the mood for romance...country style.
TOP LOVE SONGS...NEW AGE
Music for Lovers (Stephen Halpern)- Sensuous, mystical, a fitting tapestry for serious love-making
Enhancing Intimacy (Stephen Halpern)- Exotic and erotic, this lush and lovely CD is entwined with subliminal suggestions to promote intimacy and caring.
My Music for Massage (Various Artists)Soothing and beautiful backdrop for a sensuous massage
Music for Massage: The Light Touch for Health & HarmonyLay down for your massage and take a wonderful, relaxing trip down a lazy river.
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whether you realize it yet or not - the Default State is the sexiest.
For those of you who think i've forgotten about the sexy - don't you believe it. Whether you recognize it or not - we're thick in middle of it. The truth is that where i really want to go, you've got to be a little more well-versed in human consciousness than, "when do i stick it in?" And whether you realize it yet or not - the Default State is the sexiest.
It is THE state to learn.
Everything starts with the Default and when you've made that true for yourself - you're in a world of...well, something before and beyond pleasure. And you'll stimulate that in others too.
The Default State is the baseline state for every person when they're at rest and it's the baseline state of you. When you are stabilized in it, you are both structurally and functionally well formed. The trick is that, for most people, being truly at rest is something they haven't done in so long they don't really know what the hell that phrase even means.
Completely at rest?
Yes. Completely. All autonomic functions working perfectly and very little other activity.
When you've released everything…the Default State remains. This is like having a Restart button on your metaphoric OS. And once you've reset, once everything of who you are is at rest, the filters of your experience are simply in a state of readiness, aligned to express You in perfect accordance with the living blueprint of who you are. Like this, learning occurs naturally, and everything you engage in comes to you more naturally. Orgasms are fuller, longer, and all-around better and you only make the best decisions that put you near and in bed with the lovers that are perfect for you.
So, for those of you ready for the real adventure - start by learning the configuration of your Default. Then start using it. Use it all over and if you have questions - let me know. This is my main passion and i'm happy to go further into with you. I'll be posting a lot more on the Default as well as the two other main states i want you to know both here and elsewhere. (i'll let you know where.) And don't worry - we'll be getting back to our regularly scheduled sexy time soon - but deeper and more intimately.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Key Words Women Say When Attracted
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OK, so GET THIS...
I'm reading through some of the bazillion emails I get every week, and I come across one ofthe best emails that I've read in a LONG time.
Are you ready for the interesting part?
It's from a MARRIED GUY.
Yep, you read that right. He's married.
He reads the newsletters and uses the things helearns to improve his marriage. Go figure.
This guy was able to explain in a fewparagraphs a concept and technique that Ipersonally use, but have been unable to actuallyexplain and verbalize well.
I wish I would have written what you're aboutto read, but I didn't (but I'm still a cool guybecause I wrote what came before and after it).
Check this out...
***Conversation Technique***
Dave,
I'm still having great success with a rekindledmarriage using you're Tips on my wife. Thanks amillion. Listen, I keep reading over and over inthe MailBags guys wanting to know how to start,then keep a conversation going with women. I workfor a major oil company and have been through manyof there training courses on dealing with people.One particularly interesting course was on"Information Seeking". For this we first practicedpicking up on "Key words or phrases" the subjectsaid. For instance, I'll try and give an exampleusing c&f even though you wouldn't use thisprofessionally on the job. Lets say you see thisgreat looking chick on the street and you tellher, "That's an unusual looking dress you'rewearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?"She says, "Your mean! No, I bought this from theOld Navy store." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, soyou're in the Navy, huh?" "No silly. You know, thebig store over at the Mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh,so you like going to the Mall and buying strangelooking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buythem also?" "My girlfriends are neat dressers andmy dress is very popular I'll have you know!" Keyphrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers" and"dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends areneat dressers in a popular dress like you'rewearing then I'm going into the shower curtainclothing business..." I know, this is a lameexample but the lessons are this.
1) You start a conversation with however you wantthen pick out key words or phrases from what theperson says.
2) You repeat them in what you say then listen fornew key words in there next response.
3) You add a little something new into theconversation REPEATING there words you're using asKey words or phrases. This tells them you'relistening, even though you're turning thingsaround to be c/f in this situation.
Once we learned to keep someone talking for 5minutes, then 15 minutes the company actuallyhired total strangers from a job solicitingcompany to come and be our subjects. While beingvideotaped we had to get the person talking andkeep them talking for 30 minutes. One importantnote: If a person brings up something personal orwhatever, they wouldn't have mentioned it if theydidn't want to talk about it. These are great toKey in on. My subject mentioned she was goingthrough a divorce and her ex-husband was a totaljerk. I keyed in on this and it's amazing what atotal stranger will tell you once you build alittle rapport. When watching the video you pickup on mistakes or you see something different youcould have said. You also pick up on Key words andphases you missed. It just takes a littlepractice. This is just one example of how you canstart a conversation and keep it going. Hopefullyit can be of help to you're readers.
JTM Texas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Awesome.
This is an EXCELLENT description of how to keepa conversation going, keep it interesting andunpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have itbe fun.
Read it again.
Now, let me sprinkle a little magic dust onthis and tell you how I use this techniquepersonally.
When I'm having a conversation with a woman,I'm not just listening for ANY key word... I'mlistening for a particular KIND of key word (orwords).
I'm always on the alert for any words orphrases that can be twisted, turned around,misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?)in one of a few particular ways...
Namely, in a way that says she's stupid, ditzy,sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.
For instance, in your example above, yousuggested the following:
"That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing.Was that made out of a shower curtain?" She says,"You're mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navystore." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so you're in theNavy, huh?" "No silly. You know, the big storeover at the Mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh, so youlike going to the Mall and buying strange lookingdresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy themalso?" "My girlfriends are neat dressers and mydress is very popular I'll have you know!" Keyphrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers" and"dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends areneat dressers in a popular dress like you'rewearing then I'm going into the shower curtainclothing business..."
Good. Nice one.
Now, let's dial it up a little bit...
She says, "No, I bought this from the Old Navystore..."
Instead of just keying into "Navy" and saying,"Oh, so you're in the navy, huh?", why not take itto the next step and actually MAKE FUN of her.
"Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in theNavy a long time ago... in the OLD Navy?"
Now you're BUSTING on her as well, AND it'sfunny.
She says, "No silly. you know, the big storeover at the Mall."
You might try, "What kind of MALL are YOUshopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresseslike that one too?"
Again, you're hinting that she has funky tasteand she shops in weird places.
She says, "My girlfriends are neat dressers andmy dress is very popular I'll have you know!"
You could go with, "Oh, you have girlfriends?You have more than one? Do they all know that youthink of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of themthe special one? By the way, if you have cutegirlfriends, then I think you and I are going toget along VERY well."
...are you with me here?
What I'm doing is NOT ONLY looking for keywords to latch onto, but I'm ALSO looking for waysto spin them to make fun, tease, and subtlysuggest various kinds of "racy" topics.
When done in a funny way, it's magic.
My very favorite technique with women is "Cocky& Funny". If you want to learn to master it, makesure you go and check THIS out right now:
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Once upon a time, a guy I know very well wentinto a nightclub.
He was talking to a girl at that club forawhile when she said, "Well, I'm getting tired. Ithink it's time for me to go home."
The guy answered "Go HOME?! I just met you. I'mnot going HOME with you!"
She said, "No, I mean I'M going home. I'mtired."
He shot back, "Maybe you don't hear me. I'm notgoing home with you, so don't even ask anymore."
She said, "No, that's not what I'm saying..."
He replied, "And besides, I'm sure my place isnicer than yours... so if anything, you're cominghome with ME."
This went on and on for about an hour or so.
And you guessed it, she went home with him.
I saw it happen with my own two eyes. Anotheroff-the-wall (but pretty funny) example of this isa story that a good friend of mine told me aboutone of his friends.
His friend was talking to a girl at a club andshe was talking about what kinds of things sheenjoyed doing in her spare time.
She said, "...I like to go clubbing..."
He came back with, "Oh, like baby seals?"
lol... Now, that might not get a girl to comehome with you, but it's damn funny. Love it.
This technique is GREAT for keeping aconversation fresh, fun, unpredictable, and FUNNY(if you know how to do it just right).
Use it.
Right now you're probably thinking to yourself:
"Wow, that's really great. I sure wish therewas a resource available that could show mehundreds of great ideas like that... so I couldknow exactly what to do from when I first meet awoman to the first date... all the way up until weget physical and beyond..."
Guess what?
It's right here:
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I'll talk to you again soon!
Your Friend,
David D.
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Sunday, July 20, 2008
Sex guides and Tips
There are many great:: ideas for sensual love that can take the way you and your beloved communicate to the next level. These ideas may be all that you need in order to take your physical and mental relationship to the next level.
Well, here are some perfect ideas for sensual love: Lighting candles is that kind of thing that has been used for many years by many people. Lotions and oils can also be a great way to better connect with your partner. This kind of stuff has always been an essential part of sensual love. By special kits for sensual love - spread rose petals all over the floor and bed to bring some sensuality to your bedroom.
Your relationships:: may turn into something amazing and sensual love will fill you up. Some ideas will help you both to feel sensual love. Fill up the bathtub with warm water and bubbles, and have a great time doing nothing more than relaxing with your partner. This is one of the best sensual ideas available for everybody. Welcome your partner in a sexy way.
There are different ideas to of course help you out. Well you can surprise your partner by welcoming him/her with a completely naked you waiting or in sexy lingerie if the matter concerns woman.
If you want to go extreme then a glass of wine with some role-playing can do the trick as well. Chocolate sauce tastes awesome when it is licked up from you're the body of your partner. You will never forget these minutes of true sensual love!
Massage is an integral:: part of sensual love for many couples. The great combination of touch and scent is very effective in opening up intimacy between two people. There are a lot of nerve endings that follow along the path of the spine. Begin the massage with a small amount of massage oil, which can be found in the category of sensual love products. Rub the oil in the palms of your hands to warm it up before it touches the skin of your partner. Encourage your lover to breathe in a deep and relax as you gently massage his neck. If the massage is a prelude to sexual intercourse, now is a really good time to let the kissing begin. Don't forget about fluffy pillows and soothing music and the time of sensual love will be unforgettable.
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list of erogenous zones
Women complain often, that men are very concentrate on women’s genitals and they forget about other erogenous zones which stimulation is agreeable to them.
Here, I will place a list of erogenous zones which stimulation will guarantee you success in bed.
Eyelids and temples. Temples present a concentration of nerve ends. Woman will like, if you kiss her along eyelids till temples. Area between eye’s corner and temporal zone are sensitive also to any caresses. So, after some zealous kisses on the lips, attend attention also to these zones.
Ear conch and neck. As the saying goes, women love with the help of ears. Ear conchs and area behind them, and also the neck, especially her dorsal part, treat kindly not only with kisses but also with delicate stroking, tickling with tongue, licking and so on.
Neck and shoulders. Neck’s stimulation is very agreeable, turning in humeral section’s stimulation. Here, it’s recommended to use tactics more hard, sultry kisses, hickeys, energetic massage’s movements.
Navel and zone “V”. Women like to feel in the men’s tight embraces, that’s why don’t be lazy to embrace her waist. Embrace her, while you kiss her neck and shoulders. Gear down from waist to abdomen with the help of caressing movements, zone “V” (zone “V” is situated between hip bone under abdomen, ending to pubic bone, don’t include genitals). Stop, before arriving to genitals (there is another zone).
Pubic zone under abdomen. You can caress her with the help of kisses and stroke back and forward (from navel to pubis). Don’t forget that you shouldn’t be in a hurry when you move to genitals and give sufficient consideration to this zone.
Feet. Feet for some women – taboo, perhaps they be ticklish or think that they are dirty. But, for some women, the feet are the most erogenous zone. So, you should be careful when you decide to excite this part of women’s body.
You can start your researches with leg’s washing and their massage with the help of kisses and hands, and only at the end to stimulate this zone with tongue.
If your partner will respond your languishing sighs, it means that you attained your goal.
Zone under descents. After feet stimulation, it’s time to move to zone after descents, where the skin is the most sensitive for caresses.
Styria at the bottom of buttocks. You can run your fingers over the skin, moving and kissing closer and near to the center.
Buttocks. This is a very hard erogenous zone which, by the way, needs a slow approach. You can stroke and press them easily, when you stimulate the zones from 1 till 8, but intensive pressings and slaps you must leave until later, when your partner will be warmed up sufficiently.
Inside of hips. This is the last zone, which needs stimulation before descending to genitals. Light finger strokes between kisses will be at the nick of time, for exciting finally your partner. Meanwhile, don’t touch the clitoris and vulva, concentrate your attention to hips inside, leave genitals for the last stage.
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Wednesday, July 16, 2008
How To Use Flirting To Make Her Want You
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I want to talk about the concept of "flirting",and why it's SO important that you understand exactly what it is and how to do it with women.
To begin with, women know what flirting is and they respond VERY differently to flirting communication than they do to typical social communication.
If you understand flirting and sexual tension,you can begin conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY feeling ATTRACTION for you.
If you DON'T understand how flirting and sexualtension work, then you're either going to have tobecome famous or make a LOT of money to besuccessful with women.
I'm going to suggest that you learn how toflirt well, then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING inyour interactions with women to SET THE RIGHTTONE.
Think of flirting like playing.
Remember when you were a kid and you used to"play fight" with your friends?
What's the difference between "play" wrestlingand "real" wrestling?
And how do you know the difference when it'shappening... when your friend runs up and pushesyou down, then jumps on you and tries to pin you?
The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious tohumans (and other animals, by the way) whensomeone is "playing" and when they're serious.
Flirting is similar.
If you start talking to a woman and say, "Hi,you're very pretty. You probably have a boyfriend,right?" in a normal tone of voice, you're NOTflirting.
On the other hand, if you say, "Hi, I realizethat you're probably shy because you get noattention from men... so I thought I'd come overhere and pay attention to you..." it's OBVIOUSthat you're not being serious. This is flirting.
By the way, flirting IS NOT simply tellingjokes, or trying to be "cute".
One of the concepts that I teach is called"Cocky & Funny."
Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful,concentrated way of flirting and creating sexualtension with a specific kind of humor.
It's so funny to me how some guys write inbecause they "can't see themselves being Cocky &Funny around women" because they don't want tocome across as jerks.
This really cracks me up... because it'sobvious to me that these guys JUST DON'T GET IT.
So let me explain this whole thing a differentway...
If you know how to communicate the right way,women will respond to you RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNINGwith a HIGH LEVEL of sexual interest andATTRACTION.
When you know how to incorporate flirting in aCocky & Funny way, which is really a form of"adult verbal play", you tune in to a certainfrequency in a woman's mind and cause her to gointo a very special kind of emotional state.
One of the keys to effective flirting is to"get it". In other words, you have to actually getout there and practice so you get a "feel" for howit works.
I think a lot of guys give up when they try acute line or technique and a woman responds bysaying "You're a loser." Instead of just realizingthat they need more practice or that the womanmight have just been in a bad mood or even one ofthose horrible "I don't have a sense of humor"cases, they take it personally and decide to justhave it mean that they're a failure.
But take my word for it... once you learn howto flirt effectively and communicate in thelanguage of "adult play" you WILL SIMPLY NOTBELIEVE how women will respond to you. If you want to see some video clips of me TEACHING Cocky & Funny then go here and check out the examples:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/e//CockyComedy/?cid=ZZZ3CD&lid=2&sbid=2571750
Here's an example of some of one of my favoritetopics to "riff on" when flirting... the topic ofgetting married and us being in a relationship...and I'll give it to you in the form of a sampledialogue. Keep in mind, I might have aconversation like this one with a woman that Ijust met five minutes earlier...
Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"
Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to getmarried? We could leave for Vegas right now and bemarried in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman withmoney."
Her: [Laughter] "OK, that sounds like a plan"
Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you cansupport the both of us on your income? I reallywant to be a stay at home husband... you know,keep an eye on the TV and such."
Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."
Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It'sover between us. I was going to marry you, thendivorce you a week later and take half yourmoney."
Her: [Laughter] "You can't break up with me! I'mnot even your girlfriend."
Me: "That's all the more reason."
...do you get what's going on here?
I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her joband income) and redirecting the conversation in aflirtatious, Cocky & Funny way to create a funmood and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage,divorce, and breaking up over her not supportingme, etc.).
If the above example doesn't make any sense toyou, then take that as a sign that you need to getout and practice more. Try it on a waitress ortwo.
When you ask for something and she says, "I'msorry, we don't have that", just say, "OK, thisrelationship isn't working out... I'm going tohave to break up with you."
In fact, you can say this in just about ANYsituation with ANY woman where she's sayingsomething that you don't like, and it's funny.
When you communicate like this, you'reFLIRTING, you're TEASING, and you're initiating aDIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than what most meninitiate.
And as soon as the woman you're talking to"engages" you in this kind of dialogue, THE GAMEIS ON.
There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and alot of ways you can be Cocky & Funny that DON'TREQUIRE WORDS.
If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow,look back at her and do the same... onlyexaggerate it.
If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look downat it, then look up at her in a surprised way,then raise your eyebrows as if you just had amajor "ah ha!" realization... then start smilingand nodding your head as if you just realized thatshe wants you. This is a powerful combinationbecause it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaningin her touching you.
There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this,but the point that I'm trying to make is that youNEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OFYOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.
It will set off all of your conversations withwomen on the right foot, and start a dialogue thatcreates sexual tension and ATTRACTION.
If you DON'T learn how to communicate withwomen like this you'll have BORING, "NORMAL"conversations that NEVER lead to sexual tensionand ATTRACTION.
Remember, women can tell INSTANTLY whetheryou're flirting with them or not. If you are, andyou're doing it in a subtle, charming way, you'llget amazing responses.
One of the keys to flirting and creatingATTRACTION effectively, is projecting confidenceand indifference both in your voice tone and bodylanguage as you do it...
And in order to project these things, you needto have the right understanding and BELIEFS abouthow male/female ATTRACTION works... and then beable to project them throughout your conversationwith women.
If you don't naturally "get" the concept offlirting with women, and you'd like to learn howto use it to spark ATTRACTION, build SexualTension and eventually take things to a PHYSICALLEVEL, then I highly recommend that you get yourhands on a copy of my "Sexual Communication"program.
Over the time I spent learning directly fromguys who were REALLY good with women, I noticedsomething that they were all doing... that mostmen literally CAN'T SEE.
I discovered what I think of as a "secretlanguage" that men and women use to communicate ona "sexual level"...
Well, after discovering that this was going onright in front of me all my life... and thenlearning how to use it to attract women... Irealized that I HAD to teach this to other guys.
And that's what this program is all about.
Teaching YOU to speak THIS language.
After going through this program, I guaranteethat you'll look at all your interactions withwomen very differently... and you'll create a LOTmore ATTRACTION with women... using only yourvoice tone, inflection, and body language.
Oh, and you'll know how to FLIRT, too.
You can check out all the specifics... and youcan watch some video clips of the program here:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/e//SexualCommunication/?cid=ZZZ3CD&lid=3&sbid=2571750
The NEXT program you need to get if you want tolearn how to FLIRT with women is my famous "CockyComedy" DVD/CD program.
One of the SPECIFIC things that I saw guys whowere "naturals" with women doing... and one of thethings that I later learned to do... is what Icall "being Cocky & Funny".
You've probably read about the technique inthese newsletters I send you.
This is essentially my FAVORITE "technique",and the reason why is because it's FUN... and itWORKS.
It's fun for you, it's fun for her, and itworks like MAD to spark and build ATTRACTION.
If you've tried being Cocky & Funny with awoman and seen that SPARK in her eye... and thesmile on her face... then you KNOW how powerfulthis is.
Well, this program will take your basic skillsand SUPERCHARGE them. I'll teach you everythingfrom the foundations of humor and laughter... allthe way to specific word-by-word lines for themost common situations you find yourself in withwomen.
Go check it out, and watch some video clipshere:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/e//CockyComedy/?cid=ZZZ3CD&lid=4&sbid=2571750
Oh, and if you haven't gone and downloaded myonline eBook "Double Your Dating", then you needto get your ass in gear and do that right now. Youcan download it and be reading it in just a fewminutes from right now. Get it here:
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend
David D.
P.S. If you'd like to read the story of how Ilearned to meet women and get dates ANYTIMEand ANYWHERE, then just go here (and you canalso see video clips of every one of my programsas well):
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2) Tell me what's working for you before you askyour question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuffis great" and "I don't need to tell you how wellyour stuff works" comments, but the fact is that IDO need to hear all of the specifics... becausethis helps other guys to see what's working indifferent situations.
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Saturday, July 12, 2008
The FASTEST Way To "Get Physical" With A Woman
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***QUESTION***
I have been using your techniques for the pastmonth and my "popularity" is soaring. I would liketo thank you for finally saying what I havethought for years. Here is my question. About 5years ago I used to go to this bar and there was aserver that I was just ga ga for. Back then I wasvery shy and reserved. We talked here and therenothing ever happened more than that and that wasonly when she brought me my drinks. Well, thisweekend was my first weekend out since I movedback home and she was working at this new bar, Iwent to go approach her and all of sudden my mindwas blank so I just backed off b4 she even knew iwas going to approach her. How should I handlethis especially since she has been bartending forat least 5 years she has seen it all and been hiton by EVERYONE! What would you do?
D.V.
West Virginia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
One of the keys to approaching women like thisone who are hit on ALL THE TIME by guys is to beas TOTALLY COOL AND CALM AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN.
By the way, bartenders are EXCELLENT candidatesfor asking "Hey, do you have email?"... becauseit's very low-key and non-threatening.
Try this... roll into the bar, and when you seeher, say "Hey, long time no see... so you're stilltending bar after all these years, huh?"
See if she remembers you. If she doesn't, thenmake some small talk about how you used to come inthe other bar where she worked. But keep it short,because she'll probably be busy.
Then say "So what, are you married with tenkids now?"
This is a cute way to ask a woman that youhaven't talked to in awhile if she's single...
Then say "Well, I'm going to get back to myfriends... good seeing you"... and just as youturn, shoot back over your shoulder "Hey! Do youhave email?"
If she says "Yes", then say "Great, write itdown for me."
Remember, the key is to be laid back and coolabout it. Just act like you're connecting with anold female friend from high school.
***QUESTION***
Now personally I like to describe myself as anidealist, you would probably dub me king of thewusses. Yet every once in awhile Ill pull my headout of the clouds and look at the world around mewith some realism. Case in point is a young womenI met almost a year ago (also the reason i startedsubscribing to the newsletter) Now at first thingsactually seemed to go well but they degeneratedand after careful look around I think I know why.After one of those lovely "lets just be friends"talks I started talking to one of her femalefriends, and oddly enough she got jealous. (approx 2 hrs. later) Now I have had other femalefriends tell me shes flirting with me.... but thebest results I have ever gotten with her is whenshe told me to sue her. Now being a pre-law studentI wrote out a very complementary and sarcasticlegal complaint it broke down barriers almostimmediately, and for about three weeks we weretrying to figure out when we were both free to goout (we both had 30+credit hours of classes) Sadlyit feel through because of an old boyfriendpissing her off at guys in general.
Now what I believe works so well with cocky andfunny, is that it goes around so many of thoseinternal self-defense mechanisms by giving themthe opportunity to be the aggressor. Moreimportantly, it gives them a challenge where youcan't be made into an enemy. (unlike thetraditional advice of my friends to go out withanother girl to get her jealous) Finally the welldocumented phenomenon that while girls mayinitially like a guy being super nice it quicklygrows boring ( much like many college professors.)but cocky and funny offers a way of being nice butin a different less boring way. In closing, I justwant to say what a deviously simple and effectivedevice you have cooked up in cocky and funny. kRGainesville FL
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'd like to extend to you an offer ofgratitude and appreciation for the aforementionedcompliments... and I'd also like to recommend thatyou stop talking so much like an attorney... lol.
And by the way, your plans with her probablydidn't fall through because an old boyfriend"pissed her off at guys in general"... it probablyhappened because you didn't MAKE SOMETHING HAPPENwith her.
There's ALWAYS time to get together with awoman.
If she says "Well, I have a lot of homework todo", just say, "Well, procrastinate tonight... I'mmore fun".
Women generally seem to love it when you say"Cancel your plans... I'm more interestinganyway". It says all the right things in a Cockyand Funny way.
Thanks for the compliments, by the way!
***QUESTION***
Hey!! I need your help with some examples of cocky& funny!! Firstly let me tell you how your bookhas helped me after just a few days!! I saw anattractive girl in a club that I go to often. Thiswas the first time that I left with a phone number& email address. I decided that enough is enoughand I was just going to approach someone. I walkedover to her and asked if she would do me a favourby requesting a song for me, she asked why Iwouldn't do it and I said that the DJ might play itif she askes cos some guys might consider her tobe pretty which she asked if I was one of them,but I didnt answer but just again told her to dome this favour. She asked me to go with her ... Iwent with her, thanked her afterwards and wentback to my friends. Basically not paying muchattention to her for the next 45 mins. When I(accidentally) bumped into her again, I asked hername, if she had email. She automatically offeredme her address, so I waited till she was writingit down when I told her to include her phonenumber, although her actual no etc... after that Itold her I would talk to her soon....... and thatI was going back to my friends, she sat down tohave a conversation with me, but I left. Now thisis where I need your help about the cocky & funny.As I am only beginning, I could use a couple ofexamples of what I could say to her, and do I doit on the phone or wait till the actual date?? Iwas thinking along the lines of saying I had toask for her number seeing that she went out of herway to impress me.... etc... so any othersuggestions please would be very much appreciated.CJ UK
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice job. I love the way you asked her to getthe DJ to play a song... and telling her that"some guys might consider her pretty"... and thennot answering her as to whether or not you are oneof those guys.
Right now you should probably do a couple ofthings:
1) Email her and say something charming, like"Hey, it was good meeting you. Let's get togetherfor a cup of tea and make friends... just in caseI need you in the future to get some more DJs toplay music for me..."
2) GET A COPY OF MY EBOOK! If you're doing thiswell with just the information you're getting frommy newsletters, then you really need to get theFOUNDATION. You must learn how the whole processworks, and how to put all the steps together. Youcan literally download it right now, and bereading it in a few minutes:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/e//eBook/?cid=3HZZZ3&lid=2&sbid=2571750
And keep up the good work.
***QUESTION***
Do you have any advice for night clubs or nightclub tactics?
Thanks.
M.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, nightclubs are a very interestingphenomenon.
When you go to a nightclub, you'll see manywomen that are acting out a paradox: They're alldressed up in sexy clothes (obviously to getattention from men), but they're acting like theydon't want men to talk to them most of the time.
Of course, this isn't always true all the time,but if you go to nightclubs and bars, then I'mSURE you know exactly what I'm talking about.
Here are a few pointers:
1) Remember that beautiful women are usually hiton a lot at clubs and bars. Most of the guys aredrunk and stupid... or using lame pick up lines...or acting like wussies... or offering to buydrinks... etc.
The first thing to do is NOT ACT LIKE OTHERSTUPID GUYS WHO HAVE NO GAME.
Don't kiss up to women in nightclubs, and don'tGIVE THEM YOUR POWER. In other words, holdyourself and communicate like you are in completecontrol of yourself and your surroundings... andlike nothing she does can upset you.
2) Remember that for the first few minutes you'reprobably going to get some resistance from mostwomen.
One of the big tests when meeting women in anightclub is whether or not you can keep talkingto a woman who isn't being overly friendly.
Now, some women will be completely cold anduninterested.
If you encounter a rude or cold woman, justmove on... you need to be selective and not putaside your own standards just because a woman isattractive.
On the other hand, if a woman seems a littlebit resistant, just keep the conversation going.You'll find in many cases that after 5 or 10minutes she'll begin to warm up.
If you're having a conversation (as opposed tojust getting her email/number and leaving), thenyou need to turn up the Cocky and Funny comments,and just play it cool like a friend.
Bars are a great place for palmistry,astrology, handwriting analysis, and other "coldreading" techniques. Learn a few if you want tohave great conversations in bars.
3) If you're not VERY SKILLED, then just get awoman's email and/or number and go. There are somany distractions in bars and clubs that it reallymakes it difficult to have an understandableconversation. There are other guys, usually hergirlfriends, etc., and if you don't REALLY knowwhat you're doing, then you're likely to drop theball somewhere.
Just get the digits and follow up later.
4) Try going with a friend and approaching womenfor each other. Go up to a woman and say "Hi,wow... you know what? I think my friend wouldreally love you. He's such a nice guy..." and thentalk up your friend. When he shows up, introducehim. This is a great way to start conversationswith women if you're just getting started.
5) Don't worry about what happens. Just go overand talk to every woman you see. The women expectit, and it's GREAT practice!
Also, it's a great idea to find guys who aregood at meeting women in bars and to WATCH THEM tolearn how to act. You'll learn a lot from doingthis.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Firstly a good effort all round on the book andnewsletters full of useful stuff and always goodfor a laugh when I realize that I have done thesame things as thousands of other blokes andcrashed and burned in the same way. I've beengetting the newsletters for a few months and alsogot the book, after not having any success forover 3 years I'm getting confidence by practicingthe techniques in different situations like withcheckout ladies in the grocery store and othershops, its natural to talk to them, you make theirday as they've been sat there all day and nobody'sspoken to them and you get feed back on c+f lines,a captive audience, use it guys. I've also boughta book on Palm reading as advised by you, I'll letyou know who I go on this one.
Ok my question. In your newsletters and book youmostly deal with getting the e-mail address andmeeting up a few days later, which is great ifyou're always in the same town. I move around alot with my job from hotel to hotel. I'm alsoleaving my job in a few months to travel theworld. With this in mind I won't have the time totake a few days to mail and meet for coffee etc asI'm/will be constantly moving on every few days-weeks. Do you have any advice for closing the dealin a first meeting and then walking away from it?i.e. the one night stand, as if I walk away after3 minutes with only an e-mail address thats theopportunity gone. I'm sure there are plenty ofreaders that would benefit from some advice inthis area. Keep up the good work D.
Wales
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, if you meet a woman in a checkout line orat the desk of a hotel, try your new palmistrytechniques with her, and once she's interestedjust say, "Well, I have to go check into my roomnow. But I'll meet you at the coffee shop acrossthe street at 7 and tell you more."
There are 100 ways to use this stuff, ofcourse.
One thing you really have going for you is thefact that you're NEW to each area, and you're ONLYSTAYING A SHORT TIME.
Women really love to play tour guide, so askthem to.
Just say, "Hey, I don't really know my wayaround here, are you busy today? Take me to someof the sights."
Charm them with your fun personality, readtheir palms, and then have them show you around.
After a little area tour, invite them up toyour hotel for a drink and some lip reading...
***QUESTION***
Cocky & Funny Categories
Dear David, using the C & F techniques, andanalysing them, I have discovered that thereseveral classes or categories of c & f :
1) When you are cockyandfunniing about you. Youare saying that you are the best, or you are verysexy, clever, etc in a funny way. i.e.Me:"Youknow, I'm really tired of you women treating melike some kind of piece of meat. I have feelingstoo, and I don't just like being thought of as asex object."
2) When you are cockyandfunniing about her. Youare saying that she is wussy, nerd, ridiculous,etc in a funny way. i.e. "Hey, I can borrow you awig, but please, don't kill it's roots !! 3) Whenyou cockyandfunniing about other person, anobject, a place, etc. i.e. Me:"You know, if thatchick lost about 200 pounds, I think I'd be intoher"
3) when you are inverting(in a funny way) thestereotypes and asummes than girl must date boy,girl must approach boy, etc i.e: SHE:"Are you fromaround here?" ME: "What, are you trying to pick meup? I'm not that easy.
There are other cocky & funny categories, and somecategories mix each others, but these are the moreimportant (I think). I think that the #2 & #3 arethe more powerful and efective categories. I'mgoing to tell you, in wich case I use them (If theMaestro agree with me )
1. C & F about me. It's useful, but you can't useit too mutch, it's more useful If you are a not acute boy, if you are awful,(bald, overheight,etc). You have to use it with care, if not you arebecaming too cocky. 2. c & f about her. It'svery useful,(especially on hotties and averagewomen), and it's very powerful, but I discoverthat if she has low selfsteem she may get upset(but she will get atracted too). 3. c & f aboutother things. This is the more secure c & f mode,but it is generates less atraction than others. 4.c & f inverting stereotipes It's very funny andit's very powerful, and easy to see.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great little set of categories, andit's a great place to start if you're trying tocome up with funny and charming things to say fordifferent situations.
I've included it here, so others can use it asa guide when working on their own situations...very nice, and thanks!
***QUESTION***
Dave, Hey, I just downloaded your e-book(finally) and I must say that the information init is absolutely invaluable. I have already gottena few email addresses and my confidence is reallyimproving. However, there is a few problems that Ihave encountered that I really don't have anyanswer for. For instance, just the other night afew girls were hanging out in my roommates and Idorm room at the college we attend. I was pullingthe whole cocky and funny thing on the cutest ofthe bunch and she really seemed to be eating itall up. I mean, she was laughing, hitting me (in aplayful manner) asking me questions and just beingtotally receptive to me. This lasted for probablyover an hour.
However, for reasons I cannot explain, shestarted showing interest in one of my friends forsome reason. I mean, she was asking him questions,focusing her attention on him, sitting by him etc.I really don't know what I did wrong orwhat Ishould of done in this situation. Please give mesome insight as to what the heck is going on in asituation such as this one.
Also, I attend a small university so there aremany beautiful women to practice my game on.However, at the same time many of the girls knoweach other so I don't want to ask for emailaddresses like it's going out of style and getlabeled as someone who is desperate. What should Ido? I mean, it sucks seeing a girl you got shutdown by everyday, now imagine if you see like fiveor ten girls you got shut down by everyday.Please, some words of wisdom would be tremendouslyappreciated.
I.
OH.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
As far as your first situation goes... thereare several possibilities.
My guess is that you waited too long to go tothe next level. Instead of talking to her for ANHOUR, maybe you should have busted on her for 15minutes and then said "Hey, come with me to thestore..." and left with her.
Then you could have progressed, maybe held herhand, kissed her, etc.
If you wait too long with an attractive woman,she'll lose interest.
And by the way, you never know... she mightjust have liked your friend or whatever.
The point is, it really doesn't matter. Justsay "next" in your head and move on.
And about your concern that women label you as"desperate", who cares? It's more important thatyou TAKE ACTION and NOT CARE WHAT OTHERS THINKthan it is that you have all the hot woman on yourcampus "not think of you as desperate".
Just do it.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I don't think I've ever seen you address the"friends first" issue... I think there's adifference between a woman saying "i only like youas a friend" and "lets be friends first and builda relationship from that". Especially if you meetthe woman from a personal ad which says she wantsfriends first.. (so its not like shes saying she'ssaying you have to be her friend first when youfirst meet her) The only thing that bothers me isif she thinks of you as a friend then she's stillsingle so she might date other guys and you get tohear about it. This isn't really a question to aspecific problem, but because I'm still new todating (I'm 21) and don't have much experience(which is changing thanks to your greatnewsletters!) I have run into a few of the"friends first" encounters and I don't know quitewhat to make of it.. should I be their friendfirst, and think it might turn into somethingmore?
Thanks!
SK
Florida
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, the only real difference between a womansaying "I only like you as a friend" and "Let's befriends first and see what happens" is... WHEN YOUHEAR "LET'S BE FRIENDS FIRST" IT TRICKS YOU INTOBELIEVING THAT THIS COULD ACTUALLY HAPPEN... SOYOU WIND UP SPANKING YOUR CHICKEN FOR ABOUT TENTIMES AS LONG...
When a woman says "Let's be friends first",what they REALLY mean is "I don't feel a gutlevel, sexual ATTRACTION for you right now... butyou're an awful nice guy and I don't want to hurtyour feelings..."
If you see a personal ad with "Friends first"it probably means that the last guy she datedwanted to get married after the first date... andshe doesn't want another loser WUSSY boy in herlife.
Of course, there are a lot of possibilities,but generally speaking, you don't want to get into"friend" mode, because it's not easy to get out.
Telling HER that she seems like she'd make anice friend is a GREAT idea, because it makes herwonder if you like her, and it creates tension.
If this doesn't make sense to you, then I'drecommend that you check out my book or audioseries and then think about it again. Until you"GET" this, you're going to have a hard timeattracting a woman.
***QUESTION***
I got your book and the first thing I did was readthe short book about Sex Secrets... lol Now Ifigured I was pretty successful with the women andwanted to see how I compared to your tactics....man you nailed it big time!!
I have been seeing this one gorgeous woman forabout 2 months now and I thought about what yousaid in the book.... to keep her attracted andwanting more.... use anticipation. Well I knowshe wants me bad and so I thought I would just seehow bad she does, so I talked to her overlunch.... since she only had 30 minutes for lunchI put it to the test right off. She sat down closeto me and looked me in the eyes.... I commented onher beauty and ran my hand over her leg justslightly to let her know I was there and what Iwas thinking.... I could see her light upinstantly. I took my hand away and changed theconversation knowing the anticipation was alreadybuilding.
I told her how I would like to give her amassage... body massage to ease her stress and sheagreed this would be good.... I then ran myfingers over her hand and then touched herslightly on the cheek.... lol... she was eatingthis up. I then noticed she had a slight stain onher uniform and reached to dust it off... thisthru her big time.... she squealed a little andsaid it gave her goose bumps....lol.... I justgave her a slight smile and backed off again. Hernext comment was, I wish I brought a change ofclothes here today cause I am gonna needem'...lol... I knew the anticipation was working!Although these were things I would normally havedone without reading about it, the book is a greatsource and it works... so guys if you want to getthe heads up on moving her to the next level,order the book.... you won't be sorry!!ANTICIPATION!!! Keep up the great work my man!
R. Canada
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, understanding this concept of Anticipationis SUCH a key to making women feel turned on.
I don't mention it much, but that bonus bookletthat comes along with Double Your Dating is a VERYpowerful set of ideas and techniques for getting awoman VERY turned on...
As you know, there are little things you can dophysically that literally make a woman go crazywith desire. I'm sure you're making this lady VERYhappy... and I'm sure that she can't believe thatshe's met a guy who actually "gets it".
Nice, and keep up the great work.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave, I liked your book and I love your newsletter which is very informative and quitecreative, both by you and also other contributors;keep it up. Basically I've been a successful guywith the females by being very masculine and proudof it and I'm glad that in your book you encouragethis attitude. After reading your book I haveincreased my success with the females tenfold andI thank you for that.I am 32 but I look about 20and even when I was younger I've always fanciedwomen that were much older than me but I alwaysattracted younger girls who I like as well butwith your help the girl l'm going out with is 33(she thinks l'm 21 because l told her to guess myage) and she's extremely attractive (10 out of 10)successful and confident and men of all ages tryto pick on her whenever we go out and l leave heralone. We met when I went for an interview for thecompany she owns and she ask for me to come to heroffice and after I complimented her on herbusiness she said l was flattering her and l said"in your dreams, that's the worst pick up linel've heard all day", and she was so taken back bythe challenge l presented to her that after I toldher the compliment was just to get the job andthat she shouldn't use her position just to use meas a piece of meat. Anyway l poured out C&F onher even told her that l wouldn't take the jobbecause l knew what she was up to and she said weneeded to talk and she gave me her card with allher contact # and she also wrote her private homeand mobile #. l took the card but l told her sinceit was her interested in me she should call me andl gave her my # as well. She called the same dayand we've been seeing each other ever since.
But l do have a question in one of your newsletters you said "women perceive good-looking guyswho act cocky as MAJOR PLAYER, and too much cockytoo soon can back fire on you". Further you saidthat "If you are a pretty good looking , you mightturn down the cocky and turn up funny". Well l'mgood looking oh yes; but l know it's noteverything but it helps and true to your abovestatement sometimes when l'm cocky it back fireson me even when the girl (or should l sayespecially) makes the first move. I know you'vegot the answer so please give it some of your timeand reply please. Maximum respect to you David. JSLondon
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, here's the deal...
There are exceptions to every rule, and you mayhave found one of them.
If you're a regular guy and you're dealing withan attractive woman, then Cocky and Funny isgenerally a great technique.
If you're a VERY attractive guy, then being tooCocky and Funny can intimidate women and/or makethem think that you must be a big player.
NOW, if you're an attractive guy and you'redealing with a VERY attractive woman who is alsoPOWERFUL (owns a company, for instance) thenyou'll probably want to turn the Cocky and Funnyback up to provide MAXIMUM CHALLENGE to her.
The SUPER HOTTIES are used to ALL guys rollingover for them, and you can turn up the heat if youthink she needs it in this situation.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave, I've written atleast 1 million emails toyou! And i haven't heard anything back! Nah it'scool i know you have another million emails thatstart off the same way. So heres the question! Howdo i get womens phone numbers for the possibiltyof sex, like they know if i ring its for sex kindathing. I don't want to do the whole date thing,its boring and conversation is stupid! I justwanna ring them up and say it like this, "hey i'mreally horny and i was wondering, do you wannacome over for some 'action' and then piss off so ican get some peace and quite?" I dont really wantthem to hang around, it's kinda awkward. Im not ana**hole but thats what i think is on most otherguys minds as well as mine. Is there anyway to putthis to a woman without them feeling hurt or as ifthere being used?
Thanks R. Australia.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Look, if I had the answer to this one I'D BERICHER THAN BILL GATES AND WARREN BUFFETT PUTTOGETHER.
Now, will you do me a favor and please get alife?
And stop emailing to ask how you can get womento come over for sex because you're horny, thenpiss off so you can get some peace and quietwithout them feeing hurt or used...
"Huh huh... Hey Beavith... I'm horny. We need achick."
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
I've been following your instructions to theletter and I have to say it works like a charm! Ihave one problem though. I never know when a womanis attracted to me or not. I can't seem to be ableto pick up the signs. I mean I know lasses areattracted to me only when their friends tell me orthey do. It can be REALLY annoying not knowingwhether to progress onwards or not.
I mean, at the moment there's this lass who'sreally religious and I want to get with her & I'vebeen working overtime on the teasing and thecocky/funny routine. I just can't tell where Istand with her. I was just wondering if you hadany pointers that could help me? Thanks,
N. Bradley, England
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, it's very simple. I call it "The KissTest".
You can see it on the second page of my mainweb site, or read about it in my book.
You need to TAKE THINGS TO THE NEXT LEVELPHYSICALLY.
This will tell you EVERYTHING you need to knowINSTANTLY.
And by the way, if a woman will agree to spendtime alone with you, and she seems to be having agood time, then she's probably interested at SOMElevel.
If you're using the materials and being Cockyand Funny etc. and she's hitting you, laughing,etc. that's also a VERY good sign.
But use The Kiss Test. It's so simple andeasy... and it works SO well.
***QUESTION***
Well Dave,
It never ceases to amaze me how brilliant youare. I saw that you put my e-mail in thenewsletter, so I guess I owe you the dirt. Myexperience can be summed up in one word...INF***INGCREDIBLE, but I won't stop with one word.See if you can keep count? The first chick I metsat next to me on the plane. CF. She crammed hertongue down my throat. I got off the plane with adifferent chick. CF. SHE asked Me to lunch withher. On the shuttle to the Hotel, yet anotherfemale. C&F. I'll come back to her. Poolside,another young lady. C&F. She asked me to save adance at the party for her. He-he-he...
I could keep going but I don't want to jinx myfuture success. To sum it up, I talked to over 20different women, made out with 3, and woke up nextto 1 (I'm such a bad man). I got 4 out of 4 e-mails/#s from girls I asked (the only girls thatwe're worthy of myself){example of C&F and mycharacter}, and that girl from the shuttle... Ionly talked to her for 3 minutes on that ride, andshe had a friend come and give me a note with herinfo. The trip ended with a h-job on the planeride home. Now I don't encourage everyone outthere to use the info in DYD to become a male slutlike me. I am this way because this is the firsttime I have been single since I was 18 (6 yearsago). This is also the first time that I havereally experienced success... Thanks to DYD andC&F. I used to be a MAJOR WUSS. I never talked toor went out with a girl unless she talked tome/asked me out. Needless to say I was home alot. I never learned the SKILLS to be successfulwith women until I bought Double-Your-Dating(plug). Since I read the book three months ago, Ihave literally hooked up with over a dozen women,with very minimal effort. If you are reading thisit is OBVIOUS that you want to improve your life,just like I did when I stumbled upon David'swebsite. Do yourself a favor, BUY THE DAMN BOOK!Hell, if you don't achieve success with it, I willbuy it back from you. I've got some buddies outthere who can use this treasure. Stop being a WUSS(like I was). Dave I owe it all to you. Fromeveryman getting laid because of your advice...THANK YOU!!!!!!! G. from L.A. P.S. My first bornis going to be named David, even if its a girl!!!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What else can I say?
I love getting letters like this one... NICE!
If you're reading this right now, and you'dlike to get an ADVANCED education in thistechnique that I call "Cocky & Funny", then youMUST go and check out my "Cocky Comedy" CD/DVDprogram.
Inside I'm going to show you the "secretpsychology" of humor... of laughter... and of howto combine humor with TENSION to create a powerfulATTRACTION... using nothing more than yourcommunication skills.
The technique of Cocky & Funny is one of thevery fastest, easiest ways to create sexualtension with women... and this program is going toteach you how to do it.
You'll learn a ton just by watching the previewvideo clips on the web site... so go watch themhere:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/e//CockyComedy/?cid=3HZZZ3&lid=3&sbid=2571750
...and if you're reading this right now andthinking "You know, I really need to get in thisgame and start making something happen for myselfwith women and dating" then I have to say...YOU'RE RIGHT!
Learning how to be successful with women anddating is NOT magic.
It doesn't require good looks or money.
And it CERTAINLY doesn't require you to chaseafter women, buy them things, and give them fakecompliments.
If you'd like to get an in-depth education inall aspects of success with women... fromovercoming fear and shyness... to improving yourself image... to approaching women... to meetingwomen online... to taking things to a "physicallevel" smoothly and without rejection... then youMUST go and check out my Advanced DatingTechniques DVD/CD program.
This program is the best overall education youcan get in the area called "Women And Dating".
If you don't have it, then you need to go readabout it and watch some of the preview video clipsI have online... it's all here:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/e//AdvancedSeries/?cid=3HZZZ3&lid=4&sbid=2571750
Oh, I also have two "Online eBooks" that youcan download RIGHT NOW and be reading withinMINUTES. My original "Double Your Dating" eBook ishere:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/e//eBook/?cid=3HZZZ3&lid=5&sbid=2571750
My latest ebook, "Attraction Isn't A Choice" ishere:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/e//AttractionBook/?cid=3HZZZ3&lid=6&sbid=2571750
Both are jam-packed with concepts, theories,and step-by-step techniques... and you need to goand download them NOW.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. Also, you should take a minute and look atall of the different programs I've created to helpyou learn to attract and meet women. You can seethem all, plus watch great video clips of themright here:
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