I personally think that most men feel a verypowerful desire to IMPRESS women. If you watch the way a man behaves when he'stalking to a woman he's just met or a woman thathe's on a first date with, you can SEE IT. Maybe you've been there yourself. I know I have. Many, many times, in fact.
The feeling that you need to impress a woman
usually comes along with another feeling: DON'TSCREW THIS UP. Here are some of the signs that a guy isfeeling the need to "impress" the woman that he'stalking to:1) He tries to only say "cool" things, or thingsthat will "impress" the woman.2) He acts nervous and stilted during theconversation... sometimes coming across as"formal".3) He tries to figure out what the woman wantsto hear.4) If he says something that the woman doesn'tlike, he "back-pedals" and tries to change whathe said to suit the woman.5) He doesn't say anything "risky", doesn't teasethe woman, and doesn't do anything to upset her....in other words, when a guy is talking to awoman that he "likes", he's usually on his "bestbehavior", and he's trying to "put his best footforward". To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVETO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY "LIKE". And this drive to impress often makes themact UNNATURAL. There's your first hint, in fact...THE SECRET Remember at the beginning when I told you thatI was going to share a secret with you about howto impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men willfigure out on their own?
Well, here it is: STOP TRYING. If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women,and do the things I'm teaching you instead, womenwill NATURALLY be "impressed" by you.TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN'T IMPRESS HER. So let's break this down...WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD What's wrong with trying to "impress" women,anyway? To start with, EVERYTHING.
When you intentionally try to impress a woman,you send the following messages on a "subtle" level:1) I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I will try to "impress" you instead.2) I'm not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.3) I don't have a lot of experience with attractive women.4) I'm insecure.5) I don't know how to make women feel comfortable with me. Ouch. But it's the truth. Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you're "trying". The conversation doesn't feel "normal", yourbody language is strange, and you can't seem tohave a regular conversation.
Now of course, I've just described the way thatabout 99.9999% of men act when they're first talkingto a woman that they "like". Are you ready for a profound insight? Here goes...MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOSTOF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT'S OLD NEWS. IT'SBORING. IT'S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESSAT ALL. The bottom line is that trying to impress awoman usually has the OPPOSITE effect. It not only makes you look like a nervous guywho can't make normal conversation... it alsobores the hell out of women.WHAT TO DO INSTEAD OK, so you're out having a cup of tea with abeautiful woman you just met a few days before... She asks you what you do for a living.
Should you answer with:1) "Well, I'm an engineer for a software company that makes sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I've been with them for three years, and I'm about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER."2) "I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot actor has to reveal his naked ass? That's my job." ...? Well, it all depends on what your outcome is.
If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl withyour cool high-tech job, then #1 will work justfine. Unfortunately, it won't impress her at all,and it will make you sound like a jackass who istrying to sound cool. If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2. Most men don't have the BALLS to say somethinglike this when a woman asks a "serious" questionlike "What do you do?".
If you REALLY want to make a long-lastingimpression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING. She'll say "No, really... what do you do?". Answer with: "No, really. Haven't you everseen it when an actor needs a stunt ass? I meanhey... someone's got to do it". Now, I can't possibly go into all the reasonswhy it's a HUGE MISTAKE to try to impress a woman,or to feel like everything you say should be"impressive". There are MANY reasons for this.
MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things youcan do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman...and I mean REALLY impress her. But these things aren't OBVIOUS. The most IMPORTANT thing you can do toIMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerfulemotional ATTRACTION for you.
This feeling will stay with her long after youhave left and gone home. And it's the one thing that will make womenpursue YOU... and try to impress YOU. What's the best way to do this?1) Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now.2) Go download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", and read it. It contains literally DOZENS and dozens of great techniques for you to use that will make women feel ATTRACTION for you. And if you've already read my eBook, and you'reready to take your success to an entirely newlevel, then you must get yourself a copy of my"Advanced Dating Techniques" CD/DVD Program. This is the most complete, detailed, step-by-step system available for becoming the kind ofman that women want to be with. This program is GUARANTEED 100% by me to takeyou to the next level and beyond with women. Check out the free samples of both my eBookand my Advanced Dating Techniques Program... The eBook is here:http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e//eBook/?cid=TZZZ3Z&lid=2 The Advanced Series is here:http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e//AdvancedSeries/?cid=TZZZ3Z&lid=3 I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.P.S. Don't forget to look through all of thedifferent video and audio programs I've createdto help you learn how to meet the kinds of womenyou've always wanted. You can look at them, watchvideo clips of them, and get all the details here:http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e//Catalog/?cid=TZZZ3Z&lid=4
Saturday, October 20, 2007
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