Have you ever noticed that women don't seem tomake sense AT ALL when it comes to "dating"? What's up with that? I'm sure you've been in a situation where youreally liked a woman, and you did everything"right"... but for some reason she just never feltattracted to you... You called her often, took her to nice places,bought her gifts, and were a complete gentleman(translation, you didn't try to kiss her, gave herspace, etc.)... but nothing seemed to cause her tolike you for more than just a "friend"... And I'm sure you've been in a situation where aTOTALLY HOT female friend of yours was dating acomplete jerk who was mean and abusive to her...and all she did was tell you about how badly hetreats her (and of course she talks about the sextoo)... all the while you're sitting there andwould do ANYTHING just to have a chance at datingher. Right? What is going on here? Why is it that when you're overly nice to awoman in the beginning, it just causes them to beless and less interested? And why is it that jerky guys who mistreatwomen seem to get laid like Rock Stars, eventhough they are the WORST possible choice for anattractive woman? This is a fascinating question to me. In fact, I've spent the last several YEARSthinking about this and other related questions. It's funny, because when you first ask aquestion like this one, you can come up with some"OK" answers. But now that I've taken the time toREALLY think about it, research it, and lookDEEPER into the topic, I've realized and foundsome FASCINATING answers. But more importantly, I've come up with waysthat any guy can take advantage of the secretsthat "jerks" use to attract women... withouthaving to be abusive. OK, so let's talk about some of these conceptsthat I've been working on... Before we get into the specific concepts, Iwant to mention that you can get yourself aFANTASTIC education about how to communicate withwomen in a way that creates ATTRACTION by gettingyourself a copy of my "Sexual Communication"program. Go check out some video clips of theprogram here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/SexualCommunication/ ...I can remember when I used to call women allthe time, take them out, and generally show themthat I was VERY interested in them when I firstmet them. I was REALLY a "nice" guy. And you can guess what happened. Exactly... They would always be nice to me, say that theyappreciated what I had done, and accept mycalls... BUT I NEVER SENSED THAT THEY FELT ANY KIND OFATTRACTION FOR ME. Something just never felt quite right. I always felt this little tension... as if thewoman KNEW that I was interested, but for somereason THAT VERY FACT was the thing that kept herfrom feeling the same in return. It was as if the more I tried to get a woman tolike me, the less she would. IT JUST DIDN'T MAKE SENSE! Why wouldn't a woman choose to like me when Iwas such a nice guy? Was it my looks? Or the fact that I didn't makea lot of money? Or that I didn't have a nice car? Well, I've since realized something... Women don't CHOOSE at all who they areattracted to.

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So to the crunch. One night when this girl and Iwere out pubbing and clubbing and battling eachother with our wits and building lots of tension(so much fun) she opened up a bit and told methat she had never met anyone like me and that Iwas cool. All the cues that you said would happenif you do the right things. Inside I was like"WOW!" but I didn't show it and just told her thather compliments and looking at me like a piece ofmeat wasn't going to get her anywhere - she's agreat friend! By the end of the night she wasasking me the odds of us having sex within thenext few weeks. Now here's where I've got to holdmy hands up and risk your written wrath. In thatmoment, this was the ONLY time I have ever been awuss with her. I'm a virgin and even though Ifancy her like mad, I know at present I couldn'tsatisfy a woman like that (limiting belief I know,but true!) I haven't got the skill yet and then Irealised that I had failed to plan ahead. Damn.And I could hardly turn around and say "Hey, I'm avirgin wuss who has never had sex! Teach me?"Instead, as my answer I just smirked a little in apoor attempt to look composed but I wasted a bigopportunity to amplify what was there; instead Ijust dissipated all the tension by being a prick.She appeared to let me off though and the next fewweeks were a C+F fun-fest again. I still playedit cool, no chasing, no clinging, no insecurity.Then our mutual friends started telling me to askher for more. Even her best female friend saidthat we should be together because we get on sowell. I remembered an email you sent saying thatif you meet someone you REALLY like then sometimeyou're going to have to take the chance and tellthem. So when we were alone at another party acouple of weeks later, I told her that we shouldget together. Here's the messed up part: she saidthat I was the best guy she'd ever met and thatshe didn't want to enter a relationship with mebecause every guy she has ever gone out with she'sended up hurting. She said that she never wantedto hurt me and wanted to know me forever. Andthat if we stayed best friends forever, withoutcomplications, we would have something great forlife and not a quick fling followed by nevertalking again. She also said that she loved theway that I stand up to her and don't kiss her asslike most other guys. So, a lot of tears later(from her), hugs, kisses and plenty of apologiesand I was left to wonder if my one error of sexualwussiness had cost me in the worst possible way. Ibelieve this to be true because I know that if awoman feels attraction for a man, then nothingelse matters. Her friendship logic wouldn't matterif she "felt it" for me would it? I'm so pissedoff at myself for messing up (always been aperfectionist, have to get everything right firsttime!) However, she has surprised me in that shehasn't run for the hills - she must've meant whatshe said. Reason being because not only are westill hanging out, but she sent me a Valentinescard (I sent her nothing) and just last weekinvited me over to her place alone where shecooked for me. I'm still playing it by yourteachings Dave but I'm at a complete loss. I likeher a hell of a lot and am really fighting thewuss urge. I still bust on her, we still flirt, Idon't call her a s much as she calls me and Ihaven't shared any feelings with her since thatnight. I'm trying to stay cool man! Don't bitchslap or berate me too hard, I've already done itmany times myself (and will continue to do so,until I GET IT! I am not going to give this up!)So after this damned long essay that says I'vegone on for too long (I've kept it to 2 paragraphsthough - albeit by cheating the rules ofgrammar...) I have two questions: 1) Is there anyhope of turning this around? I know I should moveon but how long will it take me to find anotherreally exceptional woman that I get on so wellwith? It seems like I'm so close but just haven'tquite got the skill to haul myself over the finishline and it's very frustrating! 2) Where can Iget a good education on how to make love to awoman? This is my final concern with women, Ibelieve. And when the time comes, should I admitmy lack of inexperience? (No amount of theory canmake up for lack of practice!)Cheers Dave, without your teachings I would never,ever have gotten this far.M, United Kingdom.P.S. She did your pocket a favor by turning medown - it prompted me to buy the CD series. Inthe long run, I guess she did me a favor too:it's awesome so far. ***End of blatant plug***>>>MY COMMENTS: Well, first of all I want to CONGRATULATE youon a great job with this girl. You did all the right things, and you'veobviously paid attention to what you've learned. Ihave a lot of respect for you for both DOINGSOMETHING to improve yourself, and for getting outthere and using the materials. You should be congratulating yourself, notbeating yourself up. I'M the one who gives the verbal beatings here,not you, remember? I think the real problem you're running intohere is that you've put too much importance onthis one situation, and by doing that you'vecreated "tunnel vision" for yourself. I'm sureyou've heard me talk about this a lot. From now on, don't get so hung up on aparticular woman that you're not even"technically" involved with. It's asking foremotional trouble... and it's a pain. So, let's talk about this particularsituation... I'd like to share with you a thought to setthis up. It's a thought that might not go over sowell with a lot of people (especially women). But,I believe it to be true, so I'm going to put itout there. Remember, this is a generalization, and not acold, hard fact... it's true MOST of the time. Youhave to use your own judgment in each situation. Now that the disclaimer is over, here's thedeal: If you meet a woman (especially a sharp,attractive woman who's intelligent), and you startdoing all of those wonderful things that spark andamplify the ATTRACTION present in the situation,you must KEEP MOVING FORWARD, or you'll loseeverything you've built. What I'm trying to say is that if you don'ttake things to a physical level quickly aftercreating all of this sexual tension, it willeventually go away, and you'll be left with just"friend" material. I know that you've never been with a womansexually, so I can understand why you hesitated.But you must still remember what I said. The rule of thumb is: If you're going to sparkand amplify attraction with a woman, you need tocontinue on to the next level SOON... or you'regoing to probably lose it. When you just tease a woman, bust on her, gether all wired up and excited about you... thenDON'T MOVE FORWARD PHYSICALLY, it's a let down. Basically, the woman you're with has a firstimpression of you that says "This guy is sexy andattractive", but when you don't continue forwardon a physical level, she starts to think "Uh Oh,he's either not interested in me 'in that way',he's gay, or he's seeing someone else" etc. If you want to be "friends" with a woman, it'seasy. Don't do anything. If you don't make any "moves", don't try tokiss her, and don't confidently lead in a physicalway, a woman will only think of you as a "friend". Even if there is attraction based onpersonality, it's going to disappear if you don'tcross over into the physical realm. 99% of the time, she's NOT going to be the oneto make the first moves... it's just not going tohappen. YOU have to do it.***NOTE*** Before I give you tips on how to solve thisproblem, you might want to check out my "DeepInner Game" program. It will absolutely help youovercome some of the more "psychological"challenges you're facing. You can go see videosamples and check it out here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/DeepInnerGame/ Onward... The real keys here are:1) Knowing WHAT to do to proceed in each situation2) Knowing WHEN to proceed in each situation3) Knowing HOW to proceed in each situation... ina way that is smooth and natural... and thatdoesn't get you "rejected" You've got the benefit of having my eBook andmy Advanced Dating Techniques Program. I recommendthat you check out the bonus booklet that camewith "Double Your Dating" called "Sex Secrets",and use that material IMMEDIATELY. Also, you'll learn a lot of great ideas in thelast few discs of my Advanced Series. Let me cover a few basics here. First of all, it's OK that you're a virgin. It's no big deal. You're making it intosomething bigger than it is by freaking out aboutit. I'll break the news to you: SHE ONLY CARES HOW SHE FEELS, NOT WHAT YOURPAST SEXUAL EXPERIENCE IS. If you can make her FEEL good, game over. You're obviously a guy who can pay attentionand learn things. Spend a day at the bookstore,and go to the "sexuality" section. Read forawhile. You'll learn everything you need to knowto get past your "first time" just fine. And, by the way, if you run into a problem...like "performance anxiety" or nervousness or justbeing uncomfortable naked around a woman... that'sOK too. If you reach a point that starts to freakyou out too much, just lean back and stop for alittle while. One of the GREAT things about theprocess of getting a woman turned on is that it'smuch more powerful for her if you DO stop andstart... move two steps forward, and one stepback. You don't need to say, "Hey, I realize thatwe're both naked in bed here and we should bemaking love, but I'm a virgin... and on top ofthat, I can't get it up". No no nooooo.... Just kick back. If you have to, just call it anight. The KEY is that you have to at least PROGRESSphysically with her. Explained differently, youdon't necessarily have to go "all the way", butyou do have to get pretty far down the field...and keep going a little farther each time... ifyou want to keep the attraction building. I have another secret to share with you... Most guys suck in bed. And I don't mean that ina good way. And no, I'm not talking fromexperience. I have known, interviewed, and received emailsfrom a lot of women. I know the deal. Most womenare not very happy about what happens in thebedroom. If you do just the things I've laid out for youin the ebook and Advanced Series, and then youtotally blow it and are the worst lover the worldhas ever known, she'll still have a GREATexperience with you... because MOST of it willhave been fantastic for her. Using the physical techniques... ways oftouching, ways of getting her physically turned onand amplifying her arousal, that you've learned inthe materials, will get a woman so turned on thatjust about ANY kind of sexual interaction will befine with her. lol... and by the way, the next time a womanlooks at you and asks, "What do you think the oddsof us having sex within the next few weeksare?"... you need to look her right in the eye andsay:"Sex? Hell, I don't even know if you know how tokiss." ...then lean over and kiss her. When you're finished, pull away (you stop thekiss before she does), look back at her, and say:"Hmm, I'll have to get back to you about the sexpart." ...and if you're reading this right now, andyou want to know how in the hell a 130 pound ex-wussy therapist boy can change his ways and have awoman asking him if he thinks they're going tohave sex soon, then I'd recommend doing what HEdid... Get yourself a copy of my eBook "Double YourDating", and get yourself a copy of my AdvancedDating Techniques CD or DVD program. It's taken meyears to figure this stuff out, and you can tryall of it at NO RISK. You've got nothing tolose... except your inability to meet women... The eBook is here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/eBook/ The Advanced Dating Techniques Program is here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/AdvancedSeries/ I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.P.S. Don't forget to check out all of my othergreat dating programs. You can see them all, watchvideo clips, and get all the details here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/Catalog/P.P.S. If you'd like to send me a Success Story,Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphsmax.2) Tell me what's working for you before you askyour question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuffis great" and "I don't need to tell you how wellyour stuff works" comments, but the fact is that IDO need to hear all of the specifics... becausethis helps other guys to see what's working indifferent situations.3) If you have a Success Story, write "SuccessStory" in the subject line of the email. I readthese first.4) At the end of the email, give me your initialsand tell me where you're from.5) Send it to me at:SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com ...don't just hit "reply" to this email. Thanks!

Divorce: SC defines mental cruelty
Says Reasons Cited Can Include Secret Sterilisation, Abortion & Denial Of Sex
Dhananjay Mahapatra I TNN

New Delhi: In a path-breaking decision, the supreme court has defined what connotes 'mental cruelty' -the ground that has been frequently cited as the reason for those seeking divorce but which had so far lacked a precise definition, The court on Monday laid down an elaborate criteria of what all would constitute "mental cruelty", but said that the behaviour patterns so mentioned must persist over a period of time to warrant the conclusion that the marriage between the parties had irretrievably broken down and qualified to be "the ground for divorce,

In fact, the verdict seems to strike the right balance between the competing considerations of rescuing people trapped in unhappy alliances and the anxiety to save marriages against divorce petitions based on false allegations and on impulse, The definition, part of a verdict annulling the marriage of senior IAS couple Samar and Jaya, came close on the heels of court's bid to define the legal concept of "outraging of a woman's modesty",

~ 'Sustained cruelty counts' P 11
What is · Undergoing sterilisation without knowledge or consent of spouse · Wife having abortion without medical reason or without consent of spouse · Not having intercourse without physical incapacity or valid reason · Unilateral decision not to have child · Sustained reprehensive conduct; studied neglect · Actions aimed to derive sadistic pleasure · Abuse and humiliation
· Sustained unjustified conduct affecting phYSical & mental health of spouse · Frequent rudeness, indifference and neglect
What isn't · Wear & tear of marriage · Jealousy, selfishness & possessiveness causing unhappiness or stress · Mere coldness or lack of affection

A final caveat · View married life as a whole; isolated instances not cruelty

Sustained cruelty counts: st
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"l"I !hile the supreme court V V said that, given the complexities of human mind, "no court should even attempt to give a comprehensive definition of mental cruelty", it tried to get a handle on the issue with help from previous judgments.It listed specific actions as amounting to mental cruelty. The court, however, balanced that by inserting the caveat that a pattern persisting over a period of time rather than isolated instances should constitute the basis for divorce."Conduct must be persistent for a fairly long period and is so offensive that the other party fmds it difficult to live together," said the court.

It also stressed that while ,deciding any divorce petition based on the ground of mental cruelty, "married life should be reviewed as a whole" and "that a few isolated incidents over a period of years will not amount to cruelty". The focus of the bench was on "sustained". It said that "mere coldness or lack of affection cannot amount to cruelty" but made allowance for the fact that "frequent rudeness of language, petulence of manner, indifference and neglect may reach such a degree that it makes the married life for the other spouse absolutely intolerable".

In the case at stake, Jaya, an IAS officer, after divorcing her fIrst husband who also was an IAS officer and from whom she had a daughter, married a second time in December 1984. She, however, refused to cohabit with her second husband, Samar, on the ground that she did not want any more children and told him not to interact with her daughter.Humiliated, Samar fIled a divorce petition in Kolkata.

He mentioned he had been forced to live separately since August 1990. Jaya denied the allegations, but the trial court granted divorce on the ground of mental cruelty. But the Calcutta HC reversed the judgment.An apex court bench upheld the trial court verdict and said the HC was unnecessarily obsessed by the fact that the she was also an IAS officer though it is proved that she inflicted mental cruelty on him that led to a long separation without any reconciliation.

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getting to no u

Her: how many girls have you met from online so far?
Me: 5000

Her: it's a minus,that u never answer to my questions
Her: but it'strue, that u never answer to my questions

Me:really?
Her: hm...... every time I ask yousomething about u....you just answer with a slapstick something

Me: You know my name, where Ilive, my age, where I had the craziest sex etc etc
Me: you want more?
Me: wow! there are greedypeople in this world
Me: still there?

Her: yes....I was just thinking what to say
Me: aha you're lost for words

Her: I don't want you to get me wrong here......
Me: shoot away!

Her: but I have the impression that you don't want to talk about your outlook on relationships.... Her: that sounds weird

Her: are you dating somebody right now?
Me: outlook on relationships?
Me: is this a marriage proposal... you've got to be rich though
Me: and be able to tell a story for 40 days and 40 nights

Her: here it comes again..... no, I'm just interested in getting to know you.....
Me: I liketo get to know u too
Me: of course you've got tobe a great story teller
Me: then the marriage will be ON

Her: so, then why is it so bad to ask maybehow long your longest relationship was... or when u did get out of the last one....

Me: you thinkit's bad?
Her: I really love fooling around andchatting around....but I don't like it if I neverget answers to just normal not indiscreetquestions

Me: Indiscreet... hmmm. Ask whateverquestions you want
Me: you'll get to know me as itgoes Her: I already did.... and I don't have alist to write that down.... I just noticed that...last time when you called me on the phone... andtoday, too...... every time I ask something aboutyour past I get a slapstick answer

Me: don't mindme that's how I talk. I'm playful but we'll get toknow each other as we go along Me: it's a naturalprocess
Me: you can't force it
Her: hey..... nowyou got me wrong..... see I didn't want that
Me:want what?
Her: that you get this message the wayyou got it..... I'm not that needy and I don'twant to force anything.

Me: cool, I like that...
Me: needy people scare me
Me: I know you're notneedy
Me: so when are u thinking of coming?

Her: Itold you.... it would not be possible before marchbecause in Feb. I'm on training... and work... andwill have no (NO!!) day off the whole month
Me:working all month, not even free for the weekends?

Her: no....
Me: what training is it?
Her:especially not the weekends..... from march on Iwill have a little bit more time (especially theweekends)
Her: I worked on getting me free time onweekends because I want to have a private lifeagain one day....

Me: time to go out and stuff
Her: I'm doing my A-licence for aqua-training thenext 3 weeks, and then the last diploma forPilates
Her: for example

Me: you're going to putme through some steps when you get here
Her: putyou through some steps?

Me: workouts... were youthinking of something else... bad girl!
Her: no...I just wanted to know what you want tolearn...what where you thinking about

Me: whateveris nice and easy, anyway we'll see when come
Me:what are you uo to next tonight

Me: up Her: notmuch.... watch a movie maybe and then go tobed.....
Me: ok, hope you get better wrap warm.

Me: I've got to hit the sack now
Me: tired from along day at work

Her: do that.... and talk to yousoon.... just have to work 2 hours tomorrow night.... I need that break, maybe I'll cancelthat, too and stay in bed ]

Her: nite nitethen......xx
Me: good night

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