Here's the deal about always making decisions
and staying in control...

Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES. So how could you characterize a Wuss?
A Wussy is a guy who is weak, indecisive, andinsecure.

A Wussy isn't in control, and he doesn't make decisions. Women feel ATTRACTION for men who demonstratethe qualities of a LEADER. How could you characterize a LEADER?

A LEADER is a man who is in control of the situation, and who makes decisions and follows through on them WITHOUT needing approval from others. You've asked a great question, but it's acomplex one. In my CD Audio Program "Advanced DatingTechniques" I talk at length about the qualities and beliefs of men who are NATURALLY attractive to women, and how to communicate all of this with body language, voice tone, and words. If this topic is fascinating to you, then Irecommend that you check out my CD program. Itwill blow your mind. You can find it right here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/AdvancedSeries/

***QUESTION***Jedi Master,Your material has unbelievable results. Afterreading your book and newsletters, I am findingmyself in a dilemma of needing to let some of thewomen down in order to make room for others.The problem is they keep wanting to fill myschedule and I haven't learned or need to learnhow to let these women know that like yesterdaysnewspaper, I have read and prefer to read currentevents as opposed to rereading the same newspaperover and over. I guess I am being a wussy in thisregard cause I just do not know how to say See Ya?How does the master say this without being mean. Iwant to let them go without hurting their selfesteem, they have done nothing wrong, they arebeautiful, I just want to move on and enjoy, theriches you have endowed upon me, without hurtingthem, and without being a wussy in the process.G N Portland OR>>>MY COMMENTS: I'd say that the problem you're experiencing isprobably being caused BEFORE it actually happens. How do women know if a man is interested inthem for a "long term" relationship... or if he'sjust interested in dating casually? The trigger for this is HOW OFTEN YOU SEE THEM,and how often you CALL them. Of course, there's more... like whether or notyou buy gifts, talk about how you feel, ask her tobe your girlfriend, etc. But if you want to just see a woman casuallyand not have her become "hooked" on you, thendon't call her more than a couple of times a week,and don't see her more than once a week... maybetwice sometimes. This should solve your problem.***QUESTION***I'm a 25 years old guy that never understoodwomen. Now I realize the WUSS I have been for sucha long time. Anyway, I was lucky because I got agirlfriend casually, and I experienced with her,but some years ago we broke up and I have been soLOST with the women task and suddenly YOU, senseiDavid, appeared in the middle of my nightmare, andthings started getting sense (I bought your ebook,of course)THE JEALOUS STUFFThe thing is that I have a bisexual friend (girl)that I like, but I've never told her anythingabout my feelings. Some days ago she and some ofher friends came to visit me and we went out. Wewere in a nightclub, and next to us there was agroup of girls, I made eye contact with one ofthem. And then I thought about something that Iwouldn't have figured out in my WUSS- PAST-WOLD:Let's get that girl, and see the reaction of mybisexual friend. After some C&F stuff, I wasfrench kissing the girl of the eye contact infront of the face of my friend. And guess what wasthe reaction ???? Now I can't get rid of her. It'slike I've been a kind of ghost, until that nightThanks, David. Keep on giving us some perspective.AS FROM SPAIN>>>MY COMMENTS: Hey, I never said that women made any damnsense! Jealousy is a powerful emotion. Some think that it's the MOST powerful emotion. It might be interesting for you to know thatmany of the guys I know who like to date a lot ofdifferent women don't hide the fact that they datea lot of girls. Many female animal species choose males byfinding the ones with the most other females whoare attracted to him. Women are often the same. Women can be very competitive, and if a womanknows that you don't have any trouble meetingother women, it will often inspire her to feeleven more attraction for you. But be careful. I don't think that it's a goodidea to try to deliberately make a woman jealous.It doesn't feel good, and if you meet the wrongwomen you just might wind up with a rabbit boilingon your stove when you come home one night.***QUESTION***Dave,I won't even begin to tell you how awsome yourbook is and how it breaks everything down for ex-wusses like myself because that would take up toomuch time, but I've got a situation for you. A fewweeks ago, I met this girl in my class. She wasdefinitely a 8-9. Anyways, I got her number andasked her if we could study sometime. Weeventually set up a date to get a paper done. Shedidn't show up! I was like.... okay, I'm not evengonna get mad. So a few days later, I saw herwalking with this dude.. I was like... "ok, shehas a bf, thats why", but here's the funny part;I've been working on my body language and eyecontact lately and it's been doing wonders. When Isee her, I just speak and keep walking. I haven'theld a conversation with her in like 2 weeks andyesterday she left a message on my phone thatsaid..."Hey, this is ---- from your english class,I was just calling to tell you that I think thatyou are a VERY attractive man, and I think you arereally fine. But I have a boyfriend. I know youtried to study with me in the past, but you knowhow things can be when you have a boyfriend... soi guess ill talk to you later" Whats up with this?I didn't talk to the girl in two weeks and sheleaves this message? Was it a movement I made?Could you anyalize this for me please?B in FLAP.S.- I never knew body language could be sopowerful!>>>MY COMMENTS: This kind of thing always makes me laugh. I can remember when I used to call women toooften, and if they didn't show up, I'd get upsetand try to set up another date with them, etc. Of course, they'd usually play hard to get, andwind up thinking that I was a Wussy because I justaccepted their flaky behavior. Well, after I stopped calling women back whoflaked, and basically stopped CHASING women, I hadthe strangest thing happen... I had women call me... but sometimes it wasliterally WEEKS later. Just like your situation. You probably just have a girl who was in afight with her boyfriend the day she set the studydate with you... but fixed things up with himbefore she was supposed to see you again... andthen maybe got into another fight with him so shedecided to call you and see if you wereavailable. Don't worry about it. Just move on. She'llprobably start flirting with you again when she'ssingle. ***QUESTION***Dave --Hey, your advice works wonders! It is amazinghow much it works. I tried it on this girl Ihardly knew, and we hit it off real well. In fact,we hooked up, and that was pretty cool.I need advice, though. The girl and I startedto really hit it off, and we became closereveryday. Then, we started talking, and it seemedas though we were over, and I was devastated.She's really cool and REALLY hot. We kept talking,and she ends up telling me that she needs to knowherself before she knows me, so she asks for time,and that I be her friend in that time. Myquestion: how do I keep her falling head overheels for me while I give her the time, and thatshe doesn't become another friend.Again, thanks for the great advice.>>>MY COMMENTS: OK, let me do a little translation for you... If a woman says, "I need time to get to knowmyself" or "I need to find myself" or anyvariation of this common theme, it usually means: "YOU WERE ACTING LIKE A WUSS, BEING CLINGY, ANDGENERALLY NOT A CHALLENGE ANYMORE. I WANT YOU TOLEAVE, BUT I DON'T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS, SOI'M GOING TO TELL YOU THAT I NEED TIME TO "FINDMYSELF" TO GET YOU TO LEAVE ME ALONE WITHOUT AHASSLE." I'm harsh, aren't I? Well, here's the deal. In general, if youbecome too predictable, too involved, too needy,too wuss-ish, and too "head over heels" too earlyin the relationship, it will drive a woman away. Think about it this way: The REALLY attractivewomen have guys chasing them FAR more than theaverage/below average women. You need to dosomething DIFFERENT, while at the same time beingATTRACTIVE. Probably the best thing you can do when youfinally meet a really great girl is call her HALFas much as you normally would, and give her twicethe space. Think about it. ***COMMENT***I just got back from eating with a woman I starteddating 3 weeks ago. Somehow we got on the topic ofwhat she likes in a man and what is the quickesttime she has ever jumped in the sack with one. Shestated that she met a guy one night and slept withhim the next. She said that she did it only oncein her life and then gave me the reason why shedid that time. She stated that all the guys shedated before him would always say something on thewild side, that she was really interested indoing, but would back down and say, "oh, I wasjust kidding" when she looks at them to see ifthey were serious. She said that this guy sheslept with the next night and I are the only twomen that have ever said something cocky and funnyand not flinched when she looked on in disbelief.In fact, I would look at her and repeat things Isaid whenever she looked at me with that "I can'tbelieve you just said that to me," stare. Shetells me it is such a turn-on.I had only begun to do this after subscribing toyour websight newsletter about a month or twoago... I would just like to thank you for theadvice and tell the other guys to stick by whatthey say, no matter how off the wall it may sound.B.>>>MY COMMENTS: This is JEDI LEVEL wisdom, read it again. ***QUESTION***Dear David,Great stuff. I was that nice guy... after readingyour book and your e mails I have been able tochange into the cocky and funny guy. The other dayone of the 3 women I am dating called giving me alittle grief. I said you know maybe we should notsee each other any more and she was like but Ihave been thinking about you all weekend PLEASEcome over now and F#% me, after a little delay Iagreed it was great. I do have a ? The one Ireally like who is totally hot never makes thefirst move and while she is very receptive when Ido it, would be great to get her to seduce me, anysuggestions?...c.>>>MY COMMENTS: For some reason, I LOVE your question... howfun is it to have a woman pursuing YOU? OK, here'sa tip from my personal experience... Next time you're with her, and you've startedgetting physical... just when you know that she'sreally enjoying what's going on (and it can be atany stage, kissing, etc.) just stop. Then whisperin her ear, "You want more, don't you?... you'regoing to have to say PLEASE." Then just keep working up to the same level andsaying the same thing until she finally does. Onceyou've done this, it's easy to transfer the sameidea to other things, like getting her to make thefirst move. Note: This is all done with a very playful,teasing tone. It's not a psychological controlstrategy... Keep things on the nice nice, don't bea controlling loser. Done right this can be a bigturn on for all involved. ***QUESTION***Dave,I did exactly what you had said for thepersonals... I actually cut and paste your letter,made one or two changes and I actually got aresponse...Now, you talk about getting that phone number?How?What should I say in the e-mail not to come offlike a looser, but to come off confident, cocky,and funny?Thanks!>>>MY COMMENTS: Can I just tell you how much I love it whenguys actually go out and USE the materials? Thisis great stuff... OK, step two is to get her live on the phone,and to do it soon. You don't want this to take toolong or she's likely to get 100 more emails andforget about you. Try a cocky funny response like this: "Wow, you're a real person. Great. I guess wehave a couple of options here. We could start anemail relationship, fall madly in love, and maybeeven get a priest to marry us in a live chatceremony... Then again, maybe we could get together for acup of tea and some stimulating conversation andmake friends. And then after I can validate thatyou're actually the cute gal in this picture I sawof you, we can talk about the online marriagething. Give me a call tonight. My number is (insertnumber here). I'm a pretty busy person, and Ican't guarantee that I'll be home, but give it atry. And please call before 11 PM because that'swhen my mom makes me go to sleep. By the way, where can I reach you if I want tocall you ten times a day? Talk soon." I'm a funny guy. But all kidding aside, this is a KILLER modelfor a follow up letter to a personal ad response.It says so many things in the right way thatyou're very likely to get another response,probably a call, and probably her number. ***COMMENT***David,A few weeks back you used what I think is one ofthe most important words in dating (next to cockyand funny of course) that word is "NEXT."We always want the one that we can't get. Forgetthat! I say NEXT. If you have this idea of"Next" in your brain, you will come across as aman who is not needy and you will be moreattractive to women. Why waste time with womanwho are not interested? Its a lot more fun tofind a nice looking lady who wants to be with youthen it is to chase someone who isn't interested.The book was great. Keep up the great work! >>>MY COMMENTS: This is another psychological step that is veryimportant. I get so many emails from guys who havemet a great girl, but they screwed it up becausethey made her "too important" mentally. In otherwords, when things started to get difficult,instead of taking the attitude of "NEXT" (whichcreates all kinds of attraction), they CLING andact NEEDY and generally do EXACTLY THE THINGS THATCAUSE THE WOMAN TO HIT THE ROAD FOR GOOD. Much better to have the mental attitude of "I'mgoing to enjoy this woman's company for as long asit stays a good thing. The moment that she becomesa strain or a pain I'm out of here. I don't needproblems or drama in my life, and my happiness ismore important than this woman." The first response to this is usually, "Butthis woman is SPECIAL. She's not like other women.She's the one." Blah blah blah... If she's the ONE, then all the more reason totake this attitude. "THE ONE" ISN'T LOOKING FOR A WUSS. The "NEXT" attitude will do a lot of goodthings for your success with women. Use it. ***NOTE: If you're reading this right now, andyou are thinking to yourself, "I sure wish I couldget up the courage to say "Next!" to a woman... oryou'd like to learn more about how to build apowerful "Inner Game" confidence that isUNSHAKABLE, then I highly recommend that you checkout my "Deep Inner Game" program. It isspecifically designed to help you overcome yourinsecurities and build massive confidence. It'shere:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/DeepInnerGame/ ***QUESTION***David,I got your mailbag, and bought your book rightaway a few months ago and it has truely changed mylife. Thank you. I realized that in all of myrelationships I have been a total wuss and that iswhy I was not having sucess. I am actually apretty funny guy (amatuer stand up comedian) but Iam not cocky at all. As soon as I added a bit ofcocky to my usual sacarstic humor, the successfollowed.My problem is this. I met a woman who is anextremely skilled player. We went out as "freinds"and then it escalated nicely (kiss test workedlike a charm) and then it got really screwed upwhen I had to leave the country for a month onbusiness and things got a bit muddled. When Ireturned we went out right away and I missd her somuch I fell back in to my wussie ways and I thinkI ruined it, in only one 6 hour date!Since then I have been trying to turn the tables.I mean I try to end the conversations first allthe time but she just seems to beat me to it eachtime, like she is psychic or something. I try totell her I am busy and I'll have to call her backbut unless I do it at an awkwardly early point inthe conversation she always seems beat me to it.In my opinion if I continue to play "hard to get"and don't call her (which seems to be workinglately) she will get the wrong message. I want tosend the "I like you but you haven't got mewrapped around your finger" message, not the "I'mnot thinking about you at all while everythingaround me in society screams 'couple' and'romance' " message.What would you do in this unusal time?Thanks again for all your help and advice.To anyone who has not dowloaded the book, youdeserve the miserable lonely nights I know you aregoing through, put a crowbar in your wallet andget the full information!>>>MY COMMENTS: I like the crowbar idea. As for your situation. You've learned animportant lesson the hard way. When I think about women and attraction, Iimagine it like an on/off switch. If it ever getsturned off, it's VERY hard to turn it back on.ESPECIALLY if you're dealing with a woman like theone you're talking about who is very experiencedand knows the game well. The best thing you can do is start dating otherwomen, not call her for a month or so, then dropher a line and say, "Hey, let's get together for acup of tea. You were a nice friend..." Then tellher about what's going on in your life (the otherwomen, I mean). YOU'VE LOST CONTROL, AND YOU NEED TO TAKE ITBACK. 'Nuff said. ***QUESTION***Hey Dave,I am a 23 year old single father i having a toughtime getting a date because i have a kid. Most ofthe girls i ask out, I tell them I have a kid andthey dont want to be any more than just friends.Any suggestions? >>>MY COMMENTS: Yes, I have one for you... STOP THINKING OF YOUR KID AS A LIMITATION. I'mgoing to suggest that you don't have a tough timegetting a date BECAUSE you have a kid... it'sbecause you THINK IT'S A PROBLEM. Just don't bring it up early on. Don't answerany questions about your status as a father. Makea decision to share that info only with women whoare EXCEPTIONAL. If a woman is REALLY attracted to you, she'lloverlook almost ANYTHING. I mean, hey... look atSteven Tyler and Mick Jagger... ***QUESTION***Hi David!!I just wanted to tell you that what you say inyour emails is true and it works. I'm from a smallcentral american country and your advice works onwomen here too!!! Now to my question, I met thisgorgeous girl, she is incredible and hot as hell.But I have competition, some guy who doesn't knowa thing about women (he should subscribe to yournewsletter, dont you think), but she seems alittle interested in him and interested in me too.What would you suggest to "neutralize" him?Thanks,A.P.S.: I used the cocky and funny technique and itworked!!!! thanks for sharing you wisdom>>>MY COMMENTS: If you focus on the competition it will onlydistract you and cause you problems. Forget other guys and what they're doing. Justfocus on what you're doing and your own success. It's very natural to let competition upsetyou... and jealousy is a very real emotion. Butremember, it isn't going to help you in mostcases. Just do your best, keep using thetechniques, and stick to your methods. Chances arethat any other guys involved will screw it up atsome point, and you will be the one left with theprize. Note: In situations like this one, we guysoften start to put too much value on getting thegirl BECAUSE there are other guys involved. Wethink to ourselves, "Well, this other guy likesher, so she must be something REALLY special. Evenmore than I thought." This leads to making allkinds of mistakes, being a wuss, acting clingy,etc. Don't fall into this trap. ***QUESTION***I need some help and i think that you have thebest advice so here is the problem, I like thisgirl at my college and she works at the collegebookstore. A while back i was buying books and shewas asking me questions and being super friendly,then the following semester she said hi to me oncampus but like a dip sh** I didnt respond. Now ireally want to hook it up but have this feelingthat she is not interested anymore. Everytime Isee her we make eye contact but I can't tell ifshe wants me to go in for the kill. Please help meso i can go right up to her and talk to her, I'mhaving trouble starting out the conversation.Thanks.>>>MY COMMENTS: No killing please. Why don't you just go in forthe email instead? Much less messy. Just get heremail and then take it one step at a time. This isthe best way to find out if it can go somewhere... ***GREAT STORY***David-I was enjoying a bagel this morning in the outdoorchairs at a little donut shop I go to onSaturdays. I doubt if the guy I'm going to tellyou about has ever read your book...but he's awalking advertisement for it.The only other person out there with me was anelderly woman, who was about 8 years older thanGod. A guy pulls up in this old caddie with a USMClicense plate on the front bumper. He's about afew minutes younger than her.This old guy goes in, orders a bag of donuts, andcomes back out. He walks right up to her table andsays:"Hi ya, toots. You're a classy lookin' dame. Areyou friendly?"She says, "How dare you call me some dame. Mygiven name is Julia"This guy never misses a beat. He says, "Got yourfeathers ruffled, did I? Well, you know the firstairplane I ever rode in during the war startedwitha J, too. She was a hardbody, with a shapelytailpiece. I still remeber what it felt like torun my hand over her headlights."The old girl, says, "That's atrocious. You betterhave a seat sailor. It sounds like you been awayfrom shore for too long."It was all I could do to keep from busting uplaughing. I didn't know whether to throw a blanketover them or go give this codger a high five. Hehad it down, buddy, just like you've been tellingus. This guy could be me 35 years from now if Ifollow what you teach.Keep getting the word out, Dave. We'll still beusing it when we're on Viagra.C.>>>MY COMMENTS: I love this story. Use the things I'm teachingyou and hopefully you'll find success beforeyou're 100 years old and cruising the old folkshome for babes... But, as you can see, the Cocky & Funnytechnique works even if you ARE cruising the oldfolks home... ***QUESTION***Well, what can I say, David, you're a dating God!Your book is nothing less than a masterpiece. Nowthat i've got a good handle on some of yourtechniques, I've had no problem meeting women.I've recently started dating a woman whom is apleasant distraction. My fear is she is fallingway to hard for me. My problem is, my friend oftwo years who I've been smitten with since thebeginning is now single. There is another guyfriend of hers who has recently made his feelingsknown for her. I'm pretty sure there has alwaysbeen chemical tension underneath our friendship.She has told me things like you have the sexiestvoice ever, I listen to your cd every night causeI love falling asleep to the sound of your voice,when you're lost in thought you have the sexiesteyes. We went for coffee last night and shetouched me 3-5 times on the hand.The problem comes in that before your book I wasthe nice sensitive guy always bearing my feelings,catering to a woman's needs, and very humble. Nowi've got a great routine down for getting datesbut she doesn't know me as that type of person. Soi don't know how to approach trying to instigate arelationship with her. Any suggestions??A.>>>MY COMMENTS: Yes, I have any suggestions... KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS!!! DON'T TURN BACK INTO AWUSS NOW THAT YOU HAVE THE CHANCE TO GET THE GIRLYOU REALLY LIKE!!! Wow, I don't use that many exclamation marksvery often. And for the girl who is smitten with you... lether down easy. This is a great opportunity toborrow a technique from our book on female datingtactics. It's called: "You're really nice, but I think that we shouldbe friends." All's fair in love and war... just don't be abastard. ***QUESTION***First off...you are the smartest man alive. I havereally enjoyed reading your litterature and it hashelped me build a confidence I've never hadbefore. Here's the question.... I recently visitedan "exotic dance club" and met an "exotic dancer".I used the cocky funny attitude and had a nicechat before my lap dance. Within minutesafterward... I got her e-mail addy. The problemis...The setting in which we met and thecircumstances involved. How can I start arelationship with her without her seeing me as acustomer... or a pervert that liked what he sawand just wants more? I know it can be done I justneed a little insight from the master. Help me outMr. Miagi.Sincerely,Daniel-son>>>MY COMMENTS: Start a RELATIONSHIP? With an EXOTIC DANCER? After talking to her for a few minutes? OK, let's do a quick reality check before youdo something that you'll regret for a long time... About 80-90% of the time, exotic dancers arethe LAST type of woman up for a "relationship". If you're interested in taking things to thenext level, you need to be cocky & funny, bust herballs a lot, make sure you keep being a challenge,etc. Of all the people in the world, these womenare probably pursued by the most men. If, after going out with her for AT LEASTseveral months you can prove beyond the shadow ofa doubt that:1) She's not addicted to drugs or alcohol2) She doesn't smoke like a fire and have dirty-carpet breath3) She wasn't sexually molested more than a dozentimes4) She isn't manic-depressive, bi-polar, orborderline5) You can deal with the idea that she's notquitting for you Then maybe you might consider a "relationship."I mean, hey... most exotic dancers are bi-sexual.And I've heard that some of them even know othercute girls (but I'm not certain on this one). Inany case, don't forget the protection. Big time. Oh, and if you change your mind, try finding awoman who comes from a good family... who hasfantastic relationships with her mother andfather... and who is emotionally mature. It might surprise you, but I think you'd enjoya long-term relationship more with this kind ofwomen. Just my two cents... ***QUESTION***Your like a god to me! I've been going out aboutfive times as much as I used to (which wasn'tmuch) and women see me in a new way. Now for theimportant part. I stepped up my cocky/funnynessto the max and this one girl is crazy about me.She delayed one date, never stopped appologizing.I teased her for it all night. She keeps actingso needy and I can't get enough of it (I don'ttell her) but that brings up a question. If sheis acting needy to me and I can't get enough ofit, why did women dump me when I used to actneedy? Please put something about this in yournewsletter.Bye.>>>MY COMMENTS: What's with all the God comments this week?Let's stick with David from now on... I'm notready for all of the responsibility. As for your situation... The reason why it's fun for you having her actneedy is YOU'VE HAD IT THE OTHER WAY AROUND ALLYOUR LIFE! It's a nice change. But trust me, after a short while it gets old.If she keeps it up, you'll see. Eventually amechanism will kick in and you'll lose your likingfor it... just like women do at a very young age.But enjoy it while it's fresh and fun. ***SUCCESS STORY***For 18 months I tried to score with this woman Iwanted but because she saw me as needy she keptthe "goodies" away from me. Now one night Istopped trying. I focused on having a good time. Iwas determined to be polite to her but ignore herand make no moves. I danced with other women, Idrank, I had fun. The more independant, confidentand fun-loving I became the more attractive Ibecame. Things changed. She wasn't used to beingignored. She felt left out. She then put out andseduced me by the end of the night. I wasn't eventrying and I wasn't even nervous!!!A few months later I bought your book Dave andrealised that for 18 months I'd been doing itwrong. Little did I know but that fateful nightwas the way to do it right. I've been doing itright since then. Thanks Dave.Regards.>>>MY COMMENTS: Congratulations, good job, and keep it up. ***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***On behalf of all women, I think your e-mail suckedtoday. :)I am so tired of dating cheap men. There isnothing wrong with a man who is able to providedoing so. Let's face it, men make more money thanwomen.I'm not a gold digger. Not at all. I'm 34 yearsold. I own my own townhouse which I am strugglingto get by with the mortgage and expenses havingbeen laid off by IBM after almost 7 years.I do like the e-mail first idea, in fact that isalways what I initiate when I'm out. I'd muchrather do that to get to know someone before thedinner out but the LAST thing I want to do is havesomeone show up late and let me know right upfront that he's not willing to buy me a cup oftea.I just spent almost five months with someone whowas making three times my income and we went Dutchon everything. Am I wrong to *want* someone toflip the bill for me? I don't think so.Warm regards... >>>MY COMMENTS: No, there's nothing "wrong" with you "wanting"someone to take care of the bill. But there's alsonothing wrong with a man not paying... or evenbetter, avoiding typical expensive datingsituations all together. I personally think that starting off arelationship by paying for things creates animbalance that isn't very healthy. As an interesting aside: You spent FIVE MONTHSpaying your own way. He obviously had somethingelse going for him if you spent that long withhim... hmmmmm. I wish I could give him a high five! Oh, and the little smiley in your email clearlycommunicates that you like and want me. Be alittle more subtle next time, OK? Don't let theworld know everything that's going on between us!It's not classy...***SUCCESS STORY***I found your site a couple of months ago andsubscribed to your newsletters and I downloadedthe book . I'm 18 years old and I'm in my firstyear of college, so you can imagine the hot, youngwomen that are there .Anyways, I've always been the "wuss , loser ,nothing more than a friend" type of guy (man ithurts to admit it) but since i started readingyour e-mails i've gotten so much better. Some ofmy girlfriends don't see me as a friend anymore (Ican't imagine what your book will do ). So notlong ago I'm sitting where everyone goes to eatand they're playing "The Fast And The Furious " onthe tv's when I look down and this reallybeautiful woman keeps looking at me . So by thesecond time our eyes meet, I smile , at that samemoment I'm thinking, "Wait !!! , remember the e-mails, you always do this and you always end up asa friend". The problem was that she had 2 more ofher friends on the table with her, but shewouldn't expect me to get up and go to her, so Igot up from my chair and went up to her, she hadthat "what is he doing" look, then I sat down onthe table and said, "Hi , I know I'm pretty andthat your attracted to me, but could you maybehide your impulses". Of course this was said in afunny way, with a cocky look. Her friends startedlaughing and said, "she was that obvious , huh?"She was shocked at the beginning but she relaxedand started laughing. Almost immediately afterthat her friends said they were hungry and left,so I asked for her name and thought to myself,"Forget the e-mail , just ask her number ". Shegave me her celular number , but I haven't calledher yet. Anyway thanks for your great advices andI'll keep you posted on the outcome.P.S. For all you wusses out there , you can changeyou don't always have to be this way . Buy thedamn book !!!!!!"L.>>>MY COMMENTS: I couldn't agree more. ***QUESTION***Hey man, I have to admit, I have been getting yournewsletter for about 2 weeks now and I havedramatically improved the number of women i havebeen meeting and getting numbers from! Thanks somuch for the help and tips. Usually when it comesdown to the first date everything goes fine and Ilay down the c&f attitude which gets me goodplaces with her. But i have a problem. This lastweekend i had a date with this woman i just metand we were in the hot tub and me friend and hisdate were with us. Well the problem was that mymind was totally blank for some odd reason and icouldn't come up with anything interesting to talkabout if my life was on the line. So obviously Ireally didnt get anywhere with her but she saidthat she would like to see me again. So myquestion to you is what are some topics ofinterest that i could talk with her about thatwouldnt put me in the wussy boy category and wouldalso get me in good with her, when i cant think ofanything? Please help!Thanks a lot! B.F TX>>>MY COMMENTS: Well, if you think about it, there are a fewmain topics that women PAY TONS OF MONEY to enjoy. Think daytime dramas, Cosmo magazine, andromance novels. For whatever reason, women just loverelationships, drama, and humor. So talk about famous people, theirrelationships, and their drama. If you're at a loss, and you want to start afunny conversation, just say, "What's with..." andfinish up with any current gossip topic taken fromany famous person's life. "What's with Brittny and Kevin breaking up?" "What's with Lindsay Lohan in re-hab?" Of course, these kinds of topics lendthemselves to all KINDS of opportunities to beCocky & Funny. So do it. Great job getting more dates... keep up thegood work.***QUESTION***Hey Dave,You always have success stories with guys that say"Im a good looking guy". What about us guys thatare average or slightly below average, balding, orthick?? Does this stuff work for us as well? Oris this just help guys that already get dates getMORE dates?? Are us average or below average guysout of luck?? I get an occasional hot girl butthey are few and far between.M>>>MY COMMENTS: I'd say that 1 in 100 of the emails that I getare from guys who say, "I'm a good looking guy". And most of the guys who I know that are reallysuccessful with women aren't unusually "goodlooking". Some of my friends who are unbelievably good atattracting BEAUTIFUL women are not at all "goodlooking". And if you think about your own life, I'll betthat you'll realize that the guys you knowyourself who are best at getting dates withattractive women aren't the guys you know who arethe richest, tallest, or most handsome. In other words, YES... this stuff works for"regular" guys! ...and, in fact, if you're reading thisnewsletter right now and you'd like to really takeyour success with women to the next level, then Ihave a few words for you. It wasn't that long ago that I personallydidn't have the ability to even TALK to a woman Ididn't know... never mind getting a date. I spent a few YEARS trying just abouteverything I could find to help me. I read books, listened to tapes, went toseminars... I tried it all. But nothing reallyworked consistently for me. The real breakthroughs came when I startedspending time with a lot of guys who wereNATURALLY successful with women. When I say"naturally" I don't mean that women walked overand threw themselves at these guys... I mean thatthey had each figured out how to attract a lot ofbeautiful women ON THEIR OWN. What I found was incredible... Even though most of these different guys hadNEVER EVEN MET one another, they had a LOT incommon. They did a lot of the same things... theysaid a lot of the same things... and they behavedin a lot of the same ways. So I took what I learned, I tested it all out,and I refined it and created a whole system forhow a regular guy can increase his success withwomen and dating. That's it in a nutshell. I personally went from not knowing how to eventalk to a woman I didn't know to being able to getdates with even the most beautiful women... and Ipractice what I preach. The things that I teach in my eBook andAdvanced Series are things that I use PERSONALLYin situations with women. It's not a bunch of made-up garbage and oldrecycled books from 25 years ago. If you have any doubts or hesitations at allabout investing in my materials, remember that youcan order both of these from me and actually TRYTHEM OUT with zero risk. You can get them, use them, see if they workfor you (they will), and THEN decide if you wantto keep them and pay for them. I would never offerthis kind of personal guarantee unless I knew thatyou would get results. Go check out some great samples for my AdvancedSeries here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/AdvancedSeries/ And go download my online eBook here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/eBook/ I've spent a lot of time working on thetheories, concepts, and techniques included inthese products...and I can tell you that there'snothing else available that will get you the kindsof results that you'll get by using them. Go check them out! I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.P.S. Don't forget to go and check out my onlinecatalog of all my programs... where you can watchvideo clips of all of them:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/Catalog/P.P.S. If you'd like to send me a Success Story,Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphsmax.2) Tell me what's working for you before you askyour question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuffis great" and "I don't need to tell you how wellyour stuff works" comments, but the fact is that IDO need to hear all of the specifics... becausethis helps other guys to see what's working indifferent situations.3) If you have a Success Story, write "SuccessStory" in the subject line of the email. I readthese first.4) At the end of the email, give me your initialsand tell me where you're from.5) Send it to me at:SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com ...don't just hit "reply" to this email. Thanks!

Have you ever noticed that women don't seem tomake sense AT ALL when it comes to "dating"? What's up with that? I'm sure you've been in a situation where youreally liked a woman, and you did everything"right"... but for some reason she just never feltattracted to you... You called her often, took her to nice places,bought her gifts, and were a complete gentleman(translation, you didn't try to kiss her, gave herspace, etc.)... but nothing seemed to cause her tolike you for more than just a "friend"... And I'm sure you've been in a situation where aTOTALLY HOT female friend of yours was dating acomplete jerk who was mean and abusive to her...and all she did was tell you about how badly hetreats her (and of course she talks about the sextoo)... all the while you're sitting there andwould do ANYTHING just to have a chance at datingher. Right? What is going on here? Why is it that when you're overly nice to awoman in the beginning, it just causes them to beless and less interested? And why is it that jerky guys who mistreatwomen seem to get laid like Rock Stars, eventhough they are the WORST possible choice for anattractive woman? This is a fascinating question to me. In fact, I've spent the last several YEARSthinking about this and other related questions. It's funny, because when you first ask aquestion like this one, you can come up with some"OK" answers. But now that I've taken the time toREALLY think about it, research it, and lookDEEPER into the topic, I've realized and foundsome FASCINATING answers. But more importantly, I've come up with waysthat any guy can take advantage of the secretsthat "jerks" use to attract women... withouthaving to be abusive. OK, so let's talk about some of these conceptsthat I've been working on... Before we get into the specific concepts, Iwant to mention that you can get yourself aFANTASTIC education about how to communicate withwomen in a way that creates ATTRACTION by gettingyourself a copy of my "Sexual Communication"program. Go check out some video clips of theprogram here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/SexualCommunication/ ...I can remember when I used to call women allthe time, take them out, and generally show themthat I was VERY interested in them when I firstmet them. I was REALLY a "nice" guy. And you can guess what happened. Exactly... They would always be nice to me, say that theyappreciated what I had done, and accept mycalls... BUT I NEVER SENSED THAT THEY FELT ANY KIND OFATTRACTION FOR ME. Something just never felt quite right. I always felt this little tension... as if thewoman KNEW that I was interested, but for somereason THAT VERY FACT was the thing that kept herfrom feeling the same in return. It was as if the more I tried to get a woman tolike me, the less she would. IT JUST DIDN'T MAKE SENSE! Why wouldn't a woman choose to like me when Iwas such a nice guy? Was it my looks? Or the fact that I didn't makea lot of money? Or that I didn't have a nice car? Well, I've since realized something... Women don't CHOOSE at all who they areattracted to.

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So to the crunch. One night when this girl and Iwere out pubbing and clubbing and battling eachother with our wits and building lots of tension(so much fun) she opened up a bit and told methat she had never met anyone like me and that Iwas cool. All the cues that you said would happenif you do the right things. Inside I was like"WOW!" but I didn't show it and just told her thather compliments and looking at me like a piece ofmeat wasn't going to get her anywhere - she's agreat friend! By the end of the night she wasasking me the odds of us having sex within thenext few weeks. Now here's where I've got to holdmy hands up and risk your written wrath. In thatmoment, this was the ONLY time I have ever been awuss with her. I'm a virgin and even though Ifancy her like mad, I know at present I couldn'tsatisfy a woman like that (limiting belief I know,but true!) I haven't got the skill yet and then Irealised that I had failed to plan ahead. Damn.And I could hardly turn around and say "Hey, I'm avirgin wuss who has never had sex! Teach me?"Instead, as my answer I just smirked a little in apoor attempt to look composed but I wasted a bigopportunity to amplify what was there; instead Ijust dissipated all the tension by being a prick.She appeared to let me off though and the next fewweeks were a C+F fun-fest again. I still playedit cool, no chasing, no clinging, no insecurity.Then our mutual friends started telling me to askher for more. Even her best female friend saidthat we should be together because we get on sowell. I remembered an email you sent saying thatif you meet someone you REALLY like then sometimeyou're going to have to take the chance and tellthem. So when we were alone at another party acouple of weeks later, I told her that we shouldget together. Here's the messed up part: she saidthat I was the best guy she'd ever met and thatshe didn't want to enter a relationship with mebecause every guy she has ever gone out with she'sended up hurting. She said that she never wantedto hurt me and wanted to know me forever. Andthat if we stayed best friends forever, withoutcomplications, we would have something great forlife and not a quick fling followed by nevertalking again. She also said that she loved theway that I stand up to her and don't kiss her asslike most other guys. So, a lot of tears later(from her), hugs, kisses and plenty of apologiesand I was left to wonder if my one error of sexualwussiness had cost me in the worst possible way. Ibelieve this to be true because I know that if awoman feels attraction for a man, then nothingelse matters. Her friendship logic wouldn't matterif she "felt it" for me would it? I'm so pissedoff at myself for messing up (always been aperfectionist, have to get everything right firsttime!) However, she has surprised me in that shehasn't run for the hills - she must've meant whatshe said. Reason being because not only are westill hanging out, but she sent me a Valentinescard (I sent her nothing) and just last weekinvited me over to her place alone where shecooked for me. I'm still playing it by yourteachings Dave but I'm at a complete loss. I likeher a hell of a lot and am really fighting thewuss urge. I still bust on her, we still flirt, Idon't call her a s much as she calls me and Ihaven't shared any feelings with her since thatnight. I'm trying to stay cool man! Don't bitchslap or berate me too hard, I've already done itmany times myself (and will continue to do so,until I GET IT! I am not going to give this up!)So after this damned long essay that says I'vegone on for too long (I've kept it to 2 paragraphsthough - albeit by cheating the rules ofgrammar...) I have two questions: 1) Is there anyhope of turning this around? I know I should moveon but how long will it take me to find anotherreally exceptional woman that I get on so wellwith? It seems like I'm so close but just haven'tquite got the skill to haul myself over the finishline and it's very frustrating! 2) Where can Iget a good education on how to make love to awoman? This is my final concern with women, Ibelieve. And when the time comes, should I admitmy lack of inexperience? (No amount of theory canmake up for lack of practice!)Cheers Dave, without your teachings I would never,ever have gotten this far.M, United Kingdom.P.S. She did your pocket a favor by turning medown - it prompted me to buy the CD series. Inthe long run, I guess she did me a favor too:it's awesome so far. ***End of blatant plug***>>>MY COMMENTS: Well, first of all I want to CONGRATULATE youon a great job with this girl. You did all the right things, and you'veobviously paid attention to what you've learned. Ihave a lot of respect for you for both DOINGSOMETHING to improve yourself, and for getting outthere and using the materials. You should be congratulating yourself, notbeating yourself up. I'M the one who gives the verbal beatings here,not you, remember? I think the real problem you're running intohere is that you've put too much importance onthis one situation, and by doing that you'vecreated "tunnel vision" for yourself. I'm sureyou've heard me talk about this a lot. From now on, don't get so hung up on aparticular woman that you're not even"technically" involved with. It's asking foremotional trouble... and it's a pain. So, let's talk about this particularsituation... I'd like to share with you a thought to setthis up. It's a thought that might not go over sowell with a lot of people (especially women). But,I believe it to be true, so I'm going to put itout there. Remember, this is a generalization, and not acold, hard fact... it's true MOST of the time. Youhave to use your own judgment in each situation. Now that the disclaimer is over, here's thedeal: If you meet a woman (especially a sharp,attractive woman who's intelligent), and you startdoing all of those wonderful things that spark andamplify the ATTRACTION present in the situation,you must KEEP MOVING FORWARD, or you'll loseeverything you've built. What I'm trying to say is that if you don'ttake things to a physical level quickly aftercreating all of this sexual tension, it willeventually go away, and you'll be left with just"friend" material. I know that you've never been with a womansexually, so I can understand why you hesitated.But you must still remember what I said. The rule of thumb is: If you're going to sparkand amplify attraction with a woman, you need tocontinue on to the next level SOON... or you'regoing to probably lose it. When you just tease a woman, bust on her, gether all wired up and excited about you... thenDON'T MOVE FORWARD PHYSICALLY, it's a let down. Basically, the woman you're with has a firstimpression of you that says "This guy is sexy andattractive", but when you don't continue forwardon a physical level, she starts to think "Uh Oh,he's either not interested in me 'in that way',he's gay, or he's seeing someone else" etc. If you want to be "friends" with a woman, it'seasy. Don't do anything. If you don't make any "moves", don't try tokiss her, and don't confidently lead in a physicalway, a woman will only think of you as a "friend". Even if there is attraction based onpersonality, it's going to disappear if you don'tcross over into the physical realm. 99% of the time, she's NOT going to be the oneto make the first moves... it's just not going tohappen. YOU have to do it.***NOTE*** Before I give you tips on how to solve thisproblem, you might want to check out my "DeepInner Game" program. It will absolutely help youovercome some of the more "psychological"challenges you're facing. You can go see videosamples and check it out here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/DeepInnerGame/ Onward... The real keys here are:1) Knowing WHAT to do to proceed in each situation2) Knowing WHEN to proceed in each situation3) Knowing HOW to proceed in each situation... ina way that is smooth and natural... and thatdoesn't get you "rejected" You've got the benefit of having my eBook andmy Advanced Dating Techniques Program. I recommendthat you check out the bonus booklet that camewith "Double Your Dating" called "Sex Secrets",and use that material IMMEDIATELY. Also, you'll learn a lot of great ideas in thelast few discs of my Advanced Series. Let me cover a few basics here. First of all, it's OK that you're a virgin. It's no big deal. You're making it intosomething bigger than it is by freaking out aboutit. I'll break the news to you: SHE ONLY CARES HOW SHE FEELS, NOT WHAT YOURPAST SEXUAL EXPERIENCE IS. If you can make her FEEL good, game over. You're obviously a guy who can pay attentionand learn things. Spend a day at the bookstore,and go to the "sexuality" section. Read forawhile. You'll learn everything you need to knowto get past your "first time" just fine. And, by the way, if you run into a problem...like "performance anxiety" or nervousness or justbeing uncomfortable naked around a woman... that'sOK too. If you reach a point that starts to freakyou out too much, just lean back and stop for alittle while. One of the GREAT things about theprocess of getting a woman turned on is that it'smuch more powerful for her if you DO stop andstart... move two steps forward, and one stepback. You don't need to say, "Hey, I realize thatwe're both naked in bed here and we should bemaking love, but I'm a virgin... and on top ofthat, I can't get it up". No no nooooo.... Just kick back. If you have to, just call it anight. The KEY is that you have to at least PROGRESSphysically with her. Explained differently, youdon't necessarily have to go "all the way", butyou do have to get pretty far down the field...and keep going a little farther each time... ifyou want to keep the attraction building. I have another secret to share with you... Most guys suck in bed. And I don't mean that ina good way. And no, I'm not talking fromexperience. I have known, interviewed, and received emailsfrom a lot of women. I know the deal. Most womenare not very happy about what happens in thebedroom. If you do just the things I've laid out for youin the ebook and Advanced Series, and then youtotally blow it and are the worst lover the worldhas ever known, she'll still have a GREATexperience with you... because MOST of it willhave been fantastic for her. Using the physical techniques... ways oftouching, ways of getting her physically turned onand amplifying her arousal, that you've learned inthe materials, will get a woman so turned on thatjust about ANY kind of sexual interaction will befine with her. lol... and by the way, the next time a womanlooks at you and asks, "What do you think the oddsof us having sex within the next few weeksare?"... you need to look her right in the eye andsay:"Sex? Hell, I don't even know if you know how tokiss." ...then lean over and kiss her. When you're finished, pull away (you stop thekiss before she does), look back at her, and say:"Hmm, I'll have to get back to you about the sexpart." ...and if you're reading this right now, andyou want to know how in the hell a 130 pound ex-wussy therapist boy can change his ways and have awoman asking him if he thinks they're going tohave sex soon, then I'd recommend doing what HEdid... Get yourself a copy of my eBook "Double YourDating", and get yourself a copy of my AdvancedDating Techniques CD or DVD program. It's taken meyears to figure this stuff out, and you can tryall of it at NO RISK. You've got nothing tolose... except your inability to meet women... The eBook is here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/eBook/ The Advanced Dating Techniques Program is here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/AdvancedSeries/ I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.P.S. Don't forget to check out all of my othergreat dating programs. You can see them all, watchvideo clips, and get all the details here:http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10020/Catalog/P.P.S. If you'd like to send me a Success Story,Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphsmax.2) Tell me what's working for you before you askyour question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuffis great" and "I don't need to tell you how wellyour stuff works" comments, but the fact is that IDO need to hear all of the specifics... becausethis helps other guys to see what's working indifferent situations.3) If you have a Success Story, write "SuccessStory" in the subject line of the email. I readthese first.4) At the end of the email, give me your initialsand tell me where you're from.5) Send it to me at:SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com ...don't just hit "reply" to this email. Thanks!

Divorce: SC defines mental cruelty
Says Reasons Cited Can Include Secret Sterilisation, Abortion & Denial Of Sex
Dhananjay Mahapatra I TNN

New Delhi: In a path-breaking decision, the supreme court has defined what connotes 'mental cruelty' -the ground that has been frequently cited as the reason for those seeking divorce but which had so far lacked a precise definition, The court on Monday laid down an elaborate criteria of what all would constitute "mental cruelty", but said that the behaviour patterns so mentioned must persist over a period of time to warrant the conclusion that the marriage between the parties had irretrievably broken down and qualified to be "the ground for divorce,

In fact, the verdict seems to strike the right balance between the competing considerations of rescuing people trapped in unhappy alliances and the anxiety to save marriages against divorce petitions based on false allegations and on impulse, The definition, part of a verdict annulling the marriage of senior IAS couple Samar and Jaya, came close on the heels of court's bid to define the legal concept of "outraging of a woman's modesty",

~ 'Sustained cruelty counts' P 11
What is · Undergoing sterilisation without knowledge or consent of spouse · Wife having abortion without medical reason or without consent of spouse · Not having intercourse without physical incapacity or valid reason · Unilateral decision not to have child · Sustained reprehensive conduct; studied neglect · Actions aimed to derive sadistic pleasure · Abuse and humiliation
· Sustained unjustified conduct affecting phYSical & mental health of spouse · Frequent rudeness, indifference and neglect
What isn't · Wear & tear of marriage · Jealousy, selfishness & possessiveness causing unhappiness or stress · Mere coldness or lack of affection

A final caveat · View married life as a whole; isolated instances not cruelty

Sustained cruelty counts: st
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"l"I !hile the supreme court V V said that, given the complexities of human mind, "no court should even attempt to give a comprehensive definition of mental cruelty", it tried to get a handle on the issue with help from previous judgments.It listed specific actions as amounting to mental cruelty. The court, however, balanced that by inserting the caveat that a pattern persisting over a period of time rather than isolated instances should constitute the basis for divorce."Conduct must be persistent for a fairly long period and is so offensive that the other party fmds it difficult to live together," said the court.

It also stressed that while ,deciding any divorce petition based on the ground of mental cruelty, "married life should be reviewed as a whole" and "that a few isolated incidents over a period of years will not amount to cruelty". The focus of the bench was on "sustained". It said that "mere coldness or lack of affection cannot amount to cruelty" but made allowance for the fact that "frequent rudeness of language, petulence of manner, indifference and neglect may reach such a degree that it makes the married life for the other spouse absolutely intolerable".

In the case at stake, Jaya, an IAS officer, after divorcing her fIrst husband who also was an IAS officer and from whom she had a daughter, married a second time in December 1984. She, however, refused to cohabit with her second husband, Samar, on the ground that she did not want any more children and told him not to interact with her daughter.Humiliated, Samar fIled a divorce petition in Kolkata.

He mentioned he had been forced to live separately since August 1990. Jaya denied the allegations, but the trial court granted divorce on the ground of mental cruelty. But the Calcutta HC reversed the judgment.An apex court bench upheld the trial court verdict and said the HC was unnecessarily obsessed by the fact that the she was also an IAS officer though it is proved that she inflicted mental cruelty on him that led to a long separation without any reconciliation.

there is no such thing as dirty sex or dirty talk, when u r with the one u love

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getting to no u

Her: how many girls have you met from online so far?
Me: 5000

Her: it's a minus,that u never answer to my questions
Her: but it'strue, that u never answer to my questions

Me:really?
Her: hm...... every time I ask yousomething about u....you just answer with a slapstick something

Me: You know my name, where Ilive, my age, where I had the craziest sex etc etc
Me: you want more?
Me: wow! there are greedypeople in this world
Me: still there?

Her: yes....I was just thinking what to say
Me: aha you're lost for words

Her: I don't want you to get me wrong here......
Me: shoot away!

Her: but I have the impression that you don't want to talk about your outlook on relationships.... Her: that sounds weird

Her: are you dating somebody right now?
Me: outlook on relationships?
Me: is this a marriage proposal... you've got to be rich though
Me: and be able to tell a story for 40 days and 40 nights

Her: here it comes again..... no, I'm just interested in getting to know you.....
Me: I liketo get to know u too
Me: of course you've got tobe a great story teller
Me: then the marriage will be ON

Her: so, then why is it so bad to ask maybehow long your longest relationship was... or when u did get out of the last one....

Me: you thinkit's bad?
Her: I really love fooling around andchatting around....but I don't like it if I neverget answers to just normal not indiscreetquestions

Me: Indiscreet... hmmm. Ask whateverquestions you want
Me: you'll get to know me as itgoes Her: I already did.... and I don't have alist to write that down.... I just noticed that...last time when you called me on the phone... andtoday, too...... every time I ask something aboutyour past I get a slapstick answer

Me: don't mindme that's how I talk. I'm playful but we'll get toknow each other as we go along Me: it's a naturalprocess
Me: you can't force it
Her: hey..... nowyou got me wrong..... see I didn't want that
Me:want what?
Her: that you get this message the wayyou got it..... I'm not that needy and I don'twant to force anything.

Me: cool, I like that...
Me: needy people scare me
Me: I know you're notneedy
Me: so when are u thinking of coming?

Her: Itold you.... it would not be possible before marchbecause in Feb. I'm on training... and work... andwill have no (NO!!) day off the whole month
Me:working all month, not even free for the weekends?

Her: no....
Me: what training is it?
Her:especially not the weekends..... from march on Iwill have a little bit more time (especially theweekends)
Her: I worked on getting me free time onweekends because I want to have a private lifeagain one day....

Me: time to go out and stuff
Her: I'm doing my A-licence for aqua-training thenext 3 weeks, and then the last diploma forPilates
Her: for example

Me: you're going to putme through some steps when you get here
Her: putyou through some steps?

Me: workouts... were youthinking of something else... bad girl!
Her: no...I just wanted to know what you want tolearn...what where you thinking about

Me: whateveris nice and easy, anyway we'll see when come
Me:what are you uo to next tonight

Me: up Her: notmuch.... watch a movie maybe and then go tobed.....
Me: ok, hope you get better wrap warm.

Me: I've got to hit the sack now
Me: tired from along day at work

Her: do that.... and talk to yousoon.... just have to work 2 hours tomorrow night.... I need that break, maybe I'll cancelthat, too and stay in bed ]

Her: nite nitethen......xx
Me: good night

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